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    • Greying Pilgrim
    • By Greying Pilgrim 27th Oct 16, 9:11 AM
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    The Simple Bare Necessities feat. Gratitude & Recipes
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    • 27th Oct 16, 9:11 AM
    The Simple Bare Necessities feat. Gratitude & Recipes 27th Oct 16 at 9:11 AM
    Hello

    I think that the time may be right to start a new diary. So much has changed since I started my 2nd diary, which can be found HERE and we're a whole lifetime away from my first diary, which can be found HERE

    Whilst my first 2 diaries concentrated on living a simple life, concentrating on debt-avoidance for my (then) DP and I, we had a 'bit' of a tumultuous 2015, which meant that my DP became my DH and we 'Two' became 3, with the safe arrival of Baby Greying

    Our focus has changed dramatically. Far from contemplating 'downsizing' (a bit of a misnomer in terms of our house, honestly, I've been in bigger 'flats'! ) and somehow achieving early retirement; we now have a future focus that needs us to be super fit and active for as long as we can be. Also, as older first time parents, we are both committed to try to be in Baby Greying's life for as long as possible, without being a burden. Because whilst being older does have some distinct advantages when applied to parenting, there is no denying there's a downside too..............

    Also, the economic climate is changing once again. Blame it on whatever you like, but there is always some reason why prices of x, y or z rise. There is always a reason why, when you find a way to combat inflation; someone comes along and changes the rules of the game. A good example of this is our wood burner. When we had it installed, we had access to a goodly amount of free wood, we both had the time and energy to process it and we could live with parts of the house being cold. Forward 10 years; more people have stoves - and are all chasing that 'free' wood, 'purchased' logs are now very expensive around here and we've no time to stack nor chop wood. It's become easier, and 'as expensive' to flick the on switch for the central heating....... a cleaner in-house option, that can keep the whole house a manageable temperature and Baby Greying at a safe and comfortable temperature.

    Now it does matter if our hair-brained money saving wheezes make our teeth fall out or our toes freeze orf, because it impacts on our ability to look after Baby Greying in the now and in the future. Our health and well-being is a priority - but still not at any price. We want to have it all,;but with only a modest budget available, we're gonna have to get creative. I rarely shop in the 'big 4' supermercados. We purchase some things from mrL, some from mrAl. A smattering from mrW, mrT and m&$ (bananas mostly), with h0me bargins and h3ron f00ds being the sources of our regular shopping. We also have access to a food co-operative and I occasionally get to go to the next city along to get bulk purchases of pulses and spices.

    Our focus now (that we've got over the shock of Baby Greying ) is to move on from Greying Towers. The long and short of it boils down to it not being the right environment for us to bring up a child here. There are nicer places. We need to find them. So a move is on the cards. However, some renovation of the towers is necessary, and whilst funding has always been an issue; now we have the added upheaval of trying to do work around a baby. Not impossible, but not ideal. It's also still proving impossible to find reliable tradespeople. We're looking for a plumber, again

    The one thing that I've come to recognise with age is that there is always 'good stuff' in every life. Even when you're really going through the mill. There are good people, who say or do good things to help you. There are the wonders of nature to take in at every turn. There is humour everywhere, even if you have to look under a few rocks to find it. It is important to be thankful, even on the dark days. And I try to do that - and find writing it down, in my online diary a good exercise in stopping. And thinking.

    We like food at Greying Towers. I write about it alot. I take pictures of me tea. We're vegetarian (at present) and so vegetables feature. Alot. When it's gifted HG produce, it's even better

    So, do you fancy climbing aboard for the new adventure. Taking some time out to Fall apart in my backyard with Me, DH and BG?

    Greying X
    Last edited by Greying Pilgrim; 29-10-2016 at 8:24 AM.
    'Ich habe genug' 'Your Vibe attracts your Tribe'

    'I am not in the pursuit of happiness, only in the discovery of joy' - Joyce Grenfell
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 5th Mar 18, 1:54 PM
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    Have a good week Grayling & friends
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
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    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
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    • Greying Pilgrim
    • By Greying Pilgrim 6th Mar 18, 2:15 PM
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    Good afternoon

    I'll admit to being in a bit of a grumpy mood today Nowt wrong. I'm assuming it's just the regular business, which means it'll pass as quickly as it descended.

    It hasn't helped that I've seen a house to rent, which would suit us down to the ground, and I know that there is no point even asking for a viewing - we're not getting anywhere with this flipping place. We'll just land ourselves in a whole heap of debt grrr.

    BG and I ventured into Greying Town this morning to pick up a few bits and pieces and have a toddle about. I got a BNS from mrA for 80p (75p/kilo), and some red lentils. I would have bought some of their avocados - four for 1.80 - well, that was last week's price. This week they are four for 2. So they remained on the shelf. I let BG have another toddle on the way back from mrA, but they wanted to push the perambulator and managed to fall over. No, they did not have their puddle suit on. Yes, they did have their 'best' coat on. Yes, it is now in the wash......... Sigh.

    Tea tonight will be pea soup. I have a load of frozen peas, so it seems like a reasonable choice.

    Right, I'm going to toddle off and do something constructive. Shake meself outta this funk

    Greying X
    'Ich habe genug' 'Your Vibe attracts your Tribe'

    'I am not in the pursuit of happiness, only in the discovery of joy' - Joyce Grenfell
    • Greying Pilgrim
    • By Greying Pilgrim 6th Mar 18, 3:19 PM
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    Right, so I always feel better when I'm doing something, moving forward, taking action. So in the interim, I've booked an appt. to go and see if an institution can help us - I'm now thinking that they can't (nice to have a chat with someone to make you see things in different perspectives), but we'll definitely keep the appt. and go and have another chat. I've got a tradesperson (apparently) going to call me back. And I've booked an engineer to do something for us later this week

    None of this will save money, and indeed, will involve spending money. But still. In a zig-zaggy type of fashion, progress is being made!

    Greying X
    'Ich habe genug' 'Your Vibe attracts your Tribe'

    'I am not in the pursuit of happiness, only in the discovery of joy' - Joyce Grenfell
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 6th Mar 18, 4:28 PM
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    Boo to the house
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger.
    • maddiemay
    • By maddiemay 6th Mar 18, 4:35 PM
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    Shame about the house Greying, but yea to any progress ziggy zaggy or otherwise.
    • pinkypig
    • By pinkypig 8th Mar 18, 9:53 PM
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    Hope you're feeling brighter Greying and good on ya for getting stuck in. I know exactly what you mean, I always feel better for doing stuff, especially when I don't feel like doing it!

    I just popped in to tell you that I thought of you today as (thanks to you cos I'd never heard of her ) I spotted and grabbed a Rose Elliot cookery book in a Cs. It looks fab and I'm really !looking forward to having good read of it at the weekend.

    PP xx
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 8th Mar 18, 10:05 PM
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    Hope all is well.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger.
    • Greying Pilgrim
    • By Greying Pilgrim 10th Mar 18, 1:48 PM
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    Good Afternoon

    How are well all? Great, I hope

    pinkypig - RE is definitely a founder member of the veggie cooks field. I don't know which of her books you got - may be her complete vegetarian? Some of her older books are a bit dated. But many of her recipes are still relevant, good, tasty and the majority of them won't break the bank. And I certainly have RE recipes that I haven't found elsewhere until the internet food/recipe/blogging expansion. She really did lead the field in publishing a wide variety of vegetarian recipes and cooking tips. I have her 'bean book', which was only published in the 1980's, but some of the recipes, are just......... Well, you have to bear in mind that we were still buying olive oil in little bottles from the chemists in those days, and as for using garlic....... I still recall growing up with a (reused) coffee jar of red lentils, sitting in our pantry from one year to the next. If we had cottage pie with lentils in it was a big deal, a treat!!! I now get through a minimum of 1kg of red lentils a month....... Times change, as do tastes, but RE should provide you with some worthy recipes, that may become familial favourites

    We've been kept busy lately.

    We've had our boiler serviced. 100 plus vat I'm rather glad I chose to save our alcohol budget towards this expense, and I'm delighted that it's been so easy to do without, as it's used up any savings I have made That glass of prosecco on Easter weekend betta taste good - it'll have been earnt!

    I had to chase the other tradesperson, as they didn't automatically ring me back (surprise, surprise). But they are now booked in to give us a quote - having given a ball-park figure, which is what seems to be the going rate for the work. So, given that we don't have any 'special circumstances' that suddenly add another 50% to the bill <rolls eyes smiley>, we may yet get another piece of the jigsaw completed. But I'm not counting me chuckens.........................

    Our meals have been all over the place, not particularly oozing with healthy ingredients (not enough fresh veg), nor interesting. I've been too tired and distracted by things going on in RL to be ars3d to think about teas. I'm hoping I can shake myself out of it, and get back to cooking nice things. Sleep has been OK - as long as I've not been allowing myself to worry about things - and I'm still friends with valerie tea of an evening

    I see a local building society has started taking FB donations. I think I'm going to switch to donating in there. They have a small box (sigh - get a big one and ask folks to give generously!), but hopefully they have better arrangements for getting it to the FB. The one I have been supporting hadn't delivered stuff from the last time I donated - which is (due to various circumstances), the best part of a month ago What's the point?

    Can't think of owt else to witter on about - so best vamoose.

    Ta fer popping by. Appreciated.

    Greying X
    'Ich habe genug' 'Your Vibe attracts your Tribe'

    'I am not in the pursuit of happiness, only in the discovery of joy' - Joyce Grenfell
    • rtandon27
    • By rtandon27 10th Mar 18, 2:33 PM
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    Good to 'see' you GP!

    ...and relieved to know you are keeping yourself our of trouble!
    1.5 YEARS DEBT FREE!!! (24 OCT 2016)
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    Still working hard to keep up the good habits!
    • Greying Pilgrim
    • By Greying Pilgrim 10th Mar 18, 4:28 PM
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    ...and relieved to know you are keeping yourself our of trouble!
    Originally posted by rtandon27
    I dunno if I owned up to that..........

    Greying X
    'Ich habe genug' 'Your Vibe attracts your Tribe'

    'I am not in the pursuit of happiness, only in the discovery of joy' - Joyce Grenfell
    • Greying Pilgrim
    • By Greying Pilgrim 10th Mar 18, 8:33 PM
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    Good Evening

    Well, I didn't even bother watching the end of the England/France rugger match. Pfft!

    I was prepping tea, and switched the radio on for the Liza T show. Could tell from the song that was on, she was away. I don't know who the stand in was, but within moments of the song finishing they managed to utter an insulting comment about women - so I switched off. Everyday sexism yet again on the BBC...... I would have no qualms, no qualms what-so-ever getting rid of the TV licence and therefore the TV, if it were soley up to me.

    Tea this evening was chickpea curry (kinda made up), lentil dhal and basmati rice. Not the most interesting of meals, but I made the curry and the dhal kinda from scratch, which is an improvement on meals that we have had this week, so I'm taking the win

    I managed to do some sorting and tidying this arvo - as DH was back to look after BG - but as BG surprised usboth by having a big, long snooze, it wasn't so onerous for DH It did mean that I could get on though, knowing BG was safe and looked after

    I have also made a batch of 7 (6 big and 2 'halves') mushroom & chickpea 'sausage' rolls. It has used up the last pack of puff pastry - bought goodness knows when - from the freezer and will provide a bit of snap, should we go out wandering anywhere tomoz I don't want cards, I don't want flowers, I just wanna hang out with my 2 favouritest peeps on the planet and have fun, and make memories together

    There is one mushroom and chickpea sausage left............

    Today I am grateful for these 3 things;

    making a clutter pile - as it equals making progress

    making tea from scratch - as it equals a shifting mindset

    making for the off switch - because equality matters.

    Ta for popping in, appreciated. Greatly.

    Greying X
    'Ich habe genug' 'Your Vibe attracts your Tribe'

    'I am not in the pursuit of happiness, only in the discovery of joy' - Joyce Grenfell
    • in need of direction
    • By in need of direction 10th Mar 18, 11:07 PM
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    I too was watching the rugby this afternoon. A complete contrast between the two games.
    Mortgage at 01.01.14 119,481.83 today 75,897.72, target 65,000 by 31/12/18 Offset fund today 227.27 target 5,500 by 31/12/18
    Emergency fund 0.7/5.5k & 200/200 cash.
    Current weight loss RUBBISH need to refocus
    determined to stop defining myself by my mistakes.
    Progress not perfection.
    • Greying Pilgrim
    • By Greying Pilgrim 11th Mar 18, 6:55 AM
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    Good Morning

    I too was watching the rugby this afternoon. A complete contrast between the two games.
    Originally posted by in need of direction
    I didn't actually see the Ireland v Scotland match - but it must have been a good match, as Scotland surely were still all fired up and yet Ireland put such distance in the scoreline to make an emphatic win. But Scotland must have been playing well to 'only' allow Ireland to get to 28 points? Well played Ireland though - crowned 6 nations champions already

    It bothers me not that England aren't winning - I never think it healthy if one team win 'all the time', in whatever sport discipline - but I want to see good rugby being played. England are not playing good rugger I hope England play good rugby next week - play for pride and for the good of the game, irrespecitve of the final scoreline.

    Well, our adventurizing plans have been scuppered by the weather Doesn't mean we won't go out, just means we're not where we intended to be

    I've had a good night's sleep again Although I will admit to foregoing 'valerie' as i was tatting about and it got too late to make it/drink it. BG clearly had a good night's sleep, as they are already full of beans and bouncing about

    Can't think of anything outstandingly that we will achieve today. We may sneak a nsd, but apart from that......

    Tea this evening was going to be cardboard box fish, oven chips and mushy peas, because of going out. Depending if we go out, and how far, this may remain as our meal choice, or get changed.

    I haven't actually done a meal plan for the upcoming week, so I can definitely get that done.

    Ta for popping in.

    Greying X
    'Ich habe genug' 'Your Vibe attracts your Tribe'

    'I am not in the pursuit of happiness, only in the discovery of joy' - Joyce Grenfell
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 11th Mar 18, 3:11 PM
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    Cant understand the FB not picking up things at least weekly.
    Ours is so desperate for things that donations are picked up at least weekly.
    I saw I, Daniel Blake again last night.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger.
    • Greying Pilgrim
    • By Greying Pilgrim 11th Mar 18, 4:14 PM
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    Cant understand the FB not picking up things at least weekly.
    Ours is so desperate for things that donations are picked up at least weekly.
    I saw I, Daniel Blake again last night.
    Originally posted by beanielou
    Well, in this instance beanie I would say that it would be unrealistic for the FB to pick things up (because there is so little to collect as much as distance from the centre), but I cannot understand the organisation not getting its act together and getting someone to take it on a regular basis - because they have at least another couple of collection points (donation amounts unknown). The issue is that there is no.......... ownership? real support? for the collection and the issue. It feels more like they are box ticking.... and the box is very small........ because we see no poverty........ I'll have a go at supporting the BS's initiative, see if that proves more worthwhile. Whilst there is a disconnect between the 'donators' and the 'support volunteers and their clients' (of any charitable genre) there is going to be 'wastage' - of effort, of time, of resources....... we're human

    Keep up the good work beanie - it must make differences to lives

    Greying X
    'Ich habe genug' 'Your Vibe attracts your Tribe'

    'I am not in the pursuit of happiness, only in the discovery of joy' - Joyce Grenfell
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 11th Mar 18, 7:48 PM
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    Thank you Grayling.
    It does make such a difference.
    I always think all it takes is something going wrong or taking a wrong turn & it could be any of us.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger.
    • in need of direction
    • By in need of direction 12th Mar 18, 12:14 AM
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    in need of direction
    Beanie you shouldn't torture yourself watching gritty movies that are already implanted in your brain. Take care
    Mortgage at 01.01.14 119,481.83 today 75,897.72, target 65,000 by 31/12/18 Offset fund today 227.27 target 5,500 by 31/12/18
    Emergency fund 0.7/5.5k & 200/200 cash.
    Current weight loss RUBBISH need to refocus
    determined to stop defining myself by my mistakes.
    Progress not perfection.
    • Greying Pilgrim
    • By Greying Pilgrim 12th Mar 18, 8:05 AM
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    Good Morning

    beanie - you do more than alot of people do, to help your fellow citizens. Even I have never watched 'I, Daniel Blake', and whilst I should, there are also many people, of influence, who will not have watched it, who should. Every sitting MP should be required to watch it, understand it and act on it, for a start. But that's not how life works. People have very set ideas about things, and only see what they choose to see. Let's keep on doing what we can do and effecting change where possible.

    On the agenda today is to check out the BS Food Bank box - double checking that it is for the FB I think it serves, and therefore make sure that any donations I buy are on their 'most wanted' list.

    I've not sorted out a menu plan for this week, so that will need doing.

    We had cardboard box fish, oven chips and mushy peas for tea last night. Whilst we didn't go out and about, I didn't want to cook by the time teatime came around. I had hoped to watch the rugger, and DH made a big thing about 'recording' the match, so that we could watch it together. Yet again, the recorder played up and it didn't record Funny how it always records his rubbish sci-fi programmes, or any other trash TV he wants to watch....... If the recorder isn't going to work, I shall end up watching even less TV than I do now. Didn't think that was possible!

    I did achieve something over the weekend - I set myself a target to sort out some tat. I moved, sorted and processed it, ready to be moved off the premises and as yesterday didn't turn out as anticipated, DH ended up moving the tat away to the tip. So we both felt as though we had achieved something. Of course, it is only the tip of the iceberg, but if we could regularly do chunks of tasks like that, we would end up finishing the DIY/chores that need doing. Progress

    Right, can't think of owt else MS at the mo. Best shuffle orf.

    Ta for popping in. Appreciated.

    Greying X
    'Ich habe genug' 'Your Vibe attracts your Tribe'

    'I am not in the pursuit of happiness, only in the discovery of joy' - Joyce Grenfell
    • Cheery Daff
    • By Cheery Daff 12th Mar 18, 9:09 AM
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    Removing tat from the premises sounds like excellent progress to me! Slow and steady, little small steps and you will get there in the end
    • rtandon27
    • By rtandon27 12th Mar 18, 12:10 PM
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    Definitely GP - true what Cheery says!

    Less tat = Improved Feng Shui!
    1.5 YEARS DEBT FREE!!! (24 OCT 2016)
    (With heartfelt thanks to those who have gone before us & their indubitable generosity.)
    Still working hard to keep up the good habits!
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