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    • greent
    • By greent 30th Dec 15, 12:31 PM
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    KonMari 2016 - The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up
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    • 30th Dec 15, 12:31 PM
    KonMari 2016 - The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up 30th Dec 15 at 12:31 PM
    Link to 2015: thread:

    'The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up' by Marie Kondo is a home organisation/ decluttering book like no other. Instead of looking for things to discard, Marie Kondo says we should instead look for things we wish to keep - using the 'does it spark joy?' method. Ultimately this means that everything in our homes should spark joy for us You might not think that everyday and seemingly mundane items can't spark joy - but you need to think around it a little. So whilst an iron may not spark joy, wearing ironed clothes may. A cheese grater may not spark joy, but your child may really like grated cheese in their wraps - which brings joy.

    Marie Kondo also says that this should be done quickly and properly. This may take six months to achieve, but tidying properly should mean doing it just once. This is against the often-seen decluttering advice of doing 15 minutes a day, or a drawer/ shelf a day.

    MK suggests an order as to what to sort through first and subsequently. This is important - she starts with items which many people do not have an emotional attachment to (clothes) and builds up to sentimental items (photos) so that a person's joy-meter can be developed along the way.

    Many MSE-ers have been following the KM method (kondo-ing) successfully. It fits into the MSE ethos by changing your mindse - you will no longer want to shop mindlessly for something 'just because' or 'it'll do' - you will want to buy only joyful items, thereby often saving ££ on random, impulse purchases.
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    • GreyQueen
    • By GreyQueen 9th Oct 16, 8:45 AM
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    Thank you, all.

    As a family, we are readying ourselves to absorb the contents of one two-bedroom bungalow, two small outbuildings and two sheds, one large one very small, into our respective homes. With some overflow to charitable donation and some items, regrettably, having died in storage.

    Definately deceased is one mostly plywood small COD-wardrobe combo, which was bought by my parents in the 1970s (secondhand) and which eventually ended up with Nan. The bits which aren't ply are woodworm fodder. We will ensure that the mirror part of this unit is homed/ recycled.

    Cousin and her hubby are confident that they can take the big shed, plus the corrugated iron roof of the little lean-to shed, and make use of them at their home. Some garden and general tools have also gone. The lawn mower has been promised to a neighbour, once we've finished clearing the bungalow and the garden has been given its last tidy-round.

    Small appliances are being given here and there within the family, although most of them cannot leave the home until the clearout has finished. Clothing and footwear are being shared. There are some slightly humourous finds already, such as a pair of 'new' slippers, totally unworn, belonging to my late Grandad, who died 17 years ago. They are now going to be used by his son, my Dad.

    Of the paperwork, some items need careful consideration as they relate to family history and have been in Nan's keeping since the death of her own parents in the early 1970s. Others are things which don't require much thought, such as old brochures and such like, which can hit the recycling stream without angst.

    Plans are afoot to get the older family photos copied and shared among the extended family and, importantly, labelled. Whilst the people who know these faces and on which occasions the photos were taken are still here to tell us who they are.

    The bulk of the furniture cannot be absorbed into other people's homes and will be offered to charity, once having eliminated such items as the worm-eaten COD-wardrobe combi.

    Fortunately for all of us, this is not a hoarded home. Nan was not materialistic and didn't like a lot of Stuff. Yes, there are knick-knacks and ornaments, many of them gifts from family over the years, but they are a minor part of the whole.

    As I was saying to my parents recently, every single thing has to be taken out of there in the next few weeks, whether we sort it immediately or sort it slowly. Countless decisions will have to be made. What to do with towels and teatowels and bedlinen? The crockery and saucepans? The bigger appliances like the washer and fridge-freezer and cooker?

    The cacti on the windowsills and the planters outside. The bird table and bird feeders, the buckets and mops and all the stuff of a household.

    One blessing is that Aunt lives about 50 yards away and has a completely empty garage, so some things can rest in there whilst the final stages of the sorting/ rehoming project are completed. A life-long villager, she knows a lot of people and is able to get some things to suitable homes by asking around on the grapevine.

    As with all council tenancies, the landlord will have to serve notice on the executors, which is a 4-week notice period, then the keys will go back to them and the property can be allocated out to someone else in need of a home.

    We'll still visit this little cul-de-sac, as other relations live on it, but it will be beyond strange to see other people living there. There are pictures of me and brother and cousins on that lawn in our prams, with Mum and Aunt as young women in their twenties, and then another generation, and then another, the babies of the early1960s now in their fifties.

    I hope that the new people will love that garden, and will relish the lilacs by the gable end, which were truly glorious in 2016, but I won't miss raking moss out of that lawn..........
    Every increased possession loads us with a new weariness.
    John Ruskin
    Veni, vidi, eradici
    (I came, I saw, I kondo'd)

    • camelot1001
    • By camelot1001 9th Oct 16, 9:22 AM
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    Just popping out of long-term lurkdom to offer my condolences GQ.
    • Igamogam
    • By Igamogam 9th Oct 16, 9:28 AM
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    As a family, we are readying ourselves to absorb the contents of one two-bedroom bungalow, two small outbuildings and two sheds, one large one very small, into our respective homes. With some overflow to charitable donation and some items, regrettably, having died in storage.

    I hope that the new people will love that garden, and will relish the lilacs by the gable end, which were truly glorious in 2016, but I won't miss raking moss out of that lawn..........
    Originally posted by GreyQueen
    I know this might sound a little odd GQ but what a beautifully written and considered account of how your Nan's wordlies are going to be dealt with It is lovely to hear that you and your relatives will deal with the house in a respectful way. It is so easy in our time constrained possession obsessed lives just to call a clearance company in or worst have a skip outside the house. I am sure your Nan will approve and the environment will be grateful.
    Be the change you want to see -with apologies to Gandhi
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    • GreyQueen
    • By GreyQueen 9th Oct 16, 9:35 AM
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    Just popping out of long-term lurkdom to offer my condolences GQ.
    Originally posted by camelot1001
    Thank you.

    But please post as well as lurk, we'd love to hear from you.

    I'm easing into the day with a few gallons of tea before heading up to the lottie. Will probably meet up with a lottie pal (arrangements tbc by text) and perhaps have another bonfire on his allotment.

    I love bonfires and *buffs nails* am quite the accomplished arsonist. Have matches, will travel.

    Life goes on, as the cliche has it. Nan's garden has been cultivated by my Dad as if it were an allotment, keeping her and Aunt in fresh veggies, plus some overspill crops for neighbours. When I garden on my allotment, the broad and runner beans I grow are saved seed from that garden, and every cheery orange or yellow pot marigold is the descendant of seeds saved from the ones growing in that garden.

    I reckon I will have another chazzer donation bag in a week or so, and definately have a large carrier bag of stuff for their rag collection. Given the smallness of this space, that can't stay here much longer.

    Righty, kettle on, then I must get washed and dressed and make a move. Lots of garden tidying and soil prep, it's possible that the organic brewery may have made a delivery of spent barley grains and hops up to the site. If so, I am a woman with some serious wheelbarrowing to do.
    Every increased possession loads us with a new weariness.
    John Ruskin
    Veni, vidi, eradici
    (I came, I saw, I kondo'd)

    • silvasava
    • By silvasava 9th Oct 16, 10:16 AM
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    My condolences to you and your family GQ. Just logged in after a 2 week holiday and this is the first page I've read - very sobering and how thoughtful you and your family are with your Nan's home.
    I need to check my garden today and see what a couple of weeks of neglect have wrought! I have unpacked, got the cases stacked inside each other like russian dolls along with the things like plug adaptors and things we only use on holiday stowed within. first load of washing on and 3 piles waiting - ah the joys of being home
    Small victories - sometimes they are all you can hope for but sometimes they are all you need - be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle
    • GreyQueen
    • By GreyQueen 9th Oct 16, 10:49 AM
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    Nan was a very careful and considered person.

    We're not a rich family, just working-class country folk, my generation being the first off the land. It's habitual to look after stuff, and to pass it around within the family whn no longer needed.

    There will be some things which cannot be homed within households which are already mature. Most of us don't have a bed gap or a wardrobe gap, and we tend to live in pretty small places (the not-rich usually do) so it's not as if we can just warehouse unused furniture and large appliances for Justin.

    Nan had been very good about sorting stuff out, even in her latter years when the physical handling of stuff needed to be done by others, and the decisions were made by her.

    One thing which surfaced in the past few years was a dish which turned out to be one of a set of three matching dishes, which had got separated between the sisters when their parental home was cleared. The set was re-united after nearly 40 years and is with one of their daughters.

    As many families do, we also have a relatively recent example of lifelong estrangement due to a row over inheritance (Nan's brother from his siblings in the early 1970s) which we never want to see repeated. So, it's important that no one feel left out or disrespected in the process of breaking up Nan's household.

    Also, for reasons already mentioned (the many relations living within a few doors of the bungalow), clearing it will be a public event, to a degree. There will almost certainly have to be a skip for some items, which are not in fit condition to donate and which are not safely-burnable without contaminating the garden soil.

    It's likely that some furniture cannot be rehomed within the family, or even within the wider circle of village life (villagers being more affluent than of yore) and which will be offered to charities like BHF.
    Every increased possession loads us with a new weariness.
    John Ruskin
    Veni, vidi, eradici
    (I came, I saw, I kondo'd)

    • Fen1
    • By Fen1 9th Oct 16, 11:35 AM
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    My condolences, GQ, to you and your family.
    • Floss
    • By Floss 9th Oct 16, 11:39 AM
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    GQ do your employers have any charity links for start-up packs for newly housed homeless or refugee families, or maybe a local refuge?
    • hebwood
    • By hebwood 9th Oct 16, 11:44 AM
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    GQ, my condolences to you and your family. Your considered replies have my admiration.


    Very pleased with KMing - large tip run including various items from the shed - nasty half empty tins of very ood paint, liquids, old unusable flower baskets, old waterproof (that now isn't) covers; Old satnav stuff gone to a good friend who can use it; old unused labels/old paper/scrap paper etc., from under my
    my desk. Was going to get rid of old fitted sheets that now don't, but unfortunately they have got mixed up with the current ones (doh!). Have to re-check at a later date.

    Take care and make sure you have some joy everyone.
    • Icey77
    • By Icey77 9th Oct 16, 12:35 PM
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    My condolences GQ, I'm glad to hear your Nan passed peacefully and calmly. Your comment about about coming out of lurkdom and staying to post has come at a point where I feel ready to join in and post about my KM-ing.

    Yesterday 250 listed items (many bundles) went to the NCT branch Nearly New Sale that I am Treasurer for. This was 2 enormous tartan laundry bags of clothes from my DD and DS and 3 big boxes outgrown toys & equipment. Only 1 bag of clothes and 1 box of came back and they will go back into the loft for next years autumn/winter sale. I call that a win ... Oh and I made £150 odd as well after commission

    I also sold a lovely Jojo Maman coat via FB this morning which is great as I don't have to pay commission for a more expensive item that would go for half of what I sold it for if it had gone to the NNS. I'm also about to list some safety gates that have leaned against my bedroom wall for the last 6 months, and some in the shed for several years. A good wipe down and they will be off to prevent other small children falling down the stairs

    I have more bags waiting to go to DD's school for their spare uniforms, these were given to me by a neighbour but were too small for DD.

    Stuff is continually going out and less stuff coming in but I'm winning the war in general!
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    • Granny28
    • By Granny28 9th Oct 16, 12:52 PM
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    Another long-time lurker here wanting to add my condolences to you, GQ, on the loss of your nan. xx
    • PollyWollyDoodle
    • By PollyWollyDoodle 9th Oct 16, 1:01 PM
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    Sorry to hear of your loss, GQ but a long life lived well and a peaceful passing - I hope that amongst the sadness, you and your family can celebrate your nan's life.
    "Inconceivable". "You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means."
    • GreyQueen
    • By GreyQueen 9th Oct 16, 1:24 PM
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    GQ do your employers have any charity links for start-up packs for newly housed homeless or refugee families, or maybe a local refuge?
    Originally posted by Floss
    My Nan lived 50 miles and another county away, so whatever we have wouldn't be applicable and the logistics of moving the stuff across the region wouldn't be possible. However, I have got the details of several local-to-her-national charities (if that statement makes any kind of sense) which can take large stuff.

    We will see what the family don't want/ need and take it from there. Nan was an extremely charitable person in life, so it's fitting that should continue in death.

    As you may have gathered, I am back from the allotment - rain stopped play. Quite a lot of rain, actually.

    Am drying out but hid from the worst of it in the lottie shed, where I used my imprisonment to do some tidying and decluttering. The inevitable large spider was disturbed in the process, plus I sharpened the grass shears and oiled the blades and put them away.

    Did a few things whilst up there and harvested some beetroots (cooking now) and some radishes (for tea). Currently plans are of the kondo-ish nature, the bedroom is a bit of a hell-hole and needs a sort out. I think I am going to have to cache some of the yarn mountain in the bike shed, as it is disrupting the airflow around my bed.

    My bedroom is only just a little bigger than a standard double-bed, so there is very little room and thus very little air-flow. Given that side of the block faces towards the river, it tends to be a bit cooler and moister over there. A buildings surveyor who was round here once assured me that the proximity of even the smallish river makes a difference to damp risk.
    Every increased possession loads us with a new weariness.
    John Ruskin
    Veni, vidi, eradici
    (I came, I saw, I kondo'd)

    • Slinky
    • By Slinky 9th Oct 16, 1:39 PM
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    So sorry to hear about your Nan GreyQueen, she sounds like the sort of person who people were lucky to know.


    I've just Kondod the checklist my accountant needed for doing my tax return for last year. It's been one of those nasty tasks nagging away in the back of my mind so I'm glad to get that one ticked off.

    Have got 2 other work related tasks still to complete but the garden could do with some attention and the day is slipping fast away.
    • Icey77
    • By Icey77 9th Oct 16, 2:02 PM
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    The floodgates have opened, there's no stopping me now!
    Just done a dump run with bits pulled out of the shed.

    All this was created by the fact that DH balanced a car roof box on top of other bits & pieces in the shed which proceeded to shift as soon as you unlocked the padlock on the door and slid across and smashed the window. That meant I had to shift out all the bits & pieces (inc car roof box) to clear the broken glass, tape up and knock out the remaining glass and tape some plastic sheeting around the window frame to keep the worst of the weather out. We reckon the shed was built along with the house in the early 60's - former local authority semi. Rock solid this thing is, even if the glass isn't!

    Soooo, out with the broken glass went a leather biker jacket that is so old it stood up by itself, a broken mop, a piece of skirting board and other bits of detritus from the floor of the shed. This is where 2 more safety gates were hiding so I have 4 to sell. 1 more remains on DS bedroom door as we've only just taken the side of his cot off and don't want him wandering in the dark.

    Speaking of DS, he's waking up - he fell sleep whilst at the dump so we went for a little drive and I'm enjoying a cuppa in a lay by with the car radio on

    Edited to add that the cuppa was free as DH had completed a McDonalds hot drink loyalty card whatsit and gave it to me
    Last edited by Icey77; 09-10-2016 at 2:04 PM.
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    • MMF007
    • By MMF007 9th Oct 16, 2:46 PM
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    Go Icey!

    re-visited wardrobe this morning. Not planned but it called to me, as happens with MK magic!

    out have gone;
    3 suit jackets - too big
    one bulky cardy - bulky yet short. Not good, never will look right on me!
    a black dress that fits now but doesn't spark any joy so I'll never wear it.

    All in CS bag to take tomorrow.

    Brought back into play;
    A pair of fitted trousers that look great half way through weight loss project. Plan is for them to be interim wear until weight decreases further, but I reckon they'll look good for a while.
    2 thick fleeces, now fitting comfortably.
    A great quality waterproof coat that also now fits really well.

    DH complained that I was releasing one jacket that cost a fair amt. You can probably imagine how cross THAT made me!
    I pointed out that it is going because I have lost 2 stone so it is well worth the 'loss' in money spent, which was, after all, a sunk cost anyway. Keeping the item does not mean you didn't spend the money in the first place

    Then DH said, perhaps to try and regain lost Brownie points, how good the multi purpose room is looking It is though , if I say so myself!!

    While doing this random kondo of wardrobe contents (not much in my side now, am biding my time to re-stock when the time is right), I decided to choose outfit for lunch with friends on Weds. I want to show off the weight

    loss of course! Went through a few permutations but am happy with final choice. A slightly- shorter-than-usual-for-me (ie, just on the knee) dark blue, fitted, cord skirt (Sainsbob's £12 in the sale), a pretty fitted top with same dark blue in it but a lighter background, my Favourite denim coloured wedges and pale grey tights. So although there is plenty of weight still to lose I feel good!

    Have to set up my stepper again too because I have ordered a new rucksack with my birthday money ( old one gone to tip, beyond natural life), and want to improve walking fitness ready for the hills next Spring. Just about to re-arrange tiny space in kitchen- diner to accommodate steppr. Yep, it's a bit of an odd set-up but if it keeps me stepping on dark winter nights it'll be worth the odd funny look by visitors to the kitchen!

    Last edited by MMF007; 09-10-2016 at 5:12 PM. Reason: typo / spelling!
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    • Slinky
    • By Slinky 9th Oct 16, 4:20 PM
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    Well the garden is lighter by the rammed in contents of the green wheelie bin, trimmed a tree back which didn't get done last year and has gone for it big time this year. Have probably got less than half off what we need to but the bin's as full as we can manage, even just chopping the branches down really small and ramming them all in. Another weekend's work awaits with the rest of the tree.
    • Karmacat
    • By Karmacat 9th Oct 16, 4:27 PM
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    I'm a single person and I live alone. I use teabags, for me and for when anybody visits. So why do I have three teapots? A fourth went years ago, one of those one pot with cup underneath things ... Okay. Time to get a grip.

    There's a promotional Felix teapot, because I bought so much catfood at one time, thats going to go on the local facebook selling page, along with 4 bone china mugs from the same source

    There's a green Denby teapot, bought as a present, with matching teaset-for-four. Thats a keeper.

    And there's my yellow teapot, a classic round shape. Thats the one I've used, in the past. I really like that teapot, but I can't "afford" the space it needs. This is agony! This is why Marie Kondo has made her fortune, no other concept would have forced me to look at this teapot **sobs quietly**.

    I think I have to keep it on the "goodbye and thank you" pile for quite a while yet.
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    • GreyQueen
    • By GreyQueen 9th Oct 16, 4:44 PM
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    I feel your pain, Karmakat, I too had a classic round yellow teapot which I *loved*. And which had a broken-and-stuck-together lid for several years while I searched for an identical teapot secondhand as a replacement.

    It was like Goldilocks and her porridge, teapots were too big or too small, or to logo'd or too.......... something. Eventually, I released the teapot after replacing it with a stainless steel one of about the same size.

    Just been up to the central library to return three books, including one completed in the last hour. Miracle upon miracle, that's a left a mere two library books on the premises.

    Have stuck a bag of summat up on freegle to see if there are any takers for that category of item, and half half-a$$edly been pulling a few things about. Energy isn't great today, unsurprisingly, but I will have a soak in a bubble bath and an early night and will feel better in the morning.

    Keep on keeping on, my lovelies.
    Every increased possession loads us with a new weariness.
    John Ruskin
    Veni, vidi, eradici
    (I came, I saw, I kondo'd)

    • shanks77
    • By shanks77 9th Oct 16, 4:54 PM
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    So sorry for your loss GQ my thoughts are with you and yours at this sad time xx

    Welcome to the delurkers looking forward to hearing how you get on xx
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