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    Football Widow
    A FROG a week equals a special treat!
    • #1
    • 27th Aug 11, 6:13 PM
    A FROG a week equals a special treat! 27th Aug 11 at 6:13 PM
    I have been totally inspired by the Weekly FlyLady thread and although I don't do all of it everyday, my house is looking much the better for it. As I was hoovering the stairs today I started to think about my FROGS!
    1. Frog list - this is a short term list of annoying or horrid jobs that you have been putting off doing for too long - stop procrastinating!
    Then I got to thinking about how I could motivate myself to do mine. I decided the only way I was going to get them done was if I was to reward myself (no-one was going to do it for me) for doing them. So I have come up with a plan and wondered if anyone would like to join me.

    First I am going to come up with a list of my FROGS and prioritise them as tadpoles, froglets and full grown FROGS. Tadpoles are things which will probably very quick to do. Froglets will take more time and FROGS are things that are not going to be done quickly at all. Then I am going to put a reward by each. It will be appropriate for each i.e. a sit down for 1/2 hours with a cup of tea for a tadpole through to maybe a real treat for tackling the full grown frog - this will be dependent on what you like to do and what you can afford, but it must be for yourself!! For me it could be as simply allowing myself to sit down and watch Holby City that I record and never seem to get to see, guilt free because I have earnt the right to do it.

    I am only going to choose one a week to start with (don't want to overwhelm myself.)

    I would really love people to join if they would like to, then we can support and congratulate each other (another reward) as well as getting advice, if we need it. (obviously nothing financial). I thought that this might be particularly good for those of us who might not have the support of others around them!!!!!

    So to get the ball rolling - this week I am going to get my self assessment done for Inland Revenue and as a reward I am going to take an hour out and try and catch up on TorchWood!.



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    Football Widow

    Why are frogs so happy? They eat whatever bugs them!
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    • iamsalt
    • By iamsalt 27th Aug 11, 6:45 PM
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    • 27th Aug 11, 6:45 PM
    I'll join you
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    • 27th Aug 11, 6:45 PM
    Hi,
    I had been inspired by the flylady thread, but not plucked up the courage to join in with that, however i do have some frogs that need to be dealt with and i think that i would like to be encouraged/cajoled and supported to get these done. There are some jobs i know i shhould do which make my brain remind me at odd times that i haven't (usually 2am!) and i think its time i dealt with that!
    I will be starting work next month and i know that i should get on with these frogs before life starts getting away with me - i know it will be easier when i am working full time and doing all sorts of other things.

    First frog - Sand and paint windowsill in spare room - reward is a long hot bubble bath.

    Thanks for starting this Football Widow ( I am today as well!)
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    • tiredwithtwins
    • By tiredwithtwins 27th Aug 11, 10:03 PM
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    • 27th Aug 11, 10:03 PM
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    • 27th Aug 11, 10:03 PM
    i have so many frogs it would take me a week to get through them

    good luck
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  • Football Widow
    • #4
    • 27th Aug 11, 11:38 PM
    Welcome
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    • 27th Aug 11, 11:38 PM
    Welcome Iamsalt I am really glad you can join me. Good Luck with dealing with your first frog. One of mine will be to finish painting my daughter's bedroom which I started last year, and managed one wall. It will be a big reward for me when I do that one. Shame Grandad is staying in there at the moment so can't really get it done at the moment

    Good luck with going back to work next month, just think how relaxed you'll feel without those frogs jumping around and waking you up.

    tired with twins - thanks for the encouragement. Remember you only have to start with a tadpole if you want to join us x
    Football Widow

    Why are frogs so happy? They eat whatever bugs them!
    • Emm-in-a-pickle
    • By Emm-in-a-pickle 27th Aug 11, 11:41 PM
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    Emm-in-a-pickle
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    • 27th Aug 11, 11:41 PM
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    • 27th Aug 11, 11:41 PM
    Great idea Football Widow. I felt faint some time ago after looking at the Flyladies` efforts and sank into CBA mode for a week or so. Then I came back to the forum here and I found the Gentle Messies far more helpful.
    I am also one of those people who need both a Carrot AND a Stick to motivate me with some domestic tasks.(those would be the Frogs, right? But why frogs, I like frogs! Still it`s a good analogy with the tadpoles getting out of hand once they get legs and the neglected tasks turn into bigger tasks. Nice one.)
    I think I`m already doing this Frog thing. My `rewards` are a 15 minute listen to something on Radio 4 or 4 extra on I-player when I stop for a cuppa. TIMING my breaks at home, like I have to do at work.
    Today I had TWO Frogs. One was an online test after a recent course at work. The other was toenails.
    Another thing I did today was use a little electronic timer - Poundshop jobbie, but it only does 1 minute at a time, which is a pain as you have to keep resetting it after each minute. Used it today, don`t know why really, just to make a bit of a game of it - to time myself with a MEGA FROG - cutting toenails! Found I did 2 toes per minute except big toes which each took just over a minute! I hate this task, have thought of it as taking ages, and usually put it off as long as I can.
    THEN I thought I`d see what one minute`s worth would do cleaning in downstairs loo. Wiped tiled splashback and windowsill (including dead insects...) Another minute - gathered, squashed and put for recycling SEVEN empty bog-roll tubes. Another minute - baking-soda wipe to clean door handles, both sides of door.
    Memo to self (and if it helps anyone else...?) make a game of it. Timing the Tadpole tasks before they grow their legs & turn into Frogs!
    • Buffythedebtslayer
    • By Buffythedebtslayer 27th Aug 11, 11:41 PM
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    • 27th Aug 11, 11:41 PM
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    • 27th Aug 11, 11:41 PM
    Can I join too, I have lots of things to do both housey and worky. And am a big fan of Brian Tracy

    will report with my frong tomorrow
    xxx
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  • Football Widow
    • #7
    • 27th Aug 11, 11:53 PM
    Welcome
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    • 27th Aug 11, 11:53 PM
    Welcome Emm and congratulations. I like Frogs too but they are jumpy little things aren't they? Also we have something else in common to - I really don't do toe nails So well done for starting to tackle your Frogs! The idea of a timer is great, maybe as a reward for tackling your tadpoles so well, would be to buy yourself a new timer!! I have a ladybird one which will do an hour and I think that I will use that one. Isn't it interesting how quickly you can get something done when you might have been worrying about it for ages and then it gets done in a few minutes. Well done you and don't forget to reward yourself too x

    Hi Buffy glad you decided to join us. x
    Football Widow

    Why are frogs so happy? They eat whatever bugs them!
    • Emm-in-a-pickle
    • By Emm-in-a-pickle 28th Aug 11, 1:34 AM
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    • 28th Aug 11, 1:34 AM
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    • 28th Aug 11, 1:34 AM
    FW, I`ve been thinking this `timer` thing might work well for me, getting a decent one would be worthwhile. Can`t see myself tackling all the tadpoles a minute at a time! I HAVE rewarded myself this evening - after doing an ultra-good supper, no work tomorrow - so hit the winebox!
    Buffy - `things to do, both housey & worky` - my work (nursing) is SO structured & routine bound, plus with extra events/demands thrown in at us at a moment`s notice or none at all, I`m so used to working like this where what you do every minute counts...maybe that`s why I`ve become a bit laissez-faire with the homey stuff. I want to try to apply the timing I have at work to some of the homey stuff.
    • Emm-in-a-pickle
    • By Emm-in-a-pickle 28th Aug 11, 2:01 AM
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    • 28th Aug 11, 2:01 AM
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    • 28th Aug 11, 2:01 AM
    TiredwithTwins - only a WEEK to get through your Frogs? I`m envious!
    FROGS, as described by Footiewid, is known to folks working in the mental health sector (not my department but have friends there, we compare notes sometimes) as `avoidant behaviour`. Could be trivial or crucial items/tasks that we are avoiding. We don`t have to be `patients` or potential patients, as many avoidant behaviours are well within what we glibly term `normal`. ANY strategy that helps ANY folks to deal with and tackle whatever they are troubled by avoiding (like waking up and thinking about the avoided thing!) has GOT to be worth trying.
    • squeaky
    • By squeaky 28th Aug 11, 6:35 AM
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    squeaky
    I posted this elsewhere a few days ago...

    Different approaches work in different ways for different people....

    Ones I use to different degrees and with varying effect are...

    Treat it like a job and have "working hours per day" and you can use any flexi-time type approach that suits you.

    For jobs that you are definitely putting off:- Make an appointment with yourself. (if you make an appointment for the doctors, or dentist/solicitor/friends) you will be there. So make an appointment with your "self"... on Thursday morning at 10am I am going to clean the oven / tidy that cupboard / do that "thing!

    Some jobs get put off because they are TOO BIG. You take one look at it and somewhere inside yourself decide that you can't cope/deal with it right now; so you put it off. The way to deal with that one is to break it down into smaller chunks. So "De-cluuter the whole house" is a HUGE task. So break it down and pick a single room. If THAT still feels too big... break down the room to - I'll start with "that" cupboard". If THAT feels too big - break it down to one shelf or drawer. (I've been known after really bad times to start in on my kitchen worktop one square foot at a time!)

    The "busy-bitty" approach... if you've got the box on and are loafing in front of it.... deliberately switch to a commercial channel. Every time the adverts come on, get up and do something... such as start putting things in the dishwasher or washing machine or tidied away into their proper homes. Don't worry if you don't finish before the adverts ends - by all means go back and loaf. Next adverts... carry on from where you left off... It's truly amazing how much you can get done in three minutes stints every quarter hour or so.

    ... Anything else that works for you
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    • daphne descends
    • By daphne descends 28th Aug 11, 8:42 AM
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    Oh, this is the thread for me. Flylady has never worked for me as the little everyday things I find easy. My neighbour thinks I am this super-organised 'Monica from Friends' type so I showed her my book of lists - a whole book, ha ha! of jobs I need to do - usually stuff that can be ignored without detriment to the running of the household, or shoved under beds or in cupboards... I set deadlines that are more than generous and then watch them whizz by. Last year I was pregnant, so the end of the pregnancy was my deadline - then the newborn fog meant things were totally sidelined. Then I thought I'd get stuff done by summer so I could enjoy the break with my older child - didn't happen... so I thought, right, summer is 6 weeks, surely I can get some of these things done! But a week to go and it's not looking good... so maybe confessing to all will be the stick I need?!!

    1. Sort out both my children's baby clothes. I have even bought acid-free tissue paper to wrap up the special things I am keeping and have a nice box to put them in. It's just doing it... <heart wrenches> I might try and get this done while OH is at home the rest of the weekend, no excuses for stopping every 5 seconds then...
  • Football Widow
    Hi Daphne - glad we have hit a nerve with you. Wow a whole book!! of froggies how exciting. I have done exactly the same as you, set myself deadlines and that just doesn't work me either. What is the incentive of a deadline? Not sure there is one! Good Luck with your frog - a really sweet one - but also very emotional. Make sure you award yourself a lovely treat - OK?

    Squeaky you are so right - different things do work for different people - I remember a friend at work used to use the 'eating the elephant' analogy - you can't eat a whole elephant so you need to cut it up into little chunks. Not sure what the incentive is there as don't like the idea of eating elephants (not sure it would taste that good lol). I think that I would like to use the analogy of a box of chocolates - eat one at a time - they are enjoyable - eat the whole lot - feel a bit sick and probably very guilty.

    Emm - see you were up late last night. Great to hear that you are rewarding yourself, have to admit that would be a good reward for me to. I love my wine!

    Just waiting for DH to wake up so I can make an 'appointment' for him to look after DD whilst I try to deal with my frog. Still another week and a half until she goes back to school so not a lot of peace!!
    Football Widow

    Why are frogs so happy? They eat whatever bugs them!
    • mummyroysof3
    • By mummyroysof3 28th Aug 11, 9:43 AM
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    mummyroysof3
    just completed one of my frogs...get kids to try on school trousers...2 pairs to go back...1 for mil to take up..eldests ok

    son needs his pair by friday..messaged mil to see if she can do them for me..fingers crossed
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    • lollyfin
    • By lollyfin 28th Aug 11, 10:30 AM
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    lollyfin
    Hi all
    i would love to join in with you too
    i started decorating the whole house at the beginning of the year (seemed like a good idea at the time!) and ran out of steam in march!!! so now have loads of frogs all over the house
    I also hate with a vengence cleaning tiles so keep putting it off and now they are really horrible
    think i might make my froggie list and pick one a week to get done and when i have done a set amount (havent figured out how many yet!)I will get a new book...love books
  • Football Widow
    ooo lollyfin lots of colourful tadpoles, froglets and frogs coming up for you then. I quite like painting but I hate glossing! Welcome and lets get that house frog free then you will have lovely library in there instead!

    mummyroysof 3 ah yes the dreaded trying of uniform, fingers crossed for mil to come through for you. Remember to have a little treat for getting rid of your frog!
    Football Widow

    Why are frogs so happy? They eat whatever bugs them!
    • mummyroysof3
    • By mummyroysof3 28th Aug 11, 1:40 PM
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    mummyroysof 3 ah yes the dreaded trying of uniform, fingers crossed for mil to come through for you. Remember to have a little treat for getting rid of your frog!
    Originally posted by Football Widow
    had an hour with my feet up while youngest was asleep and other 2 played nice in other room...by nice i mean no one got injured...lots of arguing though but thats normal
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    • tiredwithtwins
    • By tiredwithtwins 28th Aug 11, 2:39 PM
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    TiredwithTwins - only a WEEK to get through your Frogs? I`m envious!
    FROGS, as described by Footiewid, is known to folks working in the mental health sector (not my department but have friends there, we compare notes sometimes) as `avoidant behaviour`. Could be trivial or crucial items/tasks that we are avoiding. We don`t have to be `patients` or potential patients, as many avoidant behaviours are well within what we glibly term `normal`. ANY strategy that helps ANY folks to deal with and tackle whatever they are troubled by avoiding (like waking up and thinking about the avoided thing!) has GOT to be worth trying.
    Originally posted by Emm-in-a-pickle
    well they are kinda BIG frogs!!

    1. clean down skirting board throughout house.
    2. paint living room feature wall.
    3. paint hall/stairs/landing.
    4. wash down 18ft of staircase!!

    im pretty much on top of everything else (except the ironing!!)

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    • Valli
    • By Valli 28th Aug 11, 2:52 PM
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    *nips in from Flylady*

    well done all frog munchers...

    I've just done some of a frog - I have been catching strawberry runners in pots, rooted about 20 so far and then decided to move the strawberry bed. Initial dig over was done and the recent wet weather softened it up so I have dug & hoed (we're on clay so it sets - ugh!) and have planted 2 rows of new, well-rooted strawberry plants, but some wood down to keep the lawn at bay and refilled the pots to catch new runners. This means that the plan to get rid of the old strawberry plants is well under way!

    Trick to get me gardening is to get up and dressed before my shower - otherwise I don't want to get dirty by digging!

    And I am the QUEEN of procrastination, sometimes...but I AM working on it!

    Next frog - sort out the LIT books...
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  • abwsco
    DH and I have sorted out a kitchen cupboard that houses light bulbs and guarantees/instructions for all things electrical.

    Bought a bag of choccy (Thornton's) mis-shapes as a treat tonightfrom HB

    We were going to do another cupboard in the spare box bedroom/computer room but have decided to put that off until tomorrow
  • toottifrootti
    well they are kinda BIG frogs!!

    1. clean down skirting board throughout house.
    2. paint living room feature wall.
    3. paint hall/stairs/landing.
    4. wash down 18ft of staircase!!

    im pretty much on top of everything else (except the ironing!!)

    Originally posted by tiredwithtwins
    hi tired
    your frogs are toooooooooooooooo big - you need to break them down to make them 'chewable'!!
    like this
    1. clean skirting living room
    2. clean skirting hall
    3. clean skirting kitchen
    4. clean skirting bedroom 1
    5. clean skirting bedroom 2
    6. move furniture for painting
    7. paint living room wall
    8. replace furniture
    9. paint hall
    10. paint stairs
    11. paint landing
    12. wash section or one side of staircase
    etc etc
    do you see what I mean - if you break your huge frogs into the steps that you need to do to achieve the whole thing then they become little jobs that you will feel encouraged to do when you have half an hour spare and the end comes into sight!!!
    HTH

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