Your browser isn't supported
It looks like you're using an old web browser. To get the most out of the site and to ensure guides display correctly, we suggest upgrading your browser now. Download the latest:

Welcome to the MSE Forums

We're home to a fantastic community of MoneySavers but anyone can post. Please exercise caution & report spam, illegal, offensive or libellous posts/messages: click "report" or email forumteam@.

Search
  • FIRST POST
    • another casualty
    • By another casualty 29th Dec 17, 12:32 PM
    • 4,266Posts
    • 7,159Thanks
    another casualty
    Quit..rest ..restart . Diary no.3
    • #1
    • 29th Dec 17, 12:32 PM
    Quit..rest ..restart . Diary no.3 29th Dec 17 at 12:32 PM
    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.comshowthread.php?t=53499 16
    And possibly the last . Not sure if the link works .

    From someone who never bothers with diaries ( I’m the person who gets one from the office but leaves it in a drawer for 2 years ), to someone who has done two on m s e .

    As the title suggests , diary 1 is quit ( 28/10/2015)
    Diary 2 is wondering what now?( 2/04/2017)
    Diary 3 is trying to pickup the pieces of the puzzle and put them together so everything fits . (29/22/17)

    I must thank all the regulars ( Lesson Learned, harz, enthusiastic , gigervamp, Anna , copperjar cew Wendy &co. ) plus all the others who have been reading and thanking me along the way.
    I do think that, had the internet and this site had been around when we first had problems that a lot of mistakes wouldn’t have happpened.

    There are many people worse off of course, but Like others I want to avoid falling down after trying to rebuild myself ready to be more sturdy and robust for what is thrown at me in the immediate future and beyond.

    Biggest obstacles to overcome : lose the weight / find a part time job/find confidence to meet new People / stop lazing around/
    Oh, and get off the prednisolone .

    Hope you enjoy the journey with me .

    Thanks
    Ac
Page 38
    • doingitanyway
    • By doingitanyway 13th Jun 19, 7:48 AM
    • 4,644 Posts
    • 29,553 Thanks
    doingitanyway
    Glad you are getting free prescriptions but what a shame to have to be paying for them when you were broke.

    Getting off meds is always a good thing. Keep going. Think how great it will be to be off all meds!
    Friday and Sat should be the best days here too. I have a gardener booked for tomorrow. They keep cancelling due to rain, so fingers crossed.

    Have a good day AC
    Car costs savings: 500
    Xmas savings 250
    IF NOT NOW THEN WHEN?
    • another casualty
    • By another casualty 13th Jun 19, 8:13 AM
    • 4,266 Posts
    • 7,159 Thanks
    another casualty
    Thanks DIA
    It's best to keep going and see what happens . It's all a big plus considering the way I was . I had to laugh about the sign I saw in the gym on Monday .." don't struggle on your own." I just said to mr trainer that it's a bit late now
    Hope the garden gets sorted . It's raining here.

    I've had a couple of days , when I broke things accidentally . First it was a small wooden elephant coaster holder, then it was a glass tumbler , and on Monday my electric shaver decided not to work.
    I gave it a couple of days trying to charge it . In the end , I spoke to a nice lady at John Lewis as I only purchased it in October . So I will be returning it shortly . Hopefully for a straight swap .
    I find philishaves great in principal . They seem to have improved but the battery is the problem I have had with this and the previous one
    I only paid around £45. Works out cheaper than Gillette razors. I can't stand Gillette due to their virtue signalling advert a few months ago ,
    Plus they experiment on animals .

    I got an early morning text asking if I want to see Metallica again at Twickenham rugby ground next week. Free tkt. The irony that I moved from Twickenham a couple of years ago
    I'm bored of them now , and outdoor gigs in general . A sign of getting old ?
    • triple choc chip
    • By triple choc chip 13th Jun 19, 12:36 PM
    • 951 Posts
    • 3,235 Thanks
    triple choc chip
    I can't stand Gillette due to their virtue signalling advert a few months ago.
    Plus they experiment on animals .
    Originally posted by another casualty
    Do they shave them
    Debt Free since 6.8.13
    New home 12 5 rooms to decorate
    Saving for Xmas 2019 #6 £613/£730 84%
    Emergency fund £1.4k
    It turns out the answer to my problems wasn’t at the bottom of this tub of icecream, but the important thing is that I tried...
    • another casualty
    • By another casualty 13th Jun 19, 12:55 PM
    • 4,266 Posts
    • 7,159 Thanks
    another casualty
    Do they shave them
    Originally posted by triple choc chip
    Hi triple choc
    Not sure about what they do etc, or any other big companies that do ,but I just heard it from somewhere long ago . I don't want to know either tbh
    I don't look into things like that too far as it would be too depressing .

    I'll leave it there . I'm not eco this or that , but I am aware that I could be doing more , like buying soap instead of shower gel as that is a small thing that goes a long way .
    • another casualty
    • By another casualty 13th Jun 19, 1:06 PM
    • 4,266 Posts
    • 7,159 Thanks
    another casualty
    I went to John Lewis this morning . Trying to find the right person who could deal with my purchase , was becoming a pita. I was pointed in 3 wrong directions and wrong assistants until I finally found someone who was really helpful. Got there in the end . The chap gave me a gift card with just under £10 as the shaver was reduced in price since I
    purchased it . I should pick up the replacement tomorrow.

    I then headed over to Homebase and got paint tray with rollers , duct tape and gloves . I'll probably if all goes well, paint the hallway next week .

    I then headed over to home sense , to get some strong fragrance soap.The last time I was there , I got a bar of beeswax soap which was fantastic . The bathroom smelled better too.
    I couldn't find it on this occasion , so I may have to get something equally as strong and fresh . May go there tomorrow .
    • Gigervamp
    • By Gigervamp 13th Jun 19, 1:07 PM
    • 6,421 Posts
    • 20,601 Thanks
    Gigervamp
    It's illegal in the EU to test cosmetic products on animals, and has been for years now. The trouble is, a lot of ingredients have been around for a long time, and so were tested on animals in the past.



    On material safety data sheets, (MSDS) there will be something called the LD50. That's the toxicity of an ingredient, when it kills more than 50% of rats. Even water has an LD50 (90 ml/kg) so you really can't avoid using things that were once tested on animals.
    • Gigervamp
    • By Gigervamp 13th Jun 19, 1:11 PM
    • 6,421 Posts
    • 20,601 Thanks
    Gigervamp
    I love the soaps in TKMaxx/Homesense. I can't resist buying more when I'm there, even though they last for ages. The ones I'm not using, I stick in my clothes drawers until I need to start a new one, to scent the clothes!


    I used to make soap, (that's why I know about what I posted in my last post) and love to use good quality soap.
    • doingitanyway
    • By doingitanyway 13th Jun 19, 8:17 PM
    • 4,644 Posts
    • 29,553 Thanks
    doingitanyway
    Another one here who loves good quality soap. They are a real treat
    Car costs savings: 500
    Xmas savings 250
    IF NOT NOW THEN WHEN?
    • another casualty
    • By another casualty 15th Jun 19, 9:12 AM
    • 4,266 Posts
    • 7,159 Thanks
    another casualty
    It's starting to rain here . I'm due to have my friend over to finally and hopefully, fix extractor back in the kitchen . After that , the plan is to have a couple of Guinness's .

    I will be bending his ear a little about my situation with the neighbours . I have been looking at the state of the 'music room ' which may have to become a store room and the computer desk to be moved into the living room . I will ask his opinion , and possible help
    I still have the 2 settees from my last flat and two of my other friends did say that I should ditch one and put the computer in place of one .
    We all know each other . The thing is , the box room is too near the communal area and outside where the noise is coming through via the kids . The other neighbours are fine . In hindsight , it seems that I would've been better having the upstairs flat which never sold last year ,and the family on the gd flr flat , not that they own their flat . They are renting . Once I paint the hallway ,and tidy up properly with my storage issues , I'll probably get my flat valued and I'll have an idea as to what I can / can't do . Maybe I'm over thinking . Then again it's my first move and I have to keep all options open and not rest on my laurels ..
    • doingitanyway
    • By doingitanyway 16th Jun 19, 7:06 PM
    • 4,644 Posts
    • 29,553 Thanks
    doingitanyway
    I hope all went to plan and you enjoyed a few beers with friends.
    I had 2 settees in one room and moved one out. The room looks so much better!
    Sounds like you are thinking of moving?
    Car costs savings: 500
    Xmas savings 250
    IF NOT NOW THEN WHEN?
    • another casualty
    • By another casualty 16th Jun 19, 7:32 PM
    • 4,266 Posts
    • 7,159 Thanks
    another casualty
    I hope all went to plan and you enjoyed a few beers with friends.
    I had 2 settees in one room and moved one out. The room looks so much better!
    Sounds like you are thinking of moving?
    Originally posted by doingitanyway
    Hi DIA

    I had a couple of gunness's . My friend was still rough with a heavy cold . I was thinking of moving . That thought lasted a few hours .
    I'm staying put . I've gotta man up and realise , that the noise isn't all the time and that things could be a lot worse .
    Tbh I become stale for some time , but I have sprung into action today and had a declutter . I am putting the fire back in my backside and have made a list of things that I can and will be constantly doing.
    I need to be more disciplined and stop putting off things that should've been done ages ago . It'll take time but no more excuses
    I realised that I was beginning to sound whiny and mopey .
    No more
    I'll be catching up on your diary soon.
    • doingitanyway
    • By doingitanyway 21st Jun 19, 12:51 PM
    • 4,644 Posts
    • 29,553 Thanks
    doingitanyway
    What did you do with your new found motivation?

    I thought of you as despite swearing off any gym memberships a new one is opening for just £15 a month. At that price I will check it out. You never know I might end up a regular exerciser like you, especially as I am about to be able to organise my own time
    Car costs savings: 500
    Xmas savings 250
    IF NOT NOW THEN WHEN?
    • another casualty
    • By another casualty 21st Jun 19, 2:05 PM
    • 4,266 Posts
    • 7,159 Thanks
    another casualty
    Hey DIA
    New found motivation . Well , I've decided to stop procrastinating once and for all and sort out the flat and my head once and for all also.
    I finally started to scan and shred ' stuff' weds and yesterday .
    I've been doing 4 hrs a day so far . It's a start . There's a mountain of it . I'm going to do the same every day until it's done .

    As for the gym , It seems that you are at last getting the routine you desire DIA, and if you could afford and commit to it , I think it's a must. I was too accommodating and working many hours of overtime and all that did was ruin my life and body . Commitment to something that' you enjoy will be one of the best things you can do. Go for it
    • doingitanyway
    • By doingitanyway 21st Jun 19, 2:36 PM
    • 4,644 Posts
    • 29,553 Thanks
    doingitanyway
    Well done on the scan and shred schedule.

    I don't know if this gym will be the one but what I do know is an exercise plan will be essential. You are right to devote time to getting healthy. I want to do the same.

    I hope you have a chance to get out and about as it is set to be good weather this weekend
    Car costs savings: 500
    Xmas savings 250
    IF NOT NOW THEN WHEN?
    • harz99
    • By harz99 28th Jun 19, 7:38 AM
    • 2,943 Posts
    • 2,906 Thanks
    harz99
    So another week has passed by AC, what news?
    • harz99
    • By harz99 5th Jul 19, 8:48 AM
    • 2,943 Posts
    • 2,906 Thanks
    harz99
    Two weeks now AC, are you still with us...
    • another casualty
    • By another casualty 8th Jul 19, 6:21 PM
    • 4,266 Posts
    • 7,159 Thanks
    another casualty
    I am indeed Harz
    I'm still plodding away . Some progress , but not huge amounts .

    On the health side, it's a mixed bag . I have stopped taking bread for 2 weeks . However , I have been back on crisps for a few weeks .
    No more now . None in the cupboard . I need to knuckle down and be more sensible . The sessions with mr trainer are still going well.
    Today ,he meant business and got me doing more challenging things .
    Similar to last year except no shuttle runs . My legs are still bad .

    On Friday afternoon , my local friend suggested walking down to Poole quay and having a few ciders . Nothing wrong with that in theory. It was another hot day . My friend noticed I sounded a bit breathless and asked if I wanted to rest on the way . Nice of him to suggest , but I declined and carried on . Maybe it was the fact that I only had a bowl of porridge before netting him at lunchtime .
    Maybe it was the fact that I need to attend the gym more often .

    Yes , as mentioned above my legs are bad getting up from the chair , or if I'm sitting by my computer or answering the intercom . Even when getting out of bed etc.
    I am still on sick leave until sept from universal credit , so I'll focus on doing more exercise . I'm still walking way too slowly . It's part of my condition ( motor neurone ) so there's not much else I can do.
    I won't be fit for work for some time , but I'll just try and improve things . I have to realise the positive result of stopping the prednisolone since Easter . It could well be the pain is more now because I have stopped it and my body needs a good year for it to get out of my system for good . No way do I want to get back on that
    I was listening to Michael j Fox's audio book about him and his battle against Parkinson's disease. Something he has has since he was 30 iirc. Nobody gets a free ride . Unless you're david beckham ..

    Regarding my flat . Neighbours surprisingly quiet over last 2 weeks .
    Summer holidays here soon ,so I'll say nothing more for now.
    I have put all of my stuff to be scanned into a large crate and will push on with that tomorrow for a few hours ,and pickup the pace there .
    I have eventually made a decision about what to do regarding guests crashing over and the furniture etc .
    Looking at the bigger picture overall , I am keeping my 2 leather sofas. I think one can be reupholstered and I'm looking at a place where someone can come over and sort it out for a couple of hundred pounds approx . Money saved in the long run. However, I decided to get a fold up chair from made ( haru) which turns into a single bed .
    This solution makes sense imho ,as it keeps my flat homely and not a blatant single person flat if that makes sense . The chair from made won't be here it'll mid August though . I can sell the aero bed I got when that arrives .

    I left a text with james last Tuesday about the kitchen extractor .
    No response yet , but he could be on holiday . I'll give him another week .

    I stopped using premium Dropbox . Was £7.99 now £10 . I don't need that much space anymore . Once I got all of my CDs onto my hard drive and Mac , I may use once to share with friends .

    I'm considering stopping Netflix for a while . TBH I don't watch it enough . I may just do a month here and there . I get fed up with the over hype of actors and celebs at the best of times .

    I made a mistake on amazon music player . I thought I subscribed by mistake for just one month and had a text conversation to cancel .However for some reason it was longer than that ,and I got a refund of £50 .

    That'll do for now .

    Have a good week
    • Gigervamp
    • By Gigervamp 9th Jul 19, 12:34 AM
    • 6,421 Posts
    • 20,601 Thanks
    Gigervamp
    Good to see you back AC!


    £200 sounds on the low side for getting your sofa upholstered. Would you get fabric or leather? Might be doable if you choose a cheap cotton though. I bought ready made covers for our old Ikea sofa, from a company that specialise in covers for Ikea furniture (Bemz) and I got them heavily reduced in the Black Friday sales, yet they were still about £130, for the 2nd to cheapest cotton fabric.And that's ready made, which is a lot cheaper than having it reupholstered.


    I bet the quay was busy! Lovely to have it so near though, and there are plenty of watering holes to sit and enjoy a nice cold glass of something, while watching the boats..

    We're not far from the sea here, but the water is brown! My husband still can't believe how blue the water is down your way! We also don't see many boats here, although Porthcawl does have a small marina. I always love watching all the boats down at Swanage.
    • another casualty
    • By another casualty 9th Jul 19, 1:14 PM
    • 4,266 Posts
    • 7,159 Thanks
    another casualty
    Thanks gigervamp

    I looked at a few places regarding reupholstering a couple of months ago. I've been holding off for a while but may send an email .
    No rush . TBH , what's needed is for the padding to be replaced as it has been deflated over the years . The rest is fine . The sagging is visible and getting more uncomfortable . Then again the sofas are 22 years old

    I received a text from universal credit yesterday . They will be sending me a questionnaire to fill in . Initially my appointment is at the job centre in sept . That appointment is to provide further evidence .
    I believe that I send all of my medical background with the questionnaire . A tad confusing . I'll just do as instructed and see what gives . There is a link to videos of what to expect when I do go for my assessment . Just watched those . I just photocopied all of my history , and have it to hand . I'm expecting a letter regarding my recent visit to mr specialist in London . It'll be interesting to see his comments .
    Now back to scanning ..
    • another casualty
    • By another casualty 10th Jul 19, 9:13 AM
    • 4,266 Posts
    • 7,159 Thanks
    another casualty
    Humid night . Slept like a baby ..until 3.30 this morning . Not complaining though, as that was around the time the timer on my dyson switched off .

    Just received 2 envelopes in the post . One from mr specialist at st Thomas 's hsp and the universal credit capability for work questionnaire . Not sure if the letter from mr specialist will help .
    He says that I'm not fit for work for at least another 6 months listing the reasons why . We'll see . Anyway , off to the gym ..
    Have a good day
Welcome to our new Forum!

Our aim is to save you money quickly and easily. We hope you like it!

Forum Team Contact us

Live Stats

149Posts Today

1,230Users online

Martin's Twitter