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    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 21st Apr 14, 12:12 AM
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    mellymoo74
    talk me down please
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    • 21st Apr 14, 12:12 AM
    talk me down please 21st Apr 14 at 12:12 AM
    Ok 10 years ago me and OH took MIL and Aunty away the plan was during this break we would invite em to the wedding.
    Before we could they stormed off and refused to answer any of my OHs calls.
    OH tried to get them to talk didn't happen and the wedding went ahead.
    Eventually OH and MIL are reconciled 2 years on another argument is provoked eventually reconciled then a big bust up about her not being at our wedding then reconciled rinse and repeat.
    MIL has been diagnosed with terminal cancer we have been ensuring she has company food etc (regular visits) I went to her appointment with her last Fri then last Sat OH goes around to see her and the wedding row was provoked again she went in for an op Mon telling OHs sister the auntie nephews etc to not tell my OH she was in or the ward or when the op was.
    OH is upset so I get the hospital info so at least we can find out how she is.
    We went to see her at the hospital on Fri aft and discovered shed been discharged in the morning.
    Still not called OH no contact nothing.
    I am livid my OH has been beside themselves and deeply upset (which is the intention) she can't even allow people to say she is ok.
    So how do I keep my OH on a nice even keel and stop myself from telling her off?
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    • elsien
    • By elsien 28th Feb 17, 8:12 AM
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    elsien
    Is it the wind? Parent was ready to string Gitdog up when storm Doris was happening.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 28th Feb 17, 9:28 AM
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    Boo is being nasty which is the wind I think
    Pickle is being very very very naughty
    Cuddling me to death whenever she sees me
    But cheeky
    • tunathe cat
    • By tunathe cat 28th Feb 17, 10:29 AM
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    thanks for reporting back on duty. yuk to abscess yeah to furby cuddles.

    knitting in corner or when at medical appointment for hubby .

    have two emergency consultant appointments due this week secretary rang to say need to see urgently........ neuro surgeon on thursday at oxford.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 28th Feb 17, 4:35 PM
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    This is what's going on with pickles

    http://www.catster.com/lifestyle/7-symptoms-feline-spring-fever-cat-behavior

    Laurs as well probably (though I may kill him)
    • tesuhoha
    • By tesuhoha 28th Feb 17, 5:18 PM
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    My Bengal cat Cyd comes tearing into the room at superspeed. I have never seen her run so fast. She jumps up at the window, jumps straight down again and runs out of the room at superspeed. She keeps running round the house howling ow wow wow. My other cat is spending all her waking hours on the windowsill chirping away at the birds. She asks me 5 times a day to let her out. I open the door, she sniffs the air, decides its too cold and walks away.
    The forest would be very silent if no birds sang except for the birds that sang the best

    The best kept secret is an open secret.

    A vacuum is nature's default state.
    • tunathe cat
    • By tunathe cat 7th Jul 17, 11:43 PM
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    Hi Mel
    miss the furby photos
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 8th Jul 17, 6:24 AM
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    I need to sort out a new 3rd party host
    Stupid photo bucket.

    How's you A?
    better update

    So
    OH ruptured his oesophagus on 28th April
    Mortality rate is extreme. Basically if its not operated on within 12 hours you have a less than 50% change of survival even with medical intervention.

    He was in Intensive Care for 31 days
    Lots of muscle wastage
    Currently dealing with the madness from dying (I knew of twice and was actually there for one) he died a couple of times during surgery as well have since found out.
    ITU also sends people mad, the belief you are being held hostage is common well worth reading up on is fascinating.

    His mental health made stuff more difficult mainly because the medica professionals didn't start hearing me until his death I was present for.

    He was booted out 3 weeks ago
    Open wounds
    Limited mobility
    No care plan
    Just me.
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 8th Jul 17, 9:18 AM
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    Hi Melly
    Lovely to hear from you, I do think about you and how you are doing.
    I noticed you were posting on another thread but didn't want to intrude in case you thought I was stalking you.

    What dreadful news about your OH.
    He sounds very lucky to be here but it must be so stressful for you.
    No help sounds so wrong (morally).
    I hope someone comes along with practical advice for you.

    Take care.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 8th Jul 17, 9:42 AM
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    Don't be silly Poll you have been on my two main threads not stalking.

    He is
    Surgeon admitted he didn't think he would be.

    OH remembered the death I was there for the other night so needed calming down.
    • geminilady
    • By geminilady 8th Jul 17, 10:40 AM
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    I need to sort out a new 3rd party host
    Stupid photo bucket.

    How's you A?
    better update

    So
    OH ruptured his oesophagus on 28th April
    Mortality rate is extreme. Basically if its not operated on within 12 hours you have a less than 50% change of survival even with medical intervention.

    He was in Intensive Care for 31 days
    Lots of muscle wastage
    Currently dealing with the madness from dying (I knew of twice and was actually there for one) he died a couple of times during surgery as well have since found out.
    ITU also sends people mad, the belief you are being held hostage is common well worth reading up on is fascinating.

    His mental health made stuff more difficult mainly because the medica professionals didn't start hearing me until his death I was present for.

    He was booted out 3 weeks ago
    Open wounds
    Limited mobility
    No care plan
    Just me.
    Originally posted by mellymoo74
    ITU sent my mum mad after open heart surgery she was convinced she was being held hostage and being experimented on.Very hard to see someone you love like that it took me ages to convince her it was a normal hospital.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 8th Jul 17, 12:28 PM
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    They forget that's normal too.
    Yep hostage on a plane or ship cos of the beeps normal it wasn't until he accused me of asking them to turn him off I read into it
    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 8th Jul 17, 1:48 PM
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    Sorry to add to the hilarity, but your inbox is full mellymoo.

    You might want to delete the Flickr photo as your name is visible.... sorry.
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 8th Jul 17, 3:44 PM
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    Ta Ginger
    Stupid photo bucket changing policy
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 9th Jul 17, 6:18 PM
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    Any ideas for 3rd party pic hosting?
    Flickr is clearly not private
    Am at a loss And have tons of ace pic's.

    Kevin Son of Tom is a scrappy little sod, he does come in for me to clean his war wounds though lol

    No beautification for me.
    OH is having trouble breathing (his lungs were damaged, sitting in and breathing in stomach acid does that) and he's jot coping with the heat.
    He told me to go anyway but as he collapsed whilst standing up last night (or would have if I hadn't been there) that's a no.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 10th Jul 17, 12:20 AM
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    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 10th Jul 17, 12:23 AM
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    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 10th Jul 17, 12:32 AM
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    • tunathe cat
    • By tunathe cat 11th Jul 17, 10:12 AM
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    photos so cute xx

    have you had any community help ? try via gp practice or local council for help with hubby- I used our local carers who sorted care out from local council when they said no to help . community care arranged within 4 hours of local carers intervening! .

    Though nothing is straight forward when you need a little extra help!

    Silly question time you taking care of your self....... of course not you will be way down the list of tasks ! Mel wish I was nearer to you.

    Sending positive thoughts and energy to you
    Andrea
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 11th Jul 17, 10:42 AM
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    I need to speak to GP am grabbing rest when I can
    Also gotta sort this place out as have visitors tomorrow
    OH has chosen to be up and sat in chair when I could do with him being out of the way
    Never mind I will get shopping done and sleep instead xxxx

    I will be fine A you know that
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 11th Jul 17, 7:06 PM
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    Kevin has an open wound on his cheek
    Clearly another abscess luckily started bathing it yesterday so it will be OK.

    One of the stitches keeping the feeding tube in came out last night
    Spoke to GP who went mad that I am on my own doing this. We don't think it will be a problem though.

    Apparently it can reburst when the drains come out so I think that's why its September before that op

    Failed to do anything today
    Did get a humidifier on amazon prime should help OH lungs
    And some pretty plants for me.

    Today I have fallen over a couple of times and forgotten Froos name lol am now on Prozac instead of Sertraline so think its that
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