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    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 8th Sep 15, 3:28 PM
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    Waves and Smiles
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2
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    • 8th Sep 15, 3:28 PM
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2 8th Sep 15 at 3:28 PM
    This thread is a continuation of The Mental Health thread “Here we can all be heard for a little while”. The previous thread can be found here-

    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5249557&page=267

    I started the original thread when I was lonely and suffering with mental health issues and was lucky to find a wonderful group of amazing new friends who now mean the world to me. My name was Worried and Scared back then but with the help of everyone here I became Waves and Smiles. This thread is no longer just about me, it is about all of us and for anyone who needs mental health support, their carers and anyone who is interested in learning more. Sometimes we speak seriously, sometimes we offer gentle advice and a lot of the time we laugh together. Sometimes I write mini-novels about my experiences of living with complex mental illness. What is important is everyone here is there for each other. New posters are welcome to join in, or just lurk (we call them humming birds because they hover!) if they would prefer. This is a place without judgement or pressure, and a safe place for everyone. We try to keep abbreviations to a minimum but if there are some that you do not understand please ask.

    Sir Pugliet is our Good Mental Health pug! You may notice that he is mentioned from time to time, he is a little cuddly pug toy that was sent to me by a friend on the thread. He is something of a celebrity now!


    Hugs and warm handshakes, or finger squishes, whichever you prefer.
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    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 8th Sep 15, 3:30 PM
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    • 8th Sep 15, 3:30 PM
    The Thread Etiquette.
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    • 8th Sep 15, 3:30 PM
    (The thread etiquette will be reposted every ten or so pages.)
    ......................................... ......................................... .................
    Here is the suggested THREAD ETIQUETTE. By following this etiquette, all posters, whether new or existing, will feel safe, unpressured and respected..

    !!!But first...............please be assured........................................... .......................******It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. (See below about penguins). In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.******


    - This is a thread for support. We have discovered some good friends on here, but we promise always to welcome and include new people, and not to be cliquey.

    - People may make suggestions to help each other, and might even ask if the suggestions were helpful or have been carried out, but we'll really try not to nag each other or put too much pressure on.

    - The normal board rules about sexism, racism, homophobia etc. apply, but if we are careful we should be able to discuss almost anything without breaching board rules - so far we have discussed subjects ranging from child abuse to incontinence!

    -If someone thinks that too much pressure is being applied, they can post the trigger word PENGUIN and flag up the fact that they believe there's a potential for someone feeling too nagged to do something. ANYONE could post PENGUIN if they felt there was a danger that suggestions were being enforced too much.

    Similarly, if they want to discuss something that might be a trigger for some people, then posting PENGUIN would be a warning that what follows in the whiteout might be a trigger.



    - So, if you think something might be a PENGUIN, please post something like the green bit which follows.

    "Possible penguin about.........(Type of Trigger)" The trigger might be:- child abuse, marital abuse/violence, paranoia, stalkers, death, etc. (It's important to indicate the type of trigger, so that people can avoid reading it if they need to).

    Then, when you post, repost the word PENGUIN above the discussion. Then post the penguiny bit in white! And the phrase END OF PENGUIN when you have finished.

    It will look like this. You will be able to see the white text if you highlight it or if you quote it, (so please don't 'quote' a post containing a penguin onto the thread!)
    (Harmless example follows here):-
    PENGUIN

    This is a penguin. A nasty, crotch biting penguin (CBP).
    It isn't really! So you can look
    . https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozGTv0hxhpc[/url]


    END OF PENGUIN

    (NB on a tenth-page repost of the etiquette, you can see these penguiny words because they are white against the green 'quote' background. On a normal post, they will be white against white, and so won't be seen on the thread.)

    IMPORTANT: It has been ascertained that some posters to this thread have found that there are certain subjects which act as triggers, precipitating a worsening of their condition.
    To protect these posters, you are respectfully requested NOT to discuss these subjects on this thread:-

    Religion. (Please note: it is recognised that everyone is entitled to their beliefs, and we respect those beliefs. It is only because of the fact that religion does act as a trigger for some posters, that we exclude it from discussion.)
    N.B. Please don't even mention the name of the religion.

    The afterlife. The reason for this is explained in this thread by one poster, and there will be others for whom this is a trigger.

    We ask and thank you for your co-operation in this matter.


    ......................................... ......................................... ............

    !!!So, to reiterate..............******It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.******

    - More suggestions please.............We stress that we are suggesting that we AGREE some Thread Etiquette to HELP people who might feel anxious about posting, we are not trying to IMPOSE rules, just relating this to facilitating groups, so that people feel safe and able to participate as fully as they can.

    ...............Thread Motto...............
    Nos Omnes Ad Audiendum Parumper
    Last edited by Pyxis; 04-03-2016 at 9:00 AM.
    (I just lurve spiders! )
    INFJ(Turbulent).

    Her Greenliness Baroness Pyxis of the Alphabetty, Pinnacle of Peadom and Official Brainbox
    Founder Member: 'WIMPS ANONYMOUS' and 'VICTIMS of the RANDOM HEDGEHOG'
    I'm in a clique! It's a clique of one! It's a unique clique!
    • xXMessedUpXx
    • By xXMessedUpXx 8th Sep 15, 3:32 PM
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    • 8th Sep 15, 3:32 PM
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    • 8th Sep 15, 3:32 PM
    Yay new thread!!!!!!


    I bring cake to celebrate

    "Life Is Like A Beautiful Melody Only The Lyrics Are Messed Up"
    To see the rainbow you need both the sun and the rain to make its colours appear
    Weight loss attempt 23002 7lbs/127lbs lost
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 8th Sep 15, 3:33 PM
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    • 8th Sep 15, 3:33 PM
    Katy's baby is due any minute! We're 'betting' on which day!
    • #4
    • 8th Sep 15, 3:33 PM
    Escapee break-out poll!


    MONDAY.........Katy, Georgiegirl, RjHammond
    TUESDAY........Flybaby, WaS, 7DW
    WEDNESDAY...Pyxis, Mummyroysof3, Solarjunkie, Birdie
    THURSDAY.....Codemonkey, Oldestgnome, Mellymoo
    FRIDAY..........Geminilady, xXMessedUpXx, Elsien, BeardedOne
    SATURDAY......JobbingMusician, Indiekid
    SUNDAY..........Whitewing, HeartbreakStar
    Last edited by Pyxis; 08-09-2015 at 3:35 PM.
    (I just lurve spiders! )
    INFJ(Turbulent).

    Her Greenliness Baroness Pyxis of the Alphabetty, Pinnacle of Peadom and Official Brainbox
    Founder Member: 'WIMPS ANONYMOUS' and 'VICTIMS of the RANDOM HEDGEHOG'
    I'm in a clique! It's a clique of one! It's a unique clique!
    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 8th Sep 15, 3:34 PM
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    • 8th Sep 15, 3:34 PM
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    • 8th Sep 15, 3:34 PM
    Yay cake! And well done Pyxis, that was fast! I can't believe we are on the fourth thread now, wow we chat a lot! (And I love that).
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 8th Sep 15, 3:36 PM
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    • 8th Sep 15, 3:36 PM
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    • 8th Sep 15, 3:36 PM
    Smart cake, MessedUp!



    WaS, I was poised!
    My stylus had the copy of the etiquette on its tip and was hovering, waiting to paste!
    (I just lurve spiders! )
    INFJ(Turbulent).

    Her Greenliness Baroness Pyxis of the Alphabetty, Pinnacle of Peadom and Official Brainbox
    Founder Member: 'WIMPS ANONYMOUS' and 'VICTIMS of the RANDOM HEDGEHOG'
    I'm in a clique! It's a clique of one! It's a unique clique!
    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 8th Sep 15, 3:39 PM
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    • 8th Sep 15, 3:39 PM
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    • 8th Sep 15, 3:39 PM
    Hahahaha! Really well done, Pyxis. It's perfect to have the etiquette right after the first post!
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 8th Sep 15, 3:41 PM
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    • 8th Sep 15, 3:41 PM
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    • 8th Sep 15, 3:41 PM
    Hahahaha! Really well done, Pyxis. It's perfect to have the etiquette right after the first post!
    Originally posted by Waves and Smiles
    As long as it's on the first page, it's so much easier to repost. In the last thread it was on the second page, which doesn't sound like much of a big deal, but it's very easy when it's on the first page!
    (I just lurve spiders! )
    INFJ(Turbulent).

    Her Greenliness Baroness Pyxis of the Alphabetty, Pinnacle of Peadom and Official Brainbox
    Founder Member: 'WIMPS ANONYMOUS' and 'VICTIMS of the RANDOM HEDGEHOG'
    I'm in a clique! It's a clique of one! It's a unique clique!
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 8th Sep 15, 3:43 PM
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    Last edited by Pyxis; 08-09-2015 at 3:50 PM.
    (I just lurve spiders! )
    INFJ(Turbulent).

    Her Greenliness Baroness Pyxis of the Alphabetty, Pinnacle of Peadom and Official Brainbox
    Founder Member: 'WIMPS ANONYMOUS' and 'VICTIMS of the RANDOM HEDGEHOG'
    I'm in a clique! It's a clique of one! It's a unique clique!
    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 8th Sep 15, 3:51 PM
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    Hahahaha! Perfect again! I have asked Glad to close the previous thread now.

    I want to extend a special Hello to anyone who reads this and meets us for the first time. We often get new people popping in when a new thread is created so please be assured that everyone is welcome here and can say as little or as much as they wish. You are among friends, there is no judgement or pressure. A simple hi is enough, no one expects long posts the first time you write (although they are also very welcome). Just jump straight in, we would all love to meet you!
    • Pippin12
    • By Pippin12 8th Sep 15, 5:16 PM
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    Hi Waves and Smiles and the other thread participants. I'm a newbie just dropping in to say 'hello'. I've been diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder and severe anxiety. Coming off a mood stabiliser at the moment and feeling quite vulnerable. Hi to all.
    • Wellyboots6
    • By Wellyboots6 8th Sep 15, 5:22 PM
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    Hi Pippin! Welcome to the shiny new thread, and welcome to anyone else wondering whether to post a hello.

    That cake looks brilliant MU! Imagine the e numbers in it, I bet you could run to the moon and back after a slice of that!
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 8th Sep 15, 5:23 PM
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    Pyxis
    Hi Waves and Smiles and the other thread participants. I'm a newbie just dropping in to say 'hello'. I've been diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder and severe anxiety. Coming off a mood stabiliser at the moment and feeling quite vulnerable. Hi to all.
    Originally posted by Pippin12
    Hello Pippin! You're very welcome!

    We've got a duvet fort in here, stocked with calorie-free and gluten-free biscuits, and lots of non-allergenic dogs, cats, and other sundry pets! You can hop into into it whenever you feel like it!
    (I just lurve spiders! )
    INFJ(Turbulent).

    Her Greenliness Baroness Pyxis of the Alphabetty, Pinnacle of Peadom and Official Brainbox
    Founder Member: 'WIMPS ANONYMOUS' and 'VICTIMS of the RANDOM HEDGEHOG'
    I'm in a clique! It's a clique of one! It's a unique clique!
    • Pippin12
    • By Pippin12 8th Sep 15, 5:26 PM
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    Thank you for the welcome! The duvet fort sounds fab - especially all the cuddly pets inside!
    • dragonette
    • By dragonette 8th Sep 15, 7:33 PM
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    *yawns* that one hour rest turned into a 3 hour nap! Not sure if you saw my post on the last thread WaS, but I'm glad you are feeling less alone with it. Certainly I can't remember before my dissociation pathway was formed (yay!)

    *waves to all* This is an incredibly lovely group, feel free to join us
    Starting again on my own this time!! - Defective flylady!
    • Flybaby
    • By Flybaby 8th Sep 15, 7:40 PM
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    Flybaby
    Yay - new thread......................erm................... .why do we have to have new thread?


    Welcome Pippin


    C'mon escapee - still a few hours of Tuesday left!


    Ach......I did so well today - first day I have had three proper home cooked meals in nearly a year and then hubby comes home with huge pack of pork scratchings.......yum diddy dum diddy tum tum tum!


    {squishes} for all
    • geminilady
    • By geminilady 8th Sep 15, 7:44 PM
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    Hi Pippin welcome I am cold tonight so will snuggle up in the duvet forte dreading the winter am always cold
    • dragonette
    • By dragonette 8th Sep 15, 7:47 PM
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    dragonette
    The forum like there to be a new thread after about 5000 posts. We got a bit over
    Starting again on my own this time!! - Defective flylady!
    • calleyw
    • By calleyw 8th Sep 15, 7:54 PM
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    calleyw
    Evening my Lovelies,

    A shiny new thread

    Whitewing did you managed to teach little whitewing to handstand and cartwheel?

    Well today went and saw minions and had a steak from spoons.

    It was so funny in the cinema. One of the trailers was for kung fu panda 3. And it shows two pandas talking saying one had lost his son and one had lost his father. They say to each other good luck in finding them. And walk away from each other.

    Anyway the little one a few seats behind us I reckon he was no older than 4 piped up. But that his father and that his son. I thought it was so cute and just laughed.

    Its like my nephew he is 4 in a few months time. Anyway he will say to my mother Grandma where did you get those shoes from. Grandma I like the flowers on your dress

    Yours

    Calley
    Hope for everything and expect nothing!!!

    Good enough is almost always good enough -Prof Barry Schwartz

    If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try -Seth Godin
    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 8th Sep 15, 7:59 PM
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    Waves and Smiles
    Hello Pippin! Welcome, it is lovely to meet you! Medication changes are always hard, do try to be kind to yourself and plan some treats while you are still withdrawing.

    Alien Plant Invasion Update- I decided to repot my remaining plants including the cacti with two babies. Two? Two?! Four!!! There are four babies now who had all grown such long roots that they were hanging out of the pot! I didn't have enough pots so babies are currently sharing their beds until I can get some more. I am quite pleased it is almost time for them to sleep for the winter before I am taken over!

    On that note I nearly gave WaSp a heart attack earlier. He decided to be helpful while I was repotting and feed the plants, plant food. This is their going to sleep season, not their eat and grow season! I may have shrieked in a panic when I saw him holding the bottle. This is why he kills plants...

    Ps. I now own 17 house plants. If I go missing they have eaten me.
    Last edited by Waves and Smiles; 08-09-2015 at 8:30 PM.
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