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    • Knit Witch
    • By Knit Witch 18th Jul 17, 8:29 PM
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    Knit Witch
    The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat!
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    • 18th Jul 17, 8:29 PM
    The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat! 18th Jul 17 at 8:29 PM
    As threads are going walkabout I thought I would start the next stage of this off - I will try and do the links later!
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    • MrsLurcherwalker
    • By MrsLurcherwalker 13th Jan 18, 2:42 PM
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    Today when Cookie and I went for our walk I found a little clump of celandines, in a sheltered ditch, wide open and like mini suns shining in amongst the grass so even though it doesn't look or feel like it Spring is beginning to show it's face.
    Thumpers mum was right - if you can't find anything nice to say don't say anything at all!
    • Nargleblast
    • By Nargleblast 13th Jan 18, 3:04 PM
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    I examined the little plum tree I planted last Spring - lots of promising new growth. Looking forward to getting a plum or two this year!
    Debt free date.....3 August 2015
    Now building up a Doomsday Cash Stash
    • silvasava
    • By silvasava 13th Jan 18, 3:41 PM
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    Finished pruning the Wisteria with DH - he did he top from the ladder and I cleared up. As it was dry I pottered giving the fruit trees a feed, all the camellias and rhododendrons (in tubs) had a feed too. Had a walk round the 'estate' and mentally totted up how much needs doing after the winter and like you Islandmaid have decided I really need to spend some serious time in the garden. Here's hoping for a decent 2018!!
    Small victories - sometimes they are all you can hope for but sometimes they are all you need - be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle
    • mardatha
    • By mardatha 13th Jan 18, 5:53 PM
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    My frost-free date is 1st June. I feel Spring-deprived.
    • burtha
    • By burtha 13th Jan 18, 6:41 PM
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    Hi all ,
    Think I have to read back to about the 28 Dec to catch up ..
    Working to much , to much to do , hard work house and running around with kids ,collages to look at now for dd ... plus new granson dorm 29th .... busy
    3mw not around really ... solicitor sent paperwork to court ... working to pay for it lol .... fingers crossed I get some back at the end ...
    Hope everyone is good and well ...
    Still running !!!128522;
    • monnagran
    • By monnagran 13th Jan 18, 7:17 PM
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    So glad to hear from you burtha. Crumbs, when you say busy, you really mean busy don't you? As long as you are looking after yourself as well.

    Do you mean to say that 3mw isn't involving himself in finding the right college for your DD? What a surprise.

    It will be a good thing to get things sorted out legally and will pray that things are done fairly and that you and the children get what you deserve.

    Usual bossy orders. Take care of yourself, you won't be doing yourself or your family any favours by running yourself into the ground. I know it's hard when there is a lot to be done and people to be looked after, but you need looking after too, and when there is no one else to do it you have to do it for yourself. Ask any single parent.
    Please come and vent to us when you need to. We do really care..
    I believe that friends are quiet angels
    Who lift us to our feet when our wings
    Have trouble remembering how to fly.
    • silvasava
    • By silvasava 13th Jan 18, 7:47 PM
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    Do hope your solicitor is going after 3mw for your costs Burtha - you have more than enough on your plate!
    As Monna rightly says - make sure you look after you too otherwise you will be no use to anyone!!! Hugs
    Small victories - sometimes they are all you can hope for but sometimes they are all you need - be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle
    • Floss
    • By Floss 13th Jan 18, 7:49 PM
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    Burtha please stop & hug that tiny one now & again, won't you?! Fingers crossed for good college, a positive court result & financial settlement and for you & your family's health & wellbeing xx
    • ivyleaf
    • By ivyleaf 13th Jan 18, 8:32 PM
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    Today when Cookie and I went for our walk I found a little clump of celandines, in a sheltered ditch, wide open and like mini suns shining in amongst the grass so even though it doesn't look or feel like it Spring is beginning to show it's face.
    Originally posted by MrsLurcherwalker

    How cheering! I really love celandines

    burtha So glad to hear from you! I hope you and DD find just the right college for her. Many congrats on the new grandchild but try to find yourself some me-time too xx
    Last edited by ivyleaf; 13-01-2018 at 8:39 PM.
    • nannywindow
    • By nannywindow 13th Jan 18, 8:49 PM
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    Burtha congrats on the new grandson . As others say, please be kind to yourself too. Good to hear from you. Hope 3mw gets his comeuppance soon.
    It's been a miserable day here, had to put the lights on mid afternoon as it was so dark. Another one who will be happy to see Spring as it's just grey everyday lately .
    Anyone "seen" Karcher ? She's also missing from the Daily thread. I hope she's OK.
    Hugs to everyone.
    Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, but this time more intelligently
    • FairyPrincessk
    • By FairyPrincessk 14th Jan 18, 8:24 AM
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    Morning all,

    Burtha, it is so nice to hear from you and about the new grandson. You're a real amazon woman (in the old fashioned sense of an elite warrior, not in the modern sense!)

    Well, we had our first bank meeting yesterday. We were shocked by how much the bank would be prepared to lend us (not that we have nearly enough deposit for that, nor would we feel comfortable taking on that much debt). It does mean that we've decided to go nearer the top of what we think we'd like to spend, which means another few months of savings before we start looking, but it also means we'll get a garden . Plenty of time for us to do some research about the local market and get to grips with comparing mortgage deals.

    I think we both now understand so many other things--it was an eye opener when we bought the car to see how many cars on the road must really not be paid for and now to see that many people must also have huge mortgage payments as well to be able to afford their lifestyles. I make no judgement on them, everyone makes the decisions that are right for them, but I think it made both of us realize that the reason our money seems not to go as far isn't that we're somehow extravagant, it is just that we aren't using debt and credit in the same way.

    The cold seems to be easing now, although a bit is sitting on my chest. I'll do some chores today but otherwise take it easy and hopefully shift it before next week. It really is time for it to get the boot!

    Hugs to all who need them.x
    • monnagran
    • By monnagran 14th Jan 18, 12:33 PM
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    Very late today. Slept till 9.30 had a shower and breakfast and 2 long, lovely phone catch ups with a couple of friends.
    That's the excuses for today.

    I'm just about to cook the chicken tangly pie from Hairy Dieters. Because Im worth it.

    FairyP. It's amazing how living in a sensible way and not spending money that you don't have, brings its reward. You will have a dear house with a garden, a real home. And all because you have worked and waited. Well done you.


    Everything that has a beginning has an ending.
    Make your peace with that and all will be well. (Buddha)
    I believe that friends are quiet angels
    Who lift us to our feet when our wings
    Have trouble remembering how to fly.
    • camelot1001
    • By camelot1001 14th Jan 18, 5:03 PM
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    Good luck to you FPK, my DD had the same wake up call when she went for a mortgage. She no longer thinks her peers have all the good stuff, just says 'they must be in a lot of debt'!

    It's blowing a hoolie outside, glad I'm all tucked up on the settee watching films!
    • karcher
    • By karcher 14th Jan 18, 8:11 PM
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    Burtha congratulations on your new grandson.

    I am so glad to see you post even if things aren't the best for you right now...I often think of you and wish you all the best.

    I hope your solicitor is working hard on your should expect to get well over half of everything.
    3mw (or was it 2?) just deserves a slap around the face.

    Take care of yourself ain't wonder woman and you need to look after you too Burtha xxx

    FairyPrincessk I have always lived within my means, and that means very frugally. If I can't afford it, I don't have it. It's as simple as that.

    I put a blanket over me if I'm cold, fill a hot water bottle, make a hot drink rather than put the heating on for example. I don't have a car because I can't afford to run one...I can walk places and yes it's a pita but the bottom line is, a car is beyond my means.

    I have never been in debt until recently and it is through no fault of my own.

    I haven't frittered away money on unimportant things, like cars, new kitchens, takeaways etc.

    No, my debt has been none of my making and that is the hardest part about it. I will not rest until it is paid off which will take at least 6 more months.

    I've mentioned before that this 2nd hand laptop is really on it's last legs. It took 4 attempts to get it to start tonight.
    But I won't even think about buying a new one until the debt is gone.

    The internet is my 'thing'. I don't watch TV much, I don't/never go out ...I'd be lost without the internet and especially you lovely lot on this board

    How sad am I (don't answer that)

    I've not had the best of weekends and have been donning my carers hat again for the last week....maybe I'll be rewarded at some later date by someone looking after me...I live in hope

    Last edited by karcher; 14-01-2018 at 9:27 PM.
    • nannywindow
    • By nannywindow 14th Jan 18, 8:32 PM
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    Karcher I am so glad to hear from you. Look after yourself.
    Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, but this time more intelligently
    • ivyleaf
    • By ivyleaf 14th Jan 18, 10:08 PM
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    (((HUGS))) Karcher. thinking of you xx
    • greenbee
    • By greenbee 14th Jan 18, 10:20 PM
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    karcher - it's great to hear from you. I know that your situation is, and has been getting you down, but it sounds as if you are in the final stretch of dealing with the debt now and hopefully after that you will be able to move on. Remember, we're all here for you, and we're hear to listen, not judge. So if you ever want to share your story, you know that we will be on your side. In the meantime, just remember that we're all here, and we care about you and worry about you when you don't post.
    • MMF007
    • By MMF007 14th Jan 18, 10:50 PM
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    Congrats Burtha! Lovely news. Hope you can take a moment to just chill with the little one, eh?

    Karcher, good to 'see' you. Takes determination to sort out problems that are unjustly heaped on you, but you're succeeding . I totally agree, this thread is amazing. The folks on it are so kind and supportive.

    Today we took our Canadian friends to a cricket match. DH explained quite a lot to them, we told daft cricket-related stories and recounted the hilarity in the bbc commentary box when the commentator was naming the players in the key positions and famously said,
    "The bowler is Holding, the batsman's Willey".
    We still can't listen to the tape of Brian Johnston trying to keep commentating after his colleague described the fall of a wicket that had been knocked off by the batsman slipping as he tried to step over it, "He just couldn't get his leg over". They were laughing so hard they could barely breathe and it is infectious when you hear it. Daft, but good to hear such full on laughter.

    We enjoyed the day, even though the local team lost.

    Now we shall have supper of leftover HM chicken curry and veg, wrapped in a flatbread, nom, nom!

    PS - last night we hosted the caribbean version of a cheese and wine party, cheese and rum! We blind-tasted 5 different ones*, gave them fancy descriptions like they do with vintage wines, ranked them on strength, preference and least-liked and voted for the over all winner. Then we ate assorted cheese and crackers and finished off the xmas fruit cake.
    We know how to live!
    *We even had a palate cleanser between drinks!

    I may email the winning firm and tell them about it

    Right, dinner calls. X
    I have changed my work-life balance to a life-work balance.
    • burtha
    • By burtha 15th Jan 18, 12:13 AM
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    Hi all, just back in a catching up on today , been on the go and out since 9 30 this morning, football ,ran , feed 1 child , ran with dogs ..It was quicker than walking lol , collected other child ,2 loads of washing, behind bar from 5 pm till now .... came in to teenager in tears over art homework, so having a coffee before I start on that ,sent her to bed ...honestly the stress of exam year at school is ridiculous .... Wish I could say tomorrow will be better but more to fit in on top of that ... fingers crossed the rest of the week has less on , but probably not .....
    Have asked solicitor if I can reclaim costs back from him ... waiting to hear back , seam to be counting to 10 quite a lot at the moment .... just keeping going is all I can do ... There is a thousand things I'm not getting done , but it's just tough .... not beating myself up to much about it .... life to complicated as it is
    Right time to start some art ....
    Take care everyone
    • monnagran
    • By monnagran 15th Jan 18, 6:50 AM
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    Oh burtha, I had to smile at the thought of you doing art homework. My mother once wrote an essay for me and it came back marked 'excellent,' a very rare occurrence. I even had to show the headmistress, an august, regal figure. "Did you really write this?" she asked. "Oh yes," I lied. I feel as guilty today as I did then.

    MMF you really are having a humdinger of a holiday. I can't imagine that you will ever be able to top this. I'd definitely tell the rum people about the tasting competition, they might send you a freebie in appreciation.

    Camelot I thought about your hoolie last night when I put my bins out, and felt rather smug as I stood watching the calm sea and enjoying the gentle night air. Karma has paid me back. It's blowing a gale and the rain is lashing the windows this morning.

    Karcher x

    No plans for today but some housework and a bit more editing is on the cards.


    Apparently when you treat people the way they treat you, they get offended.
    Last edited by monnagran; 15-01-2018 at 6:59 AM.
    I believe that friends are quiet angels
    Who lift us to our feet when our wings
    Have trouble remembering how to fly.
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