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    • BrookMan68
    • By BrookMan68 2nd Oct 17, 5:29 PM
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    Advice re: enduring power of attorney and way its being run
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    Advice re: enduring power of attorney and way its being run 2nd Oct 17 at 5:29 PM
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    • Alter ego
    • By Alter ego 2nd Oct 17, 5:43 PM
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    Alter ego
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    The attorneys must act in Granny's best interests. They cannot promise your mum proceeds from sale of car or any other assets, that belongs to granny assuming she owned the car.
    Your post is very long and complex, sorry if I misunderstood.
    If the attorneys are using granny's money incorrectly you should contact the court of protection for advice.
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    Ignore me if you like, it's not the real me anyway.
    • Cakeguts
    • By Cakeguts 2nd Oct 17, 5:48 PM
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    No one can give your mother money that belongs to granny. The power of attorney takes over the responsibility of the finances of the person who is unable to manage in this case that is your granny. When the car was sold the money had to go into the bank account of your granny. It is her money and the power of attorney does not give the right to give away granny's money so you and your mum will not get any money out of this.

    People with dementia often accuse relatives of stealing their things because demetia means that they can't remember what has happened. If your mum can't cope with this then she and you need to stop going to granny's at the weekend and ask the people with the power of attorney to make sure that granny is looked after at the weekends by the same people who do it in the week. The people with the power of attorney are legally bound to make sure that all money spent is spent for granny. Your mum should stop spending her own money on granny so that the people with power of attorney can see how much to give granny.

    They can't give your mum any money from the assets this is not allowed. All the money has to be kept for the benefit of granny.
    You and your mum are not going to get any money.
    • Malthusian
    • By Malthusian 3rd Oct 17, 10:21 AM
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    The stuff about receipts is fine. Overboard, but arguably good practice. The rationing of money is a concern. If your gran's needs cost 100 a week then they should give it to her (or the person doing her shopping). They have no right to ration her money; how much she spends is determined by her needs alone.

    That said, this is really rather petty stuff, and it sounds quite a way short of the point where the Court of Protection would intervene.

    It is a mess, which could have been avoided by having the family members who were going to be caring for your gran, i.e. you, appointed as attorneys. But it's too late now. You need to be firmer with the attorneys and insist that they cover the full cost of the care you are giving her.

    As Cakeguts says, the attorneys cannot make gifts and they were quite right not to give your mother anything from the sale of the car.
    • Keep pedalling
    • By Keep pedalling 3rd Oct 17, 11:09 AM
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    Keep pedalling
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    Originally posted by BrookMan68
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