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    • sexymouse
    • By sexymouse 13th Apr 16, 12:29 PM
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    Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 13
    • #1
    • 13th Apr 16, 12:29 PM
    Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 13 13th Apr 16 at 12:29 PM
    This is the new thread for those trying for a baby.
    The previous one is here:

    Please be aware that this is a thread for those trying to conceive. If you wish to announce a pregnancy (or are only a couple of days from testing) and you have never used this thread before, please either wait until CD1 or use the less than 12 weeks pregnant thread. Hormones can run high on here (nature of the thread!) so please be sensitive. Many thanks!

    List of Users
    Alex_88 TTC #1 since 09/15
    angel11 (34) TTC #1 Since 08/15
    Apple1985 (30) TTC #1 Since 12/15
    (33) TTC #2 Since 2/16
    cats2012 (27) TTC #1 Since 05/15
    Clarabell1984 (31) TTC #1 Since 09/15
    easilydistracted (33) TTC#1 Since 01/16
    Keekee (38) TTC #1 Since 05/15
    MancMama4 (35) TTC #1 () Since 04/15
    Meepmeep (40) TTC #1 Since 01/16
    Midget1907 (29) TTC #1 Since 09/15
    Milliebob (27) TTC #2 Since 05/15
    newthrift (25) TTC #1 Since 11/15
    pinkpetal (36) TTC #1 Since 10/15
    sexymouse (32) TTC #3 (
    ) Since 02/16
    Tinks05 (27) TTC #1 Since 03/16
    VicVics (29) TTC #2 Since 04/16

    Those with * used Preseed/Conceive Plus

    Thread Graduates
    big5 BFP 15/6/16
    sexymouse BFP 4/6/16
    newthrift BFP 23/5/16
    VicVics BFP 16/5/16
    MancMama4 BFP 29/4/16
    pinkpetal BFP 24/4/16
    Apple1985 BFP 19/4/16
    Tinks05 BFP 18/4/16

    Link to abbreviations courtesy of MadMac from previous threads -

    The most common ones are:

    AF - Aunt Flo (period)
    BFP - Big Fat Positive (+ on home pregnancy test)
    BD - Baby dance (making babies)
    CBFM - Clearblue fertility monitor
    CD - Cycle date (CD1 is the 1st day of period)
    DPO - Days past ovulation (if ovulation was on CD15, then that is 0DPO, CD16 is 1DPO)
    HPT - Home Pregnancy Test
    IC - Internet cheapie (IC OPKs, hpts)
    NTNP - Not trying not preventing (pregnancy)
    OV - ovulation
    OPK - ovulation predictor kits
    SBDTA - Sticky baby dust to all
    SS - symptom spotting
    Temp - temperature (BBT)
    TLP - Tiny little positive (faint positive on pregnancy test)

    Also, an useful website telling you when to test, when you are ovulating and how the egg is developing etc found by Smash7 is here:

    This website is also useful
    It details the Sperm Meets Egg Plan (SMEP) which some have found helpful in conceiving.

    Some TMI cm pics here:

    Drugs you can take when pregnant
    Some CBFM FAQs
    Vitamins and minerals that can aid conception and pregnancy

    Sensitivity of home pregnancy tests (lower = more sensitive, earlier results)
    Superdrug Own Brand (pink box - states can use 4 days before late AF on box) 10mIU
    First Vue dip tests (poundland) - 20mIU
    One step midstream (ALDI) - 25mIU
    Clearblue - 25mIU
    Clearblue Digital - 50mIU
    First response early response - 12.5mIU
    Boots own brand - 25mIU/50mIU
    Sainsburys own - 15mIU
    Tesco own - 25mIU
    ASDA own - 25mIU
    CBD with conception indicator - 25mIU

    There is no such thing as a silly question, so please ask anything you are curious about. Many of us have 'been there done that' and many of our graduates still read this thread and are happy to offer advice when it is needed and relevant.

    As with everything deemed medical, we cannot offer medical advice, so please visit or call your GP if you have any concerns or questions. Getting a preconception check up is recommended and allows your GP to know that you're trying for a baby as well as identifying and rectifying any issues or problems that may interfere with a pregnancy before you conceive.
    Last edited by sexymouse; 19-06-2016 at 9:06 PM.
    Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.
    I married Moon 8/4/2011, baby boy born 26/9/2012, Poppy born 8/11/2015, rainbow baby boy born 11/2/2017
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    • Cheeky_Monkey
    • By Cheeky_Monkey 10th Mar 18, 12:57 PM
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    Congratulations selement. I'm very happy for you and your husband
    I used to be indecisive - now I'm not so sure
    • HappyLassie13
    • By HappyLassie13 10th Mar 18, 4:10 PM
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    AF has left, so please can I be moved into the If In doubt zone please
    • skimper
    • By skimper 10th Mar 18, 4:34 PM
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    Congratulations Selement!

    Can I be moved in to the if in doubt section please.
    • PrettyKittyKat
    • By PrettyKittyKat 10th Mar 18, 8:29 PM
    • 383 Posts
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    TTC Thread

    Two Week Wait (BFP Hopefuls)
    CD127 Nanyco
    CD57 CamelLady (40dpo)
    CD55 athensgeorgia
    CD44 PrettyKittyKat (23dpo)
    CD27 KatieBee123
    CD22 Toots14 (7dpo)
    CD20 NelliePie (6dpo)

    "If in doubt - BD" Zone
    CD49 SlothSocks
    CD21 Tryingin2018
    CD9 Skimper
    CD8 T4Taylor
    CD7 HappyLassie13

    "Wine and Chocolate" zone
    CD11 Celepie
    CD8 Rambosmum
    CD7 Zeni
    CD2 wifeforlife

    Those we haven't heard from in a while:

    When posting updates, can you please do them in Magenta so it's easy to spot. This thread is all about support, so remember to click thanks on as many posts as you can! It makes us all feel loved.

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    Please let me know if anything needs editing (including the zone you are in) and I will try to keep up. If you would like adding to the lists just let me know what CD day you are (the first day of your period is CD1).

    2018 Thread Graduates:
    Afoolandhermoney - 23/01/2018
    Selement !!!8211; 9/3/2018
    • PrettyKittyKat
    • By PrettyKittyKat 10th Mar 18, 8:35 PM
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    Selement What AMAZING news! I am so pleased for you. It also definitely gives me hope when I see BFP!!!8217;s! It is nice to hear how your husband reacted. Enjoy the next few days of this sinking in! And I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months.

    Wifeforlife !!!8211; welcome back!
    • KatieBee123
    • By KatieBee123 10th Mar 18, 10:30 PM
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    Congratulations selement xx
    • Tryingin2018
    • By Tryingin2018 10th Mar 18, 11:05 PM
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    1dpo today I believe. Won't stop one last go for luck tonight !!!55357;!!!56834; the wait begins...
    • KatieBee123
    • By KatieBee123 11th Mar 18, 10:39 AM
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    Can I be moved to cd1 please.

    AF has arrived on Mother!!!8217;s day. Was hoping for my BFP today. LOL
    How cruel. It feels like more of a kick in the teeth today than it would of any other. It wasn!!!8217;t supposed to arrive until Thursday.

    Hope your day hasn!!!8217;t started as !!!! as mine ladies xxx
    • thrift360
    • By thrift360 11th Mar 18, 2:55 PM
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    Hi all. I was an active member of this thread a while ago but disappeared - apologies. I've had a weird few months so far as fertility/conceiving is concerned. As I've mentioned previously, I have endometriosis. The "women's health specialist" at my GP suggested I have the depo provera injection to minimise the symptoms, although she knew I was trying to conceive, and neglected to inform me that fertility can take 18 months to return afterwards (my fault, though, for not researching properly). I had this in November. I have been bleeding and/or spotting ever since. I had follow-up appointment this week with my Surgeon who did my laparoscopy last year, and he has put me on two lots of 21 days on/7 days off courses of provera tablets which he said should regulate things, and following this he wants to see me again to possibly put me on clomid, although he has said I should have no problems conceiving given that my tubes are clear, and he said as I'm 28 I should not worry too much. Anyway, given the constant bleeding, husband and I have not partaken in much (any) BDing and I've been feeling very miserable and run down with it all, and really, really regret ever having that depo injection as it's well and truly messed things up. Sorry for the long post. I suppose it's a bit tricky for me to join in this thread properly, given that I have no proper "cycle" as such at the moment to determine where I'm at, but I am still ttc (or I will be, if I ever get a blooming chance!).

    Hope everyone is well, and congrats to those of you who have had BFPs!
    • Celepie
    • By Celepie 11th Mar 18, 3:26 PM
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    Ah, that's rotten thrift360. Fingers crossed your cycle regulates soon.

    Sorry about AF, KatieBee123. What a witch coming on Mother's Day too!

    Nothing to report here, but about to enter FW so can I be moved to if in doubt, BD, please?
    • thrift360
    • By thrift360 11th Mar 18, 3:52 PM
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    Thanks Celepie.

    Things aren't helped by the fact that my best friend has informed me that she's accidentally fallen pregnant by the bloke she's been seeing for a couple of months, and is going to have a termination next week. She's been sending me text messages about how horrible it is being pregnant etc, although she knows my situation and that I'm desperate to become pregnant. Not my place to judge or be bitter, obviously, but it does sting a bit when I've been with my husband for 12 years, ttc for a year, and had no joy, but I suppose that supports the theory that BFPs happen when you stop "trying", sometimes!
    • PrettyKittyKat
    • By PrettyKittyKat 11th Mar 18, 6:42 PM
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    TTC Thread

    Two Week Wait (BFP Hopefuls)
    CD128 Nanyco
    CD58 CamelLady (41dpo)
    CD56 athensgeorgia
    CD45 PrettyKittyKat (24dpo)
    CD23 Toots14 (8dpo)
    CD22 Tryingin2018 (2dpo)
    CD21 NelliePie (7dpo)

    "If in doubt - BD" Zone
    CD50 SlothSocks
    CD10 Skimper
    CD9 T4Taylor
    CD8 HappyLassie13
    CD11 Celepie

    "Wine and Chocolate" zone
    CD8 Rambosmum
    CD7 Zeni
    CD2 wifeforlife
    CD1 KatieBee123

    Those we haven't heard from in a while:

    When posting updates, can you please do them in Magenta so it's easy to spot. This thread is all about support, so remember to click thanks on as many posts as you can! It makes us all feel loved.

    For those posting on smartphones or tablets the code for magenta is
    ([ )COLOR="magenta"( ] )your text ( [ )/COLOR ( ] ) (lose the round bracket)

    Please let me know if anything needs editing (including the zone you are in) and I will try to keep up. If you would like adding to the lists just let me know what CD day you are (the first day of your period is CD1).

    2018 Thread Graduates:
    Afoolandhermoney - 23/01/2018
    Selement 9/3/2018
    • PrettyKittyKat
    • By PrettyKittyKat 11th Mar 18, 6:45 PM
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    Thrift360 it is nice to see you back posting. How frustrating for you about that treatment you had, but at least now you have been told everything looks good and the prospect of clomid is a positive thing. I can totally see why your friends situation would very difficult for you to sympathise with. It may be best to say to your friend similar to what you have said to us, that you are not judging and you understand her reasons for wanting a termination, however you are finding it difficult to support her and discuss it with her due to your desire to be pregnant and it taking longer than you though. I would also maybe say that you are only mentioning it so that it doesn't escalate and damage your friendship as you value it too much for that. As a friend that is aware that you are TTC I find it strange that she would talk to you about a termination, it is quite insensitive, but this may be because she is so confused in herself at the moment she can't think clearly.
    • Tryingin2018
    • By Tryingin2018 11th Mar 18, 9:19 PM
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    Can I be moved to 2ww please? :-)
    • HappyLassie13
    • By HappyLassie13 12th Mar 18, 7:59 AM
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    Welcome Back Thrift360

    A personal question here for all you lovely ladies, but after looking online (just to see what the norm is) how often do you try and BD through the fertile/ovulation window? There is a lot of different advice online, between, everyday, every other day, only once etc. Just wondered what you lovely lot thought.
    • Rambosmum
    • By Rambosmum 12th Mar 18, 8:36 AM
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    Congratulations Selement. Fab news.

    KatieBee123 sorry to hear about the witch.

    I'm having a debrief soon. So hopefully that'll give me some answers.

    Can I be moved to if in doubt please.
    • Munchkin84
    • By Munchkin84 12th Mar 18, 8:38 AM
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    Happylassie, we try for every other day.
    • Celepie
    • By Celepie 12th Mar 18, 9:57 AM
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    We're only on cycle 3 so aren't in a 'rhythm' yet but so far we've done every day in FW (although last month I got FW wrong, whoops). I think we'll probably settle for something approximating every other day as we go, although when I get a positive on OPK we do it that day and the next two just to be sure we cover it. And then we usually rest a day and have one last shot!
    • LavenderBee
    • By LavenderBee 12th Mar 18, 11:02 AM
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    Hi Thrift - just de-lurking to give you a virtual hug. I'm not much of a hugger (in real life or on here) - but good Lord, I am very cross for you that you were advised to have the depo jab to help your endo! Depo does stop periods if you have it recurrently, and I assume that was the logic they were using, but you're right in that it messes up your cycles a treat when you come off whether you've got it or not. I had one shot in 2016 at some point before TTC, with endo underlying, and it did me no good either (in fact I still remember having the most horrendous period on holiday with it, endo can trump these things!). I had a 14 day cycle when we were TTC at the start which I knew was pointless, had northisterone to try and even things out (which I'd had many times before when my cycles had got too close together thanks to hormonal contraception, now I know why!) and was at the point where it didn't do the trick anymore so had my lap then. I did catch 3 months afterwards, like you thankfully my tubes were clear of it, it was more that mine was all over my ligaments, no wonder it bloody hurt! I hope the clomid gives you some predictability - thankfully I didn't need it but I'm sure others can tell you a bit more about it.

    Oh and a little word to the wise, when (when, not if, think positive ) you do catch if it's been not-so-long since your lap, you can get more pain during pregnancy (because everything has already been fiddled with once). I spent a lot of time freaking out because it was painful I assumed that it was all going wrong - when actually your insides are likely still bearing some scars from having the endo burnt off, and now your uterus has to expand rapidly and move to a new position. Obviously take any pain concerns to a GP/midwife, but it was a while before someone explained that to me and I think I may have felt less anxiety if I'd known before. Ironically I had a 24 week appointment with a consultant (again because of endo, it's routine procedure ) who told me this too and explained what pain I may get because of the lap, and what pain not to write off - bit late by that point as the worst of it was over but nevermind!

    I'm also cross about your friend, seems incredibly insensitive to me. Though I'm always honest, it was the month I gave up hope and took a "what will be will be" approach that I caught, go figure.

    TTC with endo is rubbish, but it does happen, we just need a bit more time and sometimes help with creating the space in our cycle to let nature take its course. There was another poster on here who had graduated when I joined, with endo, now I've delurked too, so that's two of us

    Oh and congrats to selement too (since I only seem to come back here to rant!)
    • afoolandhermoney
    • By afoolandhermoney 12th Mar 18, 11:56 AM
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    Selement - thought I'd pop back on here to say congrats too - its funny how some months you try and try and then others its just the one go and that's all it takes (was exactly the same for us in January)
    I hear you about the momentary freak-out when you realise its really positive - did exactly the same, but apparently its quite normal and really its not surprising when you think that up to that point you've just been thinking "wouldn't it be lovely if..." and suddenly in a moment you are hit with "blinking-heck, we're *actually* having a baby!"
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