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    • becca0417
    • By becca0417 10th Feb 14, 7:07 PM
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    MSE Pregnancy Club 28
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    • 10th Feb 14, 7:07 PM
    MSE Pregnancy Club 28 10th Feb 14 at 7:07 PM
    MSE Pregnancy Club 28

    Official MoneySavingExpert.com Insert:

    What's it about?

    Back in July 2006 Bailey started this thread to help all pregnant MoneySavers and their partners save on anything pregnancy-related plus give each other moral support. It's been hugely popular and now has a long list of pregnant mothers-to-be.

    Now it's not just for those that are pregnant but also those trying to conceive and MoneySavers that have probably already given birth and yet are probably too tired to let everyone know.

    What should you do?

    As well as being a great source of tips, baby-related bargains spotted, mutual support and help MoneySavers here have also gradually built up a list, adding themselves to one of these categories (the last one, people are moved to for obvious reasons!):

    EDD (Estimated due date if you're pregnant)
    TTC (trying to conceive if you're not) we now have 2 seperate threads for people TTC - 'Trying for a Baby' and 'Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)'
    Birth List
    Probably given birth but too worn out to log on list

    If you want to add yourself to the list follow these steps:

    Click on the link at the top of this page that says "Last" (it'll take you to the last page of the discussion)
    Scroll down until you find the message with the very latest copy of the list in (if you use one further up the discussion other peoples' changes after that will be lost)
    Copy that (highlight it and click control+c)
    Click reply at the bottom of the thread to open a screen where you can past it (click control+p)
    Add yourself to the list then click save
    And don't feel shy. Introduce yourself, say hello and ask a question if you need to.

    Plus, if you're thinking of how to cut down on nappy costs remember to have a read of the Nappy MoneySaving article too and for later down the line if you need childcare first read the Childcare Vouchers article.

    Also please don't forget that this is a public forum and anyone could be reading it. Don't let this put you off discussing anything personal, just please be aware that the people posting on the thread may not be the only ones reading (it may just be that these people, aka lurkers, are too shy to post).


    If you're new to the Forum it can look scattergun but read down and remember it's a conversation, starting with first post, scrolling forward for the latest. To reply you'll need to join the Forum but it's free to do.


    This is a continuation of this thread which will be closed due to it's length.
    Last edited by MSE Andrea; 08-09-2014 at 11:47 AM.
    First baby due 3/3/14 - Team Yellow! Our little girl born 25/2/14
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    • Bosscout
    • By Bosscout 13th Jul 18, 9:53 PM
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    Hi!
    Yeah, we have the small cot and the pushchair/carrycot in what will be the nursery - furniture is arriving this weekend though, which needs to go precisely where those two things are right now! Argh! (It's also my OH's office, so I can't completely fill it...)

    I work for a tiny firm, and I'm the second in command...Broke it to my boss today that I still accrue holiday when I'm on mat leave and he was NOT happy. But it's not like I make the rules! And he'll be getting 103% or whatever of my SMP...he calmed down after a while!

    I am genuinely worried about being off for so long though...when his wife first found out I was pregnant her response (to me, right in front of him) was 'How's he going to manage without you?' I wasn't sure how to answer! I've been there 10 yrs....just running the workshop, doing all the day-to-day stuff, sorting out everyone's problems and questions and ordering things we need...Also I'm the only one who ever knows where anything lives in our millions of cupboards and draws and toolboxes
    • afoolandhermoney
    • By afoolandhermoney 16th Jul 18, 3:21 PM
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    oh gosh, I bet he wasn't (though as you say, you don't make the rules), can you train anyone else up to cover some of the really important stuff while you're off?

    my company have given me the option of having my accrued annual leave paid off at the end of my maternity (and I'm sure the money would come in handy), but I'm also allowed to carry over up to 5 days to the next leave year as long as I take them within a month (so I plan on using them to do part weeks on my return). If you're only getting SMP, could you use the accrued holiday in place of some of the unpaid weeks? It might mean "officially" going back early, but then you'd have some extra time off with pay and it might be easier for your boss to cope with the idea - though I'd keep it to yourself as a possible idea and not set it in stone yet in case you decide you want to stay home as long as possible - I still don't know exactly how I'll feel about being off, and from friend's experiences the "career girls" are often surprised by how much they like being full time mums whereas some of those that everyone - including them - expected to stay home as long as possible were back within weeks as they got bored!
    • Bosscout
    • By Bosscout 17th Jul 18, 11:06 PM
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    It's not really training more just...ten years of knowledge of how everything works. Every bit of equipment's little quirks, the odd noises that mean x is about to happen... all stuff you don't really know you know, until you need it! Plus every client's likes and dislikes of exactly how we make work for them...

    I'm hoping to go back part time at first, but could use some of the holiday pay for that. Being old (37 tomorrow!) and this being our first (probably only) kid we're sort of embarrassingly well prepared, financially. I didn't want to be pressured to go back too soon, so I saved up an entire year's wages! Moneysaver....that's me
    • afoolandhermoney
    • By afoolandhermoney 18th Jul 18, 9:01 AM
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    Boss - you're not old (you're a year younger than me) but you're a lot more prepared than I am (didn't manage to save anything before we caught, but are at least out of the overdraft / credit card debt, will be able to re-fix the mortgage in September for hopefully the same as we pay now, and friends and family have been so generous with gifting us stuff already that baby's not costing as much as I had thought it would). This is our first too and I'm well aware it could well be our only one (though I'd much rather have two - even if I have found that I dislike being pregnant)
    • Bosscout
    • By Bosscout 19th Jul 18, 7:26 PM
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    Aw, I hope you get two then!

    And yeah...I hope I'm as organised as I feel! Family have been very restrained so far in terms of gifts (we did ask that they ask us, not just buy us random things.) I'm hoping I can get them to chip in on cloth nappies, stuff like that...but who knows. Not like they need to buy us anything!

    I'm having a pretty easy pregnancy - except for this heat!! I am so done with it I'm glad I'm going to give birth in winter, all those first few months of snuggles and baby-wearing without being a sweaty mess will be nice!
    • afoolandhermoney
    • By afoolandhermoney 24th Jul 18, 8:31 AM
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    Bosscout - thank you, and thank you for reminding me of an upside to being pregnant over the summer, I can't wait to snuggle the little one and at least in October it should be a reasonable temperature.

    Even family haven't needed to buy much as so many friends have given us second hand stuff - my mum is getting itchy about it though, I think she's been looking forward to shopping for grandchild #1 a lot! Still, as they don't need to spend on any of the big stuff she's happy to chip in for more of the little stuff
    • Bosscout
    • By Bosscout 24th Jul 18, 9:19 PM
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    We got a baby bouncer for free today from a friend! So now I think all we need is nappies and more clothes...but not too many more

    Terrifying seeing people on my birth groups on FB giving birth already - teeny weeny little premature babies, but thankfully all doing really well so far. Just brings home how big Sproglet is inside me when you see babies younger than him already out and being cared for!
    • afoolandhermoney
    • By afoolandhermoney 25th Jul 18, 8:10 AM
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    Wow, that is scary! But glad they are all doing ok. A friend had her youngest last year at barely over 6 months and he's doing great, he does look small and his development is behind what his birthday would suggest (but is bang on for where his birthday should have been). Incredible how far medicine has come in terms of caring for preemies.

    Saw the midwife yesterday and despite all the comments from friends, family and total strangers about how big my bump is my measurement (first one) is below the 10th centile, so its off for another scan to check out how baby is doing. Trying not to worry too much (I was a small baby, and so was my sister, and we're OK, so I probably just have a small baby - or the measurements are way off) but hoping I don't have to wait long (as the hospital claim never to have received the consultant referral MW sent in April).

    Had a good chat with the mental health team health visitor too (although I've been feeling a lot better lately anyway it was good to talk through how I'd been; I have her number now in case I get down again and have arranged to see her again in a month and we'll look at some of the more practical things that have been worrying me about how I'll cope (like how on earth you wash and change a baby)
    • Bosscout
    • By Bosscout 26th Jul 18, 6:36 PM
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    Took my first trip to triage today, at 27weeks exactly. Sproglet decided not to move much. I think he's flipped over again, having done a few full flips now, so is now kicking me right in the crotch!

    Anyway, everyone was lovely, both on the phone and when I was there. Got put on a heart trace for 40 mins. In the glorious bliss of aircon with a fan and a nurse who kept bringing me water. I could've stayed all day....

    Sadly once I knew all was well I had to go to work! Which was boiling hot and hideous. But at least Sproglet is okay

    Afoolandhermoney - good luck with the scans. Hope it shows all is well. And I'm glad the mental health visitor was helpful!
    • afoolandhermoney
    • By afoolandhermoney 30th Jul 18, 8:57 AM
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    Bosscout - its terrifying when you don't feel them isn't it. Glad all was well, but boo that you had to go back to work. Hope Sproglet doesn't give you any more scares

    Still no date for my growth scan and weighing myself yesterday I've plateaued in the last week (possibly due to not eating much on Wednesday and only eating a bowl of thin soup on Thursday as I now have a summer cold to add to the fun - appetite is back again though so hopefully do a bit better this week).
    • Bosscout
    • By Bosscout 31st Jul 18, 10:36 AM
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    Afoolandhermoney - I was honestly more anxious about phoning them up and them telling me not to be silly! Because I had still felt him occasionally, just nothing like he had been. But everyone was so nice.

    And then yesterday I just felt like I hit a brick wall at work. I almost didn't go in, but we've got people off on holiday and I really felt he pressure. But by lunchtime I called the MW helpline and the lady was so nice to me I just burst into tears. She told me to go home, and checked I'd be okay talking to my employer and everything. Told me to rest for 24 hrs. I mean, I haven't changed anything, workwise, apart from heavy lifting. And I think this was a wake up call. I'll talk to my boss when I go back tomorrow. Might ask to use up my remaining holiday this yr by going onto a 4 day week or something. It's easy to forget that growing a little life inside you is tiring on top of everything else.

    I hope your scan date comes through soon. What week are you supposed to be scanned? Or is it just ASAP? I have to book each scan as I leave the last, or call into the scan dept. after seeing the consultant. As much as I hate phoning people, it's kind of nice doing it all yourself so you know it's been done!

    Hope you feel better soon. xx
    • Toots14
    • By Toots14 5th Aug 18, 10:36 AM
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    Hey all.

    That's me over 24 weeks now. There is definitely some relief when you hit viability day.

    Still signed off sick with a muscle strain in my upper back. I'm basically couch bound as when I lie in bed I can't get back up

    DH is off Monday so going to empty the loft of all out daughters baby stuff to see what we actually need. I am feeling very unorganized this time round.
    • Bosscout
    • By Bosscout 5th Aug 18, 5:31 PM
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    I hope your back is better soon, Toots! That's miserable But happy viability!

    My plan for 4 day weeks has been approved! With the caveat that I cannot be off at the same time as my boss (which is fine, I'm second-in-command....but also odd, because in 9 weeks I won't be there for one entire year.......So they need to learn to survive without me for a day!!)

    Ended up back in triage last night with a lazy baby. He had barely moved all day. And by the evening - usually his favourite time to have a huge wriggle - he was still barely moving, off I trotted. Midwife was, once again, lovely, and I sat on a trace for 30 mins. His heart rate was fine, but he still didn't move... until about half one in the morning when he suddenly got hiccups (hiccups are SO LOUD on a trace!!) and then went wild. And has been wild all day today as well - is kicking my arm off my stomach as I write this. They do like to test our nerves, these little ones!
    • afoolandhermoney
    • By afoolandhermoney 8th Aug 18, 1:19 PM
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    Bosscout - glad little one is ok - they do like to frighten us don't they. And hooray for four day weeks (though as you say, they'll have to learn to cope without you for a lot more than a day very soon)

    Finally got my growth scan and consultant appointment last Wednesday (after midwife chased again and has made a complaint about how long they kept me waiting for the growth scan - should have been within 72hours apparently but it was almost a week after she'd requested it). All is good, baby is measuring at 50th centile even if bump isn't and there's a normal amount of fluid and the doppler flow was fine. Consultant not concerned about anything and just wants to see me again at 38 weeks in case of any changes, but all being well I can stay under the midwives.

    Still, ended up in triage after work myself yesterday as after a very active day on monday baby decided to have a rest yesterday, still moving at fairly regular intervals but not as often or as vigorously as it had been. They didn't make me feel silly at all and I spent about half hour on the monitor listening to baby's heart beat (all normal) and waiting for it to wake up and kick about (which it finally did). Today it's kicking and squirming like anything again so I don't know if that's just its own unique pattern to have a busy day then a quiet day - will probably still get any future quiet days checked out though (I feel so paranoid all the time).
    • Bosscout
    • By Bosscout 11th Aug 18, 8:32 PM
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    Hi Afoolandhermoney - glad everything is okay and you can stay under MW care!

    Definitely have quiet days checked out - two people in groups I'm in have now had emergency c-sections after a 'quiet day' was monitored and turned out baby was in distress. Both doing just fine now, despite being born early. But just goes to show it's 100% worth going in for monitoring. You know your own baby best.

    I've had a week of needles - Whooping cough, GTT and Anti-D! Waiting on the GTT results now...fingers crossed all clear! Sproglet isn't measuring big, so I'm very cautiously hopeful.
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