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    • Verbatim
    • By Verbatim 12th Aug 08, 10:19 AM
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    ex and would be ex-gamblers support thread
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    • 12th Aug 08, 10:19 AM
    ex and would be ex-gamblers support thread 12th Aug 08 at 10:19 AM
    There seem to be a good few posts recently from people who are in debt due to gambling and I wondered if anyone else thinks a support thread or a sub-board like the bankruptcy sub-board or giving up alcohol thread would be a good idea?
    CCs @0% £24k Dec 05 £19,621.41 Au £13400 S 12600 Oct £11,981 £9481 £7500 Nov £7250 D £7100 Jan 6950 F £5800 Mar£5400 May £4830 June £4660 July £4460 Aug £3200, S £900, £0 18/9/07 DFW Nerd 042
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    • jools1985
    • By jools1985 13th Feb 18, 12:18 AM
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    10 weeks today since my last bet - it feels good
    • cantcope
    • By cantcope 13th Feb 18, 12:08 PM
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    great news Jools!
    my eyes are like mirrors. They reflect whats going on around me rather than whats inside
    Original debt May 06 £16569,25th Feb 08 DEBT FREE

    Last bet : 26th October 2006
    • jools1985
    • By jools1985 5th Apr 18, 9:43 AM
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    4 months yesterday since my last bet. I'm feeling really good about that and not missing it at all.
    • Leanneglos1
    • By Leanneglos1 6th Apr 18, 11:16 PM
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    Help please...so I!!!8217;m in serious debt all from gambling, tonight told my OH everything, well wrote it all down, questions so I!!!8217;m going to close all bank accounts and get wages paid in to his account, we are then going to get me a prepaid card, luckily my credit score is trashed (on DMP) so can!!!8217;t get anymore credit anyway. What do people suggest first steps are, GA meetings-some Of the meeting locations say suitable for the 12 step programme, how do I find out more about this?? Can I just turn up to the 12 step ones or do I begin with just the general ones, also is their anything I can install on my iPhone to stop me gambling, I don!!!8217;t have a computer so it!!!8217;s all been on my phone, any other suggestions or advice?? Determined to get over this addiction and get my life back
    • jools1985
    • By jools1985 7th Apr 18, 1:06 AM
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    Hi Leanne and welcome to this supportive thread. The 12 step programme will be explained to you when you join GA and is suitable for all. You'll be given booklets which are very helpful and will also be assigned to another member as a sort of mentor to guide you and for contact should you need to talk/text for help. These people are called sponsors.

    There is software you can download to put on your phone, but I don't know what it's called. I have not used it myself, but I have banned myself from all gambling sites I am aware of. Another option is to use a phone that is not a smart phone so you can't access gambling sites in the first place.

    It's a hard journey but you have recognised you have an addiction and want to beat it. I wish you every success.
    • Leanneglos1
    • By Leanneglos1 7th Apr 18, 10:07 AM
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    Thank you for your reply, do I simply just turn up to the meetings or ring in advance, is the 12 step a weekly programme so will I miss the first few weeks etc if i go this week? Where I live they have 2 different meeting locations, 1 for the 12 step according to the GA website and 1 just to have a chat and discuss things with other people in similar situations, would you recommend both or just one?
    • cantcope
    • By cantcope 9th Apr 18, 12:16 PM
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    Welcome Leanne,
    you can just turn up at a meeting, i'd go with a general one first before you start the steps. The meeting will welcome you and let you know some of the things you can do to help stop you from gambling...

    hand over your finances, tell other half everything regarding debt (it will come out eventually anyway so tell them now)
    put gamblock (for a fee) or k9 (free) on your phone
    tell your friends and family. (the more people know the more they can support and help you)
    take lots of phone numbers (or a list) when you go to the meeting so you can call other members throughout the week.

    remember, the first step is to admit you are powerless over gambling. once you do this the rest comes in time x

    Also remember you are not alone. GA will be filled with people who know exactly what you are talking about, they will have felt what you feel, done what you've done.

    I've been in GA for almost 12 years now and not gambled for 11.5 years. It works if you want it to (i thought i was better than ga to start with, i wasnt.)
    i barely think about gambling now and when i do i look at what i've achieved without it and realise that all it would bring is misery.

    Good luck. feel free to message me privately if you wish

    Lynsey x
    my eyes are like mirrors. They reflect whats going on around me rather than whats inside
    Original debt May 06 £16569,25th Feb 08 DEBT FREE

    Last bet : 26th October 2006
    • cantcope
    • By cantcope 9th Apr 18, 12:20 PM
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    4 months yesterday since my last bet. I'm feeling really good about that and not missing it at all.
    Originally posted by jools1985
    Great stuff Jools!!!
    my eyes are like mirrors. They reflect whats going on around me rather than whats inside
    Original debt May 06 £16569,25th Feb 08 DEBT FREE

    Last bet : 26th October 2006
    • Leanneglos1
    • By Leanneglos1 9th Apr 18, 5:27 PM
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    Thank you for your advice, this weekend was a massive step for me, I wrote letters to my family members, OH and told my close friends, so the secret is out and everyone knows and the weight that has been lifted or my shoulders has been amazing, everyone is supporting me, my OH is taking full Control of my money, my wages paid in to his account and I!!!8217;ll be using a pre paid card that he will top up, I have a 3 year plan that clear my debt, my mum is also going to lend me some money and I!!!8217;m Lucky enough to have 2 meetings in my area so although the thought of going to 1 terrifies me I know that without it I won!!!8217;t get better so I!!!8217;m going, April 5th was day 1 of my new life
    • cantcope
    • By cantcope 10th Apr 18, 10:38 AM
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    Thats brilliant progress! well done!
    Try not to clear the debt too quickly as this puts pressure on you which
    may in turn lead to gambling when things are a little tight. better to be able to live comfortably than struggle.

    Do you need to borrow money from your mum?
    GA wouldn't advise borrowing anymore (unless its for immediate bills), especially from your family who are easily led if we really want some more!

    Try to listen and take in as much as you can at the meetings. speak if you feel up to it. the more you tell the people in the room the more they can help you x
    its nerve-wracking at the start but it gets easier i promise. i was a lone 31 year old woman in a room full of older men when i first went!

    Now i'm part of the furniture and there are more women thankfully
    my eyes are like mirrors. They reflect whats going on around me rather than whats inside
    Original debt May 06 £16569,25th Feb 08 DEBT FREE

    Last bet : 26th October 2006
    • jools1985
    • By jools1985 10th Apr 18, 4:01 PM
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    That's great Leanne. It's not easy telling others that you are a compulsive gambler so well you for doing it.
    • Leanneglos1
    • By Leanneglos1 12th Apr 18, 12:15 PM
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    Sorry guys, another question, I!!!8217;ve mever really thought about it but last week or so since everything came out (I think it!!!8217;s anxiery) has been through the roof...heart palpitations, short of breath etc etc, do I just ride it out and hope once everything settles it will ease? I don!!!8217;t really want to go docs and get put on pills and hoping once dust is settled it should ease, any one else been in a similar situation?
    • cantcope
    • By cantcope 16th Apr 18, 12:12 PM
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    anxiety is common, in fact you likely always had it but the gambling muted it. once you stop you are much more aware of emotions and things going on with your body and mind.
    Beta blockers or a mild anti depressant may be a good idea for a little while until your mind gets into a "new" place of not gambling xx

    However, heart palpitations could be other things so maybe a trip to the docs isn't a bad thing whether you want medication or not x
    my eyes are like mirrors. They reflect whats going on around me rather than whats inside
    Original debt May 06 £16569,25th Feb 08 DEBT FREE

    Last bet : 26th October 2006
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