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    • Bath cube
    • By Bath cube 8th Jun 17, 3:19 PM
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    Bath cube
    Lost my cat today
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    • 8th Jun 17, 3:19 PM
    Lost my cat today 8th Jun 17 at 3:19 PM
    My cat died today. After 19 years together, well it would be 19 years this august. I was upstairs asleep and when I went downstairs she was splayed out with her eyes open in the cat bed. I can't forgive myself because she died alone and I wasn't near her when it happened. I knew it was coming as she was showin signs yesterday.
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    • gettingtheresometime
    • By gettingtheresometime 8th Jun 17, 3:54 PM
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    Be easy on yourself - just remember a lot of humans wait until their loved ones are gone before they die..
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    • KateySW
    • By KateySW 8th Jun 17, 4:11 PM
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    Oh I'm so sorry Bath cube

    Sending you a hug, please be kind to yourself - you couldn't have known for sure that would happen at all and in any case, you not being there at the end could never take back almost 19 years of what I'm sure was the most wonderful life and home. She knew she was loved so much and would have done either way.

    Look after yourself x
    • McKneff
    • By McKneff 8th Jun 17, 4:16 PM
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    Dont be hard on yourself. She would have just drifted off to sleep and just slipped away .
    make the most of it, we are only here for the weekend.
    and we will never, ever return.
    • fairy lights
    • By fairy lights 8th Jun 17, 4:16 PM
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    fairy lights
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    • 8th Jun 17, 4:16 PM
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    • 8th Jun 17, 4:16 PM
    So sorry bathcube
    Don't feel guilty though, she wasn't alone - she was in her own bed, happy in the knowledge her humans were safely asleep. 19 years is an incredible age and I'm sure she had a very good life.
    • warehouse
    • By warehouse 8th Jun 17, 4:18 PM
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    • 8th Jun 17, 4:18 PM
    To die of such an old age is a very well looked after and happy cat. You should be proud you gave her such a good life.
    • Chris25
    • By Chris25 8th Jun 17, 10:13 PM
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    so sorry to hear that bathcube.

    Don't be so hard on yourself. As others have said, to live to that age you must have looked after her very well. She was at home when she passed away in her own bed and even if she showed signs of it coming you couldn't have known exactly when it would happen.

    • Silvertabby
    • By Silvertabby 9th Jun 17, 8:49 AM
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    I'm so sorry. We lost our beautiful blue lady in this way - she was fine when we went to work, but had obviously gone back to bed and just died in her sleep.

    We took comfort from the fact that she had had a loving home for all of her 16 years, and that she had died without any pain and without any to and fro-ing from the vets.

    I know just how hard it is now, but you too will take comfort from that as well.
    • By ERICS MUM 9th Jun 17, 8:54 AM
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    What a shock, I'm so sorry. I'm in the same boat - my Eric is 19, but getting frail with various ailments and I don't think he will reach his 20th in Oct.

    No matter how I try to prepare myself I know I will be devastated.

    Take it easy, losing a big part of your life after 19 years is a big deal and you'll feel it for a while.
    • jhgkp
    • By jhgkp 9th Jun 17, 12:20 PM
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    So very sorry about your cat - we lost our wee cat last year at age 6 in similar way - went to wake her, curled up in her bed, still warm, but gone. Condolences to you all
    • tealady
    • By tealady 9th Jun 17, 8:36 PM
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    19 years is a good lifespan for a cat, you must have given your furbabe the best of everything.
    Sadly grief is the price we pay for love, just remind yourself that your beloved cat had a wonderful home and the love you have for each other enriched both your lives.
    Dont beat yourself up with guilt, easier said than done I know. Just remember the happy days.
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    • candygirl
    • By candygirl 9th Jun 17, 8:45 PM
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    Aww i'm so sorry hun, but 19 is a fantastic age to reach . Don't feel guilty xx
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    • Bath cube
    • By Bath cube 10th Jun 17, 1:32 AM
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    I can't forgive myself for not being there when tiggy took her last breath. I got up around 7am to check on her and she was very quiet but showing no signs of hunger or thirst, despite water and food nearby.I stroked her head then I went back to bed because I wasn't at work yesterday. I got up around 12 went straight into the dining room and there she was sprawled out not breathing with her eyes and mouth open. She want in that position when I left her. My guilt will stay until the day (if I'm very lucky) I get to be with her again. What if she cried out for me and looked around to see if I was there?. I shouldn't have gone back to bed and abandoned her. We have put her body in the garage in s box for now and will bury her tomorrow Saturday.
    • Silvertabby
    • By Silvertabby 10th Jun 17, 9:21 AM
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    Bath cube - I'm so sorry you are going through this. It sounds as if Tiggy may have had a heart attack, which would explain her position. If so, it would have been very quick.

    A friend sadly saw her cat die of a heart attack - one second she was watching her cat grooming herself, the next second puss just gave a little squeak and flopped sideways. It was that quick.

    Do you think you would you find it helpful to talk to someone from The Cats' Protection charity bereavement service?
    • Feral Moon
    • By Feral Moon 10th Jun 17, 11:24 AM
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    Feral Moon
    I'm so sorry for your loss, especially as she'd been a part of your life for such a long time. I feel your pain as two of my cats were 21 & 23 when they passed and were actually older than my son.

    But please do not feel guilty about not being with her. Cats know when they are ready to pass and will go off to be on their own. She chose to go to her bed which was familiar and comfortable so she drifted off feeling quite content.

    It is natural that you will go through the grieving process just the same as if you'd lost a family member. Please contact your vet as many practices will offer pet berievement counselling.

    Take care xx
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    • HB58
    • By HB58 10th Jun 17, 11:34 PM
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    I am so sorry that you have lost your beloved companion
    • helcat26
    • By helcat26 11th Jun 17, 7:14 PM
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    I am sorry you have lost your darling cat. She had a long and happy life with you, there is nothing for you to feel guilty about x
    • Laz123
    • By Laz123 21st Jun 17, 8:53 AM
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    Yep, it's very sad. One of my two gingers boys has been missing here on Gozo for three days now. Just over a year old and his brother is pining for him and my heart is very heavy.
    There's no present. There's only the immediate future and the recent past.
    George Carlin
    • Marie90
    • By Marie90 22nd Jun 17, 11:05 AM
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    Oh so sad((((( stay strong!! it's always painful when your beloved pet is diying on your eyes and you cannot keep from it...
    • Bath cube
    • By Bath cube 26th Sep 17, 11:58 PM
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    I'm dreading the first Christmas without her. A little black cat who tiggy was jealous of now comes in our house now and again. I don't feed maisie because she has a renal tag on her collar. Her owner said it's fine if she comes in my house but another neighbour had been feeding her cat biscuits and treats and she had to have a build up of fluid on her stomach drained at the vets.
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