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    • sparkle_monkey
    • By sparkle_monkey 17th Jul 07, 7:24 AM
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    I want a boyfriend! Dating debtfree style?
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    • 17th Jul 07, 7:24 AM
    I want a boyfriend! Dating debtfree style? 17th Jul 07 at 7:24 AM
    Where do you find men when you're on a budget and live in London? I suppose I could hang around in public places and flutter my eyelashes at hot men (I met my last boyfriend in the supermarket!) but I'm a bit shy and not good at approaching random men. Any ideas - funny or serious - would be great to get me out of my single pit.
    Where did you meet your partner? How do they help or hinder you on your debtfree journey?
    Why doesn't Martin provide a debtfree hook up service?!
    ok, I'll start, I'm 28 female, 5ft 7, slim brunette, looking for a man to share my passion for outdoor sports, camping, late night dancing, overindulgence in cheese, travel and hungover fryups.

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    • Browntoa
    • By Browntoa 17th Jul 07, 7:38 AM
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    • 17th Jul 07, 7:38 AM
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    • 17th Jul 07, 7:38 AM
    this thread has some info

    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=390134&highlight=dating
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    • Karmacat
    • By Karmacat 17th Jul 07, 7:40 AM
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    • 17th Jul 07, 7:40 AM
    Hi sparklemonkey!
    Ooookay, I'm not quite ready to post on here with my details just yet, but..... great idea I'll be watching hopefully!
    Downsized and paid off mortgage 2010
    Retired August 2016
    Paid off French mortgage September 2018
  • dazzashazza
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    • 17th Jul 07, 7:47 AM
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    • 17th Jul 07, 7:47 AM
    Hi sparklemonkey !

    I met my present partner on datingdirect.com .... I'd had a couple of dates and she was the third. We've been together 3 years now and we are very happy, both living together in Northampton !

    There's a few sites out there and provided you are careful you could meet Mr Right. Just use your noddle when meeting guys.....tell a friend where you are meeting your date, take a mobile and meet in a public place. Also, exchange emails and texts for a week or so before you arrange to meet . The lady in my life was a Police Officer when i met her and she did all of the above . Luckily Im not an axe murderer lol !!

    Good luck !
    • Crown
    • By Crown 17th Jul 07, 8:06 AM
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    • 17th Jul 07, 8:06 AM
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    • 17th Jul 07, 8:06 AM
    Hi, Trust me when I say that there are single men in London but I have personally found it very difficult to have any type of relationship as I just cant justify the expense of socialising, Meals, Drinks ect.

    I also think I would bore the pants of anyone now as I am now obsessed with becoming Debt Free and will merrily talk about the subject for hours on end if giving half a opportunity. At present im not really looking for full on relationship but it would be great to just actually get out and communicate with other people even if it wasnt on a intimate basis.

    Is there any hope for DFW Nerds! I do hope so
    Official DFW Nerd Club - Member no. 297 - Proud To Be Dealing With My Debts
    • Penny2myName
    • By Penny2myName 17th Jul 07, 10:35 AM
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    • 17th Jul 07, 10:35 AM
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    • 17th Jul 07, 10:35 AM
    I think the orange wednesdays could be a good dfw style for dating. Another thing is musuems and art galleries that are free entry. ok so I am a nerd.
    19th March 2007 LBM5,969.63 1st January 2018 5960.18
    Student Loan 22244.00 From 2009-12
    Challenges: 2018 Frugal living challenge, January NSD Challenge 2018.
  • rayday2
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    • 17th Jul 07, 10:45 AM
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    • 17th Jul 07, 10:45 AM
    I met my current husband accidentally on a music forum!

    I was on the music forum (ended up moderating it!) for fun and he was killing time at work and we got chatting, lead to MSN he came down to meet me and then it got expensive we got married!

    Lousy tip there - but if you do meet someone getting married in Gretna Green is very economical
    • shell_girl
    • By shell_girl 17th Jul 07, 10:53 AM
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    • 17th Jul 07, 10:53 AM
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    • 17th Jul 07, 10:53 AM
    Easy! Get a bar job in a pub you like. You don't have to go nuts and exhaust yourself doing two jobs- most pubs are ALWAYS looking for staff and will work around you in terms of how many shifts you want a week. I work in a bar to make ends meet 3 nights a week. Every bloke in the place at some point has to speak to you- you don't have to do ANY approaching at all. Plus they automatically think you're a goddess because you are the provider of beer... It really gives you confidence as well.
    I picked the pub where I work based on the fact that I had a SERIOUS crush on this bloke and it was his local... He's now my boyfriend of 18 months...
    • bobbadog
    • By bobbadog 17th Jul 07, 10:57 AM
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    • 17th Jul 07, 10:57 AM
    I'm from Northampton, as is my OH, and we met at a gig... then got talking online, then I got drunk, nicked him a very-rare-and-not-yet-on-sale-album-by-his-favourite-band from my work, popped it in his back pocket at a club and snogged him. Hurrah!

    We live in London now. Friends of friends and pubs are my favourites. And the workplace, of course


    • Skint_Catt
    • By Skint_Catt 17th Jul 07, 11:02 AM
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    www.freedating.com

    The clue is in the title. I met my Andy on there and we've been together 9 months, leaving for holiday tomorrow for 2.5 weeks and will be moving in together when we get back.

    Good luck!
  • Rout
    How about websites like Facebook? I dont use it to meet people for relationships but have met back up with loads of people I haven't seen in years, schoolfriends etc..
    LBM August 2005

    Total Debt August 2005 = 37,497

    Current Debt Nov 2007 = 15,168

    • xgingerx
    • By xgingerx 17th Jul 07, 11:28 AM
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    Hi Rout, got no advice but just wanted to wish u all the luck in the world, I split up from my wife of 9 years and now in a shed load of debt, partly my fault for going along with what she wanted, bit of a spendaholic , with any luck youll meet some hot bloke who's LOADED

    other than that keep putting a 1 lucky dip on the lottery.

    Seriously , Take Care I am a strong believer in not trying too hard trying to get someone and when u meet the right person you will know and in my limited experiance its when u least expect it.

    Now bars are smoke free, you could work in a nice enviroment and meet lots of people while getting paid for it

    Let us know how u get on

    Bye x
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    • misscutiepie1984
    • By misscutiepie1984 17th Jul 07, 11:29 AM
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    i met my by on here, was not looking for one at all but nice bonus............ been together for 6 months now
    Official DFW Nerd number 227
    Proud to be dealing with my debts!!!!
    • misscutiepie1984
    • By misscutiepie1984 17th Jul 07, 11:39 AM
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    ((((((((((((((bump))))))))))))))
    Official DFW Nerd number 227
    Proud to be dealing with my debts!!!!
  • steve700
    I met my last girlfriend on 'match.com' - We have just recently seperated after 18 months but still good mates.

    £70 for 6 months and 6 months free if you don't meet the person of your dreams.

    Helena Christensen wasn't listed, alas, but I got 2nd best

    Who I hope to soon be my next girlfriend, has actually lived around the corner from me for 8 years.

    I've seen her about and thought WOW, and 6 weeks ago she put a note through my door asking if I was single.................!!
    Last edited by steve700; 17-07-2007 at 11:58 AM.
    • immoral_angeluk
    • By immoral_angeluk 17th Jul 07, 11:44 AM
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    I met my husband on what used to be yahoo chat!
    Total 'Failed Business' Debt 29,043
    Que sera, sera. <3
    • Storm
    • By Storm 17th Jul 07, 11:54 AM
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    Storm
    In terms of initially meeting someone - just keep your eyes open! A friend of mine met her future hubby on the bus, my sister met hers in church of all places!

    Look around for free or cheap groups interested in a hobby or interest of yours - I've made loads of mates over the years through singing, am dram, hiking etc - and there's been a couple of relationships in there too.

    My personal favourite is through friends though, and if you work on increasing your social circle in general you will eventually meet some cute guys!
    Total Debt 13th Sept 2006 (exc student loan): 6240.06
    O/D 1 1250 O/D 2 100 Next a/c 313.55@ 26.49% Mum 130 HSBC 4446.51@15.75%M&S 580.15@ 4.9%
    Total Debt 30th April 2008: 0 100% paid off!

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  • Adrasteia01
    I met my husband on the IRC undernet back in 1996/7 (#x-files chat room).

    Chat rooms are a good place to get to know people (before you meet them in person), although they may not be local. My husband was in Northern Ireland and I was in Australia. But it worked out, and we both ended up in the Republic of Ireland. We've been together for 9 yrs and married for 5 this year.
  • steve700
    I'm from Northampton, as is my OH, and we met at a gig... then got talking online, then I got drunk, nicked him a very-rare-and-not-yet-on-sale-album-by-his-favourite-band from my work, popped it in his back pocket at a club and snogged him. Hurrah!
    Originally posted by bobbadog

    So crime does pay..................
    • bobbadog
    • By bobbadog 17th Jul 07, 12:11 PM
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    bobbadog
    So crime does pay..................
    Originally posted by steve700
    Yes Awful isn't it x


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