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    • scottishminnie
    • By scottishminnie 18th Jul 17, 9:21 PM
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    No "T" words mentioned at all - the continuation thread
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    • 18th Jul 17, 9:21 PM
    No "T" words mentioned at all - the continuation thread 18th Jul 17 at 9:21 PM
    At the suggestion of our very sensible friend Lyn (and since the gremlins have been at work deleting threads on the Old Style forum) I've started a shiny fresh new "T" word thread. Hopefully starting again will avoid us vanishing overnight (although if I could reappear as a a more streamlined version I'd consider vanishing overnight!)

    The old thread is here
    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=3751615.

    Welcome all to round two......
    NO FARMS = NO FOOD
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    • candlelight 2013
    • By candlelight 2013 12th Sep 18, 3:52 PM
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    Hello,


    The weather has brightened up so bedlinen is almost dry outside, and I have already remade the bed.


    Nails have been done, just pale pink nothing elaborate.


    I fancied chicken stir fry for our meal tonight so popped to Tesco for beansprouts, noodles etc, so looking forward to that.


    I hope Mr TA is feeling a little better this afternoon, and it sounds to me that the staff at the Hospice are going to be a wonderful support when TA needs it. Clearly Mr TA doesn't want to go back to hospital, and who can blame him, but the help from the Hospice hopefully will enable him to stay at home. I expect TA must think her home isn't her own with all the visitors they are having, both professional and family, but it is so much better than spending all day at the hospital.


    I am not sure what we are doing tomorrow, nothing planned as such, will see how we feel. xx
    • candlelight 2013
    • By candlelight 2013 13th Sep 18, 12:21 PM
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    Hello all,


    It is a beautiful day here, and washing is out and having a good bloe.


    I have sorted 2 drawers in my kitchen units. The cutlery drawer needed a good clean (how do crumbs drop in there?) and the second drawer where I put everything that doesn't have a home. Lots thrown away and drawer given a clean.


    I hope Mr TA is feeling a little better today, hopefully the antibs are working and TA I hope you are managing to have a little rest now and again.


    SM I hope you are both feeling a little better, and somehow managing to enjoy your break. It isn't as you would have wanted I know, but hopefully relaxing before coming back home.


    It seems a lot of the threads are very quiet at the moment, it seems a little sad not to see the usual friendly names posting, but I expect everyone is making the most of the good weather.



    Have a good afternoon xx
    • MrsLurcherwalker
    • By MrsLurcherwalker 13th Sep 18, 4:30 PM
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    We've been out looking at wood burners in showrooms this morning, we ran down to Cirencester and had a chat with the firm who installed Nells stove a few years back and we've booked an assessment for the 1st October. He'll tell us what type of stove he thinks will suit the house best and because of weight (we have an upstairs lounge) we may be limited to inset stoves and he's guide us through the right models on the market with the thermal output right for the size of space we have will be very useful. Hopefully we'll have a stove in and working before Christmas.

    We had a run up to Ledbury yesterday, lovely little town we've had a couple of holidays in before and it's still the same, quiet and pretty it was lovely I got us a game pie in my favourite butchers there which will be delicious and we'll go for another one for Christmas Day if we're going to be on our own. I know Ruthie's in laws are going down to them but I don't know what arrangements Nell and James have but if we're only the two of us that will be nice too and we'll go for a nice long walk and have lunch quietly here, light the fire and snuggle down with a good book or two, the first time we'll have been just us but I find the idea of that really appealing.


    HWK has gone fishing on the local lake, like a 5 year old going to the fair, he's wanted to go ever since we arrived and got his fishing permit from the council yesterday and announced after lunch that he was going fishing! brilliant stuff because he's worked his little socks off since we arrived and it's lovely he can take time out bless him, he's a good boy!
    Thumpers mum was right - if you can't find anything nice to say don't say anything at all!
    • candlelight 2013
    • By candlelight 2013 14th Sep 18, 4:01 PM
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    Good afternoon,


    Lyn you have been out and about haven't you, I do hope your stove will be fitted by Christmas, how cosy you will be. Do you know, I wouldn't mind spending Christmas with just the 2 of us, but DD1 lives on her own and of course DGD1 lives with us so it is always 4. On Boxing Day the rest of the youngsters plus partners arrive. It is lovely that they want to spend time with us, and they are such good fun, but I am tired by the end of the day, very happy but tired.



    DD1 is 50 on Sunday so we are all out for a lovely meal and then back to us for cake. We have to go shopping tomorrow for special balloons to surprise her and then tomorrow evening DGD1 and I will be making cakes. I don't suppose the birthday girl will have any because she is doing Slimming World and she won't want to spoil her weight loss which is now 2 stone 4 1/2 pounds in 11 weeks I think, and she looks so much better for it.


    I hope the TAs are having a better day, I know the lovely nurse from the Hospice was going to visit, it is good to know TA has that support. If she needs to go shopping she has lots of assistance because, of course, someone has to sit with Mr TA. DSs GF took her last time whilst he sat with his Dad, and TA is very fond of her, and she managed to stock up on store cupboard essentials, and hopefully the odd bottle of wine!!.


    Enjoy the rest of the day all xx
    • MrsLurcherwalker
    • By MrsLurcherwalker 15th Sep 18, 8:28 PM
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    We've had a lovely day, I met DD1 in town and we've really just pootled about, done a little shopping, had lunch and enjoyed being together and then we had the Kate Adey talk this afternoon which was really interesting and has made me realise how lucky we are as women in 2018 to have the lives we have today and the degree of equality in a society that isn't as propriety driven as it was in the early 1900s. Kate Adey was a most entertaining speaker and wove her story well and could lift the mood with a few well chosen humorous words when the going got heavy, I'd go to hear her again, a good hour! Tired now but happy and planning an early night to put my sore feet up, we walked quite a long way today xxx.
    Thumpers mum was right - if you can't find anything nice to say don't say anything at all!
    • scottishminnie
    • By scottishminnie 16th Sep 18, 2:44 AM
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    Just popping in to thank you all for your kind words and to say I'm thinking of the TA's and what they are dealing with.

    It seems hubby's family is at war , well his siblings at least, so although it's far from ideal I'm glad he is away from it right now. We will be returning home so will need to deal with the fallout then but at least I feel I can shelter him from some of it right now.
    NO FARMS = NO FOOD
    • candlelight 2013
    • By candlelight 2013 16th Sep 18, 12:21 PM
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    Hi there,


    Lyn you sound to have had a lovely day with Nell, you have only been there a week or more and have been out and about so much. This was obviously a very good move for you both, did HWK enjoy his fishing the other day, taking time out from the unpacking?


    SM, I am afraid bereavement can bring the worst out in families. I think DHs Mum knew there might be trouble and that is why she insisted you go on your holiday. It seems such a pity at a time when family should be pulling together, that they are at war. Also what a problem for her Husband, he really doesn't need this, he needs support. I don't suppose you are looking forward to coming home. Hope your Mum is OK.


    Have wished DD1 a happy 50th birthday, and we are all going out later for a meal. DGD1 and I have been busy making a selection of cakes for when they come back to the house, and she asked for either money or M&S vouchers because she is losing so much weight she wants to buy new clothes, so that is what we have all done for her, also an enormous balloon with 50 on it.


    Catch you all later xx
    • LaineyT
    • By LaineyT 16th Sep 18, 12:53 PM
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    Hope you enjoy your family celebrations Candlelight.

    So sorry to hear about the arguments following your MILís passing SM, grief can do funny things to people and they behave in strange ways. Thankfully you are well out of it and can protect your OH for the moment.

    We are having a quiet day at home, itís wonderfully mild here today with lots of sunshine so time in the garden and am afraid to say that the WM has been chugging away, what would my darling Dad have said, tsk

    Love and thoughts are with the TAís.
    • MrsLurcherwalker
    • By MrsLurcherwalker 16th Sep 18, 2:09 PM
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    Yes he did enjoy the fishing Candlelight, the lake is in the middle of the town and very conveniently placed as it's right next to the bigger car park. A nice coffee out at the garden centre this morning and I found some long boot socks in their sale reduced to £2.50 a pair so I got a couple, love them in the winter when I wear boots as shorter socks just fall down and end up under my foot which is most uncomfortable. It was lovely spending most of yesterday with Nell, both of us miss the time we used to have just the two of us and when the opportunity to take that time comes we try to make the most of it. We are going to Ruthie one day in the week to walk up and meet the Zebra from school so we know where his classroom is as we're covering for a day in October and mum and dad have been invited to a wedding, I'm going to get that Oreo child to myself for a few hours, lovely!

    SM hugs to you both, and then more hugs ad infinitum xxx.
    Thumpers mum was right - if you can't find anything nice to say don't say anything at all!
    • TravellingAbuela
    • By TravellingAbuela 17th Sep 18, 6:23 AM
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    Hello lovely people. I have just written an enormous post on the Daily so won't repeat myself on here too.

    CANDLELIGHT I hope you had a lovely day with much cake yesterday. SCOTTISHMINNIE I am glad you have been away from all the family squabbles and enjoyed your time away from it all. I hope things have calmed down a bit when you get home. LYN your new life sounds lovely.

    My life/time isn't my own these days so posting is a bit hit and miss. Take care all xx
    "If you dream alone it will remain just a dream. But if we all dream together it will become reality"
    • MrsLurcherwalker
    • By MrsLurcherwalker 17th Sep 18, 10:27 AM
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    TA hang in there love, life is sometimes so difficult but you do what you have to and seem to survive over the odds. My prayers are for you and Mr. TA and I'm thinking of you both, just remember when times are darkest that we are here for you, we can't be there physically to help which would be the best for you BUT in spirit we are beside you 24/7 and wishing you both the best that can be xxx.


    Candlelight thank you so much for your beautiful card which arrived this morning, you are such a dear, bless you xxx.
    Thumpers mum was right - if you can't find anything nice to say don't say anything at all!
    • candlelight 2013
    • By candlelight 2013 17th Sep 18, 12:10 PM
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    Good morning,


    TA I hope things have settled down a little now, is Mr TA still sleeping a good part of the day? Yes we had a lovely meal thankyou, I do love to have the 3 DGC together with their partners, they are such lovely people and very respectful, then they all came back for cake and soft drinks. DD1 seems to have enjoyed everything about her birthday.


    As Lyn says we are all with you, but I think you know that, we just wish we were nearer so we could help physically, even if it was just to make you a coffee and bring you a big cream cake (naughty).


    Lyn you are very welcome, I just know you are going to be so happy in your new home, mainly because you are close to your girls and those wonderful little boys, grandchildren are such a blessing.


    Polly where are you are you OK?


    Take care all xx
    • MrsLurcherwalker
    • By MrsLurcherwalker 17th Sep 18, 1:44 PM
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    Under the circumstances I feel naughty is NICE xxx Make it a big one! xxx.
    Thumpers mum was right - if you can't find anything nice to say don't say anything at all!
    • candlelight 2013
    • By candlelight 2013 17th Sep 18, 3:07 PM
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    TA, I have just read on the Daily Thread that you have lost a friend from your wine and carvery monthly gathering. I am so sorry, it must have been a dreadful shock, had she told anyone she was ill?


    As you said your life isn't your own, and this is another sadness in your life, I am so sorry xx
    • candlelight 2013
    • By candlelight 2013 18th Sep 18, 1:06 PM
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    Hello all.


    My goodness we had some nasty winds during the night. Next doors dog sleeps in their garage and everytime something got blown away he would bark and kept it up for about 15 minutes each time. I woke to find Himself peering out of the window, because it does make you think have they got intruders but I feel sure it was the wind which set him off.


    Have been to see my Sister this morning, it is her birthday tomorrow, it was good to catch up.


    TA left a post on the Daily to say Mr TA was drinking a cup of coffee in bed but she felt sure he would be asleep the next time she went upstairs. He managed to sleep through 2 visitors yesterday, but was awake when his 3 granddaughters called to see him. I think as well as the illness, the pain relief sends him to sleep as well. TA is such a strong lady, I know she would say well you just have to get on with it, and I know that is true, but I admire her so much. I know they have had many happy years together, but I think they have been dealt a really rough hand with this dreadful disease. Sending them both our love.


    Tomorrow I have an appointment at the hairdressers, I can only go 5 weeks before I need another trim. TA made me laugh, she was saying she needed a trim, but didn't know how she was going to manage it, She likes a particular hairdresser, as most of us do, but that would mean making an appointment which she might not be able to keep due to circumstances, but she said she resembled Freddie Boswell. of the TV series Bread, that's a blast from the past


    Enjoy the rest of your day xx
    • TravellingAbuela
    • By TravellingAbuela 18th Sep 18, 2:01 PM
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    Afternoon lovely people. Yes CANDLELIGHT it was a shock when our friend died. She was older than the rest of us and of the old school if you know what I mean. Quite secretive about personal things (including illness) and even now we don't know what her illness was. Even her younger sister, who sometimes joined our meet ups, said even she didn't know she was ill until she was rushed into hospital.

    I am just having a peaceful cup of coffee after my late lunch. DS called in on his way to work and actually managed to catch his dad awake today. No more visitors thankfully until DD comes after dropping the 2 younger DGDs (8 & 9) at their respective ballet, tap and choreography lessons. Eldest DGD (now 14) will be with her and has asked if she can sleep tonight as she doesn't see as much of us as she used to when, in a different life, they all slept over and were to take to school when DD on an early shift. She is aware of her grandads prognosis and DD says she took it really badly.

    CANDLELIGHT I am getting passed the Freddie Boswell stage now, it is so long since I had it cut! I have hacked some off my fringe and am getting used to it longer at the bottom. I may even let it grow a bit now. I have sported my urchin cut for long enough so maybe time for a change!

    I had the lovely specialist Hospice nurse on the phone earlier. Asking if we needed her to call, if we had any concerns, problems etc. I said we are fine, plodding on as best we can under the circumstances. My main worries include all the sleeping Mr TA does and the lack of nutrition he is getting down. Both things, sadly, that go with the disease. She was hoping the steroids started last week would be helping both those things but sadly not.

    Time I went up and checked on him now, after his post-lunch (such as it is) nap. Take care all xx
    "If you dream alone it will remain just a dream. But if we all dream together it will become reality"
    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 18th Sep 18, 10:41 PM
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    Very quick post for now . Still thinking of all here giong through sad and hard times . Candlelight be assured the Lavender candle is lit each evening and those here and elsewhere on OS and life are remembered daily .
    After my last post dd had late summer Norovirus for a week followed by a week of post viral so meds weren't being absorbed . During this time dd2 - my ex hs eldest daughter started panicking as he'd gone off the radar and wasn't replying to calls and texts . We stay in touch with him due to the fact over the past few years he has become very frail and barely mobile since the Neurology assessments identified Alcohol induced brain damage .


    I recall posting a couple of years ago of our attempts to get him to let us help him source ground floor accommodation then over a year ago sheltered but he insisted on staying on the third floor of a huge victorian pile .
    When we finally found where he was which took nearly two weeks it was a shock to find he was in hospital having fallen in his bedroom and lying undiscovered for over four days .


    At the moment dd2 is visiting twice a week between her long working hours . I haven't been in yet as he's a long way from here and although I seem to have escaped youngests infections I wouldn't visit a hospital if I could be incubating infection .


    Dd2 has arranged a social worker . He now faces a care home as he's very unwell and has a bad hip break with splintered bones and not straightforward . Also Pneumonia and cut from head to foot .
    I've been doing the hospital calls to check on the situation and dd2 and I have been emailing each other to make bullet point lists of questions she asks when she can track down a Dr in the hospital .


    Trying to arrange an appt hopefully next week with the social worker . We've asked him if he would move to this area rather than Liverpool where he's lived since my two were tiny .
    He has thankfully agreed and in a phone call SS have said they think they can arrange for him to be transferred further north .


    I never thought it would come to this but it is what it is and we can't leave him with no support and alone . We couldn't do it if he remained in Liverpool . Many years since I've driven and dd2 has never wanted to drive too busy running and climbing .


    So looks like I'll be walking back into the Royal where my lovely 1st husband got his terminal diagnosis and dd was looked after a number of times .


    Well this wasn't such a quick post so I'll send love, light and strength and hopefully sleep to those in need .


    One appt done today 2 to go this week so will say goodnight .


    Take care polly x
    • candlelight 2013
    • By candlelight 2013 19th Sep 18, 11:03 AM
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    Polly it s good to see you, but my goodness your life doesn't become any easier does it?


    I am sorry your DD has been so poorly again, and a very difficult time for your ex, but it would be easier for everyone if he can go into a care home, at least you would know he was being looked after.


    It is blowing a hooley here, Himself has just taken the umbrellas down in the garden before they take flight. I have washed and all is dry, just pottering around before I go to the hairdresser at 1pm.


    Have a good day all xx
    • MrsLurcherwalker
    • By MrsLurcherwalker 19th Sep 18, 1:54 PM
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    Pretty windy outside here as well, it's growing stronger as the day ages! a lovely moment this morning when HWK finished the first of the book cases and I've managed to get ALL my cookery books off the dining room floor and on to the shelves. Some of them will stay there and some will move to the book case he's currently building in the kitchen but we've hit a glitch in that one of the fixings for a shelf won't stay in place so we'll take the shelf back tomorrow and get an exchange. That leaves us looking for dining room table and chairs, a dresser for the lounge and a storage cupboard for the Grandpickles toys somewhere in the living areas. Lovely to get a call from my brother today, he's still in Hampshire but has the news that my nephew Tim is now established in Cornwall (he works for the Coastguard Agency) and starts his now promotion job tomorrow. He's got a little house but is experiencing problems getting goods delivered as he's a long way down and firms don't deliver often they wait for several orders in that general direction. He'll get there and will love the lifestyle as he's a surfer and spent a year in Australia where he developed a passion for coastal living, good luck to the boy, he's a nice lad!


    I found a beautiful plate in the Hospice shop this morning, studio pottery and quite lovely so it's in pride of place on my new (to us at least) coffee table and looks super. I love this little town, it's quiet and very laid back but already is more home than 24 years in Hampshire ever was. I know it was the right decision to move but feel we're really lucky to have come back for the second viewing on this house which I love as much as I love the town itself. I feel so lucky xxx.
    Thumpers mum was right - if you can't find anything nice to say don't say anything at all!
    • scottishminnie
    • By scottishminnie 21st Sep 18, 12:05 PM
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    Very short post today as it's from my phone - for some reason MSE.
    Have blocked me accessing my account if I use my iPad to log on.

    I'm so glad you are happy in your new home Lyn. It sounds great.

    I saw lots of nice pottery yesterday (We are in Vermont wh8ch is known
    For it apparently) but I settled on a maple syrup jug which I thought was
    More practical!

    I don't know what's going on with the spacing and punctuation on this
    Post - sorry!

    Hubby is doing ok despite continuing nastiness from his siblings.
    We are due home next week and have the funeral to contend with
    Some parts are family only so I'm not included and it's all very petty but I'm trying hard to ignore that right now .

    Hope you are all safe from the storms.
    NO FARMS = NO FOOD
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