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    • Flickering Ember
    • By Flickering Ember 8th Dec 09, 4:41 PM
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    If they're something that Penelope would wear and that would suit her, why not. Just as long as he isn't kidding himself and just palming them off regardless. Because if that's the case, he should eBay them and buy her something else.
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    • 8th Dec 09, 5:07 PM
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    • 8th Dec 09, 5:07 PM
    No. Definately not - a present is as much about the thought as the money. He should ebay the gifts and buy new.
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    • scotsbob
    • By scotsbob 8th Dec 09, 5:18 PM
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    One present is surely enough.

    He should give her the mug and punt the rest off on Ebay.

    He gets some cash, Penelope gets a present, Ebayers get some bargains, everyone's a winner.

  • Pete*G
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    • 8th Dec 09, 5:20 PM
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    • 8th Dec 09, 5:20 PM
    in the spirit of true money saving, of course he should. although i second the idea of selling some of them on ebay and just giving her half/some of them.
    • jamespir
    • By jamespir 8th Dec 09, 5:30 PM
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    • 8th Dec 09, 5:30 PM
    i'd do it of course
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  • livin' next the cut
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    • 9th Dec 09, 2:29 AM
    recycling xmas pressies - why not!?
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    • 9th Dec 09, 2:29 AM
    seems to me that it makes good sense to recycle - if they're in perfect condition!

    if the new gf is same size and likes same styles etc, seems utterly wasteful to give them away via ebay.

    of course, if the previous relationship broke down soon after (early) purchase tom could have tried to return to shop but may have been foiled by 'no returns' policy on sale goods - MSE is this really fair?

    whether to give all pressies to new gf depends on (a) how long the relationship, (b) how serious the relationship too; this could dictate overall value of pressies given!

    so maybe, after all, it would be best to give some and sell some.......

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    • By Paulgonnabedebtfree 9th Dec 09, 5:27 AM
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    • 9th Dec 09, 5:27 AM
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    I reckon that he should be a proper tightarse and in real money saving tradition give her one present a year from the ones he's already bought .
    Why mess around with half measures?

    Personally, I would never buy clothing for a GF anyway. I just don't have the eye for that sort of thing. I would much rather get something that matches one of her interests.
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    • 9th Dec 09, 6:50 AM
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    Well it's not like he'd already given them to his ex..

    I'd use at least some of them for presents, as I tend to keep several small things "in stock" myself, and mugs certainly are really just gimmicky things. Maybe not the lot, as other have said, it depends on how long they've been together as to how much he wants to invest in the relationship. But I would also make sure I bought something new with all the thought thrown in, to go with. Just so new gf knows she's special.
  • petabear
    Ebay it and buy her something nice! It's the thought that counts not the actual present, if i was given a pressie that was meant for an ex i'd be really upset about it. just don't spend anymore than you get for it on ebay.
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    • yelowee
    • By yelowee 9th Dec 09, 7:00 AM
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    Hey why not she'll never know
    • relaxtwotribes
    • By relaxtwotribes 9th Dec 09, 8:00 AM
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    He should give Penelope "a few pairs of Levis" this year and save the "best girlfriend in the world" mug for next Christmas
  • millsey1509
    Course he should recycle otherwise he's not saving money and he's already missed frre listing day on ebay so that will cost him and he might not sell anyway. As long as current GF doesn't know where's the harm
  • dawsar
    Of course he should give his new girlfriend the mug and Levi jeans, if she is the same size. He is obviously being careful with money as he bought them in the January sale to save for Xmas. Where is the harm in giving them to the new girlfriend. Who wouldn't want a few pair of brand new Levi jeans?

    We are very wasteful in today's society and this is one way of recycling without waste, as long as he can keep his mouth shut and not tell the new girlfriend that the presents were bought for the previous girlfriend!! haha.
  • Pamelamac
    The thought that counts!
    Yes he should give them to her. Although it would be insensitive to mention that he's had them for nearly a year.

    One of the risks of buying in the January sales....maybe tempting fate..

    Think how much better he'll feel having cared enough to give them to his new GF rather than off load them on ebay....
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    • By minerva_windsong 9th Dec 09, 8:27 AM
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    If she didn't know he'd bought them for the other girlfriend I'd be inclined to give them to the new girlfriend. With that sheer dumb luck you'd be mad not to.
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    I don't think he should palm them off on her; what if they get serious and it comes out years hence? I'd hate it if someone gave me things recycled from an old relationship. However, he could fess up, offer them to her, if she wants them fine - though obviously they don't count as Xmas pressies then and he gets her something else - if she doesn't want them, sell them and spend the proceeds on a meal out - all honest and above board, no skeletons waiting to leap out on you later.
    • Lokolo
    • By Lokolo 9th Dec 09, 9:42 AM
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    I want to meet this Tom, he gets a gf that quickly!?!?! I need some lessons!

    Oh last year..... nm......

    (who keeps presents for 11 months??!)
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    • By RuthnJasper 9th Dec 09, 10:00 AM
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    Do Scientologists even celebrate Christmas...?

    I don't see a problem with giving Penelope the jeans and mug, if Tom thinks she would like them. Strictly speaking, they aren't exactly Nicole's cast-offs. Perhaps He could add a little extra something to the parcel, just for Penelope, but as long as the gifts are given with love I know I wouldn't mind if a boyfriend had originally bought them with someone else in mind.
  • motherhen2234
    If they fit and are her style then give them to the new gf. Although probably only the one pair. I'd ebay the other and use that to buy her something more personal.Although under no circumstances mention where he got them from.

    However I would ebay the best girl friend in the world mug. Perhaps thats tempting fate so early in the relationship!
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