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    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 1st Jan 18, 11:51 AM
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    Frump to Fab 2018 - Fabulous Dahhhhlings
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    • 1st Jan 18, 11:51 AM
    Frump to Fab 2018 - Fabulous Dahhhhlings 1st Jan 18 at 11:51 AM
    Good Morning my Lovelies.

    And welcome to the new bright and shiny Frump to Fab Thread.

    First of all a very big hello and welcome to everyone, newbies, lurkers and returners....and those undecided.

    Second let me wish you all “Happy New Year”.

    Let’s rock this one!!!!

    Well now where do we start this year. We have quite a history here now don’t we. I was thinking this morning about how the thread has developed so for the newbies......a brief potted history.

    A few years ago my son took a photo of me. I was horrified. I burst into tears. I could hardly believe my eyes at the image before me. But.......as we know the camera doesn’t lie and I couldn’t argue with what That image revealed.

    I went upstairs and stood in front of a full mirror and allowed the awful truth to sink in........never mind frump, I looked like a bag lady.

    In my defence.......it was not down to laziness, far from it. I was caring for my semi Paralysed terminally ill husband. My days were full on with caring duties. I scarcely had a spare minute, it was all I could do to shower and brush my teeth sometimes.

    All very noble of course but I had completely neglected myself in the process. I had forgotten the simple golden rule........we cannot care for others if we don’t care for ourselves. We cannot give love, if we don’t treat ourselves with love.

    How many women forget this simple fact. In our busy lives as mothers, daughters, sisters how often to we put ourselves last on that never ending “to do list”.

    As I stood and looked in that mirror I realised the folly of my ways and I resolved to “do something”. I wasn’t sure what exactly but I knew I had to make a start somewhere.

    So I started the first Frump to Fab Thread and, as they say, the rest is history. What started as a simple diary to help me make the necessary changes to get me out of “Frumpdom” has become a wonderful friendship group of likeminded women.

    Yes some of us are of a certain age but not all. Frumpdom is not the preserve of the middle aged woman who has “let herself go”. Becoming a frump can happen to anyone, young women, even teenagers.

    But here’s the good news .......it’s never too late to reverse the process, never too late to ditch the frump, never too late for the caterpillar to turn into a beautiful butterfly or for the ugly duckling to turn into a graceful and elegant swan.

    There are no rules to this thread except one.

    Kindness please........we don’t judge anyone here, we don’t get into futile pointless arguments, we don’t make nasty comments, we don’t indulge in sarcasm, we don’t bully others, we don’t play mind games and we don’t try to score points by making others feel small.

    So all that being said .....if you are ready to change your stars and become that alluring goddess you always longed to be, if you want to reclaim the energy and vitality that was once yours but has somehow disappeared then this is place for you.

    Let’s all get fabulous.

    Lesson no 1.

    Wear perfume, every day. Don’t save it for best. Get out all those unused smellies lurking in the back of the bathroom cabinet or bedside drawer and start using them.

    Smell divine......and fabulousity will follow. That’s a promise.

    A women who smells gorgeous is gorgeous. It’s the first step on your journey.

    Right I’m off to bathe in a sea of perfumed bubbles but first ..........

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    • silvasava
    • By silvasava 5th Aug 18, 10:22 PM
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    Chanie - how about a list of 40 things to do in the year that you've never done before? Can be really simple things like trying ice skating or going on the London Eye or having a massage?
    Alternative places to visit - Istanbul - the gateway between East and West.
    Scandinavia is expensive as they have quite a high standard of living so suggest you check this out first.
    Dubai - sun sea sand and shopping
    Rhodes - lovely walled city and the outer town and harbour are lovely
    Italy - anywhere! But Im biased as it's my favourite country.
    I'm sure there will be many more suggestions
    Small victories - sometimes they are all you can hope for but sometimes they are all you need - be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle
    • Floss
    • By Floss 6th Aug 18, 9:05 AM
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    Chanie my DH reckons Istanbul airport is the bar in Star Wars - you will see all nationalities in there!
    • maman
    • By maman 6th Aug 18, 11:37 AM
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    Oooh that's an exciting project chanie! I love city breaks.


    We've been all over Western Europe and in the last couple of years started creeping East! The only places on your list I've been to are Athens and the various Eastern European destinations.


    All I'd say is don't limit it to a weekend, go for longer! Weve had a number of split centre breaks of 6 nights with 3 in each city that have been great. In Eastern Europe we've been to Prague, Budapest, Warsaw and Krakow so far. I enjoyed them all. Prague and Krakow are smallish, walkable places. Budapest and Warsaw are much bigger but have great tram systems for getting about.


    I went to Athens in the autumn (end October) so it was cool enough to walk up to the Partheneon etc. We just had a couple of days in Athens as before that we'd travelled across the Corinth canal to the Peloponnese and visited the classical sites like Mycenae and Epidaurus. Actually that's something you could do another time with the family as the children will learn about Ancient Greece at school and it can be linked with a beach holiday. It's certainly too much for a weekend.


    I'm another that loves Italy. This year we went to Venice and Milan for my birthday. I really liked Verona but Florence is good too.


    I also liked Istanbul very much indeed. I'm a big Turkey fan so it was good to see classical sites whereas I normally go to beach resorts. There's plenty to do in the city itself for a weekend and the food is great. It's very similar to Greek but IMO a bit better.


    I'll stop there as I could list masses of great destinations. It depends what sort of break you want.


    Another beautiful day here. I'm really going to miss the sun when it goes. Summer dance class tonight so a light skirt and sleeveless top I think or maybe a dress.


    P.S. Which Skechers did you choose chanie? I'd like another pair but torn between the trainer ones or shoes. They are amazingly comfortable though. Perfect for city breaks!
    • chanie
    • By chanie 6th Aug 18, 12:15 PM
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    Chanie my DH reckons Istanbul airport is the bar in Star Wars - you will see all nationalities in there!
    Originally posted by Floss







    Funny you mention that - we have actually been to the Star Wars bar when we went to Tunisia!!!!


    Thanks for all of your comments and suggestions. Definitely something to think about.




    Maman - I got the trainer type of sketchers. We went to an outlet store so I could only get the ones they had in my size. Although they are the trainer type, they have a lace panel on the top, so they are a bit more forgiving, for work purposes.
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    • Toni'sfriend
    • By Toni'sfriend 6th Aug 18, 4:01 PM
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    Hello Ladies,
    Well, I've had a quiet few days indoors but I have been through everything in my wardrobe. Anything I know I will never wear again is either in the bin or going to the charity shop. All the rest has been washed, ironed and checked for missing buttons, etc. Actually I've got far more than I realised. Did the same with toiletries and make up but I'm determined to use all that up before I buy any more.
    Still keeping up with the routine although I was really tired on Saturday and it was a bit of a struggle but the thought of admitting on here that I hadn't kept it up kept me on the straight and narrow. It might be my imagination but I think my facial skin is definitely softer and looking brighter.
    I hope our bathroom scales are accurate because, if they are, I lost just under 2kg in the last week. Not a lot but going in the right direction.
    Thanks for all the encouragement.
    • chanie
    • By chanie 6th Aug 18, 9:45 PM
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    Am very excited to update that we are starting the works on our house over the next few days. We need some minor building works doing and OHs mate has agreed to do it cheaply, providing he can fit it around his other commitments. Once finished, me and OH will do the decorating ourselves. We will be doing our dining room and hallway, including a new dining suite and flooring. We don!!!8217;t yet know how we are decorating, so I am off to research....
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    • silvasava
    • By silvasava 7th Aug 18, 8:52 AM
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    TF - you are doing SO well and congratulations on the weight loss. Must admit it's easier to watch the diet in hot weather!
    Just a thought - many years ago there was a big trend for colour analysis - identifying which range of colours suit your skin and categorised by the seasons. DH treated me for a birthday and I must admit I still use it as it works! Everything in my wardrobe will go with something else. It makes shopping much easier and stopped the impulsive buys that never get worn. There's plenty of info on the internet if it's something you may be interested in.
    Small victories - sometimes they are all you can hope for but sometimes they are all you need - be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle
    • Toni'sfriend
    • By Toni'sfriend 7th Aug 18, 11:03 AM
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    Thank you, Silvasava. I'll look into that.
    At the moment I'm wearing what I have. Don't want to make any major purchases until I've lost a fair more bit of weight. Most of what I have is black. I did have some navy but that's all gone now because I don't really suit it (think I bought it because I thought it made me look slimmer but it just made me look dowdy!). I'm brightening up the black with pretty tops. My ambition is to actually feel confident enough to buy a dress but I think that's a bit off yet,
    • maman
    • By maman 7th Aug 18, 11:47 AM
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    I want to congratulate you too TF. You're doing amazingly well. I think it's helping us too as it's easy to get into a bit of a rut and you're making us think.


    When indiepanda used to post regularly she was very into colour analysis. For future reference, this company:


    https://www.kettlewellcolours.co.uk/


    It does all sorts of basics in a huge range of colours but I agree with you, don't buy unless you have to at the moment. It must be hard not wearing dresses when it's so hot. The loose ones I bought on holiday have been brilliant and I've worn them over and over again for weeks. Cost per wear must be pennies!


    While I don't belong to the specific thread about using up toiletries I'm certainly doing my best. I'm aiming for the day when all I have will be favourites that I've chosen. I'm getting there. One of the other things I've noticed is that I probably was using too much product before and now things last much longer. If you watch beauticians they take a small amount of, say, moisturiser and rub it between their palms and then it goes much further. Then I don't feel so bad about buying expensive stuff.


    I bought a couple more massages on Groupon so now I have 3 waiting. I'll probably leave it until next month to make appointments.


    Exciting news about the home improvements chanie. You're gradually getting all through the house. Do share your plans for decorating with us. LL is always full of good ideas.
    • Floss
    • By Floss 7th Aug 18, 12:06 PM
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    I've changed my skincare from No7 P&P to Body Shop VitE as my face decided it didn't like it any more! I had quite a stash of unused stuff so sold it all online - a lot had been bought in their gift sets so I hadn't paid full price - and bought myself a new Carvela bag in a deep pink alligator-effect leather

    Think I will be doing another KM pass through my wardrobes this weekend, I have a lot of stuff I've held onto but my shape has changed with my size so need to be realistic & honest whether I will wear it all again
    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 7th Aug 18, 1:22 PM
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    Hello lovely ladies......acupuncture this morning and now have the usual headache so just taking it easy for an hour or two, till it cools down a bit. Although I need to pop out to the little shop.

    Loving the ideas for weekend breaks. So many beautiful cities in the world. As you know I've got Iceland booked for next year. I am really looking forward to that. I might be going to Madrid for new year but not entirely made up my mind yet. DIL wants me to go with them to meet some of her family.

    Well now .....after a lot of messing about and the usual delays it looks as if I might get my wish to legally complete this month after all. Seeing the solicitor on Thursday so will know more then. Keep your fingers crossed for me.

    Yesterday we started dismantling wardrobes.......my buyer wanted me to throw them in for free.......no chance, they are only 2 years Old and cost me around 2k. Cheeky beggars. I have packed away most of my clothes and am now managing with a capsule wardrobe.......soooo not me. same with the very expensive curtain poles. In days gone by I would have been all soft hearted and left them .......not any more.

    Today I need to start filling in the holes in the wall and start retouching paintwork, making good. I think I will also start removing paintings and mirrors too whilst I'm at it.

    I have just done a freezer inventory. I think I have just about have the right amount of meat and fish in there to last until I move.

    TF. You're going great guns. Well done.

    Floss....love the sound of the pink alligator bag. I adore my Barbie pink carry on case.

    Whilst I was in Brazil I bought a red wooden bag, little pieces of wood joined together. A bit like those place mats you get.....in fact I also bought a set of place mats too. I love the bag, it really adds a bit of colour and fun to a plain outfit. In fact I have bought a couple of brightly coloured bags this year. I very rarely wear patterned clothing, tending to go for block colour rather than prints so I decided to start adding more colourful accessories. I have been collecting brightly coloured leather gloves, as well as pashminas and scarves for some time now but I'm now starting on bags and shoes......
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    • sugarbaby125
    • By sugarbaby125 7th Aug 18, 2:46 PM
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    Hello Ladies,

    TF you are doing great. Congratulations on your weight loss especially.

    Chanie exciting times for you planning your city break for you and your OH and the house renovation

    LL good luck on completing this month.

    Floss
    that pink leather Carvela handbag sounds lovely. I hope you get lots of use out of it.

    This year I have been buying some of my favourite Body Shop Satsuma shower gel as the time is going to come at the end of August when I simply will not be able to afford to buy it even on offer. With other toiletries, I am changing to much cheaper brands like Olay for my face cream instead of N0 7 Protect & Perfect and buying toiletries from Lidl which is even cheaper than similar products I would normally buy from Poundland. I also love Sanctuary Spa and I have a large gift set and other single products from the range still to use up.
    • Floss
    • By Floss 7th Aug 18, 4:27 PM
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    LL & Sugar I have a deep blue leather Kate Spade bag which gets a lot of use, I think the shade is Emperor Blue, and have been after a deep pink bag for ages I now "need" a zipped leather backpack...
    • silvasava
    • By silvasava 7th Aug 18, 8:03 PM
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    Nipped in to our local chemist to pick up DHs prescription - sunglasses reduced and they just happened to have a pair with candy pink frames.......... Gotta do it!

    Did some shopping in my local As*a and picked up a lovely top in a dark fuchsia colour - will go with all my black,grey and navy - happy bunny
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    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 9th Aug 18, 12:08 PM
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    Loving the "pink" shopping bargains......

    Hello Everyone

    Well yesterday was wonderful.....just one of those magic days.

    I.went with the family to a local hostellery to celebrate DILs sisters graduation. She was in Venezuela of course but we timed it so we were celebrating whilst she was at the ceremony. The wonders of modern technology....photos and texts whizzing back and forth, all in real time.

    Venezuela is still a basket case, with nothing in the shops, so DIL treated her sister to several dresses purchased here and sent back with her dad for her graduation present. Her mum is still here of course, helping with the baby (who is growing by the day and is absolutely gorgeous......of course!!!). She is now a fully qualified Dr.

    There have been three days of celebrations all requiring different outfits so it was nice to see her all dolled up in her finery. Like DIL she is absolsuletly stunning (looking at it objectively she is actually even more beautiful than DIL). The dresses DIL chose were perfect, all from Next. They seem to have a great range in this year.

    Anyway after that I went on to meet a friend to see Mama Mia. Loved it. A nice bit of summer froth. Cher was a hoot and Andy Garcia was just gorgeous.......he's really aged well. My DIL keeps telling me I have to find an Andy Garcia lookalike. hmmmm maybe she has a point, but Could I cope with yet another Latino in the family. Maybe not. Give me a nice refined English gent any day.

    Went to the solicitor this morning, everything is looking good, contracts signed. Aiming to legally complete week commencing 20th August. Wahoo.

    Tomorrow is the 4th anniversary of my husband's death. I know this sounds daft but I think the new house will be my turning point. New house, new life. The point at which I finally say goodbye to "widowhood" and embrace "singledom".

    Right time for brunch and then more sorting and packing. At least the house is cooler now and more conducive to getting stuff done.

    One thing happened yesterday at the wine bar which really made everything wonderful. We got chatting to a middle aged couple, as you do. The guy, a long haired ageing hippy type, went gaga over the baby and insisted on giving him a very generous cash gift for his money box. My DIL and her mum were completely overwhelmed. DIL was near to tears and didn't want to take it. I told her it was ok, perfectly normal, and to accept it graciously because he would be extremely offended if she didn't.

    Anyway when we left I thanked him again for his generousity. He said said he believed in Random Acts of Kindness. I said "don't worry, we will Pay It Forward". His face lit up and he said "Wow you get it, you understand it".

    Outside, My son explained that the reason for DILs discomfort is because this is the kind of thing that just doesn't happen in either Venezuela or Barcelona.....she is just not used to the "kindness of strangers".

    It's things like that that make proud to be British..... I think we're great!!!! It wasn't the size of the gift, it's the principle behind it. I know I'm half Belgian (they're great too) but I have always been so proud of my English side, and yesterday just reinforced that yet again, just how kind and generous Brits can be.

    My mum adored England and I have always felt it such a shame that she didn't live long enough to help DIL integrate and "learn the ropes" of the British way of life.

    If mum had been there she would just have winked at DIL and said "Crazy English" and given a Gallic shrug and a conspiratorial smile and DIL would have found it less embarrassing.

    It must be so hard to learn to live in a new country.
    • sashybo
    • By sashybo 9th Aug 18, 12:23 PM
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    Hi all,

    Chanie I visited a friend living in Stockholm a few years ago - it was a lovely place but very very expensive for eating out, drinks etc.

    I loved Prague when I went with DH but that was 13 years ago now. We also enjoyed Berlin a couple of years ago & would definitely go back there or maybe another city in Germany.

    LL how lovely of that man to give your DGS a gift. I've been constantly surprised at how generous people have been to us since we had our DS & at just how many strangers will stop and chat to him when he smiles at them in the supermarket etc. My DS is a terrible flirt though, he loves socialising.

    The clothes I ordered are all keepers apart from a pair of black trousers which are very small made. The reviews online were 50/50 between small-made & true to size. For me they're definitely small made so will return & get a replacement, maybe some jeggings instead.
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    • Toni'sfriend
    • By Toni'sfriend 9th Aug 18, 3:17 PM
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    Chanie - Can I suggest Vienna. Just the right size for a weekend, Lots of sightseeing, lovely shops. amazing cafes and the cakes are fantastic (maybe shouldn't have said that!). We've been twice in the last couple of years and going back again in January. The other city I really liked was Budapest. Went there last January and going back again when we go to Vienna.
    • chanie
    • By chanie 9th Aug 18, 9:30 PM
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    Thank you all for the city break suggestions. Will give us lots to consider. I haven!!!8217;t been on a city break in years. I used to do them when I was younger, but we havent been able to afford them since having children (and if I am honest, our children are too young to enjoy them anyway).

    Lessons good luck with your move. Am very excited to read about your new adventures.
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    • seven-day-weekend
    • By seven-day-weekend 10th Aug 18, 1:38 AM
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    Don't know whether this is classed as 'fabbing', but myself and my husband are going to have an adventure.

    Here is the story. In our youth we used to love motorcycling, and my husband still has one, but I have not ridden pillion for years, mainly due to being too heavy and/or the bike being too high for me to get on, as is the case with the one he has now. Many modern bikes are very high.

    Anyway, i have now lost a lot of weight and am still losing.

    We decided to go to a local motorbike shop for coffee. We do this every so often. He dreams amongst the motorcycles and I read the papers. When we got there, he said 'look at that, I have always fancied a cruiser, and you could get on it'. He showed me this magnificent black beast, really low-slung. I thought ' yes I could' and before I knew it, there I was on its comfortable rear seat. I fell in love with it straight away.

    Anyway, we have put a deposit on it and he is test-riding it on Sunday. If he likes it, we will pay the balance . He is selling his present bike privately.

    We are going to go to Spain on it for about a month next summer, ride round and stay in little hostals, maybe get down south and visit the village where we lived fro eight years.

    We might also go on a tour of the WW2 beaches in France, with the Royal British Legion Riders. He has done this before, had a great time and made some friends. I would love to do it too.

    http://www.battlefieldsonabike.co.uk/tour-itineraries/2016/6/2/normandy-and-d-day-02-06-june-2016

    I have got to buy some motorcycling gear. I have already tried on some armoured leggings and a crash helmet with flowers on. This will all be good fun.
    I don't know whether this is 'fabbing', but it is good for the soul.

    My husband will be 70 in January, and I will be 69. As he says, let's do it now while we can still get our leg over.

    Here is the beast : http://www.cmcbikes.com/img/bikes/5b626a4a4e5d39.13758612-5b697620de567.jpg?w=847
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    • Floss
    • By Floss 10th Aug 18, 6:19 AM
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    7DW Wow! I think that counts as fabbing, and all that chrome will keep your DH busy!
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