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    • 117pauline
    • By 117pauline 4th Dec 17, 4:00 PM
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    117pauline
    Mindful or Mind full?
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    • 4th Dec 17, 4:00 PM
    Mindful or Mind full? 4th Dec 17 at 4:00 PM
    So....... life appears to have changed today!

    I came downstairs to a letter from my partner saying he needed time away. After 11 plus years. Not sure how I feel.

    At the moment I need to get a job. Not as easy as that sounds as I have quite a problem leaving the house at all. I am waiting to get to the top of the list for some CBT help. I also have some chronic conditions too which have hindered our relationship.

    As you can imagine, I am not sure what will happen. My plan is to do nothing rash but try to pay down my loan as much as possible. Then I am going to have to find somewhere to live etc.

    I did say I was going to start a diary so I think this is one hell of a way to get started!

    Pauline
    Don't get it perfect - Get it going
    Better Than Before
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 16th Dec 18, 6:01 PM
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    beanielou
    Forgot to add safe home tomorrow
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 12 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
    • 117pauline
    • By 117pauline 16th Dec 18, 6:10 PM
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    Thank you for the good wishes.

    Yes the market trip was perfect. It wasn't too busy and we all shopped well together, no getting lost from each other.

    However.........

    I have only just checked in for my flight!!!!

    How could I forget? I had written a list for each day for the last week but I was obviously over-confident and hadn't looked at the list for today. What a plank?

    So a cup of tea to calm myself and then I will check the list properly.

    My leftover duck was not quite as delicious as yesterday, but was pretty good with extra vegetables.

    Hopefully my blood pressure will return to normal very soon
    Pauline
    Don't get it perfect - Get it going
    Better Than Before
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 16th Dec 18, 6:13 PM
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    beanielou
    At least you have checked in now
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 12 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
    • jwil
    • By jwil 17th Dec 18, 10:08 AM
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    Sounds like all is going well. Have a safe trip.
    "If you can dream it, you can do it". Walt Disney
    • 117pauline
    • By 117pauline 17th Dec 18, 3:03 PM
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    I have had one of those mornings!

    So I have done some more washing; contacted emergency plumber for details of shower; called them to arrange warranty visit; called tenant; called hospital to change appt, can't so; booked another flight; cancelled car hire; rebooked car hire; tidied house again; emptied fridge; made bed with fresh linen; been busy being busy!

    Oh yes, still to pack - how daft am I?

    I have about two and a half hours till I need to leave. Washing up needs doing. I have made sure my phone and tablet are charged up. Pack up packed up.

    I still feel like I am missing something. Oh I know, a cup of tea!
    Don't get it perfect - Get it going
    Better Than Before
    • Cherryfudge
    • By Cherryfudge 17th Dec 18, 3:40 PM
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    I hope you've got your cup of tea!
    Now where is your passport?
    Boarding pass?
    Both sets of keys?
    Both lots of money?
    Phone charger?
    Have you remembered to turn off the fridge/hot water?
    Who is picking up your post?

    Have a good flight, we'll 'see' you when you land (I will wave at any planes I see in case it's you).

    P.S. That's a pretty amazing lot to achieve in any morning let alone when you have a plane to catch!
    MFW #30 Overpaid by £4,100.58/£3000 in 2018 Overpaid by £555.74/2,880.00 in 2019
    Decluttered in 2019: 299/2019 as of 10/3/19
    • WannabeFree
    • By WannabeFree 17th Dec 18, 5:16 PM
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    Have a safe journey

    x
    “Once you hit rock bottom, that's where you perfectly stand; That's your chance of restarting, but restarting the way.”

    POAMAYC 19 #70 £1561/£2070
    • HairyHandofDartmoor
    • By HairyHandofDartmoor 24th Dec 18, 8:27 PM
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    Happy Christmas Pauline .
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
    Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017
    NEW GOALS - Build Emergency Fund & Loss of Income Fund. Save for house repairs.
    EMERGENCY FUND £2,000
    "Tough times never last, but tough people do" - Robert H Schuller
    • WannabeFree
    • By WannabeFree 24th Dec 18, 10:25 PM
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    Have a lovely Xmas Pauline

    x
    “Once you hit rock bottom, that's where you perfectly stand; That's your chance of restarting, but restarting the way.”

    POAMAYC 19 #70 £1561/£2070
    • Sun Addict
    • By Sun Addict 25th Dec 18, 6:28 PM
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    Happy Christmas Pauline, hope all is ok xx
    Virtual Sealed Pot 2019 £164.81
    Weight loss 6/9LBS
    Emergency Fund £3260/£10,000
    • Nicnak
    • By Nicnak 25th Dec 18, 7:38 PM
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    Merry Christmas xx
    September 6th 2017 - Updated February 2019
    Credit Card £0 now: £0 Dad £1500 = £1000 Consolidation £15,000 = £9,960 Total = £25,330 £10,960 59% gone EMF #252 = £100/£1000
    Sealed pot challenge #024
    Pay off all your debts by Christmas #071
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 28th Dec 18, 5:13 PM
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    Hope that you had a good time
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 12 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
    • lonelyrat
    • By lonelyrat 13th Jan 19, 11:25 AM
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    lonelyrat
    Hope you had a lovely Christmas Definitely get the scarf if you get the chance again!
    Total Debt : ?? / 7266.93
    Weight Loss: ?? kg / 45kg
    • Seasidegal58
    • By Seasidegal58 17th Jan 19, 8:09 PM
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    Echoing the others in hoping you and your mum had a lovely Christmas break Pauline. Hope all is okay.

    SSG x
    Finally Debt Free! - July 2016
    Finished Emergency Fund- £10,000 April 2017

    Next Scrimpy Goal - Ad Hoc Savings - 17/03/2019 - £2,448.68
    MONTHS TO RETIREMENT: 25
    My diary: “Paid off the £31,0000! BUT- still scrimping!”
    • WannabeFree
    • By WannabeFree 17th Jan 19, 8:14 PM
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    Hope you had a lovely Xmas Pauline, and happy new year

    x
    “Once you hit rock bottom, that's where you perfectly stand; That's your chance of restarting, but restarting the way.”

    POAMAYC 19 #70 £1561/£2070
    • Nicnak
    • By Nicnak 18th Jan 19, 5:12 PM
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    Nicnak
    How is Spain? x
    September 6th 2017 - Updated February 2019
    Credit Card £0 now: £0 Dad £1500 = £1000 Consolidation £15,000 = £9,960 Total = £25,330 £10,960 59% gone EMF #252 = £100/£1000
    Sealed pot challenge #024
    Pay off all your debts by Christmas #071
    • 117pauline
    • By 117pauline 1st Feb 19, 10:48 PM
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    Well.... I'm back

    Actually I decided I would see if I could manage to keep away from MSE for a while.

    So I am back in Spain, having had a lovely Christmas with my mum although we lost the heating from about 3pm on Christmas Day until the 28th!

    I have been focusing on eating healthily and getting some exercise too. I have been able to link my new phone to the fitness app so I know how many steps I am doing. In fact I put on no weight over Christmas and have lost 6.6lbs in January so that's good news.

    More later, just going to have a look around the forum

    Have a great weekend everyone
    Pauline
    Don't get it perfect - Get it going
    Better Than Before
    • Cherryfudge
    • By Cherryfudge 1st Feb 19, 10:54 PM
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    Good to hear from you Pauline, and well done on an excellent weight loss!
    MFW #30 Overpaid by £4,100.58/£3000 in 2018 Overpaid by £555.74/2,880.00 in 2019
    Decluttered in 2019: 299/2019 as of 10/3/19
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 1st Feb 19, 11:00 PM
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    Good to hear from you Pauline, and well done on an excellent weight loss!
    Originally posted by Cherryfudge
    This.From me too
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 12 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
    • Sun Addict
    • By Sun Addict 3rd Feb 19, 8:31 PM
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    Sun Addict
    Good to hear from you and that all is well. Glad you're back in Spain, lucky you
    Virtual Sealed Pot 2019 £164.81
    Weight loss 6/9LBS
    Emergency Fund £3260/£10,000
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