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    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 21st Apr 14, 12:12 AM
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    talk me down please
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    • 21st Apr 14, 12:12 AM
    talk me down please 21st Apr 14 at 12:12 AM
    Ok 10 years ago me and OH took MIL and Aunty away the plan was during this break we would invite em to the wedding.
    Before we could they stormed off and refused to answer any of my OHs calls.
    OH tried to get them to talk didn't happen and the wedding went ahead.
    Eventually OH and MIL are reconciled 2 years on another argument is provoked eventually reconciled then a big bust up about her not being at our wedding then reconciled rinse and repeat.
    MIL has been diagnosed with terminal cancer we have been ensuring she has company food etc (regular visits) I went to her appointment with her last Fri then last Sat OH goes around to see her and the wedding row was provoked again she went in for an op Mon telling OHs sister the auntie nephews etc to not tell my OH she was in or the ward or when the op was.
    OH is upset so I get the hospital info so at least we can find out how she is.
    We went to see her at the hospital on Fri aft and discovered shed been discharged in the morning.
    Still not called OH no contact nothing.
    I am livid my OH has been beside themselves and deeply upset (which is the intention) she can't even allow people to say she is ok.
    So how do I keep my OH on a nice even keel and stop myself from telling her off?
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    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 27th Jul 18, 3:34 PM
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    Lordy! Lordy!
    You'll have job offers coming out of your ears, Melly.

    Love the hair colour.

    I've just had my 'past-shoulder-length' hair cut very short - maybe an inch-and-a-half on the top.
    I put a colour on - it's 'intense copper' and I like it.
    I may try 'mango' next.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 28th Jul 18, 7:31 PM
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    Had a wobble
    So it's less than im worth and what they tried to Get the agency to look for (you don't get NVQ level 5 and 7 years experience mainly in extremely hazardous sites for 160 a day)Would be money coming in though.

    Then I remembered that they wanted to pay that and were told that you don't get what they want for thst so they were sneaky and that's not somewhere I would want to work
    Last edited by mellymoo74; 28-07-2018 at 8:13 PM. Reason: Spelling
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 1st Aug 18, 12:07 PM
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    Got second interview woohoo
    Between me and one other person
    This place was lovely
    Mick taken by gatestaff
    15 min walk from the house
    Just ace
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 11th Aug 18, 2:24 PM
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    Still waiting for 2nd interview
    Have got an interview on Thursday for somewhere a mate works so yay.

    Managed to get OH to understand he needs to be looking at the positive
    So he can't breathe as well, he CAN breathe, so sometimes it's difficult to eat, we thought he'd be on a bag at one stage.

    Seems to have helped

    I am having a missing my dad day, no reason why, not any anniversary could just do with a no nonsense love I think.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 18th Aug 18, 4:31 PM
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    Didn't go to Thurs interview OH chose Thurs to be up and in the way.
    He had a meltdown and I had a hissy fit
    Have the second interview on Tuesday though and an interview for a part time job next week.
    • elsien
    • By elsien 21st Aug 18, 12:10 AM
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    Good luck for tomorrow, melly.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 21st Aug 18, 8:37 AM
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    Yes, Melly, hope the interview goes really well today.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 21st Aug 18, 4:47 PM
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    Thanks both
    Was a 90 minute grilling
    Will know next week
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 23rd Aug 18, 11:59 AM
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    As I thought it's a no

    I'm too generalist lol
    Next
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 23rd Aug 18, 12:39 PM
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    Which interview was that, Melly?
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 23rd Aug 18, 3:05 PM
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    90 minute grilling one
    Today's i left after waiting for HR for 55 mins
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 18th Oct 18, 1:04 PM
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    Was going to let this die but PIP assessment questions included such gems as
    'how often do your family visit'
    'so you understand that you use money to buy things in a shop's
    And
    'do you know how to use your mobile?'

    Oh and the expletive housing are trying to wriggle out of us moving.
    The road is going ahead so with OH lungs as they are that will kill him.

    All an all hacked off
    Last edited by mellymoo74; 18-10-2018 at 2:18 PM.
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 19th Oct 18, 12:38 PM
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    Hi Melly
    So sorry to hear that things are not working out.

    Why have the council changed their minds?
    It's just not fair messing you about.

    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 19th Oct 18, 1:04 PM
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    They're trying to say that there would be a 24 month increase in waiting list between March and April.
    Have raised it as a complaint as the ceo gave me the ammunition incase they did this.
    He couldn't cope with the demolition of the school he won't cope with the directly outside of our front door and all of our windows having works going on
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 20th Oct 18, 4:16 PM
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    Small relapse due to pressure.

    OH has had a couple of exacerbations this means he can't walk (cant breathe) and is very fatigued.

    Help is none existent, (why I laughed at the family visit question, plus your sister visiting is different to a mate, which is different from someone you don't know) mental health wise OH slid back though it's worse than before the rupture.

    Positives
    Er I know I'm strong, he knows he's loved and I have a good idea who my friends are.

    Beautifying for the first time in weeks as I know this will improve my mood.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 20th Oct 18, 7:49 PM
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    Today I have had enough

    Don't worry to much of a sense of responsibility to do anything but really need everything to do one for a bit
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 21st Oct 18, 11:31 AM
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    Someone tried to cheer me up with a present, she has 3 bells time for a new one
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 21st Oct 18, 12:38 PM
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    As part of my attempt at positive thought have a porky pic.

    I ate the last two days not much but more than haribo/Nothing so go me

    • elsien
    • By elsien 21st Oct 18, 12:45 PM
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    It's a positive start melly. Go you.
    May not be the right time to ask, but did you and OH ever look into a Care Act assessment? It could give you a personal budget to source help that works for you rather than having to rely on the possibly unreliable current services.

    Princess is looking very alert. I am about to venture forth with Gitdog on a bull terrier walk. Not feeling very enthused (he's got indigestion and is drooping about like a wet weekend) but working on the basis that a bit of sunshine will perk me up a bit. And dogs to jump on will cheer him up.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 21st Oct 18, 12:46 PM
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    Anyone know how to upload vids? I have some Pied Piper ones of me, 2 dogs, 4 cats and associated local children.
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