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    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 31st Dec 17, 7:35 PM
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    Mooloo’s Managing it in 2018
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    • 31st Dec 17, 7:35 PM
    Mooloo’s Managing it in 2018 31st Dec 17 at 7:35 PM
    My previous threads here have been about my struggles etc bringing up my family and now my Granddaughter, building a business on little funds and a lot of faith.
    Titles suggested often are linked to my sewing, but this year I want to be different. No more Struggle!

    This year is all about Managing it!
    Getting on top of the hiccups and the pitfalls.
    Managing to say NO more often.
    Managing to cut my Debts.
    Managing to raise my Income levels.
    Managing to make my Business even better.
    Managing to block time for the things I want to do.
    Managing to create a better home life.
    Managing to raise above the fire fighting and being ready to tackle issues before the fire.

    So here is the start.
    I am due to go out celebrating the New Year this evening with my BF, and Welcome Home my DGD tomorrow.
    I will expand on my goals and plans over the next few days, and follow through the next 12 months.
    See you along the way.
    Without my fellow MSE!!!8217;ers I probably would have had a much tougher ride than I had.

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    Last edited by MSE Andrea; 08-05-2018 at 10:27 AM.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
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    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 7th Aug 18, 7:20 AM
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    I spent 3 hours working on my book yesterday evening.
    There is going to be a lot of alterations to that too!
    So I had about 10 pages drafted and now I have 14. For 1978-1995 of my life. Doesn't seem much for so long, but I don't have diaries for those years. I didn't really start writing until 1993. I think I have to start revisiting my old diaries and seeing if there is anything of interest or suitable to put in them. So it is a good time for me to gather together all the notebooks from boxes, shelves, and attic. This could take quite some time.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 7th Aug 18, 9:42 PM
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    DS been in touch, first when he ran out of petrol, and second tonight when arguing with her.
    I wish I could help but on neither occasion did I.
    I watched the program about 10k holiday homes. Funnily she's in the very area I am looking !!!55357;!!!56900;
    The house I asked About but rep was on holiday so I couldn't do see, is now Reserved.
    Soda Law.
    So my next goal is to have extra funds put back for a quick flight out for viewing.
    Sunday to Tuesday when I have staff
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 8th Aug 18, 7:24 AM
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    Today is going to be a busy day.
    I was planning on doing a food Shop before the boys visit, and visit my Mum afterwards, but Royal Mail just text to say they are delivering my sky broadband box today between 9.16 and 1.16 so I am not sure I will be able to Food Shop first. Then I need to go back to one of my elderly customers in a village to sort out her slip we made as the straps are too long and it needs some adjusting. That's now pencilled in for 5pm.
    There was a webinar that I wanted to see and that's at 1pm - 3pm
    Something is going to have to give.
    Such is life.
    I had a restless last 3 hours, and my mind wouldn't switch off, and my thoughts popped up in my dreams which turned into nightmares.
    All my kids, my parents, and several of the grandchildren were mixed up in my dreams and all in trouble one way or another, I was unable to help, got stuck in a street where the pavement kept opening up under my feet. It was all very disturbing.
    I always feel quite disoriented when I wake up from dreams like that.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 8th Aug 18, 11:10 AM
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    Heart broken, The Social Worker didn't check my details so didn't organise the contact. I have just been told. Gutted.
    Is there such a thing as a competent social worker in Northamptonshire? I don't think so
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 8th Aug 18, 11:21 AM
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    Sorry to hear that.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. MFW 2018. No 144
    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 8th Aug 18, 12:08 PM
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    Sorry to hear that.
    Originally posted by beanielou
    I have spoken to the worker concerning this and he is due to call me back later. Let's hope he sorts it today so we can see them next week.
    Now I need to shake off my negative energy and find some Positive ones.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 8th Aug 18, 1:00 PM
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    Here's hoping.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. MFW 2018. No 144
    • Chrystal
    • By Chrystal 8th Aug 18, 1:45 PM
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    Sounds like the fabled case of 'the right hand doesn't know what the left hand's doing'. I honestly think the whole Social Services needs re-organising from the top down.
    Hope you manage to get something sorted for next week.
    I Believe.....
    That it isn't always enough, to be forgiven by others.
    Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself.
    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 8th Aug 18, 9:30 PM
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    He has found me on the system. I had to chase him. I waited all day for him to call so I called and left a voicemail.
    I can arrange to have the boys if I can go to the foster family and collect them next week. Only problem is my car is a sports car, and I cannot fit everyone in.
    So close and yet so far. Mad thoughts of me going to buy another car pass through my mind. Unless I can borrow a car I don't know what exactly I could do.
    He also told me that there is a meeting on Monday in Daventry. So if DS wants me to help him then I need to be there. Do I have the time and strength to start dealing with SS all over again?
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 8th Aug 18, 9:37 PM
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    He has found me on the system. I had to chase him. I waited all day for him to call so I called and left a voicemail.
    I can arrange to have the boys if I can go to the foster family and collect them next week. Only problem is my car is a sports car, and I cannot fit everyone in.
    So close and yet so far. Mad thoughts of me going to buy another car pass through my mind. Unless I can borrow a car I don't know what exactly I could do.
    He also told me that there is a meeting on Monday in Daventry. So if DS wants me to help him then I need to be there. Do I have the time and strength to start dealing with SS all over again?
    Originally posted by Mooloo


    Only you know.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. MFW 2018. No 144
    • BrassicWoman
    • By BrassicWoman 8th Aug 18, 10:11 PM
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    Hire car deal?
    Jan 18 grocery challenge £105.13/ £150
    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 9th Aug 18, 7:10 PM
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    There was a call today saying that there was a possibility that we could see the boys on Saturday but unfortunately I am on my own in the shop. Then it is dgs4s 3 Birthday and we have a BBQ planned. So too short notice for me. I hope DS can arrange next Wednesday as I am trying to rearrange time with my Mum for Sunday this weekend to be free for Wednesday.
    I have seen a Vauxhall Zafira on local garage website for around £2,000
    If I need to get a car I can put it on my credit card and then juggle the budget until I can cash in my small pension. It's only worth £2 a week so not worth being a pension if I need the cash to change my car. Although I really don't want to get rid of my sports car!

    Just thoughts at the moment.
    I wish the boys were allowed home, but DS and GF still don't listen enough and have still not sorted out their lives.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • jackieblack
    • By jackieblack 9th Aug 18, 7:23 PM
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    Will you also need to buy child seats?
    The rules have changed alot since my DD needed a car seat but I understand not all seats fit all models of car.
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    • bellabella
    • By bellabella 9th Aug 18, 8:51 PM
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    I have to question the expense of a new car and car seats if DS and his partner have not changed their behaviour then it may be a short term answer can you not take the children to a play area or park in their buggy near the foster parents?
    • thorsoak
    • By thorsoak 10th Aug 18, 12:47 AM
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    You could hire a Zafira for a weekend, from Enterprise Brackley costing around £250 - and you would still have your sports car.
    • BrassicWoman
    • By BrassicWoman 10th Aug 18, 7:12 AM
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    I can usually hire a small vehicle for £50 a day at the weekends. You'd need to do that 40 times before it became more economic to buy a bigger car. I might give it a month or two and see how the visits/situation were going.
    Jan 18 grocery challenge £105.13/ £150
    • marliepanda
    • By marliepanda 10th Aug 18, 10:00 AM
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    I have to question the expense of a new car and car seats if DS and his partner have not changed their behaviour then it may be a short term answer can you not take the children to a play area or park in their buggy near the foster parents?
    Originally posted by bellabella
    Exactly. Buying a new car to take grandchildren out, who being honest, are not going to be in her life much longer, is crackers, as is having 2 cars in Mooloo's position.

    Honestly I dont really understand. Your recent post was about refining your dreams and having enough money to fly out at a moments notice to view properties for sale in Portugal, and now you are looking to buy a new family car for a family which is in the process of being removed.
    • *Robin*
    • By *Robin* 10th Aug 18, 10:33 AM
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    I have seen a Vauxhall Zafira on local garage website for around £2,000

    I really don't want to get rid of my sports car!

    Just thoughts at the moment.
    I wish the boys were allowed home, but DS and GF still don't listen enough and have still not sorted out their lives.
    Originally posted by Mooloo
    Hi Mooloo,

    Thoughts on your thoughts:

    These days, any £2K car - especially from a commercial rates' paying business - will be a money pit, from the moment it's short-term guarantee expires.

    You get a lot of pleasure out of your sports car - which you had to wait years to be able to buy - don't throw it away for something that may already be a lost cause, given DS & GF's failure thus far to step up and sort themselves out.

    More practical solutions have already been suggested, to which I would add perhaps ask whether the foster parents would be willing to drop off the boys if you cover their fuel costs and maybe entrance to an attraction local to you, where they could spend the afternoon?

    Rx
    Last edited by *Robin*; 11-08-2018 at 4:21 PM.
    • thorsoak
    • By thorsoak 11th Aug 18, 11:19 AM
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    Hope all is well Mooloo x
    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 11th Aug 18, 8:05 PM
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    As I said it was just a thought.
    I am going to the Social Meeting with DS on Monday and hopefully will find out what exactly is going on. If they do let me in. Although now DS has finally got a solicitor involved.
    The thought about changing the car was because not only these boys, but for the ability to have my other grandchildren too. Currently I can't. Mind you that was why I chose my sports car. I have had that 2 years today! Where did the time go?

    I will get my Dreams, they will just have to be a bit later than I had wanted. But I set my goals and I have been ticking them off slowly but surely.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
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