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    • 117pauline
    • By 117pauline 4th Dec 17, 4:00 PM
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    117pauline
    Mindful or Mind full?
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    • 4th Dec 17, 4:00 PM
    Mindful or Mind full? 4th Dec 17 at 4:00 PM
    So....... life appears to have changed today!

    I came downstairs to a letter from my partner saying he needed time away. After 11 plus years. Not sure how I feel.

    At the moment I need to get a job. Not as easy as that sounds as I have quite a problem leaving the house at all. I am waiting to get to the top of the list for some CBT help. I also have some chronic conditions too which have hindered our relationship.

    As you can imagine, I am not sure what will happen. My plan is to do nothing rash but try to pay down my loan as much as possible. Then I am going to have to find somewhere to live etc.

    I did say I was going to start a diary so I think this is one hell of a way to get started!

    Pauline
    Don't get it perfect - Get it going
    Better Than Before
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 7th Feb 18, 5:10 PM
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    Glad tentist went well
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger.
    • HairyHandofDartmoor
    • By HairyHandofDartmoor 7th Feb 18, 6:30 PM
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    That's brilliant about the dentist being so nice, it makes the difference between dreading going and not minding .
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
    Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017
    NEW GOALS - Build Emergency Fund & Loss of Income Fund. Save for house repairs.
    "Tough times never last, but tough people do" - Robert H Schuller
    • Cumbria lass
    • By Cumbria lass 7th Feb 18, 6:49 PM
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    Glad the dentist trip went well .
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    • Lilith1980
    • By Lilith1980 7th Feb 18, 7:39 PM
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    Glad it went well at the dentist! I have a really nice one now, but a few years' ago I had one with no "bed-side manner" at all. She wouldn't explain what she was doing and on one occasion just jabbed me in the gum with an injection with no warning. I was glad when we moved house and got another dentist!
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    • Cherryfudge
    • By Cherryfudge 7th Feb 18, 7:56 PM
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    I had a really nice dentist... then he went back to Australia.

    Then I had one who was away a lot, and I mean a lot.

    Then I had a superb one, who went to live in Africa.

    The moral of the story is, whichever dentist Cherry is going to, find a different one!
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 7th Feb 18, 8:03 PM
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    I had a really nice dentist... then he went back to Australia.

    Then I had one who was away a lot, and I mean a lot.

    Then I had a superb one, who went to live in Africa.

    The moral of the story is, whichever dentist Cherry is going to, find a different one!
    Originally posted by Cherryfudge
    Sorry Cherry.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger.
    • HairyHandofDartmoor
    • By HairyHandofDartmoor 7th Feb 18, 9:31 PM
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    I had a really nice dentist... then he went back to Australia.

    Then I had one who was away a lot, and I mean a lot.

    Then I had a superb one, who went to live in Africa.

    The moral of the story is, whichever dentist Cherry is going to, find a different one!
    Originally posted by Cherryfudge
    the Cherry effect
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
    Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017
    NEW GOALS - Build Emergency Fund & Loss of Income Fund. Save for house repairs.
    "Tough times never last, but tough people do" - Robert H Schuller
    • Sun Addict
    • By Sun Addict 8th Feb 18, 8:33 PM
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    I'm like that with hairdressers. Every time I find one I like they usually get pregnant and leave. Although my last hairdressers closed down.

    And my dentist, who was fab, gave up being a dentist to go into property development.

    I also went through a stage of wherever I worked it closed down after I'd been there 4 years. Been in my present job 17 years - and there is no way this place will ever close down!

    Think I may have the Cherry effect too
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    • HairyHandofDartmoor
    • By HairyHandofDartmoor 8th Feb 18, 8:40 PM
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    You could be a baby god SA, you could visit hairdressers who can't get pregnant and then... ta dah .
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
    Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017
    NEW GOALS - Build Emergency Fund & Loss of Income Fund. Save for house repairs.
    "Tough times never last, but tough people do" - Robert H Schuller
    • HairyHandofDartmoor
    • By HairyHandofDartmoor 8th Feb 18, 8:41 PM
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    I hope you've had a good day today Pauline?
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
    Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017
    NEW GOALS - Build Emergency Fund & Loss of Income Fund. Save for house repairs.
    "Tough times never last, but tough people do" - Robert H Schuller
    • Seasidegal58
    • By Seasidegal58 9th Feb 18, 7:46 PM
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    How are you today Pauline?
    x
    Finally Debt Free! - July 2016
    Finished Emergency Fund- £10,000 April 2017

    Next Scrimpy Goal - Ad Hoc Savings - 20/05/2018: £646.59
    MONTHS TO RETIREMENT: 35!
    My diary: “Paid off the £31,0000! BUT- still scrimping!”
    • WannabeFree
    • By WannabeFree 9th Feb 18, 8:16 PM
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    Hope you're okay Pauline

    x
    “Once you hit rock bottom, that's where you perfectly stand; That's your chance of restarting, but restarting the right way.”
    • Cumbria lass
    • By Cumbria lass 9th Feb 18, 8:24 PM
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    What have you been up to today Pauline ?
    CC1 £3475 May 2018
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 9th Feb 18, 8:27 PM
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    Hope you have had a good day.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger.
    • 117pauline
    • By 117pauline 9th Feb 18, 11:09 PM
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    Absolutely shattered again yesterday. It seems I can do a challenge as long as I get a day to collapse following it.

    Today I met an MSE-er for a coffee and very pleasant it was too. I reckon the last time I went into shops in the city was about four years ago so it was definitely out of my comfort zone.

    So more small steps. I just wish they weren't so exhausting. I have to come up with some new challenges for next week - anyone got any ideas?

    Have a good weekend, thanks so much for popping by
    Pauline
    Don't get it perfect - Get it going
    Better Than Before
    • Cherryfudge
    • By Cherryfudge 9th Feb 18, 11:46 PM
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    Well done on the day out - some folks were just saying what fun it used to be when MSEers had meet-ups so I'm glad it's still happening.

    There's nothing wrong with a day off between challenges. It's called recovery time. Something I learned when I took up running was that it's important to allow a day or so between runs in order for the body to repair itself. That doesn't mean do nothing, just don't run. I think your challenges may be like that.

    Challenges for next week? The only one I'm involved in right now is trying to work through the contents of my freezer and kitchen cupboards - XSpender has a good thread on it with lots of people contributing ideas on the Old Style board. Is that your kind of challenge? I know you are trying to at healthily so maybe trying a new food or shopping at a farm shop or market might be an option. Only if that is accessible and affordable though.

    Look after yourself.

    xx
    • Cumbria lass
    • By Cumbria lass 10th Feb 18, 9:58 AM
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    Pauline so pleased you made it into the city and met the other MSE lady . Have a rest today , it looks horrible outside here anyway .

    You have done so much in the last week or so you should be proud of how far you have come .
    CC1 £3475 May 2018
    • redofromstart
    • By redofromstart 10th Feb 18, 10:15 AM
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    Glad you got out Pauline, I haven't been to 'your' city centre for a few years although I always mean to. Used to be a lovely day out. Think you picked a great person to meet too.
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 10th Feb 18, 2:13 PM
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    Glad that you met another MSEer although it was out of your comfort zone.
    Be proud
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger.
    • fay66
    • By fay66 10th Feb 18, 10:59 PM
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    glad your on the up and up Pauline x
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