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    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 31st Dec 17, 7:35 PM
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    Mooloo’s Managing it in 2018
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    • 31st Dec 17, 7:35 PM
    Mooloo’s Managing it in 2018 31st Dec 17 at 7:35 PM
    My previous threads here have been about my struggles etc bringing up my family and now my Granddaughter, building a business on little funds and a lot of faith.
    Titles suggested often are linked to my sewing, but this year I want to be different. No more Struggle!

    This year is all about Managing it!
    Getting on top of the hiccups and the pitfalls.
    Managing to say NO more often.
    Managing to cut my Debts.
    Managing to raise my Income levels.
    Managing to make my Business even better.
    Managing to block time for the things I want to do.
    Managing to create a better home life.
    Managing to raise above the fire fighting and being ready to tackle issues before the fire.

    So here is the start.
    I am due to go out celebrating the New Year this evening with my BF, and Welcome Home my DGD tomorrow.
    I will expand on my goals and plans over the next few days, and follow through the next 12 months.
    See you along the way.
    Without my fellow MSE’ers I probably would have had a much tougher ride than I had.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
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    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 13th Apr 18, 7:55 AM
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    Yesterday I felt exhausted and defeated.
    But I know that will not help me or anyone else for that matter.
    BF came over, but we sat in our own little worlds until bedtime. I dug out my kindle and reserected my Portuguese while he watched some trash tv.
    I went to bed at 10pm.
    This morning he left at 6.30 and I have spent all that time with coloured pens and a plot to turn my frown upside down!
    I wrote my negative thoughts and then made myself revisit them by flipping them.
    So now instead of a list of 7 woes I have a list of 7 actions.
    I am determined not to give up today. I couldn't say that yesterday.
    On my way to work I have a small amount to bank for the business. I am then going to buy myself some daffodils on the market, and brighten up my desk.
    I am going to plan my work knowing that I can only achieve small jobs and base my self on the shop floor.
    If the HV gets back to me I will go upstairs obviously to talk.
    Bf is aware I plan to start cleaning up DSs on Sunday.
    So for today I am going to just take one job at a time and do it to the best of my ability and tick it off the list.
    We will have the Steak and salad for tea tonight.
    The washing is on, time for a very quick shower and off to work then.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • just trying
    • By just trying 13th Apr 18, 8:24 PM
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    Hope the hv got back to you and today was a better day.

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    • Cupcakekate
    • By Cupcakekate 13th Apr 18, 11:06 PM
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    You’re amazing!
    I haven’t started reading this thread yet, but over the past few weeks I have read through your old threads Mooloo. Might seem odd but I was directed to them by a friend. (You really should write a book)
    I am compelled to write a little post to tell you what an amazing wonderful mother and grandmother you are. I was raised by my granny as my mum just couldn’t cope despite help... I still saw her, knew she was my mum etc..but lived with granny. I’m now nearing 40 and happily married with children of my own..but had it not been for my gran I would have probably been in care. What you are doing for your grand daughter is amazing. Your an inspiration to me certainly..and a gem to your family.

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    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 14th Apr 18, 8:44 AM
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    I haven’t started reading this thread yet, but over the past few weeks I have read through your old threads Mooloo. Might seem odd but I was directed to them by a friend. (You really should write a book)
    I am compelled to write a little post to tell you what an amazing wonderful mother and grandmother you are. I was raised by my granny as my mum just couldn’t cope despite help... I still saw her, knew she was my mum etc..but lived with granny. I’m now nearing 40 and happily married with children of my own..but had it not been for my gran I would have probably been in care. What you are doing for your grand daughter is amazing. Your an inspiration to me certainly..and a gem to your family.

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    Originally posted by Cupcakekate
    Thankyou for those lovely words.
    I appreciate them today especially, more than ever.

    I did get a call mid afternoon from the Health Visitors manager.
    She listened and had read the boys case file before returning my call. They are already flagged for a referral, the next visit was due 24th April.
    I said that I will have to intervene and clean tomorrow, but that I am concerned about the boys, that I am under no illusions about my son, and that I hope that they will do the referral sooner rather than later as they need help. I explained that I didn't want to call myself as I am going to be the enemy, and having lost grandchildren to the system I am wary . However I cannot stand by and not do anything.

    On the work side I was kept busy, it's quite nice chatting and serving, but it means I am not sewing enough. I had plenty of collections, several new jobs in and £133 takings.
    The school curtains were collected, the money will be bank transferred. They may want 4 more done.
    BF has said he will help me if they do.
    We had a good evening watching Escape to the Chateau which gave me the opportunity to show him the pictures of the house I was looking at. I told him that he needent worry as I am not in a position to buy, but I am fact finding for the future. I would have a place as a holiday home, and possibly run a few workshops in the spring and autumn. Possibly rent a place out to walkers, cyclists etc in between.
    But I am not exactly anywhere near my dreams of course.

    Back to reality then.
    BF just got a message on his phone, said he'd got to go and was gone. I asked what was wrong and he sort of mumbled and said tell you later.
    Doesn't sound good.
    I hope that It is not very bad news!
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 14th Apr 18, 11:57 AM
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    Pattern Cutting/ how to read a pattern course finished. Time for lunch and then children's course to do.
    Tote bag/lines for Swimming bag if necessary!
    I best get my act together and get organised!
    Still waiting to hear for BF why he had to dash out so quickly this morning. My curiosity is getting the better of me!
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 14th Apr 18, 4:35 PM
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    Still nothing from BF.
    One of my pupils Dad helped me to put the blinds back together. He was in the right place at the right time for me.
    I see on Facebook that Biggest is getting a spaniel pub next week. It's going to be harder to say no to Dgd as it looks so cute!
    I rang about delivery of the blinds, arranged for 4.30 Tuesday.
    I reckon they will be the last blinds I make in a long time!

    The sun has shown itself today, and I suppose that I should be going into the garden and cutting the lawn, but now I have finished work I just want to rest.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 14th Apr 18, 8:53 PM
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    Hope you have your feet up with a glass in your hand.
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    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 14th Apr 18, 10:08 PM
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    Hope you have your feet up with a glass in your hand.
    Originally posted by beanielou
    Feet up all evening, pork chops, mash potatoes and mixed veg for tea.
    Pink sparkly wine as it was given to us on arrival at the caravan.
    I have been reading up about how to buy property, Portuguese taxes and costs % to purchases etc
    The idea is to help me with my reinvigorating my Budget etc so I can have a target to aim for.
    You know me by now, I have to give myself challenges and targets.
    You never know, one day my savings pot might actually start to grow.
    Nothing ventured nothing gained.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 14th Apr 18, 10:43 PM
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    Time for bed.
    Tomorrow is gonna be busy!
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • Eager_Elephant
    • By Eager_Elephant 15th Apr 18, 8:05 AM
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    I see on Facebook that Biggest is getting a spaniel pub next week. It's going to be harder to say no to Dgd as it looks so cute!
    .
    Originally posted by Mooloo
    Is this Biggests way of slowing down?

    It might just be me but isn't this just more work for her?
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    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 15th Apr 18, 9:54 AM
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    Is this Biggests way of slowing down?

    It might just be me but isn't this just more work for her?
    Originally posted by Eager_Elephant
    Oh yes! It certainly is.

    I don't know what they are thinking really. Especially with a new baby on the way and a husband who works abroad most of the time
    Problem is I am really tempted to get one, Dgd has been asking for two years or more!
    Last edited by Mooloo; 15-04-2018 at 10:30 AM.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 15th Apr 18, 10:13 AM
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    I got up early for a Sunday, around 8. So I am surprised that I have wasted two hours reserecting my Surveys. On an account that still only has £2.56 in it!
    My thoughts last night was to reserect as many different money making streams as I could to get my savings back up. I will never get them back that way though! Unless I do them only when watching TV or can not do anything else!
    I could have made 4 or so Purses and earned a potentially better profit of about £6!
    Of course if I was doing alterations I could potentially earn £25-£50 for my time!
    This exercise has just shown me that I need to be more aware of my time, and the value I can put on my self.

    I realise that I cannot Sew all day everyday after being at work. But I am now aware that I waste my time a lot.
    I was hoping for the Sun to come out, so that I would be able to start in the garden. I have promised/threatened my Son that I will be going over to help him with his house work later today. His GF is going to work at 3-6.30 so that is probably the best time for me to go, so I can see the least of her. But it will limit the time for DS to visit the tip with the mountain of rubbish.
    So I will maybe go a little earlier.
    Dgd is still asleep so I have not woken her. School starts again tomorrow and she will have to be up and ready.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • Brighton belle
    • By Brighton belle 15th Apr 18, 2:25 PM
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    Oh yes! It certainly is.

    I don't know what they are thinking really. Especially with a new baby on the way and a husband who works abroad most of the time
    Problem is I am really tempted to get one, Dgd has been asking for two years or more!
    Originally posted by Mooloo
    Oh Mooloo,your life and your choices but I think you'd be mad to get a dog: they cost a lot of money in vets fees and insurance and kennel care when you go off on holiday. And when will you ever have the energy to walk it twice a day. Nearly every child on the planet asks their parent for a dog. It's ok to say no - I longed for a dog as a child and I didn't get one. Didn't kill me and I still loved my parents.
    Can't believe biggest's choice - did she finish paying you back what she owed for their wedding they couldn't afford?
    Last edited by Brighton belle; 15-04-2018 at 2:27 PM.
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    • Eager_Elephant
    • By Eager_Elephant 15th Apr 18, 2:57 PM
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    Another option is to find a local person who cant walk their dog much for whatever reason and offer to walk it on a weekend, there are proper sites that organise this or you might know someone local.
    Borrow My Doggy is the most common but there is a fee and the other one is The Cinnamon Trust - this one is a charity and it pairs up local people who are too ill or old to walk their dogs with families who have time to walk a dog.

    I agree with Brighton about time and energy to walk dogs - my dogs are walked twice a day and the load is shared between DH and I.
    I know people don't always walk their dogs once a day never mind twice a day but I feel a dog needs walking as it not only helps with energy levels but socialisation etc

    I wont go into cost but you have seen my latest post on my diary.
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    • catkins
    • By catkins 15th Apr 18, 3:31 PM
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    Dogs cost money, they are also a lot of work especially while they are puppies. Toilet training, lead training etc is time consuming and is hard enough when you have no children.

    Will your daughter have the time to train a puppy and be able to walk a dog twice a day with her children? If not she should really not be getting one.

    Borrow my Doggy is a great option for anyone who would like a dog but does not have the time, patience or money to have one themselves.

    So many dogs end up in rescue because people don't think long enough or hard enough about getting one.

    Sorry if my post seems harsh but many of my friends are involved in dog rescue and it saddens and annoys me that so many dogs, through no fault of their own, end up in rescue or even being put to sleep
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    • thorsoak
    • By thorsoak 15th Apr 18, 3:49 PM
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    Mooloo - my heart sank when I read that Biggest, who is pregnant, is getting a puppy dog ...because believe me, the person who is selling her a puppy is NOT a good breeder :-( No good breeder, who has put care and love into breeding a litter would let a puppy go to a home where Mum is pregnant and with other toddlers/children and where Dad is not around the whole time to support Mum, because that is a recipe for a pup to fail - Mum, with the best will in the world, will not have enough time to housetrain the puppy, will not have enough time to teach the children to leave the puppy alone, will not have enough time to train/walk the puppy - and the result will be an adolescent dog needing to be rehomed because it is messing in the house/snapping at the children/untrained :-( Good breeders want their puppies to go to "forever" homes, not where they might be passed from home to home. I know - I have, in the past when I was breeding Aussies and labs, turned down some lovely people and lovely homes because I didn't think that they had the time - at the time I met them - to take on the additional responsibility for one of my puppies. I promised them that if they came back to me in a couple of years and I had another litter on the ground that I would reconsider.

    So the explanation I give for this long-winded post is - I'm afraid that the puppy that Biggest might be getting will be from a greeder (greedy back-yard breeder) or puppy farm - who sell sick puppies to anyone who has the money and who doesn't care about the expense and heartbreak they are selling to hard-working people who haven't always been given the best advice about getting a puppy. xx
    Last edited by thorsoak; 15-04-2018 at 4:02 PM.
    • ognum
    • By ognum 15th Apr 18, 4:12 PM
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    Hi Moo

    Just to say today I took my dog to the vet, he!!!8217;s a rescue pup, he needs his teeth cleaned under anaesthetic ( even though we try to clean his testy and give him dental cleaning add in to his food). Cost is £300!

    Think about this when you think about having a dog.
    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 15th Apr 18, 4:13 PM
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    Th
    Another option is to find a local person who cant walk their dog much for whatever reason and offer to walk it on a weekend, there are proper sites that organise this or you might know someone local.
    Borrow My Doggy is the most common but there is a fee and the other one is The Cinnamon Trust - this one is a charity and it pairs up local people who are too ill or old to walk their dogs with families who have time to walk a dog.

    I agree with Brighton about time and energy to walk dogs - my dogs are walked twice a day and the load is shared between DH and I.
    I know people don't always walk their dogs once a day never mind twice a day but I feel a dog needs walking as it not only helps with energy levels but socialisation etc

    I wont go into cost but you have seen my latest post on my diary.
    Originally posted by Eager_Elephant
    This Mooloo concerning your dgds need for a dog . Logically you don't have enough hours in the day or energy to deal with the training involved . Children can tire of the novelty and you then have to take over .
    I would suggest to her you try some voluntary walking in the long summer holidays but let her know it will be some time before she can have her own . If you're still having problems getting her to school imagine trying to get her to walk the dog .

    I imagine Biggest has made her mind up but if she will listen point out what has been said above . No breeder or owner worth the name would place a dog or cat in a home where there is a soon to be Mum or young baby .

    Well done on making that phone call . As a Grandma it is the most loving and helpful thing you can do for the childrens sake . This loop of sorting the house , paying the debts etc needs to stop . Your son and girlfriend wont stop it as they know you'll step up .
    Hopefully a sharp shock will make a difference .
    Beat of luck with dealing with the mess today . TBH I'd take pictures of before and after for the health visiter .

    Treasure your dreams whichever direction they take you . Use your energy wisely and no more bluddy blinds !!!

    polly x
    • Mooloo
    • By Mooloo 15th Apr 18, 5:18 PM
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    Biggest and her Husbands choice.
    No I won't get one as I want my dreams

    We have enough to do just now.
    Spent 2 hours cutting my lawn and 3 cleaning their kitchen
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
    • tiredmum2
    • By tiredmum2 15th Apr 18, 5:40 PM
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    I understand its their choice to get a puppy but i cannot believe how selfish they are they have no money food treats, toys , training school and insurance are not cheap ,they are not both home to share the burden of a spaniel which is a highly intelligent dog that needs plenty to keep its mind occupied or problems occur also the amount of exercise working breeds need is large . How can your daughter look after this dog when the new baby comes with all her other commitments to her 2 other children as well . I can see you ending up taking a problem dog on because its cute and DGD asks you to . Yes this post is negative but its a reality check we have a dog and no little ones and in the wet or at night you dont want to go out but you are responsible for their care so you have to.
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