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    • MSE Jenny
    • By MSE Jenny 29th Jun 09, 3:31 PM
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    MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. Should Cheryl substitute Ashley’s mayo?
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    • 29th Jun 09, 3:31 PM
    MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. Should Cheryl substitute Ashley’s mayo? 29th Jun 09 at 3:31 PM
    Here's this week's hypothetical situation for you to cogitate on:

    Cash-strapped Cheryl is taking the Downshift Challenge, and dropping one brand level on all groceries to see if she can spot the difference. Yet hubbie Ashley is a supermarket snob who absolutely refuses to eat own-brand food. When Ashley tries Value mayonnaise without realising, he can’t tell the difference. Cheryl is tempted to keep filling up the old Hellmann's jar with Value mayo, so he unwittingly eats the cheaper brand. Yet she feels slightly guilty for deceiving him.

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    • Flickering Ember
    • By Flickering Ember 29th Jun 09, 7:08 PM
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    • 29th Jun 09, 7:08 PM
    Simple: He's eating and enjoying it so I'd come clean, along the lines of, "I didn't want to tell you as I wanted you to eat it with an open mind...and it's not so bad, is it?"
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    • 29th Jun 09, 7:49 PM
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    • 29th Jun 09, 7:49 PM
    Yes I would do it. My mum always said you eat with your eyes before your mouth.

    My aunt used to come to our house and refused to drink anything other than Smirnoff vodka and said all other brands gave her heartburn but never brought her own. My mum used to buy cheap rubbish and top up the bottle and my aunt never complained of heartburn.

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    • geri1965
    • By geri1965 29th Jun 09, 7:55 PM
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    • 29th Jun 09, 7:55 PM
    She should just tell him the truth.

    My mum tried to fob me off with cheap burgers, and putting a Birds Eye packet in the bin. I could always tell though.
    • scotsbob
    • By scotsbob 29th Jun 09, 9:36 PM
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    • 29th Jun 09, 9:36 PM
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    • 29th Jun 09, 9:36 PM
    If my missus started deceiving me like that then I would be wondering what else she was deceiving me about.

    Furthermore I would be wondering what she was doing with the rest of the housekeeping money.

    Seems like she is treading on very thin ice here.


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    • *Louise*
    • By *Louise* 30th Jun 09, 12:27 AM
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    • 30th Jun 09, 12:27 AM
    Normally I wouldn't bother hiding the 'downshifted' brand, but if my hubby was a label snob, then I would do it, to get him to try it, then if he didn't complain about the taste I would tell him afterwards.

    My mum is a label snob, she moans at me when I go shopping with her (eg: "I always bought you the Kellogs Rice Krispies") jeez, how many ways can you puff a bit of rice!!
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    • By brightonman123 30th Jun 09, 3:39 AM
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    • 30th Jun 09, 3:39 AM
    depends pn whether its low fat mayo.. and whether capelli finds out- shouldnt be eating that kinda of stuff anyway!
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  • bc3000
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    • 30th Jun 09, 10:42 PM
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    • 30th Jun 09, 10:42 PM
    It's just mayo! Is it really that big of a deal? I'd let him believe it a couple of times and then tell the truth and we'd both laugh over it and keep on buying the cheaper one.. No biggie. But tbh buying mayo other than Helmans makes me feel a bit sick.. the others always look a bit horrible and a kinda weird colour :S

    • bagby
    • By bagby 30th Jun 09, 11:07 PM
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    • 30th Jun 09, 11:07 PM
    yes - if he cant tell the difference - I would come clean after we had eaten the whole jar tho. I only like hellmans - have tried others but usually end up throwing them out.
    • globalds
    • By globalds 30th Jun 09, 11:16 PM
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    If cash strapped Cheryl is really cash strapped then surely she should be talking with Ashley and then they can help each other out ..Then come to an agreement about whether they can still afford these little luxuries.
    Maybe Cheryl should try the down shift challenge on stuff just she uses.
    • DezMiller
    • By DezMiller 1st Jul 09, 12:23 AM
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    Unless there's a special dietary reason for the higher-priced brand you're not deceiving anybody, you're just sensibly saving money from a wasteful brandsnob. Carry on and use the savings from all your downshifts to buy him something that he actually does need! Maybe then you can tell him how you did it (if he's of the general temperament that will actually appreciate it in good spirit)
    • scoobydoobydoo
    • By scoobydoobydoo 1st Jul 09, 12:50 AM
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    NOT NOT NOT for 3 months


    Because if she does it before then then he will claim that he was tired/stressed/starving *delete as appropriate* and therefore wouldnt notice so she was deceiving him!

    But after 3 months of her buying a jar a week/month, there is no way he can say that!

    emxx

    PS I know this because I have done it!
    • scoobydoobydoo
    • By scoobydoobydoo 1st Jul 09, 12:53 AM
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    If my missus started deceiving me like that then I would be wondering what else she was deceiving me about.

    Furthermore I would be wondering what she was doing with the rest of the housekeeping money.

    Seems like she is treading on very thin ice here.


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    Originally posted by scotsbob
    If I was your wife then I would be wondering why I was with someone so suspicious when all I was trying to do was save us money.

    In fact, I wouldnt be with you at all if that was your attitude!
  • janaltus
    I'm shocked! You are implying that a wife would "fake it" to keep her husband happy! Surely that would never happen, under any circumstances. Would it?

    • Marigold123
    • By Marigold123 1st Jul 09, 2:33 AM
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    Sorry, but both Asda 'Smart Price' and Tesco 'Value' mayonnaise are vile. She has no chance of him not noticing.

    The regular Asda and Tesco own brands are fine; I buy them all the time, but I don't like the super low priced ones. I can tell the difference between either Asda's and Tesco's regular brands and Hellman's easily, too, so I reckon if hubby's a real foodie she doesn't have a hope in hell.

    Personally, I like all three types. It's like own-brand baked beans vs Heinz; they're all good, just different. (Although in that case I actually prefer the value and smart price brands to the regular supermarket brands. Don't ask me, they're just nicer.)

    But, to cut to the chase, if this issue was taking place in my house, and assuming there was no appreciable difference between the brands in question, OF COURSE I'd substitute the cheapo brand and shove it in a Helmans jar! Then, when he'd been happily eating it for a few weeks, I'd tell him, then start buying it openly. But that's just me. I doubt I'd be married to anyone who was that unreasonably snobbish about brands anyway, it's just so not me.

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  • LOUY
    Just get him to do the taste test.
    If he can honestly taste the difference, then he can stay with his current brand. If he fails the taste test, as it appears he has already without even knowing, then there is absolutely no reason to stay with the current brand.
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  • somean49
    Simple: He's eating and enjoying it so I'd come clean, along the lines of, "I didn't want to tell you as I wanted you to eat it with an open mind...and it's not so bad, is it?"
    Originally posted by Flickering Ember
    Don't tell him - he's a bell end. He will just kick up a fuss because he has been 'tricked'. People like this rarely see their folly. Keep doing the business, don't get caught and trouser the money you have saved.
  • mr-tom
    She shouldn't keep tricking him or he'll rightly be annoyed and frankly dishonesty is dishonesty and it gives him an excuse (not a good one) to lie to her about stuff.

    More to the point though - if she plans to continue, she'd better wash out that jar thoroughly between refills or he's going to get properly sick.
    • Taffybiker
    • By Taffybiker 1st Jul 09, 7:00 AM
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    Cheryl should (at least this time) cook Ashley dinner, using the cheaper mayo. Then afterwards ask him if he enjoyed the meal. If he really can't tell the difference he will give you the right answer. That's when to tell him the truth and he would not be able to back out of it. The fact it is cheaper then becomes a bonus if cash is tight, and provides an excellent reason to stick with it.
    Try saying "I have under-a-pound in my wallet" and listen to people react!
    • macaroni
    • By macaroni 1st Jul 09, 7:22 AM
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    Yes Id say do it !! If hes fool enough to think that own brand mayo tastes like Hellmanns then he deserves to be tricked !

    Im a sucker for own brands but I wont compromise on taste and nothing beats Hellmans !!
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