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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 3rd May 18, 8:50 AM
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    Crazy Cat Lady Chapter 3 - A New Beginning
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    • 3rd May 18, 8:50 AM
    Crazy Cat Lady Chapter 3 - A New Beginning 3rd May 18 at 8:50 AM
    Good morning everyone,

    I've had a bit of a break from the forums over the past couple of months, but today seems like a good time to come back on here and to start a new diary. An awful lot has changed in my life over the past couple of weeks and it's going to take some time and effort to adjust, and more than ever I need the support and accountability of being on here to keep me on the straight and narrow as far as my finances are concerned.
    I hope that some of my usual bunch have followed me to this diary, and welcome to anyone new that might be reading. I need all of the help and support that I can get...
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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 25th Oct 18, 7:13 AM
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    Morning all
    Good news is that she did come home Beanie - but she's obviously had a bit of an experience wherever she's been because she wouldn't eat and was quite nervous. Even slept in bed with me last night, and when I let her out this morning she didn't want to go - I left the door open for her and she wandered out but came back in quickly. Poor little thing.
    I had a fair night of sleep last night. I was in bed and asleep not long after 10 last night. Woke up at 4am for over an hour, but managed to get back to sleep again until 7. Then remembered it's bin day so I got up and put the bins out. I've also washed the dishes and put a load of washing in - and I may be tired but at least my hangover is gone.
    I can't believe it's already day 4 of the hols. I'm nowhere near ready for that! I haven't done any of the masses of work I brought home (it's still sitting in the car) and have no plans to today. I'm seeing bestie and we're taking the boys swimming - dd doesn't want to come but may come over to bestie's house after the swimming session. I still need to have a shower and get ready and we're going out in an hour We'll have a coffee and a chat while the boys do the inflatable stuff at swimming and will probably grab lunch later as well.
    My mind is still all over the place but I feel better within myself than I did at the beginning of the week. Still have about a million things swirling round in there but I am at least able to put things to one side at the moment, and am starting to make lists of things that I can do versus things I can't. So I feel as though I might be getting somewhere - you have to take the good days while you can.
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    • foxgloves
    • By foxgloves 25th Oct 18, 7:35 AM
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    That reads as a pretty positive post, CCL. I had a better night's sleep too, & it does make a difference to positivity levels, doesn't it? A big life change for you, but it will come together. You just need to hang in there!
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 25th Oct 18, 8:17 AM
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    Glad that the cat is home
    Hope she settles down soon.
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    • SpekySquarehead
    • By SpekySquarehead 25th Oct 18, 8:20 AM
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    Have you tried writing out a list of the things that's on your mind? I often find that when I do that it free's the space in my mind and I can stop fretting. Plus it keeps me accountable and there's nothing better than ticking things off a list.

    Glad you're feeling more you.
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    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 25th Oct 18, 9:43 AM
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    Wonder if the tiny cat got shut in someone's greenhouse or shed, or a one way catflap. Poor little thing.

    The fireworks have started around here already, I don't have any cats at the minute, my road is a bit too busy for extending the family in that direction, but every time I hear one I still look for the cats to see they are ok.

    I am one of those miserable people who think fireworks should be licensed and a huge, special, massive event, rather than a carp 10 minutes in a bucket in a different back garden every night for 3 weeks.
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 25th Oct 18, 12:07 PM
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    I am with you on the fireworks f0xh0les.
    Loathe them so much.
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    • Chrystal
    • By Chrystal 25th Oct 18, 4:22 PM
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    I also agree re the fireworks - you'd think it would be done even if it was purely for safety reasons!

    Glad your littlest cat got home safely ccl - it's awful when you don't know where one of your pets are, or even if they're safe.
    Its good news that you're feeling a little bit better about things, and really positive to be making lists of what you CAN do. ((hugs))
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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 26th Oct 18, 7:27 AM
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    I totally agree about the fireworks as well. I HATE them and there is such a lack of understanding of how blimming dangerous they are. Plus all the fools who just want to cause problems with them.
    Teeny cat is still a bit nervous but at least is eating again. She eats constantly so that is reassuring to see.
    Managed another reasonable night of sleep last night - although I do have a few worries on my mind. Some I need to just park because there's nothing I can do about them, but others I need to write down (as you suggest Speky) and make a plan of action. The main ones today are:
    1. DS sleeping at his dad's tonight. I am anxious about being away from the kids at the moment anyway but am also worried about ex's current state of mind. My plan for sorting this is to make sure he has his phone with him at all times so I can contact him later tonight and during the day tomorrow.
    2. Finances. I haven't done anything with my budget since I had my hissy fit with YNAB when they kept taking a load of money out of my account. I need to stop hiding from this just because it's bad news and make a plan to tackle it all head on. Think for now I'm going to go back to a pen and paper budget.
    3. Christmas. I actually think this is almost done - only the kids are getting bought presents this year. Everyone else is getting home made. Just need to link my spends back into my finances.
    4. Anxiety. I am trying with this - back on the medication and avidly using the Headspace app.
    Yesterday was a nice day. Took the boys swimming, then me, bestie and the kids had a home made afternoon tea at bestie's house. Felt like a massive treat. Then while the boys played on Fortnite, us girls watched a box set which was also fab.
    I'm popping out again with bestie this morning (just me and her) for a few bits of stocking fillers for the kids. Best get on. I will check in later...
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    • SpekySquarehead
    • By SpekySquarehead 26th Oct 18, 7:55 AM
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    Enjoy your day out today and good on you for getting your list all sorted.
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    • Honeysucklelou2
    • By Honeysucklelou2 26th Oct 18, 8:00 AM
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    Sometimes you can't beat a pen and paper budget! I've bought an A5 notebook and use a page a week to plan and then a spending tracker app to make sure they tally.

    Have a good day!
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    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 26th Oct 18, 8:47 AM
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    I am so glad you had a good day.

    I have to say I love fireworks, just not for the general public.
    I am still unsure who though tiny sparkers for kids was a good idea.

    Maybe I am just a snowflake.
    A kind of ninja throwing snowflake with jagged edges and claws. rah!

    Also a big fan of paper and pen budgetting.

    Have a lovely weekend and enjoy the rest of your half term.
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 26th Oct 18, 12:44 PM
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    Is the headspace app good?
    My anxiety seems to be bad at the moment.
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    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
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    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
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    • Chrystal
    • By Chrystal 26th Oct 18, 1:44 PM
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    Definitely sounds as though you're in a more positive space CCL - long may it continue.

    Beanilou - Hope you start to feel better soon. X
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 26th Oct 18, 1:52 PM
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    Thanks Chrystal
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    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 27th Oct 18, 8:55 AM
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    Beanie - there are a lot of sessions you can access for free on the Headspace App if you wanted to give it a try. I'm a member of Anxiety UK, and my membership there covers full access to the app. I really like it - it's helped a lot with my sleep and now I'm working through the self esteem stuff. I'm willing to try anything.
    So, I've woken up this morning to a load of snow outside. There is nothing I would like more than to just stay in my jammies today and snuggle up in front of the telly, however that really isn't a choice for me today... I have a tutoring session at 11 then I've arranged to pick ds up in town later this afternoon. He's been at his dad's overnight and they're off to football this afternoon.
    Had a bit of a conversation with ex last night, to try and move things on a bit. I have no idea if it will work, and it was difficult but at least I have done it. He reckons he's overwhelmed with the amount of paperwork he needs to do and isn't deliberately trying to be awkward. I said that he would need to bite the bullet and get some help with it from someone, but who knows whether that will happen.
    Also had a minor disaster in the house. A couple of the cats were chasing each other around the living room, and one of them knocked my wax warmer over - down the side of the sofa. It's completely covered in wax and I have no idea how to go about getting it off. I've hidden it under a blanket and am trying to pretend it's not there. Having spent a fortune on the bathroom floor, walls and pipework followed by needing a new fridge there is no way on the planet I can consider replacing the sofa...
    Yesterday was nice, but I was tired by the end of it. Went round the shops for a couple of hours with bestie - I'm confident that I'm just about done with Christmas shopping for the kids. Just one or two things left to get, which is a relief that I've managed to sort that without completely breaking myself. Then came home in time for me and ds to get our hair cut. After ds had gone to his dad, me and dd finished watching a box set on Netflix. No sign of any school work but I did get the budget done. Scary budget - it prompted the awkward conversation with ex because I really need that new, reduced mortgage payment in the short term...just until I'm not paying the solicitor a massive amount every single month.
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    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 27th Oct 18, 9:14 AM
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    To get wax (like candle wax) out of fabric you need.
    Brown paper (like parcel paper)
    An iron
    a scrapey thing

    Scrape off the worst with something non cutty - a fingernail, blunt side of a butterknife, small child etc.
    Put brown paper over wax, put iron on low, gently iron - it will melt and stick to brown paper. Move on to clean piece of brown paper. Repeat until it is gone.

    Also works wonders on carpet wax spillages.
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    • triple choc chip
    • By triple choc chip 27th Oct 18, 9:14 AM
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    Hey CCL
    My recommendation for the wax would be to scrape off as much as possible from the surface then cover with brown parcel paper and iron over the top. The paper should absorb the wax. This will work if it’s a parafin/candle wax.

    If it’s beeswax, you could use eucalyptus oil to dissolve it. Tea tree oil is good too but would be a very expensive option. Or go to a branch of Sally’s and get the wax cleaner that beauty salons use, which would probably be most cost effective. Failing that, surgical spirit should do it, which you can by at any chemist.
    TCC
    Last edited by triple choc chip; 27-10-2018 at 11:23 AM.
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    • apple muncher
    • By apple muncher 27th Oct 18, 9:43 AM
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    Beanie - another one who gives Headspace a big thumbs up. Worth a try. My sister hates it and I love it, so I guess it's a little like marm1te...
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    • By wishingthemortgaheaway 27th Oct 18, 10:06 AM
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    Another reccommendation for brown paper and the iron on the wax.
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    • Chrystal
    • By Chrystal 27th Oct 18, 11:44 AM
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    CCL have you checked your contents insurance - do you not have accidental damage?
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