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    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 17th Mar 16, 5:23 PM
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    Waves and Smiles
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3
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    • 17th Mar 16, 5:23 PM
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3 17th Mar 16 at 5:23 PM
    This thread is a continuation of The Mental Health thread !!!8220;Here we can all be heard for a little while Part 2!!!8221;. The previous thread can be found here-

    I started the original thread when I was lonely and suffering with mental health issues and was lucky to find a wonderful group of amazing new friends who now mean the world to me. My name was Worried and Scared back then but with the help of everyone here I became Waves and Smiles. This thread is no longer just about me, it is about all of us and for anyone who needs mental health support, their carers and anyone who is interested in learning more. Sometimes we speak seriously, sometimes we offer gentle advice and a lot of the time we laugh together. Sometimes I write mini-novels about my experiences of living with complex mental illness. What is important is everyone here is there for each other. New posters are welcome to join in, or just lurk (we call them humming birds because they hover!) if they would prefer. This is a place without judgement or pressure, and a safe place for everyone. We try to keep abbreviations to a minimum but if there are some that you do not understand please ask.

    Sir Pugliet is our Good Mental Health pug! You may notice that he is mentioned from time to time, he is a little cuddly pug toy that was sent to me by a friend on the thread. He is something of a celebrity now!

    Hugs and warm handshakes, or finger squishes, whichever you prefer.

    Also, please take a look at the following links which offer great advice written by the lovely people at MSE!
    Last edited by Waves and Smiles; 17-05-2016 at 10:29 AM.
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    • onomatopoeia99
    • By onomatopoeia99 18th Sep 17, 11:24 AM
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    Ooh, it's all gone quiet here - hopefully that means everyone is OK!
    Originally posted by surveyqueenuk
    I'm still here and reading, though not a lot going on with me at the moment. My Italian evening class is restarting next month after an extended maternity break for the teacher, so looking forward to that
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    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 18th Sep 17, 12:49 PM
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    I've got one class starting this Wednesday and a community choir the same evening.

    The stitching and crafts class (also Wednesday) starts next week.
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • dekaspace
    • By dekaspace 18th Sep 17, 3:33 PM
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    Not sure if its a good thing but took a co codamol last night, whilst still a bit tired so to speak it was first night in 2 weeks where I was able to jump out of bed without blacking out attempting to get out of it
    • xXMessedUpXx
    • By xXMessedUpXx 18th Sep 17, 5:52 PM
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    Its my birthday in 2 weeks! Swain took me shopping the other day and i got some nice bits (including some lovely glitter eyeshadow).

    The autumn depressive spell has hit like bloody clockwork as usual though. Trying to ignore it (booking doctors appointment tomorrow though to be in the safe side). It goes back to several years ago when i was very depressed and planning stupid stuff to fall on my birthday (along the lines of was born then, made sense to die then), i now seem to get a depressive episode everytime this year. Its not fun but i'm muddling though.

    Not been put socially in nearly a year, so a little nervous for bithday plans (my best friends birthday is 7/10 and mine is 5/10 so we always have a joint party). Theres food and drinks planned. Hopefully i can hold it together and be social!
    "Life Is Like A Beautiful Melody Only The Lyrics Are Messed Up"
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    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 18th Sep 17, 7:55 PM
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    I'm going tp see the venue where I and the other performers are doing our 'things' for charity tomorrow.

    The 'do' is next week. I'm still fighting to concentrate on what to write for my 5 minutes. I've got a costume together.

    I've also signed up to FaceCloth and found a weight loss group run by a comedian/singer. It's made me realise I've still got 3 stone 7 pounds to lose to get down to my 'proper' weight.

    The meds for the ADHD should supress my appetite but, of course, I'm so used to eating when I'm not hungry, I haven't lost any weight since starting them.

    Still looking for a part time job that doesn't interfere with my courses. Keeping my eyes peeled.
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • dandy-candy
    • By dandy-candy 19th Sep 17, 8:55 AM
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    I booked a gym induction online yesterday, but when I turned up for the session at 9pm they said they never do evening sessions and the trainer finished at 6pm.
    They said I had to call today to rebook as they didn't know when I could be seen. I said whenever I phone they never answer, but he said to try, wouldn't give me a refund because it was too complicated, gave me a receipt saying I'd attended and when I left I realised he hadn't given me my membership card back.

    Very stressed. I was shaking with nerves when I got there, I wanted an evening induction so DH would be there, I'm worried when I call they won't answer and if I go he has marked that I attended and they might think I had my lesson so I won't be able to rebook without paying again? So many stress thoughts.

    DH says "you always imagine the worst. Wait and see what happens" but it's because I do seem to have things go wrong so much that now I expect it to go wrong. All part of anxiety/depression I suppose.

    Really stupid that their website takes bookings and payment for evening sessions when the staff finish at 6pm.


    Well I went to the gym to pick up my card and rebook the appointment, and they couldn't have been nicer. They've booked me in for tomorrow morning and even asked if I wanted to go in today for a free swim. DH was right as usual about me stressing and jumping the gun. Very happy it's all sorted.
    Last edited by dandy-candy; 19-09-2017 at 3:13 PM. Reason: To update
    • jobbingmusician
    • By jobbingmusician 20th Sep 17, 7:52 AM
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    dandy, if it helps about Waitrose - there's a facebook group (meant to be a funny group, but they do rather overdo the same joke about being so posh you send your butler to shop for you). Anyway, they have had BIG DISCUSSIONS about the cheapest way to get a free coffee. They seem to think it's buying a bag for 5p. I have pointed out that the cheapest way is actually to buy something you were going to buy anyway (ideally reduced )! I just thought you might like to know this is a 'thing' The page is called Overheard in Waitrose
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    • heartbreak_star
    • By heartbreak_star 20th Sep 17, 10:21 AM
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    Please send cuddles. I'm having an awful time in my own head at the moment.

    (New job is absolutely aces though )

    HBS x
    I believe in ordinary acts of bravery, in the courage that drives one person to stand up for another.

    • Izadora
    • By Izadora 20th Sep 17, 10:54 AM
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    ((((( HBS )))))
    I'm glad the new job's good and hopefully your head will start being kinder to you soon.

    Dandy, I'm pleased that everything got sorted with the gym. It's horrible when one person who probably shouldn't have a job dealing with the public worries you that everything to do with a place is going to be a struggle.
    • whitewing
    • By whitewing 20th Sep 17, 11:38 AM
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    Cuddles to all who need them.

    We made some flavoured gin for xmas so that is morphing nicely in a dark cupboard.

    I am sewing like mad, making the xmas stuff for littlewing. I am also eating less as my hands are busy so that is good.

    Got a couple of bargains in the charity shop today, including a cheap doll so that can be part of the present. Littlewing is very excited - she knows I am making something but doesn't know what. She asks what it is (but doesn't really want to know) and when can she have it. I said, maybe never if it doesn't work and I throw it in the bin. She was horrified and wants whatever it is, however awful it is, simply because I made it, and she'll like the colours anyway. Lovely little girl.
    When you find people who not only tolerate your quirks but celebrate them with glad cries of "Me too!" be sure to cherish them. Because these weirdos are your true family.
    • Juanita37
    • By Juanita37 20th Sep 17, 12:03 PM
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    I don't know if this is the right place to post
    I suffer with depression, insomnia and serve anxiety,it's getting so bad that I don't even go out for the important stuff now I. E doc run...weekly shopping and paying bills.
    I haven't gone to get this month's prescription yet as I can't face going out and have a phobia with talking to ppl on the phone.
    I'm so tired of all of this it seems like a never ending battle just to get through the day.
    Just dunno wot to do anymore
    • surveyqueenuk
    • By surveyqueenuk 20th Sep 17, 4:08 PM
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    OK Juanita, the first thing we need to do is get you your meds. Can someone else go? Can you email the pharmacy - the majority of them are contactable in this way. Many pharmacies deliver and are well used to people being unable to leave the house to get their meds. When I feel like carp, I tend to pop my scripts in v.early or v.late as there won't be anyone else there.

    Going forward, can you get your meds put on automatic repeat? Your chosen pharmacy can re-order them for you each month and can even bring them to the house if needed.

    Now, about the GP. Again, can someone else make you an appointment? Can you email the surgery for an appointment, just tell them what you have done here. Copy/paste even. Does your surgery have an electronic booking system? It's well worth signing up if they do - you don't have to speak to a soul.

    Shopping and bills - online if possible. Some supermarkets have introductory money-off offers for new registrations (Ocado is very good for this) so you could be MSE. Or splash out on some "naice" food.

    The most important thing is to get your prescription though, if you are running short. Then a docs appt because you can't go on like this can you? I don't know you from Adam but I do know you don't deserve to feel like this, nobody deserves to be imprisoned by anxiety.

    HBS ((( )))
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 20th Sep 17, 7:30 PM
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    Juanita, you could also email your doctor's surgery and tell them what's happening and how you're feeling.

    They may be willing to do a home visit in the circumstances.

    I do know that some pharmacies will deliver meds in some circumstances too, so you could ask them if that's possible.

    I really do understand how you're feeling.
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    • *max*
    • By *max* 20th Sep 17, 9:42 PM
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    Juanita, you could also email your doctor's surgery and tell them what's happening and how you're feeling.

    They may be willing to do a home visit in the circumstances.

    I do know that some pharmacies will deliver meds in some circumstances too, so you could ask them if that's possible.

    I really do understand how you're feeling.
    Originally posted by Pyxis
    I apologise for butting in, but this resonated with me, and I want to confirm that some pharmacies will pick up the prescription from the medical centre and deliver the meds to you. Mine does it, and it's brilliant. No charge for it either. I phone in to get a repeat prescription from my Dr too, so not even any need to go the surgery. It can be a literal lifesaver.
    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 21st Sep 17, 5:49 AM
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    I started a BSL Introduction course yesterday, sorted out a prescription for my new meds after the doctor made an error (the same error as last time ), went to a planning consultation about my neighbourhood, culminating in distributing leaflets about a neighbourhood meeting and having a long discussion with a shopkeeper about the state of the place and I joined a community choir in the evening.

    I got to bed very late and now I'm up and on a train to London for the second of two psychologist guided, market research group sessions for patients with certain conditions (not ADHD-PI) for which we've been promised expenses paid and a couple of hundred quid.

    Check me out. Neighbourhood activist.
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • whitewing
    • By whitewing 21st Sep 17, 6:58 AM
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    Welcome. I use pharmacy2u at the moment who post my meds out (once I'd confirmed that I have a prepayment prescription).

    It was a pain at first as it got messed up and their telephone helpline was a pain to get through to (but staff were polite), but I am glad I gave them a second chance - was sorely tempted not to - because it is brilliant now. Just reorder and it arrives in the post quicker than I used to get it from the local pharmacy.

    Going to have a sorting out day at work today, if I don't get interrupted, so that should be good, unless I find anything that I'd forgotten about....
    When you find people who not only tolerate your quirks but celebrate them with glad cries of "Me too!" be sure to cherish them. Because these weirdos are your true family.
    • Juanita37
    • By Juanita37 21st Sep 17, 9:43 AM
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    Thank u all for ur replies...I'll look into that today but I'm sure it's only available to the elderly or physically disabled in my area.
    It says a lot when a few strangers are more compassionate then family and friends!
    My heads just all over the place it's been a really difficult year since my son was permantly excluded from school. Since then he's had assessmentsome and the 'naughty boy' the school made Liam out to be turns out to be paranoid anxiety,social blindness, lack of social awareness and possible autism but they can't complete that assessment until he's back in a school.
    We are currently waiting to hear if he will be accepted into a specially adapted school as he really can't cope with th pressure of a main stream school.
    He's 12 now and I have tried my hardest for 9 years to get this seen as an issue but only this year and his meltdowns in school lead to the SEN assessments.
    Again thanks for all the replies and ((big)) for everyone !!!10084;
    • dandy-candy
    • By dandy-candy 21st Sep 17, 9:52 AM
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    Hugs to HBS x

    Welcome Juanita Definitely get mess sorted first, you can't tackle anything until that's done. Good luck getting your son into the special school, has the Dr or council offered him any psychological help/therapy?
    • Juanita37
    • By Juanita37 21st Sep 17, 10:06 AM
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    Hi dandy-candy

    No! I don't know how to go about it either. His main problem atm is being isolated. He's at the age he wants to go out on his own but his complete lack of safety and the way he handles most social situations I can't allow that and he has no 'friends' from his previous school due to his meltdowns being scary and violent.
    I feel like I'm failing him massively but really don't know who to turn to or what support groups may be available if any.
    We got a family dog recently and it's helped Liam no end says he's his best friend !!!9786;
    Sorry about all of this I'm having a few bad days I think and probably posting in the wrong place but the title stood out to me
    • Izadora
    • By Izadora 21st Sep 17, 11:18 AM
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    Sorry about all of this I'm having a few bad days I think and probably posting in the wrong place but the title stood out to me
    Originally posted by Juanita37
    There's nothing to apologise for and it sounds like here's exactly where you need to be posting.

    Sorry that I have absolutely no practical advice but I hope that things improve for you soon.
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