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    • neneromanova
    • By neneromanova 31st Dec 13, 7:29 PM
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    Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! Part 4!!
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    • 31st Dec 13, 7:29 PM
    Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! Part 4!! 31st Dec 13 at 7:29 PM
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    Its probably best to go to the main thread for these... all on the first page, thanks ticklepenny

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    • afoolandhermoney
    • By afoolandhermoney 31st Jan 18, 8:51 AM
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    Thanks Freddie and jg, we already cook from scratch most nights (only occasional packaged sauces and very very rare takeaway - OH is coeliac and that restricts what we can get, plus we're 6 miles from the nearest takeaway living out in the sticks)
    re: baby activities, I don't expect there'll be much around here (the average age in our village is over 60 as so many retire here so there's not many new mums) and it will all involve a drive to the nearest town, but it should still mean less use of the car than my daily commute, I'm hoping that the reduced petrol costs will at least counterbalance the extra heating costs with me home more of the day through the winter.
    Putting baby on the front seat for shorter journeys might be a plan (don't have the option of using OH's vehicle as that's just a two seater van).
    My car doesn't have isofix at the moment which is another reason for thinking of replacing it - I have seen that you can get kits to retrofit it though so if nothing turns up in the next couple of months I think we'll try that. We had been planning on replacing the car and going back to an estate in a year anyway, we just might bring the plan forward a bit.
    • FreddieFrugal
    • By FreddieFrugal 31st Jan 18, 6:11 PM
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    What car is it?


    You're probably right though if that's going to be your main transport it'll be worth getting something bigger.
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    • afoolandhermoney
    • By afoolandhermoney 1st Feb 18, 8:41 AM
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    Hi Freddie - its a three door focus, I love it but the back seats are just so far back (if that makes sense) I'm not sure I'd reach to get a car seat in and out. I think what I'll do (once I'm telling people in real life) is see if I can borrow a car seat to have a practice with, several friends had babies last year so although they live quite a distance away I'm sure at least one would be happy to let me try it out if I called round.

    Midwife appt this afternoon, hoping all goes well - anyone else getting crazy paranoid at this stage that its not real or that there's something wrong?
    • covcitygirl
    • By covcitygirl 5th Feb 18, 3:03 PM
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    Sorry I haven't posted for a while. My little one and husband have had a terrible flu type thing so it has been a tough few days. I can't believe I am nearly 7 weeks already. The pregnancy is going so much quicker the second time.

    Afoodandhermoney- yes I am starting to feel paranoid there might be something wrong or no pregnancy at all. Last time we were lucky that we had 2 early scans so knew everything was ok but we haven't had any this time around.
    • afoolandhermoney
    • By afoolandhermoney 5th Feb 18, 3:12 PM
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    Covcitygirl - I'm glad its not just me.
    The nausea is really hitting today, midwife appointment on Thursday went well - she has me at 5 weeks now (though with my short cycles I know I ovulated early so am expecting the due date to come forward at my scan), need another 1hr appointment next month (that will be my proper "booking in" appointment) as this first hour still wasn't enough to go through everything. She said I'd be sick of the sight of her by the end with all the appointments

    Trying to decide whether to collar the boss at some point this week about it or whether to wait til after my holiday next week - will see what sort of mood he's in on Friday I think (he's in meetings all week til then)
    • afoolandhermoney
    • By afoolandhermoney 7th Feb 18, 10:43 AM
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    caught the boss in a good mood this morning and broke the news (also told my work BFF - she'd been wondering why I had suddenly developed a love of herbal teas). Its all getting a bit real now that people know. I think we'll tell my parents and his mum this weekend (both mum's have been a bit down lately - hopefully this will brighten them up).
    How's everyone else feeling today?
    • millysg1
    • By millysg1 7th Feb 18, 6:31 PM
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    caught the boss in a good mood this morning and broke the news (also told my work BFF - she'd been wondering why I had suddenly developed a love of herbal teas). Its all getting a bit real now that people know. I think we'll tell my parents and his mum this weekend (both mum's have been a bit down lately - hopefully this will brighten them up).
    How's everyone else feeling today?
    Originally posted by afoolandhermoney
    Oh good. Very exciting when people start knowing.

    Iíve got my first midwife appointment on Monday when Iíll be 9 weeks. Having a lot of nausea which fluctuates with intensity throughout the day. Not fun at work.

    Weíve not told anyone yet. Well have to tell my OHs brother and wife this weekend as staying with them for the weekend and it will be obvious when I refuse alcohol.

    We will also have to tell me in laws the following week as go8ng on holiday with my FIL. Then weíll wait till after the scan to tell anyone else which wonít be till March.
    • afoolandhermoney
    • By afoolandhermoney 9th Feb 18, 11:20 AM
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    good luck for Monday millysg1 - my first appointment last week was quite intense (they took a full medical history including mental health - I've had issues with depression in the past, and talking about it is never easy) next one is in three weeks to do the rest of my booking in and take family medical history (she said to allow another hour for that one). I didn't see our "local" midwife last week but the regular one called "for a chat" while I was driving last night - will call her back at lunchtime as by the time I got home and picked up the message it was a bit late. I think she just wants to introduce herself and see how I'm doing.

    Off work next week - I'm so looking forward to having a rest and not having to hide the nausea! I'm snacking like anything today to hold it off as much as possible (luckily having a desk full of snacks isn't unusual for me so the rest of the office aren't too suspicious)
    • Dot.1991
    • By Dot.1991 11th Feb 18, 6:22 PM
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    HI all hope everyone is doing well
    Afool I am just like you with having snack drawer(s)!
    I!!!8217;ve found having the snack size portions of cheese help if I get hungry at work.
    I!!!8217;ve had a bit of a funny week. Friend at work is also pregnant but has had some bleeding this week and it!!!8217;s really took me back. She!!!8217;s had a scan and thought she was 7 but they think 6, they also think there could possibly be another one in there too! She!!!8217;s having another scan in 2 weeks. I!!!8217;m really hoping everything is ok with her I!!!8217;ve tried to not be excited this week infront of her
    My mums bestfriends daughter is also pregnant abit further on than me and went for her scan the other week and her Down!!!8217;s syndrome blood test has come back with same risk as a 45 year old, she!!!8217;s 29. She!!!8217;s having some more tests done privately but doesn!!!8217;t get the results until tomorrow.
    All these things are just putting me on edge that something won!!!8217;t be right with me too. I!!!8217;ve still had hardly any symptoms apart from toilet issues (sorry tmi!)

    Sorry for the complaining I really want to enjoy the experience but I!!!8217;m just hearing too much bad stuff at the moment.

    My scan is on Tuesday morning I should be 11+3 xx
    • millysg1
    • By millysg1 12th Feb 18, 7:34 PM
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    HI all hope everyone is doing well
    Afool I am just like you with having snack drawer(s)!
    I!!!8217;ve found having the snack size portions of cheese help if I get hungry at work.
    I!!!8217;ve had a bit of a funny week. Friend at work is also pregnant but has had some bleeding this week and it!!!8217;s really took me back. She!!!8217;s had a scan and thought she was 7 but they think 6, they also think there could possibly be another one in there too! She!!!8217;s having another scan in 2 weeks. I!!!8217;m really hoping everything is ok with her I!!!8217;ve tried to not be excited this week infront of her
    My mums bestfriends daughter is also pregnant abit further on than me and went for her scan the other week and her Down!!!8217;s syndrome blood test has come back with same risk as a 45 year old, she!!!8217;s 29. She!!!8217;s having some more tests done privately but doesn!!!8217;t get the results until tomorrow.
    All these things are just putting me on edge that something won!!!8217;t be right with me too. I!!!8217;ve still had hardly any symptoms apart from toilet issues (sorry tmi!)

    Sorry for the complaining I really want to enjoy the experience but I!!!8217;m just hearing too much bad stuff at the moment.

    My scan is on Tuesday morning I should be 11+3 xx
    Originally posted by Dot.1991
    Itís totally normal to be feeling all that, especially after your friends difficulties. Iíd be surprised if not everyone has some paranoia that something is going to go wrong or second guess whether they are pregnant.
    Your scan should hopefully give you some comfort. Also, take a second test if your worried about still being pregnant. I did the first time pregnant. Iím temoted to again now as I bought 2 and have 1 laying around. But then I try to think positively and concentrate on all the signs and that Iíve had no periods or bleeding or pain of any kind.

    My SIL Had an eptopic pregnant a couple weeks ago, just as we found out we were pregnant so Iíve reading up all the signs, which is silly as it just adds to the worry rather than help.

    My midwife visit went fine today. They had a lot of info from first pregnancy so didnít take as long as I thought it might. I will be under consultant lead care again, as Iíd expected. Now wait for scan in 3 weeks.
    • afoolandhermoney
    • By afoolandhermoney 19th Feb 18, 11:21 AM
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    oh Dot I hope your friend's are ok - good luck for the scan tomorrow

    millysg - hope your SIL is ok too,

    really struggling through work today - I had last week off (originally planning a bit of a break, but I've felt so ill we didn't go anywhere in the end) and its a bit of a jolt coming back to it, would much rather be at home right now. Much more vomiting the last two days, beginning to wonder why does anybody do this a second time? I'm either 7 or 8 weeks today, but hopefully I'll be out of the sick-y phase soon.

    Told both the mums last week - they are both very excited.
    • afoolandhermoney
    • By afoolandhermoney 23rd Feb 18, 2:29 PM
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    hope everyone's ok and that scans have all gone well

    AFM - My mum and my friend have both started knitting for baby already, and friend's sis-in-law has said I can have all the stuff she's kept since she had her little boy 4 years ago, so we may be sorted for a cot and pram (just need a new mattress). MIL still has the rocking moses basket that she had for DH - will go and see what state that's in as its been in the loft over 40 years, but that might be another freebie if it just needs a clean (again, it'll need a new mattress).
    That's a huge weight off my mind and a start towards a healthier looking budget for staying home with the baby

    I also picked up a shimmery black maternity dress in the mothercare sale which will do me for an event I'm going to in early May; and got a couple of dresses and a top off facebook market place which will be good for when the weather finally heats up.

    Nausea now coming in waves through the day rather than constantly, although I'm still being sick in the morning and sometimes in the afternoons too.

    Still exhausted - I even had a lie down after breakfast this morning (before I was sick again), and a mini cat-nap at lunchtime. Only 90mins till I finish work today and then once I've picked up some cat food I can go home to bed. Booking appointment with the MW on Thursday so I don't need to get up too early then which might help the tiredness. Might see about working some shorter days next week if possible.
    • millysg1
    • By millysg1 7th Mar 18, 8:16 PM
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    Itís been a while!

    So as a little update, and I need a bit of a rant so I thought here might help me get it out.

    We had our first scan yesterday and all went very well. They have me at 13 weeks today. We then got home and started telling the family. Had lots of congratulations and were on a real high. We then had an offer put on our house weíve been trying to sell since November and we came to an agreement on our house and on the house we wanted to buy! On a real high now!

    Then we got an email AND text from the in laws telling us how our news was causing pain to my SIL who had an eptopic pregnancy 2 months ago and that we had to do something to make her feel better. Also, my BIL whose first baby in due right now was told the same!

    Now I expected her to be upset by the news but new with a little time the news would get easier. We called her yesterday and told her our news and was sensitive to her feelings.

    To now be told we and my BIL and SIL (whose 9 months pregnant) that we shud feel guilty as weíve upset my SIL and itís on us to make good just makes me angry, is that reasonable?

    I donít know if hormones, tho my husband is angry too and this vertically isnít the first time weíve been told to put ourselves out to make her happy to the detriment to our health.

    My husband has been very grown up about it and send a message to his sister saying we understand are news would upset her and not to feel guilty about that as itís perfcetly normal to be upset. But what more can we do? Completely ignore that we are pregnant? Not allowed to be excited? What can by BIL do at this very special time when he is days away from having his first child. Not be excited? Drive 4 hours to see his sister?

    My husband is out with his father tonight so decided to meantion to him itís not fair to make us feel guilty at this happy time for us and that his sister is over 30 and tho weíre here for us if she wamts to reach out, please donít meddle in our happy time and they should help her during this time as well as all her friends and in laws. Itís not like weíre very close!
    Is father just told him his feeling are invalid and he needs to grow up! His sister is a porcelain doll who we can never so or say anything that might upset her but my husbands gets told to grow up when heís upset!

    I know not many are on here anymore so probably wonít get much of a response but I need to rant and thought of here. Iím probably over reacting anyway!

    Iíll calm down soon.
    • afoolandhermoney
    • By afoolandhermoney 8th Mar 18, 8:53 AM
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    Oh milly, I'm angry for you. I think you and your OH have done all you could reasonably do to be sensitive to your SIL - you told her individually and have been sensitive about her feelings and understanding that she may not be as pleased and excited for you as she would otherwise be.
    You (and your BIL) are entitled to feel excited about your respective news. It sounds as though your in-laws are a bit (a lot) overprotective of SIL, but maybe let them all cool down a bit before you speak to them again - when your BIL's little one arrives I'm sure the distraction will help them come around.
    • kirtsypoos
    • By kirtsypoos 8th Mar 18, 11:58 AM
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    Milly I am furious on your behalf. You have been sensitive to her feelings but that should in no way detract from your excitement. I think you and OH are being very calm and composed because I know I would have blown my top!!

    I hope you're ok, and it hasn't put any sort of dampener on your happy time xx
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    • selement
    • By selement 11th Mar 18, 11:19 AM
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    Hi is it ok to join ? I got my positive test Friday and haven't booked to see doctor/midwife yet (will ring Monday and see what they say!). Last period was 3rd Feb so is that 5 weeks in medical terms?
    Trying to lose weight (13.5lb to go)
    • afoolandhermoney
    • By afoolandhermoney 12th Mar 18, 8:40 AM
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    Hi Selement! I remember you from the TTC board - huge congrats on your BFP :-)
    and yes, 3rd of Feb would put you at 5 weeks on Friday - how are you feeling?
    • selement
    • By selement 12th Mar 18, 1:18 PM
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    I remember you too feeling fine, I honestly felt premenstrual and thought I was just having a weird cycle but better do a test just to rule it out since i was a bit late so it took me by surprise a little! I hadnt done opk abd we barely dtd all month due to both me and my husband feeling crappy. They do say it happens when you don't try though...
    Just have sore breasts so far (which is normal premenstrual for me)
    Trying to lose weight (13.5lb to go)
    • Toots14
    • By Toots14 16th Mar 18, 1:19 PM
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    Can i join please?

    Got my bfp earlier this week so I make it out that I'm 4 weeks today. First appointment is 11th April for my booking in appointment with midwife.
    • afoolandhermoney
    • By afoolandhermoney 16th Mar 18, 2:09 PM
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    Yay - congratulations Toots14; so nice to see ladies from the TTC board moving over here.

    I'm not long for this board though. Got my dating scan on the 28th (should be slap in the middle of week 12 by LMP) - still feeling really sick a lot of the time and hoping it doesn't last much longer (I can go a whole day or more without being sick and start to think I'm over the worst and then it'll hit twice the next day :-(

    Have ordered a giant bean bag for the office so I have somewhere to go for a lie down as I'm still really tired too (falling asleep sitting up at half 8 in the evenings now even with an afternoon nap) - I've threatened to build a nest in my little corner of the office for years, now I have an excuse!
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