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    • Suffolk lass
    • By Suffolk lass 28th Jan 17, 12:18 PM
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    Get a grip woman!
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    • 28th Jan 17, 12:18 PM
    Get a grip woman! 28th Jan 17 at 12:18 PM
    Having been reading a number of people's debt-free wannabe diaries for some time now, I have finally decided I will start my own.

    We are less than three years from wanting to stop work, and less than ten years from state retirement age. I manage our household finances and DH lets me get on with it. His attitude is more "live for today" so we are a good balance, I think. We have two holidays each year and sometimes more - and he has some boys toys - 2 Harley Davidson motorcycles in the garage, that seem to always need money spending on them. That said, there is more to be said in favour of a happy and contented DH than against them so I don't resent them in any way.

    So to debts - It seems a good time because I have recently finished the finance on my car, and as of yesterday, paid off the finance for DS's car (I borrowed from him 18 months ago and paid back by buying his car on finance and paying his insurance). I was paying 4.7% on that debt so it was my highest priority. I paid it off 10 months early using most of my HSBC Regular Saver that matured this week.

    The debts I have currently are:

    £110,621 - Mortgage - interest rate of 0.74% (0.5 above the BoEBR)
    £3,476 - DH's car - 0% credit card until Sept 17 - a £4000 cash advance with a £76 fee
    £8,755.54 - Barclays Finance for double glazing 0% over 2 years 2/24 paid

    Total £122,852.54

    It isn't that I can't afford to keep up payments, it is more that I want us to start our non-work phase without them hanging over us, if you know what I mean.

    I think that will do for a scene setter.

    SL
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    • Suffolk lass
    • By Suffolk lass 1st Dec 17, 4:27 PM
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    Very slow progress at the moment. Now the boiler pump has gone wrong so no heating. The indication that they would fit the replacement (involving draining down the system and taking 4 hours) is not happening today and the next day I can take at home is around 14th! I let DH take the time out to sort this but we are now in limbo. Am I alone thinking WTF - doesn't this count as urgent with 24 hour delivery for the parts in these circumstances ?i.e. snowing and NO HEATING FOR A WEEK
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    • trix-a-belle
    • By trix-a-belle 1st Dec 17, 6:20 PM
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    ohh sweetie i'm thinking warm thoughts for you. I would agree that there is urgency to the matter.
    sleep/live next to the aga & don't let DH near it to realise the impact?
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    • Karmacat
    • By Karmacat 2nd Dec 17, 12:19 PM
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    You poor thing, SL! I really hope some urgency has emerged in people's thinking!
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    • enthusiasticsaver
    • By enthusiasticsaver 2nd Dec 17, 4:23 PM
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    Wow! Only five weeks to go until your early retirement enthusiasticsaver! What will you do with all that extra time?
    Originally posted by Suffolk lass
    3 weeks to go now SL

    I will have plenty to keep me busy thanks. DH retired last year and I am the last of our group of friends to take early retirement so we do lots of social stuff like lunches out, walks and theatre trips. DH and I belong to NT and the local country club and I love reading, walking, cycling, gardening and playing the piano. I am thinking of joining U3A and we have a 2 year old granddaughter we look after one day a week at least and a new grand baby due AprilMay.

    Lots of holidays too to look forward to. Are you still intending to retire early?
    Last edited by enthusiasticsaver; 02-12-2017 at 4:25 PM.
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    • enthusiasticsaver
    • By enthusiasticsaver 2nd Dec 17, 4:29 PM
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    Goodness. No heating and it's freezing cold out there. I really feel for you. Bad news about the car repair bill too.

    Personally I would attack the mortgage.
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    • Suffolk lass
    • By Suffolk lass 3rd Dec 17, 12:48 PM
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    ohh sweetie i'm thinking warm thoughts for you. I would agree that there is urgency to the matter.
    sleep/live next to the aga & don't let DH near it to realise the impact?
    Originally posted by trix-a-belle
    I meant the company fixing it needed to realise the impact, rather than DH, although he can be vague and not persistent enough

    Darling Husband has been diligent in making sure that oil filled radiators are on in bathroom and sitting room and fire has been lit every evening when I get home at seven. I very obviously got the duster out yesterday and meaningfully wiped things that he said he would do last week but he is selectively deaf and blind so no hints were taken and the dining room floor still needs a good clear and vacuum. After nearly 28 years I should expect nothing else, I know
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    • Suffolk lass
    • By Suffolk lass 3rd Dec 17, 1:06 PM
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    3 weeks to go now SL

    I will have plenty to keep me busy thanks. DH retired last year and I am the last of our group of friends to take early retirement so we do lots of social stuff like lunches out, walks and theatre trips. DH and I belong to NT and the local country club and I love reading, walking, cycling, gardening and playing the piano. I am thinking of joining U3A and we have a 2 year old granddaughter we look after one day a week at least and a new grand baby due AprilMay.

    Lots of holidays too to look forward to. Are you still intending to retire early?
    Originally posted by enthusiasticsaver
    Oh wow, you are definitely retiring at the right time, aren't you!

    We love walking and socialising, although DH was muttly-ing (Sassafiassarassum) on Friday about the choice of venue for his department's Christmas dinner, the cost, and the time we got home (very GOM) but I put it down to it being Friday and him being tired. I'm hoping he picks up a bit when he stops work (5 and a bit terms to go for him).

    I am undecided when to finish. I am looking at my options at the moment and can go without my DB Pension being reduced after March but I could do a bit of consultancy, or I could stay on a bit longer. I have the 0% loan for the DG until November so the mean part of me doesn't want that liability when I stop working. I definitely don't want to work after DH stops and he definitely wants to stop at the end of the school year 2018-19 (he will be 60 and can also go without penalty after that).

    His form have GCSEs that year (2019) and he is staying a few months extra so that they have that continuity of emotional support that they have had throughout senior school with him as their form teacher. - Having inherited a class that had had many different teachers in his first role, this has been important to him ever since. They wrote things like "thanks for sticking with us to the end Sir, when everyone else gave up on us" and it's only then you realise the impact all the changes had on them. They thought it was something they were doing wrong. Bless.
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    • Suffolk lass
    • By Suffolk lass 3rd Dec 17, 1:09 PM
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    Right. I cocked up the fudge at the first attempt and had to reboil it

    Then I made six dozen mince pies.

    Now I've made shortbread.

    I might chance my arm by putting a pile of Christmas cards in front of DH to try and get ahead.

    Bought his gift yesterday - totally unexpected but we love it, and just £30! Added to the slogan T-shirt sitting in my drawer that is the first person sorted!
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    • Karmacat
    • By Karmacat 4th Dec 17, 1:12 PM
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    You're doing well!

    Retirement ... sigh ... I wish I'd been able to retire to have a ball, but even after 15 months, I'm really not there yet The chronic fatigue has lessened, this set of building works is coming to an end, as is the disposition of probate goods, so there's replastering my house, and selling my mum's house, and then things are probably ready to rumble A bit of Christmas cooking (mince pies! Good for you!) sounds wonderful!
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    • Suffolk lass
    • By Suffolk lass 10th Dec 17, 8:49 AM
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    More on the retirement dilemma
    I actually rang our pension service contract company and asked the question that informs my retirement timing decision.

    I have a FS pension that is based on the best 12 months of my final three years. I did a spell of higher grade work for three months which means my best year started in Feb 16. My question is whether my index-linked accrued benefits will index link from my retirement date or from the end of that year.

    If it is the end of that year, does it get 2/12ths (i.e. Feb and March 17) or a whole year's uplift from April 17 (at just 1% or a fraction thereof) and again next April (18) when CPI is 3%.

    If it is retirement date I need to do the calculations for retiring before the end of March 18 as that 3% is (probably) too good to miss out on.
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    • enthusiasticsaver
    • By enthusiasticsaver 10th Dec 17, 12:35 PM
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    I actually rang our pension service contract company and asked the question that informs my retirement timing decision.

    I have a FS pension that is based on the best 12 months of my final three years. I did a spell of higher grade work for three months which means my best year started in Feb 16. My question is whether my index-linked accrued benefits will index link from my retirement date or from the end of that year.

    If it is the end of that year, does it get 2/12ths (i.e. Feb and March 17) or a whole year's uplift from April 17 (at just 1% or a fraction thereof) and again next April (18) when CPI is 3%.

    If it is retirement date I need to do the calculations for retiring before the end of March 18 as that 3% is (probably) too good to miss out on.
    Originally posted by Suffolk lass
    That would definitely make a difference SL and one example of why people should be looking at their pension calculations in detail.

    My pension is a LGPS so a mix of FS/CARE but my highest salary and when a lot of my benefits accrued were when I was working full time pre 2008 to help put my girls through University. The reduction in my pension is fairly minimal even though I am going at age 57 which is 8 years earlier than my normal retirement age and it is because pre 2008 the pension is reduced less as they work on age 60 as the NRD rather than my current retirement age of 66. If my highest earning years were after that I think the reduction in pension by going so early would be hard to stomach.

    Do you have an online benefit projection tool through your pension provider? I played around with that for ages before deciding what to do.
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    • Suffolk lass
    • By Suffolk lass 11th Dec 17, 8:49 AM
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    Devastated!
    I had made Christmas cakes for several people and got them out to marzipan them last night. For space-saving reasons I had packed them in tins. They had all gone mouldy except the one I had wrapped in paper and foil.

    I now have to re-make 5 cakes before Friday, and ice two of them. Combined with working away for two days and one night.

    I think the two that need finishing will have fondant rather than traditional royal icing but I'm trying to make two today. What a terrible waste of beautiful ingredients.

    I have stored in tins before but not using the paper I used this year and I also fed them more with brandy last time so the air was exchanged more often. A really sad lesson to learn there.

    I will maybe try boiling fruit to speed up the soaking period but I will have to buy eggs, oranges and currants to be able to make them. As the title says - Devastated!
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    • Karmacat
    • By Karmacat 11th Dec 17, 9:26 AM
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    Oh that's horrible! You poor thing Ingredients, time, money, distress - it goes on

    I'm really surprised that paper, of all things, is part of what makes such a difference. Though I can understand the brandy - not only the air exchange, but the preservative power of alcohol. What a harsh lesson best of luck with replacing them.
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    • redofromstart
    • By redofromstart 11th Dec 17, 9:36 AM
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    oh no - I'd be devastated too

    Hope you can manage to sort it. Have you thought about dundee cakes instead which would at least remove the need to ice them?

    (BTW I loved the mutley impression)
    • Suffolk lass
    • By Suffolk lass 15th Dec 17, 7:15 AM
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    Thanks for the empathy. I have made five cakes but not marzipan or iced any. That will be this weekend. I realised DH will be off to see his Mum next Wednesday when school breaks up so he can deliver two that day, giving me a small window of additional time. Of the other three, I can post two or send all three home with my Mum, after Christmas as they are all for Scotland.

    Another mad day in paradise here, just about to make a dip for tonight's girl's do (at someone's house) - the vegetable curry is made and ready to pop back in a slow cooker to reheat later. I have just written the cards for tonight - just a birthday card to do and a "secret Santa" to wrap. Dentist later this morning (50 miles from here) so need to get a wiggle on.
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    • boxofpaws
    • By boxofpaws 15th Dec 17, 1:49 PM
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    I started to read through diaries on Sunday and I got to your post about the mouldy cakes and had to put the ipad down. How unbelievably annoying for you.


    Busy day for you, hope you're keeping well


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    • Suffolk lass
    • By Suffolk lass 19th Dec 17, 7:42 PM
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    Thanks Paws, we are keeping well. I may have met myself coming back the other way today, and have decided that for sanity's sake I am going to work from home tomorrow and hammer my phone bill instead of travelling in to sit on the phone all day.

    Arrived home just about 30 minutes ago to find our Christmas tree horizontal at the very moment DH told me he had watered it and I started to say "Did you secure it first?" (and did not say - 'because we don't want a repetition of last year where you did not secure it and it fell, smashing collectable porcelain') - too late. Last year we lost one piece. This year he has managed two, and possibly wrecked the carpet (still clearing up wet horticultural sand and attempting to secure the tree vertically). He knows how deeply unhappy I am. Frankly suppressed incandescence with frustration only begins to get close.

    I was just going to put ribbon round my cakes and then flop. now I have to start again with the bloody tree.
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    • WannabeFree
    • By WannabeFree 19th Dec 17, 8:12 PM
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    Oh no

    I hope things improve and you can fix the tree x
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    • Suffolk lass
    • By Suffolk lass 19th Dec 17, 9:01 PM
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    I know, just getting rid of my frustration on here really. All is calm. Cheese on toast instead of a bit of meat and veg. My diet is suffering!
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    • Karmacat
    • By Karmacat 19th Dec 17, 9:52 PM
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    Oh drat. And many rude words.

    At least you *do* have us on here, so that someone else really does know what you're going through

    Agree with the healing properties of cheese on toast ...
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