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    • DigForVictory
    • By DigForVictory 28th Oct 18, 11:13 AM
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    How to suggest it's time to hand over the car keys?
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    • 28th Oct 18, 11:13 AM
    How to suggest it's time to hand over the car keys? 28th Oct 18 at 11:13 AM
    Has anyone had This Conversation with anyone recently & how did it go? Are there any phrases that help, or that lead straight to disinheritance?!

    I honestly cannot leave it for mum's GP - who blamelessly doesn't seem to get out of the surgery let alone see how the patients travel.

    Mum's had an unexplained fall & is often a bit dizzy stood up, but that's not enough evidence of physical fraility to convince her.

    She'll probably kick like a mule unless presented with a well thought through set of alternatives. (I know I would!)

    I don't think we can postpone this chat much longer & I would have thought it has to be face to face. I suspect Dad is closing is eyes to the problem as otherwise he'll have to deal with her (understandable, but) annoyance.
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    • Techno
    • By Techno 26th Jan 19, 9:48 PM
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    I wonder if there is a family that share their time between London and Balmoral having a similar conversation with an older driver at the moment?
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    • 50Twuncle
    • By 50Twuncle 15th Feb 19, 12:49 PM
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    I know of an old chap who is 97 and won't admit that he is too old to drive !
    He has hit several vehicles (luckily at low speed) and never admits blame ("it was going too fast" etc)
    I want to report him(anonymously) to the DVLA but am not sure that this is the best way forwards

    He lives on his own and doesn't have a regular GP to inform and to be honest, I don't know whether losing his licence would stop him from driving anyway....

    What would you do ?
    • Savvy_Sue
    • By Savvy_Sue 15th Feb 19, 7:32 PM
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    Report to the DVLA, AND to the police every time you see him driving dangerously.

    Would he tell you if DVLA had revoked his licence, or if he'd been called to a driving assessment?
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    • dipsy
    • By dipsy 21st Feb 19, 3:44 PM
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    I have reported direct to DVLA before and nothing happened, luckily I persuaded them to declare themeselves which they did in the end, but now we are at the year point and they are reapplying - I had done all the forms but apparently they were wrong as I was honest about their "memory" issues

    No idea what else I can do
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