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    • vikki_louise
    • By vikki_louise 27th Dec 09, 12:51 PM
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    Send a postcard (and make a sick child smile)
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    • 27th Dec 09, 12:51 PM
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    Send a postcard (and make a sick child smile) 27th Dec 09 at 12:51 PM
    This was posted just after Christmas but cards and little gifts can be sent all year

    Did you get a present you feel you can spare and give away for free? If you have something that you think could have a new home or have spotted a bargain in the sales then please consider sending it to a seriously ill child, their sibling or their parent or the family of a child who has passed away.

    Just log onto www.postpals.co.uk click “find a pal” then have a read of their story, it lists their interests and ages so you can see who would like your gift, the siblings (or parents) on the memorial section who have an address on their page would loved to receive. Post Pals is of course free.

    The New Year can be a very difficult time for anyone but its especially hard when your ill.

    There is a little video about how you present could help here http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l42sKtdPXrw



    Thank you,


    www.postpals.co.uk – Winners of Queens Award for Voluntary Services
    Reg charity number - 1137175
    Patron Fearne Cotton



    Edited- as lots of people had said they don't know what to say I thought I would share this from the news page on the site


    Quite a few people ask “What do I say?" when writing to our Pals. Some people are even put off writing because they aren’t sure. Although we have some info on our FAQ page, I thought I would write a post about it.


    Starting off with what we advise against saying:

    “Get Well Soon”, a well meaning great phrase, providing it is a healthy person who has appendicitis or something similar, who will have a time of being ill then get better soon. It’s not such a good phrase if your illness is never going to go away, you're young and don’t realise you're ill or any different to any other kid, or worse still - that will never get better.

    “I hope you win your battle”, a lot of the children don’t know they could ‘lose their battle’, and others might not want to be reminded that they may not.

    “I know how you feel”, have you been through the same thing as the child or parent? Even then everyone reacts and feels differently about things.

    “You're so brave”, bravery is one of those things that is relative, what is bravery? Is bravery getting on with living when you have an illness or is it when you take a brave decision? Some kids like hearing they have been brave, others don’t.

    “Sorry you're ill/poorly/sick”, see get well soon above.

    “Poor you”- empathy is good, but sympathy isn’t generally wanted. Also see above about kids often not knowing any difference.

    “I don’t know how you do it”, simple answer - kids and their parents don’t get a choice in the matter.

    “Write back”, we ask that you enclose your address and email address so if able Pals can reply to can you, but please don’t expect one.


    Now going onto what we suggest you could say. This depends greatly on the age;


    Now for things TO say

    Talk about yourself, are you a teenager, do you have kids, do you live in England or America, do you work in a school with other children or something else?

    Do you have pets, are they cute, do they do silly things like hide your slippers behind the radiator (I once had a dog who did this!), does your parrot say funny things, does a squirrel in your garden do strange things to get to the bird seeds?

    Have you been on any day trips or holidays It's great to pick up a postcard from where you have been and write on the back (gift shops often have them), was it a fun day, any funny bits of history about the place, did a bird poop on you or did you drop your icecream everywhere?

    Jokes and funny poems you can Google “kids jokes” or “kids poems” and thousands will come up, or you can google “Star Wars jokes” for the kids who are fans of Star Wars or “animal jokes” for those who love animals.

    For ones of the right age group, have you been watching Britain’s got talent/X Factor/the latest program like it? Who is your favourite act, what made you laugh? Who do you want to win?

    For younger ones (remember we have some children whose mental age is behind their physical age and there will be a note on their page explaining this) what Cbeebies character do you like, is Mr Tumbles funny, does Peppa Pink oink all the time, can you say “Hello” in Spanish like Dora the Explora can and what's your favourite Wiggles song? Often if you google the program or go onto the Cbeebies website you can find printable pictures for the kids to colour or pictures you could stick onto the front of a card.

    Write about what is on the front of the card, if there a dog - then talk about a dog you know (I sometimes put things from the past into the present tense), is it a funny picture, could the picture give you an idea of what to write about?

    Draw a picture or have your kids draw one, they can brighten up a hospital wall and make the child smile

    Include a little gift - this doesn’t have to be expensive, once I sent some confetti stars (cost about 3p) to a young child who was screaming through her chemo and nothing they were trying would calm her down. They gave her some post to open and when she opened my card some confetti stars tumbled out. She stopped crying and started making pretty patterns with it. Another girl got sent a pretty bouncy ball that cost less than 10p, she decided a magic fairy lived in it and took it with her to the hospital or school or where ever she was going so her fairy could always be with her. It also gives you something to talk about.

    Over all remember that just because a child has cancer, cystic fibrosis or is on the transplant list, they are still first and foremost a child. Also remember your post is going to make them SMILE, what is more precious than that?
    Last edited by vikki_louise; 18-10-2011 at 4:47 PM.
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  • Volvic
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    • 27th Dec 09, 1:30 PM
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    • 27th Dec 09, 1:30 PM
    PostPals is a brilliant cause and I've intended to write to a few of the kids on there before but I just don't know what to say. If anyone on here has written before or does so regularly I'd be happy to receive any tips!
  • InfamyInfamy
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    • 27th Dec 09, 3:03 PM
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    • 27th Dec 09, 3:03 PM
    What a fab idea! Will dig out stuff to send off! It is also good to be reminded how lucky we are...going to stick on Facebook aswell!
    Infamy! Infamy! They've all got it in for me!
  • formaldehyde_perfume
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    • 27th Dec 09, 3:39 PM
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    • 27th Dec 09, 3:39 PM
    I don't have a gift for a child but my mum got a Boots P&P set for Christmas which is highly inappropriate for her because she's allergic to almost every cream/shower/bath type product available. Anyway, it would make a perfect gift for the female carer of a sick child, any idea how I'd go about doing it?
  • littlestar1981
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    • 27th Dec 09, 4:32 PM
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    • 27th Dec 09, 4:32 PM
    Wow, this site is incredible, thank you for sharing. I think I'll write a few letters and think of a few presents to send, people who need/deserve them!
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  • InfamyInfamy
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    • 28th Dec 09, 9:41 AM
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    • 28th Dec 09, 9:41 AM
    Lol! 11yr DD & I spent an hour last night picking appropriate gifts for the kids and wrapping them! PO won't know what's hit it tomorrow!
    Infamy! Infamy! They've all got it in for me!
  • Dizzie77
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    • 29th Dec 09, 11:37 AM
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    • 29th Dec 09, 11:37 AM
    What a lovely idea - I had never heard of them before.

    I will ask if we are allowed to promote this at work - but in the meantime, I will add it to my facebook and encourage my friends to send something too.
    Why does nobody say Thank You anymore??

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    • vikki_louise
    • By vikki_louise 29th Dec 09, 5:07 PM
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    Volvic- thank you I often send cards and then chat about whats on the front, for example if there is a dog on it I ask them if they like dogs, say i have a dog (although i don’t anymore!) and tell them her favourite thing to do was hide my dads slippers etc. Older ones I just chat about random stuff! Things like X factor and Britains got talent is great to talk about as a lot of them love it and theres a lot of scope to write about (your favourite, what you think of the acts etc). Or do you have pets you could talk about, or kids?

    Infamy- thank you ever so much We are on Facebook if you would like to add us and keep up to date with everything, our username is “Post Pals”

    Formaldehyde- If you click onto www.postpals.co.uk/find.php you can see all the current kids and it lists their mums, there are also addresses on some of the pages on the memoral section of mums who have lost their children. Thank you for wanting to send it to a carer, they go through so much watching their kids suffer.

    Littlestar- thank you so much!

    Infamy- thats so lovely of you and your daughter, the kids often don’t have much contact with others their own age so its especially nice to hear from other kids.

    Dizzie- please do spread the word at work I have a poster I could email you if you would like?

    Thanks again

    There is a video here which shows how it helps (the first half has some upsetting images but the second is full of smiles), make sure you have your speakers on

    http://www.onetruemedia.com/shared?p=99b190dfbf42658e7a43ff&skin_id=1901
    Last edited by vikki_louise; 29-12-2009 at 6:15 PM.
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    • cooldude255220
    • By cooldude255220 29th Dec 09, 6:07 PM
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    Volvic- thank you J I often send cards and then chat about whats on the front, for example if there is a dog on it I ask them if they like dogs, say i have a dog (although i don’t anymore!) and tell them her favourite thing to do was hide my dads slippers etc. Older ones I just chat about random stuff! Things like X factor and Britains got talent is great to talk about as a lot of them love it and theres a lot of scope to write about (your favourite, what you think of the acts etc). Or do you have pets you could talk about, or kids?

    Infamy- thank you ever so much J We are on Facebook if you would like to add us and keep up to date with everything, our username is “Post Pals”

    Formaldehyde- If you click onto www.postpals.co.uk/find.php you can see all the current kids and it lists their mums, there are also addresses on some of the pages on the memoral section of mums who have lost their children. Thank you for wanting to send it to a carer, they go through so much watching their kids suffer.

    Littlestar- thank you so much!

    Infamy- thats so lovely of you and your daughter, the kids often don’t have much contact with others their own age so its especially nice to hear from other kids.

    Dizzie- please do spread the word at work J I have a poster I could email you if you would like?

    Thanks again J

    There is a video here which shows how it helps (the first half has some upsetting images but the second is full of smiles), make sure you have your speakers on

    http://www.onetruemedia.com/shared?p=99b190dfbf42658e7a43ff&skin_id=1901
    Originally posted by vikki_louise
    Sorry, your confusing me with all the J's. What do they mean?:confused::confused:
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    • vikki_louise
    • By vikki_louise 29th Dec 09, 6:10 PM
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    Sorry, your confusing me with all the J's. What do they mean?:confused::confused:
    Originally posted by cooldude255220

    Sorry I wrote the reply on another screen and copied it across, the J's are smiles that have copied across strangely, sorry about that
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    • By cooldude255220 29th Dec 09, 6:13 PM
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    Sorry I wrote the reply on another screen and copied it across, the J's are smiles that have copied across strangely, sorry about that
    Originally posted by vikki_louise
    No problem, I was just trying to work out what they were.
    I thought I was going mad or something
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    • vikki_louise
    • By vikki_louise 2nd Jan 10, 12:38 PM
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    bumping up
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  • Confuzzled
    thanks for this! my 8 year old and i spent some time going through and we found 2 girls, one a little younger than her, one slightly older to write to. two emails sent and gifts to go out soon.

    my wee one has gone through her room collecting some treasures for the girls, brought a huge smile to my face, especially when i warned her that one of the girls was very ill and may not live very long her reply was 'well then, she really really needs a friend and a smile right now doesn't she' can't argue with that...
    • zzzLazyDaisy
    • By zzzLazyDaisy 3rd Jan 10, 4:06 PM
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    This is a great site, thanks for posting!

    Just one thing, is there an upper age limit for children on the site? I only ask because I noticed one child was born in 1990, which makes her nearly 20.

    Please don't shout at me, I don't begrudge any sick person getting letters and so on, but I just wondered what age the children go up to?
    I'm a retired employment solicitor. Hopefully some of my comments might be useful, but they are only my opinion and not intended as legal advice.
    • vikki_louise
    • By vikki_louise 3rd Jan 10, 5:09 PM
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    LazyDaisy- its for kids aged 2-18 but a few kids joined when under 18 and are now older. The plan has always been to move them onto Post Pals Plus for 18-30 year olds but we havenít been able to set it up yet (partly due to my health and partly due to the current children not getting enough post, my aim has always been for each child to get 1 piece of post most days but that means we would need 50400 pieces of post send a month! Iím really hoping to get Post Pals Plus done this year though.

    Awww confuzzled, that is so sweet, it made me well up! What lovely kids you have
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  • trying_2_b_good
    New Year's resolution #3 - send a card every month!

    Thanks for bringing this to my attention - a great concept! xxx
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  • cmcconnell
    I ( on behalf of my Daughter whos 3) send Gifts to quite a few of the little girls on postpals regularly for over a year its so rewarding to know u are bringing just a little smile to a sick childs face... had a beautiful Christmas card from a postpals mum saying how much of a differenceit makes... doesnt even have to be a presrents even a colourful postcard is exciting for them... just knowing others care
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  • NGlady
    Well, I think this is one of the most sad yet amazing things i've ever read about. That little girl on Youtube, for the price of a couple of pounds toy, which lets face it would be the cost of a cup of coffee in town, got an amazing little girl smiling through an horrible time.
    Vicki you are an amazing woman in your own right.
    Can I ask... Is this just brand new toys that are accepted? Only ask as my sister has a load of little boy toys which she is throwing away and sorting through at the moment i would like to pass on?
  • Ilovemykids
    I too would like to know if its ok to send 'used' toys,of course only ones in un-damaged good clean condition.
    I usually pass them on to charity shops,but love this idea so much better

    and to know who will recieve it.

    I have three children between 3-13 yrs and to think of any of them becoming ill is well unthinkable.

    an amazing idea!
  • Ilovemykids
    vikki_louise,I have just been watching the video's and looking on your site,may I say what an incredible person you are and I wish you and postpals all the very best for the coming year.
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