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    • MSE Jenny
    • By MSE Jenny 27th Jul 09, 11:33 AM
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    MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. Should a desperate housewife condone a cheating boss?
    • #1
    • 27th Jul 09, 11:33 AM
    MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. Should a desperate housewife condone a cheating boss? 27th Jul 09 at 11:33 AM
    Here's this week's hypothetical situation for you to cogitate on:

    Gabrielle is good pals with her husband, Carlos's, boss and his wife. Yet one day, she catches the boss romancing another woman. When she confronts him, he promises to pay Carlos a 100 bonus every month if she keeps schtum about his cheating ways. They're struggling at the moment; should Gabby spill the beans to the boss's wife or take the cash? (Inspired by Desperate Housewives)

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    Last edited by MSE Jenny; 28-07-2009 at 6:10 PM.
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    • scotsbob
    • By scotsbob 28th Jul 09, 3:15 PM
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    • 28th Jul 09, 3:15 PM
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    • 28th Jul 09, 3:15 PM
    100 for nothing?

    Take it.

    If she spills the beans the boss just fires her hubby, then they'll struggle even more and serve her right.

    It really none of her business anyway.
    Last edited by scotsbob; 28-07-2009 at 7:11 PM. Reason: original question was changed.
  • Pompidou
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    • 28th Jul 09, 10:49 PM
    No, no and no.
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    • 28th Jul 09, 10:49 PM
    She doesn't have to condone him but she doesn't have to expose him either. Neither does she have to accept the pay off. Declining the bribe will indicate moral disapproval and establish high ground. The boss will feel scummy, which is fine really.
    • Money_Grabber13579
    • By Money_Grabber13579 28th Jul 09, 11:26 PM
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    • 28th Jul 09, 11:26 PM
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    • 28th Jul 09, 11:26 PM
    It's blackmail essentially, therefore she should refuse it. Although whether or not she should expose him is another matter.

    But by all accounts, no money should be accepted.
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  • Susan Frost
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    • 29th Jul 09, 4:23 AM
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    • 29th Jul 09, 4:23 AM
    Would not take the money

    Would not spill the beans either. Up to the couple to sort out their own marriage, the wife may already suspect. Would back off from being so friendly with him, but be ready to support the wife if/when she needs it. It probably wont be the first time he has been unfaithful.
  • mr-tom
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    • 29th Jul 09, 5:26 AM
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    • 29th Jul 09, 5:26 AM

    So far only he has done something wrong.

    If she takes the money, it is blackmail, and unless Carlos owns the company, it is also tantamount to embezzlement as (it reads as if) he's using the company's money to pay.
  • yorkshireman99
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    • 29th Jul 09, 6:26 AM
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    • 29th Jul 09, 6:26 AM
    I don't think the answer should be affected by the money on offer. the situation is nothing to do with her, and she should just keep quiet anyway.
    • whitewing
    • By whitewing 29th Jul 09, 6:31 AM
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    • 29th Jul 09, 6:31 AM
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    • 29th Jul 09, 6:31 AM
    If the bss can treat his wife with such a lack of respect, then he won't have a great deal of respect for Carlos either. Don't take the money and look for a new job.
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    • Flickering Ember
    • By Flickering Ember 29th Jul 09, 7:03 AM
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    • 29th Jul 09, 7:03 AM
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    • 29th Jul 09, 7:03 AM
    She should tell her own husband, and help him find a new job, but not do anything else. Cheaters always get found out in the end, and neither Carlos nor his wife would be grateful/pleased if it got exposed this way.
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    • webwiz
    • By webwiz 29th Jul 09, 7:10 AM
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    She should certainly not tell. If she thinks it immoral to take the money she could either refuse it or give it to charity.
  • humblebumble
    Neither!! She should walk away from the situation.
  • Tali
    Telling the wife won't solve the problem, it will simply bring it to a head. If the 'romancing' is not serious it might be better that she doesn't know; if it is there's little she can do about it.
    Take the money and hope the punishment is enough to make him sort himself out.
    • pineapple
    • By pineapple 29th Jul 09, 9:14 AM
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    Not her business. Plus she has no idea what is really going on in their relationship.
    Similar situation with friends and I did not intervene. They got over the 'blip' and are now a happy, secure family.
    But no do not take the money. Makes her as bad as him!
  • craigp001
    100 for nothing?

    Take it.

    If she spills the beans the boss just fires her hubby, then they'll struggle even more and serve her right.

    It really none of her business anyway.
    Originally posted by scotsbob

    She should sleep with the boss too and threaten to tell his wife and get 200 per month out of him.
    • Doooford
    • By Doooford 29th Jul 09, 9:33 AM
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    Probably wouldn't but maybe, if I did...
    Wouldn't take it, but then I do find it hard to turn down a good cash offer when I get one. Maybe I'd take it and then make a discrete tip off to his wife. I'd probably leave it a few months though to get a nice little holiday fund out of it
  • cazmorg
    don't take the money and dont tell. He will get found out eventually - cheaters always do
  • Pee
    The wife probably knows and is working out the best way of dealing with it. It might have been going on for years and be something she tolerates. It would only cause her pain to tell her about it.

    I agree, I don't think she can take the money.
    • skylight
    • By skylight 29th Jul 09, 9:52 AM
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    Taking the situation at face value and that the wife is not a best pal of mine, I would take the money and not tell. Not my problem.
    • zzzLazyDaisy
    • By zzzLazyDaisy 29th Jul 09, 9:54 AM
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    She should tell her husband immediately, but don't take the money.
    I'm a retired employment solicitor. Hopefully some of my comments might be useful, but they are only my opinion and not intended as legal advice.
    • Ivrytwr3
    • By Ivrytwr3 29th Jul 09, 10:02 AM
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    What's Martin been up to in MSE Towers to start this discussion?
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