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    • another casualty
    • By another casualty 29th Dec 17, 1:32 PM
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    Quit..rest ..restart . Diary no.3
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    • 29th Dec 17, 1:32 PM
    Quit..rest ..restart . Diary no.3 29th Dec 17 at 1:32 PM
    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.comshowthread.php?t=53499 16
    And possibly the last . Not sure if the link works .

    From someone who never bothers with diaries ( I!!!8217;m the person who gets one from the office but leaves it in a drawer for 2 years ), to someone who has done two on m s e .

    As the title suggests , diary 1 is quit ( 28/10/2015)
    Diary 2 is wondering what now?( 2/04/2017)
    Diary 3 is trying to pickup the pieces of the puzzle and put them together so everything fits . (29/22/17)

    I must thank all the regulars ( Lesson Learned, harz, enthusiastic , gigervamp, Anna , copperjar cew Wendy &co. ) plus all the others who have been reading and thanking me along the way.
    I do think that, had the internet and this site had been around when we first had problems that a lot of mistakes wouldn!!!8217;t have happpened.

    There are many people worse off of course, but Like others I want to avoid falling down after trying to rebuild myself ready to be more sturdy and robust for what is thrown at me in the immediate future and beyond.

    Biggest obstacles to overcome : lose the weight / find a part time job/find confidence to meet new People / stop lazing around/
    Oh, and get off the prednisolone .

    Hope you enjoy the journey with me .

    Thanks
    Ac
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    • By another casualty 12th Feb 18, 5:43 PM
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    Hello AC,

    So glad I found you. I'll still catch up on the bits I missed last year, but you sound like you're doing great. Who's James? He seems like a great find for getting the things you need sorted.

    You sound so much happier in your posts than you did prior to your move. Have you ever gone back to read the first diary at any point to show yourself what a great job you're doing?

    MTxx
    Originally posted by MuffinTops
    Hello muffin Great to hear from you again .
    James the builder has been a lucky find for me, as you’ll see in my previous posts . Yes , I did read the first diary a few months back .
    I was all over the place then
    It’s good to hear that you see improvement .
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    • By another casualty 12th Feb 18, 6:10 PM
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    So , felt horrible all day Friday . Saturday I was fine again .
    Spiral finished last week as I said . Replaced by ropey Swedish series modus . Up pops Kim cattrall whomis not Swedish , so enough was enough and I switched off . Hopefully the bridge will be back soon .

    Yesterday I finally got the music room to my liking . Only a couple of poster tubes to put somewhere. Do not tell me where.
    Still have a crate of stuff to sort out , which is now hidden in the bedroom.

    It seems only last month that I went down in Jean size from 40 inch waist to 38 inches. I have a feeling Iam now ready to go to a 36 inch waist .
    I am gonna order one pair online from M&S and see what gives.
    I diid not have the confidence to go down to 38 waist initially , but I am fed up of my jeans slipping down way too low .

    Had a strange and strenuous personal training session today . This consisted of doing odd and awkward excercise with no strength involved. Mr. Instructor wants me to get swimming trunks so he can take pics . I think it is gonna be a before and eventually after shots rather than something dodgy . I was wearing 4xxl size in t shirts and sweatshirts , but yesterday it looks like I may have gone to 2x l
    If I can get to just x l then that is a huge achievement .
    This is one of reasons I have been holding back looking for employment . Initially I knew I could not even fit into a weather centre as a gas balloon. Looks like I am heading in the right direction to be normal fingers crossed .
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    • By another casualty 13th Feb 18, 5:56 PM
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    Woke up with a stiff shoulder which I still have now . I assume it’s the way I slept . Lots of rain today, so I only went as far as the shop .
    Watching olympics . For a moment I though it was loose women .
    Cannot watch curling though. Too boring for me .
    • enthusiasticsaver
    • By enthusiasticsaver 13th Feb 18, 7:19 PM
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    Wow, you are doing well on the keeping fit regime AC. Going down from size 40 to almost 36 is really good. That will give you confidence when looking for work knowing you are fitter than you were 6 months ago.
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    • By another casualty 13th Feb 18, 7:55 PM
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    Thanks enthusiastic .
    I suppose the combination of quitting lucozade and crisps a few months back , plus the above . Long way to go , but I will be patient and hope for the best . Living like a pensuioner at the moment but change will happen eventually .
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    • By gallygirl 13th Feb 18, 9:10 PM
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    Had a strange and strenuous personal training session today . This consisted of doing odd and awkward excercise with no strength involved. Mr. Instructor wants me to get swimming trunks so he can take pics . I think it is gonna be a before and eventually after shots rather than something dodgy .
    Originally posted by another casualty


    Oh dear, that does read funny AC . What kind of exercises - am guessing some kind of Pilates type ones which would actually be really good for your suppleness and overall fitness? Plus holding your 'core' in helps with balance which is really important as we all get older and our bones less strong and 'bounceable' .

    Anyway, we all want to see the before and after pics - unless a mankini is involved .
    A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort
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    • By another casualty 13th Feb 18, 9:50 PM
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    Hellooo gally. Such a long time . Hope you are fine and dandy as usual Yes ,that does sound a rather odd training session.
    Basically , it was all about balance . Some using a t r x pulley.
    I think that is what it is called. Different ways of press-ups . Using the treadmill in a different way altogether . Basically while the personal trainer keeps telling me how strong and solid I am , he acknowledges other parts of the body that need to be built up.due to my condition.
    I am basically doing a lot of things opposite the way others would do.

    TBH I do not want to do the pics . I may do some selfies at home standing behind an inflatable space hopper or something.
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    • By another casualty 15th Feb 18, 8:18 PM
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    Lousy couple of days . Constant rain meant I just stayed in .
    Went out today to buy scented candles in branksome . For some reason I was sweaty , clammy and sniffy. When I walked into homesense, I inadvertently knocked a fake plastic tree when I brushed past it . Some snotty bloke just pointed at it . I didn’t know what he was pointing at . No conversation , just pointing .
    Feel better now than what I did . I think I may force myself to the gym tomorrow .

    Felt a bit bloated today . When looking through a drawer with some clothes in it, I found the last pair of trousers that I wore for that hideous company I used to work for . Waist size..46”.
    In reality, I know that trousers and jeans fittings are different , so I think I would probably be a 40” trousers with them being loose and soon a 36”jeans . The. Ones I have in 38” are very loose as I mentioned .
    Still tidying up stuff in bedroom. Hopefully , by this time next week that will be done . This m g saps you of energy and stamina . Hoping the gym visits get back my stamina and strength .
    • gallygirl
    • By gallygirl 15th Feb 18, 8:50 PM
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    Hellooo gally. Such a long time . Hope you are fine and dandy as usual Yes ,that does sound a rather odd training session.
    Basically , it was all about balance . Some using a t r x pulley.
    I think that is what it is called. Different ways of press-ups . Using the treadmill in a different way altogether . Basically while the personal trainer keeps telling me how strong and solid I am , he acknowledges other parts of the body that need to be built up.due to my condition.
    I am basically doing a lot of things opposite the way others would do.
    Originally posted by another casualty
    Sounds like the trainer is putting some real thought into how to work with you AC . Using your core can help tighten up your abdomen and improve your overall condition which is all good

    Fine and dandy signing out .
    A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort
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    • By another casualty 19th Feb 18, 1:45 PM
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    Had another personal training session today . Different again . Working mainly on stamina and co ordination Trainer still happy with my progress .
    Saw friend on sat for first time in about a month. He thinks I have lost a bit of weight . I still have a way to go.

    Need to contact gas engineer for a yearly inspection on the gas boiler. . I liked the guy I saw last year when deciding whether to go ahead and buy the flat. I think it is best to have an annual checkup just to keep things ticking over and hopefully avoiding any nasty surprises.
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    • By another casualty 22nd Feb 18, 2:40 PM
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    Have a pain in the back of my neck / shoulder. Yes I know I can be a pain in the neck . I was wondering if it is because of the bed I have .
    The new mattress is fine and dandy now . When I was in my last place I was gonna chuck the bed and mattress away when I moved . The removal guy and my friend advised me not to. The bizarre thing about me ranting on about the bed , is that it has no headboard .
    Trendy / stupid design means that the pillows used to fall in the gap behind the bed . It is low and not high.
    I will be back at the gym tomorrow regardless and see what gives.

    I will order 2 more pairs of jeans online at m&s as the ones I have now are making me an embarrassment and if I was not wearing a coat could have got me in trouble on more than 1 occasion .

    Was a bit down over last couple of days , but have started tidying up the bedroom and throwing more clothes out that I do not require anymore . It is a habit I am getting used to. A clear flat = clear mind
    Something like that . I will get a gas engineer to give the boiler a checkup as I mentioned above. Apparently , we are in for a colder spell , so I will wait till that has passed as I do not want to jinx anything .

    Still waiting to hear from James regarding repairing leak and for quote for new kitchen doors . Once I get the kitchen doors then the flat revamp is complete. I am after gloss white , preferably no handles .
    I have seen the insides of the flats in my block and a lot of the kitchens are the same . Bathrooms also. Mine looks different than most .

    I notice that the text fault with the iPad / m s e is still there. It makes things more long winded and a p I t a to type . Don!!!8217;t / can!!!8217;t etc have been extended somewhat and do not seem to make sense .
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    • By another casualty 23rd Feb 18, 12:55 PM
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    Tackled some of the clutter in the bedroom. Should hopefully, have it completed today . I have a cupboard in the kitchen which now hosts for the moment, the bedding used for guests and myself.
    It means I put those 2 boxes fr the dyson products I bought last year under the bed. Gotta take my printer/ scanner out of the box and see if it can be located into the music room .

    Woke up this morning with slightly less pain in the shoulder/ neck area. I had a really good session in the gym.

    James called me this morning . He will be sending me quotes for my kitchen over the weekend .

    Found loads of loose change , and am deciding what to do with it.
    As I do not drive , I am thinking of asking the vet nearby whether they have a charity that they use who would accept loads of loose change. TBH , when I was up against it financially and going to work with coin bags full of 20p pieces I was actually counting it all and putting the correct amount into the different denominations required by the bank. I cannot be bothered now and think it would be more beneficial to a decent animal charity .

    Took some euros to the local post office . Alas they only accept notes and no coins . They can go to the vets if they want them as well.

    Feeling better today with the nice sunshine .
    • harz99
    • By harz99 23rd Feb 18, 5:51 PM
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    Don't be daft AC, see this site for coin exchange machines in supermarkets near to you, giving money away is so not MSE!


    http://www.coinstar.co.uk/coinmachine
    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 24th Feb 18, 4:41 PM
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    I am back.....

    Had a great time........quite an adventure. Great weather - considering it was the rain forest we saw very little rain. And of course the Caribbean was lovely. The Amazon was hot, sticky and very humid as I expected. Lots of insects but got away with just 3 mozzie bites.

    also some lovely flowers and plants and plenty of wildlife, lots of colourful birds.

    Good to see you making such good progress AC. You are doing really well and making great strides with your fitness.

    Have to agree with Harz.....as usual......are you my twin AC if you cannot be bothered to bag up your money for the bank then at least coinstar it.

    I think some charities do accept foreign coins but not sure which ones. If you find out do let us know. I have loads to get rid of. Seems a shame not to put them to good use. But I do keep sterling loose change for myself. I bag it up and put it towards Christmas.

    I did come back with some currency. Quite a lot of dollars which I did pay back into my account because I doubt that I will be going to either the states or the Caribbean for a while. I am keeping the euros, there was not that many left and I will probably pop over to either Belgium or Spain in the near future. I have a few paper Reals but they are not worth cashing in. Brazilian money is like monopoly money, especially since their most recent economic crisis, their currency is almost worthless. Good for tourists though, sterling goes a looooong way.

    Well what can I say about the Amazon.......it really is worth seeing. Pretty much as I expected, but bigger. It is vast. We travelled 1000miles along the river and still only got as far as Manaus. Larger ships cannot go any further because they cannot go under the huge bridge which spans the river. It would be interesting to head further inland. Maybe one day.

    I would love to see more of Brazil, maybe Rio de Janeiro next time. And of course not forgetting some of the rest of South America, Argentina, Peru Venezuela etc.

    One day hopefully I can visit my daughter in laws parents in Venezuela but apparently it is not advisable at the moment. Pity because Peru and the upper reaches of the Amazon are only just next door.

    Anyway for now I am happy to be home. I have got lots planned for the summer, not least of which will be awaiting my first grandchild. It is boy by the way. Wahoo.
    Last edited by lessonlearned; 24-02-2018 at 4:46 PM.
    • fraserbooks
    • By fraserbooks 24th Feb 18, 7:09 PM
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    Another good place for foreign currency is Ebay. I help in a charity shop and we sell any we get as a job lot.

    Your holiday sounds wonderful lesson learned.
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    • By another casualty 26th Feb 18, 1:36 PM
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    Hello fraserbooks. Thanks for that
    Welcome back LL Glad you had a great time in the Amazon.
    Congrats on being a granny too
    Did you see any alligators or lizards up close? Slimy toads do not count as we have all dealt with many of those in our lifetime on many occasions
    Welcome back to the beast from the east. Not a boxer, but the cold snap that is supposed to be coming our way .

    So, I felt picked up and in better frame of mind over the weekend .
    I played my heaviest bass guitar yesterday and for some strange reason my neck/ shoulder pain does not seem as bad .

    Just made it in time for the personal training session . The delivery from m &s is a day early , and I left my home 10 mins later than usual. So, after being slowly tortured , I got home and tried my new jeans on . After 7/8 mins the black pair fits. The blue denim ones were more of a struggle . 10-12 mins later , the fit me..just.
    So it seems I have gone from a totally fat, overblown bar steward to a slightly slimmer one .The day that these 2 pairs of jeans are hanging from my backside is when I should really invest in a bottle of champagne and celebrate . In my case it would be hoegaarden .

    Got estimate from James. Baring in mind i am having him for a five day week , plus he will be repairing pipe/ changing floorboards possibly as well it will probably be around £2, 400. This means the kitchen is totally transformed with new doors, plinth etc. In theory , it also means it is the last thing needing to be done in the flat for a very long time fingers crossed .
    I have this week left to sort out excessive mess of clutter in bedroom and dust the place from top to bottom. Need to,keep momentum going..
    • anna_1977
    • By anna_1977 26th Feb 18, 1:51 PM
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    Hello fraserbooks. Thanks for that
    Welcome back LL Glad you had a great time in the Amazon.
    Congrats on being a granny too
    Did you see any alligators or lizards up close? Slimy toads do not count as we have all dealt with many of those in our lifetime on many occasions
    Welcome back to the beast from the east. Not a boxer, but the cold snap that is supposed to be coming our way .

    So, I felt picked up and in better frame of mind over the weekend .
    I played my heaviest bass guitar yesterday and for some strange reason my neck/ shoulder pain does not seem as bad .

    Just made it in time for the personal training session . The delivery from m &s is a day early , and I left my home 10 mins later than usual. So, after being slowly tortured , I got home and tried my new jeans on . After 7/8 mins the black pair fits. The blue denim ones were more of a struggle . 10-12 mins later , the fit me..just.
    So it seems I have gone from a totally fat, overblown bar steward to a slightly slimmer one .The day that these 2 pairs of jeans are hanging from my backside is when I should really invest in a bottle of champagne and celebrate . In my case it would be hoegaarden .

    Got estimate from James. Baring in mind i am having him for a five day week , plus he will be repairing pipe/ changing floorboards possibly as well it will probably be around £2, 400. This means the kitchen is totally transformed with new doors, plinth etc. In theory , it also means it is the last thing needing to be done in the flat for a very long time fingers crossed .
    I have this week left to sort out excessive mess of clutter in bedroom and dust the place from top to bottom. Need to,keep momentum going..
    Originally posted by another casualty

    Hi AC, that sounds quite a bit for the kitchen when you're not having total new units or appliances?
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    • By another casualty 26th Feb 18, 2:13 PM
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    Hi Anna Initially yes, but I am paying for James Labor etc.
    It could be less than that, I am thinking worse case scenario. I am sticking by him , as if I left it all till later then the price would go up plus I would have the fun of trying to find another builder etc.
    I will let you all know the total bill of course. He should be starting next Monday , and finish on Friday .
    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 26th Feb 18, 4:34 PM
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    AC. What exactly are you having done in the kitchen.

    Assuming £200 per day labour costs - that still leaves £1400 for materials. I agree sounds a bit steep. Does this include worktop, tiles, new tap etc or is it just doors and plinths.

    I have decided to have a big push now and finish off all the little odd bits and pieces so rang my builder and plumber this morning. Want to get it all done by summer if possible.

    Very cold here, little flurry of snow but it looks more like ice or hailstones than nice soft fluffy snow.

    Ps yes saw caymans........sort of alligator, and lots of various kinds of lizards, some nice colourful birds and the trees and flowers were stunning. Some of the insects were pretty impressive too.lol. Ooh and pink dolphins.
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    • By another casualty 26th Feb 18, 5:16 PM
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    Job is for cabinets/ drawers/ cornice / plumbing work behind the units / repairing damaged flooring under the units.
    I do have an itemised costing from howdens vi a James but too much to print . I will explain more etc as things progress
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