Single, six kids and going to be debt free!

beanielou wrote: »

Having a moan is ok.
I too feel lonely sometimes.

Thanks for your reply. It is hard and I shouldn't really feel lonely with the amount of kids I have around me!

NeverendingDMP wrote: »

Just wanted to say well done. Its been a month or two since I last looked on your dairy and I am purposely posting this before I read the pages I missed. The money you have paid off is unreal. You are truly showing that even though things can get people in a pickle there is a way out. Its a wow/I'm so envious response. Ha ha. . I will now read the missing pages I haven't seen. I hope all has been as well as can be although I see the ex is beings pain.. boo

Thank you and not usre how interesting the last couple of pages will be!! I have gotten lucky with some of my debts but I have still paid a load off. I am annoyed that I have had to take out more debt to buy a new car but I am determined to get it paid off asap. Yes the ex is being a pain but he is being funny with the kids as well. My 12 year old asked about their toys which are at his house. She asked when they could get them, his response was he is too busy doing other stuff at the moment to get them to the kids! What kind of man doesn't put his kids first?

Treadingonplaymobil wrote: »

I'm sorry you're feeling a bit blue about being lonely, and your ex being a disaster area. You are doing so amazingly. I cannot get my head round double the number of people to manage (I have three DC) and am filled with admiration that you manage it at all, never mind with all the extra baggage.

I know what you mean about being out of sight, out of mind, with your friends. Maybe mention to your one close friend that you'd love to go out more and see if something grows from it. And if not, perhaps you can find a way to meet more people and expand the social pool a bit (easier said than done, I know. Maybe a group or something)

Yes my ex husband is a disaster. I get the feeling his new girlfriend could be something to do with it but I could be wrong. She only has one grown up daughter so I get the feeling she likes to spend time just my ex and her, but she knew that he had young kids when they got together so he should put his foot down and see his kids. They also bought a five bed detached house together so he could have the kids over to stay but that hasn't really happened!

And thanks I am not sure how I cope sometimes but I guess I have to. I have no choice really as I am doing it by myself now apart from a Sunday for a few hours when the dad of my youngest sometimes has her and my youngest boy. But then that;s normally only for about 4 hours and its not every week.

I will mention it to my friend but I know she struggles with money so can't always go out. Her husband also seems to go out a bit or work at weekends so she has to look after their kids. I think I need to find some new friends but as I haven't grown up where I live, it is hard to meet new people, especially as I don't get out much. I tend to drop the kids at school, then go to work and then back home again. I think I need to find a new hobby that gets me out of the house one evening a week, when the kids aren't doing clubs though!!

Kitten868 wrote: »

I don't think it's strange to feel lonely when you have 6 kids. I think it's normal. I also think it's normal to feel like all you do is ferry them about. I'm actually rather impressed you find time to go for your personal trainer sessions. Why don't you organise a night out? I always think it's better to not get upset at not being invited but to turn it around and be sure to invite everyone. Show them that you are going out and want to be included. I'm not saying you're wrong to be upset - you're really not but don't let it suck up all that great energy you have.
You are at a tough point - you've got gcses and kids who don't get 30 hours yet. All the tricky bits but from both ends. You know it'll get easier soon.
So with the extra money from ex is that another £60 towards the extra money to find? Xxxx

I will try and organise a night out but I don't really have many close friends where I am. I have only lived here for 4 years since the move back from France and so don't really know that many people. Added to that I am quite unconfident really and probably appear a bit rude. I don't tend to let my guard down easily.

However, saying that, at work I have been organising someone's 50th birthday party which is next Saturday. The lady whose birthday it is keeps saying I should come along. I don't really want to go by myself so I might ask my colleague at work if she wants to come with me and have a mini night out. I probably won't drink as it's not really that close to home and I don't fancy trying to get home late at night!

Yes I know it will get easier soon, but as you say, I have both moody teenagers and little ones, so it is a drain on my energy. Today I have done literally nothing and even had a nap on the sofa with the two youngest this afternoon.

The extra money is going towards our Disneyland Paris trip. My ex husband didn't pay any maintenance in September as I called CMS a week before he got paid and they told him not to pay until the amounts were all agreed. So I should have had about £600 to put towards the trip in September but had nothing. So the extra he is paying me is going towards catching up on myself.

Seasidegal58 wrote: »

You're doing so well and I agree with Kitten that perhaps take the lead in organising a night out.

Your ex will be the loser in years to come if he carries on like he has been doing with the children. The kids will remember things he does and phase him out of their lives - I know because this is what my DD did.

My oldest has already twigged and has asked if she has to have her dad walk her down the aisle when she gets married. I said no, she can have anyone she wants as it is her day. She said good, I want you to walk me down the aisle mum. So that is an amazing thing for me to hear. I think the next daughter is also learning what he is like. I have to try really hard not to put him down in front of the kids but it is so hard to keep my mouth shut.

So in terms of extra income I like to make in the month, this has been a good week. I have managed to save £20 from my petrol budget. The other budgets have pretty much been used up due to paying for a Spanish tutor for my eldest, paying for school trips, buying some much needed toiletries from Avon etc. But the petrol budget is going well seeing as no long trips to drop the kids off anymore and rugby is at home tomorrow.

Also I got given a £25 incentive for writing a review about the place I bought my car from. So for less than 5 minutes work, they gave me £25 :j

I also got back on with Prolific Academic this week, cashed out £5 and have another £7 on there waiting for cash out.

Matched betting has been going well and I have in total earnt £140 this month already with another £36 waiting for the money to hit my bank and another possible £16 from free bets tomorrow and Monday. I know it's a possibly addiction for some people but I am very careful not to stretch myself and only play where there is a guaranteed profit from free bets.

So update on the extra income this month:

Extra income £302.07/£394.45 76.58%

The above only includes £10 of petrol savings as I don't want to leave myself short in case of an emergency tomorrow (my petrol budget resets itself on Monday). It also doesn't include the matched betting profits that haven't hit my account yet. So out of the £92.38 still to find for the month, I have around £62 already pending so only £30 left to find. That should be easy enough but there probably won't be any petrol savings next week as the rugby match on Sunday is around an hours drive away.