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    • shagzdan
    • By shagzdan 2nd Jan 18, 8:16 PM
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    Happy New year tightwads
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    • 2nd Jan 18, 8:16 PM
    Happy New year tightwads 2nd Jan 18 at 8:16 PM
    Never ceases to amaze me at how on this particular forum there are so many nay sayers and generally rude, unkind people.

    For the last 10 years or so I have sought advice on this site for various money related problems and all I seem to encounter are trolls and people with very little in the way of compassion, ergo I have stopped coming into this site for any advice at all.

    I am starting to think that those who want to save a little money can also be very cold, crass and generally very rude and opinionated.

    Therefore, I would urge those who have a tendency to be tight with their cash (Aka most of this site's users) not be tight with their kindness and humanity when it comes to other peoples feelings and thoughts.

    I will be very surprised if this thread stands the test of time but just in case, Happy New Year to you all from one cheesed off VETERAN.
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    • colinw
    • By colinw 2nd Jan 18, 8:27 PM
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    • 2nd Jan 18, 8:27 PM
    Never ceases to amaze me at how on this particular forum there are so many nay sayers and generally rude, unkind people.

    For the last 10 years or so I have sought advice on this site for various money related problems and all I seem to encounter are trolls and people with very little in the way of compassion, ergo I have stopped coming into this site for any advice at all.

    I am starting to think that those who want to save a little money can also be very cold, crass and generally very rude and opinionated.

    Therefore, I would urge those who have a tendency to be tight with their cash (Aka most of this site's users) not be tight with their kindness and humanity when it comes to other peoples feelings and thoughts.

    I will be very surprised if this thread stands the test of time but just in case, Happy New Year to you all from one cheesed off VETERAN.
    Originally posted by shagzdan
    Happy New Year to you too, I think that is a bit of a generalisation though, yes there is some trolling on here and there are people who seem to like putting people down but at the same time there are also a lot of good people on here who have been prepared to offer support to people. It is just like anywhere though you get good and bad in people.
    • Wizard of Id
    • By Wizard of Id 2nd Jan 18, 8:34 PM
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    • kingfisherblue
    • By kingfisherblue 2nd Jan 18, 9:56 PM
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    Well, I have to say that the OP's experience is very different from mine. I tend to find that the majority of posters are generous with their advice, and the time they take to type it all out (and in some cases, research links to benefit people). Few posters are rude.

    Maybe the OP has had questions in the past, but has not liked the answers - but the forums (fora?) are not intended to give answers that people want to hear. They are intended to help people, and sometimes it is necessary to point out that things are not the way someone wants them to be. Then again, maybe the OP posts in such a manner that it gets people's backs up. After all, with the rather damning post above, it's a wonder that he is still a member of MSE!

    Personally I find that the members of MSE are much more pleasant than the OP states. I suspect that many would agree with me. Here in The Arms especially, there are many that I find supportive, kind, generous, and polite. I also admit to having a soft spot for certain posters
    • Biker*Chick
    • By Biker*Chick 2nd Jan 18, 11:22 PM
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    • 2nd Jan 18, 11:22 PM
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    • 2nd Jan 18, 11:22 PM
    Well, I have to say that the OP's experience is very different from mine. I tend to find that the majority of posters are generous with their advice, and the time they take to type it all out (and in some cases, research links to benefit people). Few posters are rude.

    Maybe the OP has had questions in the past, but has not liked the answers - but the forums (fora?) are not intended to give answers that people want to hear. They are intended to help people, and sometimes it is necessary to point out that things are not the way someone wants them to be. Then again, maybe the OP posts in such a manner that it gets people's backs up. After all, with the rather damning post above, it's a wonder that he is still a member of MSE!

    Personally I find that the members of MSE are much more pleasant than the OP states. I suspect that many would agree with me. Here in The Arms especially, there are many that I find supportive, kind, generous, and polite. I also admit to having a soft spot for certain posters
    Originally posted by kingfisherblue
    Well said KFB

    As in any social situation in the real world, you have a choice about where you go and who you spend your time with.

    There are parts of the forum that upset, anger and frustrate me. There are also parts which make me feel welcomed, valued and in the company of very decent people that I consider 'friends' even though we've never met in real life.

    There have been the odd occasion where some of the forumites have wound me up a treat - although I've learnt to just avoid DT...well, mostly

    If all else fails, OP, I strongly recommend kitten therapy

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    • Fruitcake
    • By Fruitcake 2nd Jan 18, 11:38 PM
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    A whole 74 posts. Wow, that is a lot of experience you have there in 13 years. My 40 odd thousand posts must therefore pale into insignificance.

    I shall make no further comment lest I be accused of being unhelpful and unfriendly.
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    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 3rd Jan 18, 9:36 AM
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    I think that sometimes, some people who know a lot about a certain subject, find it 'incomprehensible' that others don't even know basics.

    Of course, that isn't fair, but it could explain some of the fiercer attitudes.

    Also, some people might get annoyed that a very simple google can give you the answer straight away, although that doesn't often apply to to financial stuff.

    Not saying that any of that is right, just that it could explain some attitudes.
    Plus, of course, the old reason that a lot of people don't realise what their posts can sound like to others.

    One of my first requests for advice, can't remember what it was about, got the response that 'It's such and such, obviously!, with sarcasm screaming off the page.

    Well, that upset me, because I was new, and it wasn't obvious to me, which was why I had asked the question.
    So I politely said as much, and that poster deleted that post.

    I'm still here, though!
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    • pollypenny
    • By pollypenny 3rd Jan 18, 9:45 AM
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    A whole 74 posts. Wow, that is a lot of experience you have there in 13 years. My 40 odd thousand posts must therefore pale into insignificance.

    I shall make no further comment lest I be accused of being unhelpful and unfriendly.
    Originally posted by Fruitcake


    You beat me to it.

    I’ve found posters to be very helpful in 99% of cases. The one exception was a guy who would not appreciate that a long-term Mac user could have problems with a PC.
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    • NBLondon
    • By NBLondon 3rd Jan 18, 10:15 AM
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    • 3rd Jan 18, 10:15 AM
    and all I seem to encounter are trolls
    Originally posted by shagzdan
    ergo I have stopped coming into this site for any advice at all.
    Originally posted by shagzdan
    So you just logged in to have a go at some random people on the internet? Or possibly to get a reaction? Hang on - there's a word for someone who does that isn't here?
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    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 3rd Jan 18, 6:51 PM
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    You beat me to it.

    I’ve found posters to be very helpful in 99% of cases. The one exception was a guy who would not appreciate that a long-term Mac user could have problems with a PC.
    Originally posted by pollypenny
    I have only ever been put in front of a PC once, and that was years ago.

    I had to ask someone what to do.
    Plus I had never used a mouse with a right click, left click and round thing in the middle.

    I daresay if I sat in front of one today, I still wouldn't know how to work it.

    In nearly thirty years of computer use, I have only ever used Apple computers.

    Nobody is born knowing everything!
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    • MothballsWallet
    • By MothballsWallet 3rd Jan 18, 7:02 PM
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    So you just logged in to have a go at some random people on the internet? Or possibly to get a reaction? Hang on - there's a word for someone who does that isn't here?
    Originally posted by NBLondon
    I think the word you're looking for is "tumblrite".
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    • pollypenny
    • By pollypenny 4th Jan 18, 8:48 AM
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    I have only ever been put in front of a PC once, and that was years ago.

    I had to ask someone what to do.
    Plus I had never used a mouse with a right click, left click and round thing in the middle.
    !
    Originally posted by Pyxis


    That was precisely the problem, but the 'expert' argued that all mice/ mouses have two buttons!
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    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 4th Jan 18, 9:04 AM
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    That was precisely the problem, but the 'expert' argued that all mice/ mouses have two buttons!
    Originally posted by pollypenny
    I think the newest Macs might have two, or some of them at least, but I've never used one.

    My last desktop was an iMac, (tangerine! Yey!), and that only had one.

    For the last four years I've only used iPads, not desktops. I do have a keyboard for it, but I don't really use it.
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    • Tarry
    • By Tarry 4th Jan 18, 2:26 PM
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    I haven't been on a pc for ages and ages.
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    • helcat26
    • By helcat26 4th Jan 18, 4:55 PM
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    OP you joined in 2004.
    How about thinking-"it is probably a whole new set of people" and giving it a new go?
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    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 4th Jan 18, 6:24 PM
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    Never ceases to amaze me at how on this particular forum there are so many nay sayers and generally rude, unkind people.

    For the last 10 years or so I have sought advice on this site for various money related problems and all I seem to encounter are trolls and people with very little in the way of compassion, ergo I have stopped coming into this site for any advice at all.

    I am starting to think that those who want to save a little money can also be very cold, crass and generally very rude and opinionated.

    Therefore, I would urge those who have a tendency to be tight with their cash (Aka most of this site's users) not be tight with their kindness and humanity when it comes to other peoples feelings and thoughts.

    I will be very surprised if this thread stands the test of time but just in case, Happy New Year to you all from one cheesed off VETERAN.
    Originally posted by shagzdan
    I hope you don't mind, but I've had a look through a couple of your past threads, one early one and the latest one, and apart from one not very nice comment, all I could see were posts from people offering good advice, which you acknowledged with thanks.

    So I am at a bit of a loss as to why you say that all you seem to encounter are trolls and people with very little compassion. With regard to the latter, I saw several posts from people who did show compassion for the problems you have had.

    I do, however, know that when one gets a knockback or a sarcastic response, it is very easy indeed to forget all the good responses and dwell on the one not so nice one, which then grows and grows in one's head.

    I would urge you to read back through some of those posts, just to see how many helpful people there were, making useful suggestions.

    As others on here have said, there are plenty of us who do try to be nice, polite, caring and helpful, so please don't let the ones that aren't colour your view too much.

    It seems that you haven't had an easy life, but you do seem to be getting yourself on track, and asking all the right questions, so good on you for that. I'm sorry about your demons, and hope you are getting help with them.
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    • minimad1970
    • By minimad1970 4th Jan 18, 6:38 PM
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    That's a very well worded post Pyxis but I wouldn't waste anymore time replying, the op posted this, logged off and hasn't been back since.
    • pepper77
    • By pepper77 4th Jan 18, 6:39 PM
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    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5730000

    Shane doesnt appear to like it if people suggest he does :-
    a) a job that pays, and
    b) more than sixteen hours a week.

    How very dare they.
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    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 4th Jan 18, 7:11 PM
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    That's a very well worded post Pyxis but I wouldn't waste anymore time replying, the op posted this, logged off and hasn't been back since.
    Originally posted by minimad1970
    Thanks. Yes, I know, but I thought I'd post it, just in case.
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    • pollypenny
    • By pollypenny 4th Jan 18, 8:53 PM
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    I think the newest Macs might have two, or some of them at least, but I've never used one.

    My last desktop was an iMac, (tangerine! Yey!), and that only had one.

    For the last four years I've only used iPads, not desktops. I do have a keyboard for it, but I don't really use it.
    Originally posted by Pyxis


    Still have a green one in the loft! We also have a G4(.?) rarely used now.
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