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  • thorsoak
    thorsoak Posts: 7,166
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    You do realise that if your new partner were to become a childminder, that your ex-wife would not be able to use childcare vouchers, nor would your partner be able to charge for looking after the child - and that would mean that your daughter would be taking up a place which would be profitable.
  • Mr.Grey
    Mr.Grey Posts: 11 Forumite
    Please don't make fun of me, I am in genuine need of advice. I am not in the habit of wasting either mine or other peoples time.
  • Mr.Grey
    Mr.Grey Posts: 11 Forumite
    thorsoak wrote: »
    You do realise that if your new partner were to become a childminder, that your ex-wife would not be able to use childcare vouchers, nor would your partner be able to charge for looking after the child - and that would mean that your daughter would be taking up a place which would be profitable.[/QUOTE

    It would save me paying for the childcare then, my ex still won't get any more money as she can work full time. I don't see why not though.
  • Ames
    Ames Posts: 18,459 Forumite
    Mr.Grey wrote: »
    Please don't make fun of me, I am in genuine need of advice. I am not in the habit of wasting either mine or other peoples time.

    You've been given advice. You just haven't been told what you want to hear.
    Unless I say otherwise 'you' means the general you not you specifically.
  • thorsoak
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    edited 7 February 2018 at 8:40PM
    seashore22 wrote: »
    Actually I wish I hadn't posted now because I'm not so sure about this thread. At least I hope no one is this lacking in self awareness and empathy in real life.

    You talk about empathy? You are coming over as a controlling serial adulterer - who is so angry that your soon to be ex-wife has had enough of you - that you are trying to control her by keeping her short of money. Your current partner should be aware that when a mistress becomes a partner, she leaves a vacancy for another mistress!

    Such a nice man - NOT!

    You are now finding out that you have to pay for your pleasures.
  • stokesley
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    thorsoak wrote: »
    You talk about empathy? You are coming over as a controlling serial adulterer - who is so angry that your soon to be ex-wife has had enough of you - that you are trying to control her by keeping her short of money. Your current partner should be aware that when a mistress becomes a partner, she leaves a vacancy for another mistress!

    Such a nice man - NOT!

    You are now finding out that you have to pay for your pleasures.

    It has to be a wind-up; no one can possibly be that ghastly.

    Can they?:eek:
  • thorsoak
    thorsoak Posts: 7,166
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    Oh yes they can ....I've known a couple of "very nice chaps" who have tried to starve their ex-wives out just because they've had enough of the adultery/controlling behaviour!
  • seashore22
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    thorsoak wrote: »
    You talk about empathy? You are coming over as a controlling serial adulterer - who is so angry that your soon to be ex-wife has had enough of you - that you are trying to control her by keeping her short of money. Your current partner should be aware that when a mistress becomes a partner, she leaves a vacancy for another mistress!

    Such a nice man - NOT!

    You are now finding out that you have to pay for your pleasures.

    Did you mean to post that and quote my post? I'm not the op.
  • Seanymph
    Seanymph Posts: 2,870
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    seashore I think you were quoted because thorsoak was agreeing with your sentiment.

    That's how I read it anyway
  • Mr.Grey
    Mr.Grey Posts: 11 Forumite
    thorsoak wrote: »
    I would suggest that you read through the (very long) thread started by JackRS entitled "Separated, how much should I provide?" It might prove enlightening!

    Reading this is exactly the reason I don't want to pay. This guys ex is ripping him off. That's not happening to me.
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