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    • trinidadone
    • By trinidadone 8th Jul 17, 5:30 AM
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    Is being very neighborly a thing of the past, or still alive and kicking?
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    • 8th Jul 17, 5:30 AM
    Is being very neighborly a thing of the past, or still alive and kicking? 8th Jul 17 at 5:30 AM
    On returning home from work yesterday, i notice one of my fellow neighbors had parked there car outside my home, and the drivers side window was wide open.

    I had only seen the driver in the street, but never spoke to them. I knew they lived on the opposite side of my road.
    I tried one house a few times, and eventually someone came to the door. i asked about the vehicle, and they told me it was not theirs.

    The first neighbour offered to show me the house who she thought owned the vehicle. I knocked on door two, and spoke to the second neighbour via a upstairs window. She was truly grateful for being told.

    Is this sort of thing still happening, or dead and buried?
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    • Valli
    • By Valli 8th Jul 17, 7:38 AM
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    Think it depends... hereI have fabulous neighbours, there is one fly in the ointment though, and the last interaction I had with him resulted in a complaint to the police.
    But he's across the road and up a bit. One neighbour cuts my lawn, as our garden adjoin.
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    • DigForVictory
    • By DigForVictory 8th Jul 17, 8:17 AM
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    +1 for it depends, but you tend to find out the hard way with power and or water cuts.

    I kept an eye on an old lady's house for years after she opened the door to me still in her night attire so I could fill jerrycans from her bathtub.
    Having a houseful of lively sons does mean I interact a bit more locally than when a bachelor gal!
    • ScarletMarble
    • By ScarletMarble 8th Jul 17, 8:31 AM
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    One neighbour I speak to. The other doesn't.
    • Chris25
    • By Chris25 8th Jul 17, 9:30 AM
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    I would do that & I'm sure my neighbours would too.

    Always say hello to whoever I pass in the road whether I've seen them before or not.

    I stop the car if I see anyone with heavy shopping & either offer them a lift or offer to drop off the shopping at their house - it's a large village so I don't know everyone, but if they're walking they must be local and can't be going too far.

    It's probably different if you live in a big town or city though.
    • hunters
    • By hunters 8th Jul 17, 10:00 AM
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    I think it's being neighbourly but not very neighbourly.

    Know all my neighbours in the street although not next door by name yet as they just moved in. Know their cat though
    • pollypenny
    • By pollypenny 8th Jul 17, 11:00 AM
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    Very neighbourly here. OH is getting a paper for our elderly neighbour at this moment. We're away next week, another neighbour looks after the house, as we only when she's away.

    We did have a neighbour in the old place who bought stuff from catalogues in my name and didn't pay for them.
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    • OldMotherTucker
    • By OldMotherTucker 8th Jul 17, 11:34 AM
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    I'm the newbie on the end of the Close and, TBH, I have to be careful about how much I let my neighbours know about me!!

    I stick to a polite greeting as I get in or out of my car to go to work - not a lot more. Although I do wheel the house-behind-me's bin back for them. I noticed that he is disabled and struggles to guide it along the side of my property.
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    • gonebust
    • By gonebust 8th Jul 17, 1:25 PM
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    • 8th Jul 17, 1:25 PM
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    All our neighbours are lovely and we all help each other out, chat, exchange garden produce, go to each other's bbqs, exchange Christmas cards, cut each other's lawns, keep an eye on each other's properties if on holiday, take bins in etc etc etc. But we don't live in each other's pockets

    The wider community is just as neighbourly, everyone chats in queues, says hello when passing in the street etc. We have community centres that are well used, doing pensioner lunch clubs for example, meals on wheels for those that are housebound. If there's illness or a death in the family, everyone is there for you, be it hospital runs, cooking a meal, getting a shop, whatever. No one is left to fend for themselves , there's always a friendly eye somewhere.
    • Gers
    • By Gers 8th Jul 17, 3:15 PM
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    All my neighbours are neighbourly. I live in a rural area where neighbours are generally over a mile away apart from the ones at the other end of this old and large farm building. They are about 100m away.

    Everyone keeps a weather eye out for each other without being overbearing or constantly 'popping in'. Last week the nearest neighbour changed my tyre when I got a puncture, the other day another one freed a trapped bird from my woodburner, later I took him to collect his RIB. Foraged fruits are offered, when animals go to the abattoir meat is offered and help is always only a text or phone call away. The postie also collects outgoing mail if needed.

    If there's a prolonged power cut the neighbour with a bottled gas stove rings round to offer boiling water for drinks or to heat up a meal.

    When we lived in a city centre (for about 20 years) we only knew immediate neighbours in the street. Here people in the village, eight miles away, all say hello to everyone else and smile. Doesn't take much to make strangers friendly.
    • SamsReturn
    • By SamsReturn 8th Jul 17, 4:39 PM
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    I speak to my neighbours if i'm outside in the garden and they're passing, but not a lot more. We send Christmas cards. When i've got loads of apples; plums, or berries growing i'll knock and give it away. One sometimes knocks to check i'm ok if they haven't seen me for a while, 'cos they know i'm here by myself.
    • The Last Username
    • By The Last Username 8th Jul 17, 6:49 PM
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    The Last Username
    It depends on your neighbours doesn't it?

    A bit like posters in forums like this I mean in that generally people are nice, polite and even helpful.
    But there are some, just some, who seem to go out of their way to provoke disagreement. Sometimes trying to be more subtle admittedly but none the less unpleasant and unnecessary for it.

    These are the type of neighbours you avoid unless absolutely necessary, just as with some on forums.
    As an example one neighbour, fortunately not close, knows more about us than we ourselves know and tells MIL things that nowadays, knowing better, we can all mostly just laugh at.

    Generally we have good neighbours and reciprocate a few deeds during holidays etc. but ours is not a very densely-populated area.
    • PasturesNew
    • By PasturesNew 8th Jul 17, 6:53 PM
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    Depends .... sometimes ....on who it is.

    If it's a neighbour I like, I'd tell them.

    If it's a neighbour I despise then I'll sit and watch it and pray for really heavy rain.

    • Tipsntreats
    • By Tipsntreats 8th Jul 17, 7:16 PM
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    Yes, I know all my neighbours and yes we also all look out for each other.
    • Sleazy
    • By Sleazy 8th Jul 17, 7:55 PM
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    There's a few elderly ones round our way and we usually put each other's bins in after the bin men have been. Our immediate neighbours go away to the sun for several weeks a couple of times a year and we collect their mail for them. Friendly enough, but not in each other's pockets.
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    • Dreamnine
    • By Dreamnine 8th Jul 17, 7:58 PM
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    I get on with my neighbours and watch their houses when they are away; I'll also pick up any rubbish that accrues in their gardens.
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    • ScarletMarble
    • By ScarletMarble 8th Jul 17, 10:51 PM
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    My parents still exchange Christmas cards with former neighbours - some moved away.. Sad one of them has dementia.
    • UKTigerlily
    • By UKTigerlily 11th Jul 17, 9:37 PM
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    I live in flats & have a guy to each side & one above, who recently moved in

    The one to the left is rarely seen, we just say Hi if we pass & maybe a few words, he's polite & friendly but keeps to himself

    The one above sits out on his balcony a fair bit, so i'll chat to him & he helped to calm me down the other night when I got upset

    The one on the other side is like a big brother; he always helps with DIY, moving or lifting or opening heavy things etc and is very respectful, kind & protective.

    I'm very lucky with the ones I have, especially being in flats
    • Wizard of Id
    • By Wizard of Id 12th Jul 17, 11:24 AM
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    I put my neighbours bin out for them this morning as the collection was earlier than normal (6:30am) and they were still in bed.
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    • ameliarate
    • By ameliarate 12th Jul 17, 12:33 PM
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    The good news is judging by this thread neighbourliness is still alive and kicking. It certainly is where I live.

    There are a mixture of private home and housing association houses where I live. When we saw our new neighbour moving in I must confess to being a bit worried as he looked very rough, tattoos all around his bald head, hardly any teeth. Turns out that though he has got a bit of a history he is lovely. Brings my bins in every week. Has taken up gardening and gives excess veggies to elderly neighbours and is carer for his disabled mum.
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