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    • MSE Sarah
    • By MSE Sarah 24th Aug 17, 5:45 PM
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    Money Moral Dilemma: Should I contribute to my grandfather's new garden?
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    • 24th Aug 17, 5:45 PM
    Money Moral Dilemma: Should I contribute to my grandfather's new garden? 24th Aug 17 at 5:45 PM
    This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...

    My grandfather is celebrating his 80th birthday this year and the family have decided to pay for a complete garden makeover costing thousands to which we have all been asked to contribute. While this is a lovely idea and sure to bring him some pleasure he lives in a council-owned property and has refused multiple times over the years to purchase it. My question is, should I contribute to improve this property which arguably will benefit its next tenant far more than my grandfather who is already getting on a bit?

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    • JayD
    • By JayD 5th Sep 17, 4:29 PM
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    If this is something your grandfather wants and will enjoy, then of course you should chip in and be pleased you have contributed to a special present that he really wanted.

    It seems it is going to be his main present from everyone else anyway, so do you really want to be outside of, what is a lovely family gesture and hand over your own separate gift - just because you begrudge someone else the pleasure of it after your grandfather has passed away?

    So unless, you truly believe that this is not an ideal gift for your grandfather, and you have a much better gift idea in mind, then of course you should chip in!

    If you want to add something extra to your financial contribution, as a more personal gesture, you could offer to come round some times and help to keep his new garden in good shape for him. And that would be something only HE would benefit from.
    Last edited by JayD; 05-09-2017 at 4:30 PM. Reason: spelling error
    • JimmyTheWig
    • By JimmyTheWig 7th Sep 17, 3:21 PM
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    It's a MMD.
    Nobody will be along to clarify any details or answer any questions.
    Originally posted by Pollycat
    They were rhetorical questions.
    If anyone comes here with the same dilemma then answering my questions for themselves should give themselves the answer.
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