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    • Slowdown
    • By Slowdown 1st Dec 14, 6:02 AM
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    NOT BUYING IT! 2015 - A consumer holiday
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    • 1st Dec 14, 6:02 AM
    NOT BUYING IT! 2015 - A consumer holiday 1st Dec 14 at 6:02 AM
    Hi,
    I have a declaration to make.
    I'M NOT BUYING IT!
    And now I'm hyperventilating. I have finally laid my cards on the table. And I mean for the whole of 2015!

    Calm, calm.

    I am a confused woman. On the one hand I rally against rampant capitalism. I hate the cabals and monopolies, I despair at the tricks and underhand approaches used by companies to make us buy. I fling my hands up in despair at the waste and destruction of our planet and yet....I buy it! I shop, I waste, I yearn and save and spend in a cycle that traps me in all the ways I hate, and worst of all, I am not true to my own feelings.

    Well, IT STOPS in 2015.

    I openly declared my intentions to my DH last night.
    "It must stop," I sputtered, "I m not doing this buying nonsense anymore," I exclaimed, "I'm purchasing the necessaries and nothing more. Your presents will be second hand, clothes will be second hand, no haircuts, no new shoes, no kitchen gadgets, no anything I don't need. I'M NOT BUYING IT!"
    This last bit was literally spat out in loud gasps.

    He looked at me and smiled. "That's good," he said. "I'm joining the Green Party!"

    And so preparation begins. The money spending stops as of Jan 1st. Only what we need will be spent. OS money saving will be top of my list. I will be drawing on the power of the penny punchers on this thread on a daily basis.

    I have one month to prepare myself and the family. I need to think about the rules, what is and is not allowed. I need to build in flexibility so I don't shoot myself in the foot. I need to get my head around the whole idea. And I need help. From you good folks.

    And on that note I'm off for a shower, where I shall ponder on the gravity of my words.

    Kind regards
    Slowdown

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    • Caterina
    • By Caterina 1st Dec 14, 6:12 AM
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    Good morning Slowdown,

    Well done on your wise decision, I have been there, exactly where you are now, exhausted with being surrounded by a culture of spend spend spend, use-and-throw-away, inane consumption.

    I am still not completely rid of that crazy pull, I still occasionally fall into the consumer trap, but it is happening less and less.

    I suggest you join the Grocery Challenge, it is a great way of focusing on what you spend on a day to day basis on staples. I have been surprised at how much less I need when I decide not to spend, how much easier it is to pass on the impulse of just popping in to the shops just because I can, very liberating.

    Have also a look at the Debt Free Wannabe threads, some very interesting diaries and challenges there.

    Good luck with your journey, I shall look forward to reading about your progress.
    Finally I'm an OAP and can travel free (in London at least!).
    • parsniphead
    • By parsniphead 1st Dec 14, 6:19 AM
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    A fantastic idea slowdown. I may join you if that's ok.
    This year was the year to get rid of debt and finally simplify my life. I failed. Next year I'm going to kill all the debt totally plus we want to start getting rid of the mortgage. Also the clutter. It has to go. No more taking it what others throw out. I have to realise I can't stop others wasting but can stop any waste myself.

    I think it's time for a complete and total declutter. To pare down as much as possible to become organised.

    Thanks for the motivation. Off to sort out this nightmare of a house.
    My mini challenge: pay off MBNA by 31/08/18. £502/£502 100% (paid off 30/06/18 - 2 months early )

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    • dumpling
    • By dumpling 1st Dec 14, 7:06 AM
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    This has struck so many bells for me my head is clanging. My debts have crept up and up this year despite me saying back in January that I was going to really tackle them. I will be very interested in how you are planning to do this, I have some concerns that I will be too strict and then fail so any tips or hints to get a reasonable balance would be great.

    Plus points for me is that I am a very good internet shopper in that I find the cheapest price for what I want and then always look for codes for money off. All my friends ask me to find them a bargain .
    Minus points are that I'm a very good internet shopper . I need to find something that will replace my addiction to getting a bargain. I also have a mental illness which causes me to have 'highs' which lead to spending lots of money.

    If I can keep on top of my condition with taking my meds properly I think I will be a lot better financially as well as mentally. I've avoided spending money this weekend which is a good start but I will put my thinking cap on and try for a clean slate in January.

    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 1st Dec 14, 7:18 AM
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    A great challenge Slowdown. I have spent since May playing Minsgame which is run by The Minimalists. Check it out on twitter if you get chance. You get rid of one item per day rising to 30 per day by end of the month. It's fun and motivating. Lots of people play and I've met some great new people from all over the world. (Online of course)
    I have spent this year trying to cut down on every unnecessary cost & get us on the best possible deals for all essential spending. I feel like 2015 may just be the year we start making real progress on savings and investing. Plus ridding ourself of the debt once and for all.
    So count me in.
    " Your vibe attracts your tribe"

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    • fuddle
    • By fuddle 1st Dec 14, 8:10 AM
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    My spending got me into a huge mess, a mess I have spent the last 5 years learning from (and really a better, more equipped person for it) but that has left me thumbing my nose at consumerism.

    I buy what I need, can use and try to buy to invest. Detest our throwaway culture.

    So I'd like to join. I'm not saying I won't purchase, I will, but it will be items saved for, budgetted for, needed or wanted for hobbies and quality of life... and it will be on my terms.
    Be like a tree.
    Stay grounded. Connect with your roots. Turn over a new leaf.
    Bend before you break. Enjoy your natural beauty. Keep growing.
    • Willowpop
    • By Willowpop 1st Dec 14, 8:40 AM
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    Slowdown, this is a great challenge, and one I'm sure many of us can get on board withÖ.just a thought, instead of no haircuts, have you thought of going to a college/academy? I've not paid for a haircut for years now as I go to a training academy and let students cut my hair. They are closely supervised, so you get as good, if not better, cuts as you get in the hairdressers.
    • daz378
    • By daz378 1st Dec 14, 8:48 AM
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    yes i had that eureka moment a couple of years ago .....and so identify with it .....i had borrowed 15 k over the last 5..6 years but end up paying nearly 30.....also started getting messed about at work but was so much in debt was a ...wage slave and i vowed never again ....at that time rumours of being privatised......which will happen in april......i owe a few hundred on credit cards .... but so glad i never renewed loans.....any purchase is now saved up for........good luck
    • Minimalist
    • By Minimalist 1st Dec 14, 10:35 AM
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    • 1st Dec 14, 10:35 AM
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    Thanks for sharing your challenge, Slowdown - and good luck!! It sounds like an exciting new start for you and your family in 2015 (and good to hear that DH is already on board!)

    Iím trying something similar - my goal is to be able to reduce my hours at work. I realised that by giving up unnecessary spending, I could free myself from spending so much of my life doing paid work. (Not that my job is awful...it just takes up time which Iíd rather be using for other more creative and interesting things.)

    I know I donít respond very well to rules (even self-imposed ones ) so for me it's all about achieving a change in philosophy and taking back control of STUFF - changing habits and thinking, finding ways to enjoy different things (e.g. making and doing, rather than spending and accumulating) and keeping the whole process fun.

    This forum will really help you with your challenge - there are some great ideas and it's inspiring to hear people putting them into practice. Look forward to seeing how you get on, and what suggestions everyone comes up with!

    • Butterfly Brain
    • By Butterfly Brain 1st Dec 14, 12:38 PM
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    Slowdown I am with you all the way, the only exception will be DS's 21st birthday in May because it won't be fair if he doesn't have the same sort of celebration as DD had.

    Birthday and Christmas presents will be home made or second hand as they have been this year.

    I have my hair cut by my SIL which costs nothing, because DH and DS keep her computer and laptop going.

    I intend to make our own Christmas crackers and presents will be wrapped in brown paper that I have saved from postal deliveries this year with rustic HM gift tags.
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    • Slowdown
    • By Slowdown 1st Dec 14, 4:48 PM
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    Oh my! There is no way in the world I was expecting all you smashers to come out in support.

    Oh joy! Oh rapture! I am not alone!

    I cannot thank you all enough for your comments and interest in my journey. I thought my rantings and hand flingings would consign me to the bottom of the "lost it big time lunatic pile" but nay!

    I am delighted some of you want to jump aboard my ship of NOT BUYING IT madness, henceforth to be known as HMS NoBuy.

    Climb aboard, my jolly ship mates, and keep me company on this voyage. Many of you are old hands who know the ropes and can teach me sail these stormy seas. Hopefully, when I fall overboard, someone will throw me a life belt and help me clamber back onto the decks.

    Sadly, I do not have the time at the present to reply to each of your smashing posts but later tonight I shall give everyone my due consideration, as I feel very honoured to be welcomed by you all.

    I really don't want to give myself rules to follow as I will break them I know, so I am going to compile a list of "guiding lights" to help me see my way. I will give my first guiding light some thought early evening and hope to come up with it by the end of the evening.

    Hooray! I shout as I sign off. I've declared my hand and feel all the better for it.
    Kind regards
    Slowdown
    • meritaten
    • By meritaten 1st Dec 14, 6:47 PM
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    Good for you - but do build in 'It gets replaced when it gets broken'! that means no 'upgrades' but you can buy a replacement without feeling you have broken your rules! (especially if you can get it cheaper than the original).
    and do not forget you MUST have little 'treats' for everyone so nobody feels totally deprived! just give a maximum amount - like £1!
    • fiftyeighter
    • By fiftyeighter 1st Dec 14, 6:49 PM
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    Well done Slowdown on an inspiring thread. I hope you don't mind me joining you all.
    I'm not sure I will be buying nothing and I am quite frugal. I have to be . But I no i waste money so I would like to haul myself in a little or a lot as the case may be.
    I look forward to everybody's ideas. And good luck.
    • camelot1001
    • By camelot1001 1st Dec 14, 7:48 PM
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    What a great idea! I would love to try this but as meritaten says, we should be able to replace when things break, I will be doing this but will see if I can manage without whatever it is first.

    I am sure I have enough coats, shoes, etc to see me through (although summer sandals may have to be purchased, my trusted clarks pair had to be binned after 3 years).

    I will certainly give it a go, look forward to reading what everyone else comes up with.
    • JackieO
    • By JackieO 1st Dec 14, 8:12 PM
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    Recycle,re-use or repair seems to work for me ,well done on getting your 'lightbulb ' moment The more the merrier.I too hate all the kerfuffle with the multi-nationals and large SM groups telling us what we need and want instead of giving us what's really required, which is a better service, and better quality.

    I came home tonight from my DDs with a discarded plastic bowl that had held a chocolate trifle that had been eaten over the weekend. It will be reused for something else (what yet I haven't thought ) but its not going to be chucked away into landfill.Just had a thought whilst typing,I may fill it with compost (got some left over in a bag on the patio) and throw some seeds in it (have some free parsley seeds that a friend gave me off the front cover of her gardening magazine) a small herb garden that can sit on the window sill in my conservatory, sorted
    Often its just a case of thinkng 'what can I do with this'

    Good luck with your consumer holiday I am pretty frugal anyway and love to streeetch meals as a challenge .Look on the 'fiscal fasting' boards we are a pretty good lot on there as well
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    • thriftwizard
    • By thriftwizard 1st Dec 14, 8:17 PM
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    Brilliant idea; I'd like to join in too. Some years ago I tried to do "The Compact" for a year, which involves buying nothing new with the exception of underwear & work/craft materials. I was doing pretty well, but the kids' (teens, then) birthday presents were difficult; courses of lessons for something they fancied (art, driving) or tickets for events was the best I could come up with, but that worked OK. Probably wouldn't work with younger ones, though.

    However I fell at the last fence; 10 months in, our 3rd Freecycled cooker in a row died on me, and I cracked & bought a new one. Even that only lasted 3 years; there are 6-8 of us living here and we cook just about everything from scratch, and it just couldn't last the pace! So I had to spend some serious money & get one that stands a good chance of lasting 15 years like the one I'd had before. I would go along with being able to replace items.

    Somehow the fact that I got hold of a book I'd been hunting for several years today seems like a favourable omen; it's never been in stock on Amaz0n, Abe never seems to have any copies, and it never comes up in charity shops. Where did I finally find it? In a skip...
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    • ScarletRibbons
    • By ScarletRibbons 1st Dec 14, 8:36 PM
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    Good for you Slowdown. In the past year I have tried (and sometimes failed) to stop buying stuff I don't really need.

    I also try to de-clutter regularly, so the charity shops are benefiting.

    One thing I have learned to do is to come out of the supermarket just with the things I went in for, not staggering under the weight of a load of stuff I don't need.
    • Eyeore
    • By Eyeore 1st Dec 14, 8:39 PM
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    Good Luck Slowdown!

    I shall follow with interest, would love to give it a go as getting fed up with buying 'stuff'. Shall try my best to be good and only replace what I need to. Good luck to everyone else joining in too :-)
    2019, move forward with positivity! I am the opposite of Eyeore
    • grunnie
    • By grunnie 1st Dec 14, 8:44 PM
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    I would love to join in too. I have too much stuff and after my son moved house this weekend and I counted more than 200 boxes of stuff and a few still in my loft I think I should either stop buying and also get rid of some stuff. I have sent all my fiction books to a charity shop and downloaded the ones I will read again to my kindle. I am not spending any money on clothes - I will shop my wardrobe as someone on TV called it last week and I will stay out of charity shops as I always come out with something when I hand in stuff.
    • ruby_eskimo
    • By ruby_eskimo 1st Dec 14, 8:50 PM
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    I think this is a challenge I really need to get on board with if you'll have me. Next year is a year of big changes and I want to save as much as possible. I think I'll be instigating the one in one out policy if I need to purchase something but I'm going to try and get through without purchasing anything unnecessary!
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