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    • Alice in Poorland
    • By Alice in Poorland 6th Nov 11, 8:50 PM
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    Alice in Poorland
    We are about to pull the purse strings soooo tight!
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    • 6th Nov 11, 8:50 PM
    We are about to pull the purse strings soooo tight! 6th Nov 11 at 8:50 PM
    Hi All,

    Like a lot of people on here I have been lurking on this site as a watcher for a number of years and during this time I have also watched our finances spiral out of control. Today I have had my LBM and oh boy could I cry.

    I have just done our SOA (which I will post once I've got all the info present and correct). Without the morgage I think we owe approx 30K, we've run out of money this week and have still got to pay out £350 before Thursday (all direct debits), this shortfall has been caused by my OH changing to weekly pay and all the bills come out in the first week on the month (well partly, the other reason is just that we owe so much). Will ask the bank tomorrow for an extension to the overdraft.......I can hear the 'I don't think so' all ready.

    Everthing is such a mess, our finances have spiralled out of control, I'm such a mess (could do with a complete makeover and dramatic weight loss), I can't keep up with the housework, the garden, the kids, Oh and I work full time too.

    I am truly hoping that we can get back on the straight and narrow and sort out our money problems. Then I will hopefully feel that everything else that needs sorting easier to tackle.

    Apologies for rambling on, I'm just feeling very alone and like a complete failure at the moment.
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    • wishingthemortgaheaway
    • By wishingthemortgaheaway 13th Apr 18, 11:41 AM
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    wishingthemortgaheaway
    Sorry to hear things haven't worked out with DL, but as you said, you tried and gave him a second chance.

    A couple of things I've spotted from your diary:
    Work's lottery - do you ever win? Would it be worth piggy banking the money instead?
    Also - there are a lot of collections at your workplace, are you ever on the receiving end of them?

    I hope the week gets better - no pegging out here and I've just put the heating on as Pickle is wearing thermal trousers, vest, top & jumper and he's still got ice blocks for hands.
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    • mummytogirls
    • By mummytogirls 13th Apr 18, 4:30 PM
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    mummytogirls
    Brilliant news on the final payment Alice, so pleased for you .

    Re the DL you definitely have tried, much more than some would have done.

    Enjoy your pamper tomorrow.

    xx
    Mummytogirls x

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    • Verbatim
    • By Verbatim 13th Apr 18, 4:48 PM
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    Verbatim
    Oh Alice it sounds as if you've had an awful time of it. It must have been so draining for you all and a real upset in the family dynamics. You've done everything you could and if it hasn't worked out it really isn't your fault.
    Great news on finishing the debt. Have you got any plans for the £50?
    Re cabot do you think they mean they'll start charging interest on your oh's debt?
    We're due some hot weather next week so hold fire on the washing! Well done on the nsds.
    Vx
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    • Alice in Poorland
    • By Alice in Poorland 13th Apr 18, 5:18 PM
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    Alice in Poorland
    Sorry to hear things haven't worked out with DL, but as you said, you tried and gave him a second chance.

    A couple of things I've spotted from your diary:
    Work's lottery - do you ever win? Would it be worth piggy banking the money instead?
    Also - there are a lot of collections at your workplace, are you ever on the receiving end of them?

    I hope the week gets better - no pegging out here and I've just put the heating on as Pickle is wearing thermal trousers, vest, top & jumper and he's still got ice blocks for hands.
    Originally posted by wishingthemortgaheaway
    Hi Wish, I'm devasted to be honest. Plus it's been really hard keeping it low key in front of DS3.

    Hmm the works lottery, it's one of those we have have won, certainly not what we've paid but you know. .
    We do have a lot of collections at work and it has been noted. I think it's because there have been so many special birthdays, a few getting married, new arrivals.......and then some clown decided we should include special anniversaries.......of which me and OH just about make it to the next year let alone a special anniversary. But yeah my special birthday was celebrated.

    I'm really trying to leave the heating off today. It's certainly warmer this afternoon but everywhere feels so damp.

    Xx
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    • Alice in Poorland
    • By Alice in Poorland 13th Apr 18, 5:21 PM
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    Alice in Poorland
    Brilliant news on the final payment Alice, so pleased for you .

    Re the DL you definitely have tried, much more than some would have done.

    Enjoy your pamper tomorrow.

    xx
    Originally posted by mummytogirls
    Thanks mummy, it's the start of many I hope.

    Thanks for your message re DL. It's been a tough few days.

    Xx
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    • Alice in Poorland
    • By Alice in Poorland 13th Apr 18, 5:28 PM
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    Alice in Poorland
    Oh Alice it sounds as if you've had an awful time of it. It must have been so draining for you all and a real upset in the family dynamics. You've done everything you could and if it hasn't worked out it really isn't your fault.
    Great news on finishing the debt. Have you got any plans for the £50?
    Re cabot do you think they mean they'll start charging interest on your oh's debt?
    We're due some hot weather next week so hold fire on the washing! Well done on the nsds.
    Vx
    Originally posted by Verbatim
    Hi V, thank you for your post. It's been really tough but we tried, that's the main thing. Our family dynamics are in complete disarray.

    On the debt busting in front, I am so please. Once the last payment has been made we will put that extra £50 towards one of the smaller debts I think. We've got two that sit around £280 and £220.

    OH has just spoken to Westcot. We will carry on paying £5 per month, no interest to be added, review in 6 months.

    Woohoo looking forward to some sunshine.

    Xx
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    Jan 18- Bcard 1 £1126,Bcard 2 £4775,Bcard loan £230, C@ptl £2565 ,Ybank £3595,Virgin/MBNA £326 YB1 £0, S@ntader £321
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    • dawnybabes
    • By dawnybabes 14th Apr 18, 7:33 PM
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    You did your best and lots wouldn!!!8217;t, especially when you have enough on your plate,

    Well done !!!55357;!!!56397;
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    • Spendless
    • By Spendless 15th Apr 18, 1:01 AM
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    Spendless
    Alice - Sorry to hear things haven't worked out re DL.

    But you never know. Some years ago a close relative fostered a 15 nearly 16yo girl. Someone her daughter knew. I thought it a bad idea for several reasons that I won't go into here. Within 6 months the fostering had gone wrong and the girl moved out. Later we heard that she'd had a child at a (relatively) young age eg 17/18.

    Fast forward to a couple of years ago and the foster child, now an adult well into their 20s, emailed my relative and thanked her for the time she'd stent in her care, because this had made her realise she had a different pathway to the one she'd thought she had. She was working in a school and about to study for a degree.

    So, who knows how it'll turn out long term. You've done your best and that's all you could have done.
    • Alice in Poorland
    • By Alice in Poorland 16th Apr 18, 9:44 PM
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    Alice in Poorland
    Thank you dawnybabes and Spendless, that is a very sweet story. Finger crossed DL comes good.xx

    This weekend all went into a bit if a blur to be honest. Saturday we had football in the morning, then had my hair appointment £28 , and then went to watch our local footie team in the afternoon. Spent £30 on tickets and £12 on food....yeah I know.

    Yesterday we food shopping £60.08. Did manage to get some bargains on meat, must of been in the right place at the right time.. Had to get petrol, again £25. Bit of a spendy weekend.

    Managed to do some jobs outside yesterday, just general sweeping up and weeds from the drive. Does anybody else leave the house in the morning and the drive is weed free, then come back later and a few sneaky weeds have popped up out of nowhere!!

    Today was a NSD, number 7.

    I have £4.30 in my purse to last until Thursday.

    Xx
    • Verbatim
    • By Verbatim 17th Apr 18, 9:07 AM
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    Verbatim
    You having your hair done is more important than a ticket to football!
    Hope you enjoyed the appointment.
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    • Alice in Poorland
    • By Alice in Poorland 22nd Apr 18, 8:48 AM
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    Alice in Poorland
    Haha thank V. It definitely is.

    It's been a quiet week, upto 10 NSDs. We actually went to 2 football matches yesterday and didn't spend a penny so I'm rather pleased with that. Also last night because we'd had such a busy day I really wanted to just order a takeaway, but resisted and had poached egg on toast with beans, and yes it hit the spot and saved some money.

    I've just done a list for the food shop this morning. Have two loads of washing pegged out and another load in the machine.

    Will go shopping, then do a few jobs outside and then got my family coming for dinner later. Family dynamics (OH's side) are in still in complete disarray, and of course I'm the bad guy but heyho.

    On the car front, one of the cars has developed another oil leak so that's on the garage tomorrow. We have been offered another car for a bargain price of 1K, well looked after,low mileage, service history, you know the usual stuff and if we had the money we'd snap it up.......but we don't so hopefully the oil leak is nothing major.

    Hope everyone has a good day.

    Xx
    DMP with CCCS started Jan'12 - £34,906 Jan'13 - £31,893 Jan'14 - £26,836 Jan'15 - £21,894 Jan'16 - £16,839 Jan'17 £14,415 Jan'18 £12,938ish! Self managed from Jan'17
    Jan 18- Bcard 1 £1126,Bcard 2 £4775,Bcard loan £230, C@ptl £2565 ,Ybank £3595,Virgin/MBNA £326 YB1 £0, S@ntader £321
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