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    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 14th Jan 09, 3:22 AM
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    Black Dog of Depression - can we help each other?
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    • 14th Jan 09, 3:22 AM
    Black Dog of Depression - can we help each other? 14th Jan 09 at 3:22 AM
    Hello Friends

    It's silly o'clock as I type this, but I've been lying in bed unable to sleep, and it occurs to me that there's not a Depression thread yet.

    I think those of us who suffer this can help each other. I'd like to think so, anyway; I do know that, as a MoneySaving forum, it is relevant for those of us who go a bit OTT with the spending when the Black Dog has us. I know I do - I spend far and away too much on alcohol.

    Depression is as much a disability as the physical stuff (of which I do have some also, I have lupus) but it is so sad that it is seen as something you can "pull yourself together" from. Etc, etc. If you've read this far, you know that it doesn't work that way.

    OK, to get to the point..... I have had severe depression from very early in life (diagnosed at the age of 12, I have been on various anti-d's for the last 37 years) and I'd like to offer a "paw" of friendship to others in the jaws of the Black Dog.

    I can't, obviously, wave a magic wand and solve all your problems, but I do think that we can perhaps share coping strategies, and maybe provide some mutual support.
    LameWolf
    If your dog thinks you're the best, don't seek a second opinion.
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    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 16th Jan 09, 12:53 PM
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    Jamla, there's nowt wrong with a Little Blue Car. We got rid of our two large, ancient money-drains, and got a Honda Jazz in "blue pearl". I don't have my own car anymore, as I can't justify the expense, and anyway need help going anywhere, so DH uses the Jazz for work, but the good thing is you can fold up the back seats, so my wheelchair can live in there permanently (I use two sticks to hobble round the bungalow - not enough room to use a wheelchair indoors).

    Nearest I get to audio books is DH reading Terry Pratchett aloud to me. I'm quite deaf, and he knows how to pitch his voice once I've removed my hearing aid for the night so that I can hear him. Now, if only I can find a way to deal with the nightmares that have me almost frightened to sleep, we might be getting somewhere.:confused:

    Sometimes have to poke DH in the ribs at silly o'clock to help me get a dose of Oramorph, as well. (Paws usually seized up and can't pour it myself without spilling it). Lucky for me he has the patience of a saint.
    LameWolf
    If your dog thinks you're the best, don't seek a second opinion.
    • tooties
    • By tooties 16th Jan 09, 9:47 PM
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    Hi everyone,
    my name it tooties and i have chronic severe unipolar depression (well thats my latest label anyway).
    i know all about the depression thread on the other board but i find it a bit touchy feely too cuddly for me (maybe thats just a personal thing though) so i would be glad to come on here and discuss coping strategies with likeminded others who suffer from this awful and very underrated disability.
    im in the process of being medically retured from work and beginning to claim benefits (what a minefield that it) and i am really struggling with the motivation to fill in these huge forms. (but thats a whole seperate thread on its own).
    anyways enough of my ramblings just wanted to introduce myself and say hi to everyone
    kindest regards to all
    tooties
  • tatiepot
    Hello Tooties, Welcome Aboard,
    If you are to be retired early from work, get in touch with your local Wefare Officers they will help you with all the forms etc and it will be a weight lifted off your shoulders. They helped me an awful lot and so did this site.
    Good Luck
    • black paw
    • By black paw 17th Jan 09, 1:55 AM
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    hi tooties, welcome , i went to the local disability help center , as i found the forms too hard to fill in and understand and gave me mega brain blow out. they where so helpful did all the form filling, faxed of stuff to get quick answers.phoned people on my behalf i signed over all rights to them to do this , organized tribunals and we won , never with out there help . well just spent 2 hours trying to get one song from computer to mobile phone via usb cable , i will not give in -i will not give in damn pc damn phone .... done it . so worn out, think will sleep well to night, poor black dog gone in coma lol .lamewolf i've got a light bright blue polo car which is similar to your lovely jazz .i do love it now , but sold old jeep to friend and he comes round and say oooooo your jeep is out side men !!!!! wonder why i rage, then say i leave it at home next time and come in car men !! least i can sit in it on drive way and pat it !
    the truth is out there ... on these pages !!
    Last night I lay in bed looking up at the stars in the sky and I thought to myself, where the heck is the ceiling.
    • KittyBoo
    • By KittyBoo 17th Jan 09, 8:22 AM
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    Hi everyone,
    my name it tooties and i have chronic severe unipolar depression (well thats my latest label anyway).
    i know all about the depression thread on the other board but i find it a bit touchy feely too cuddly for me (maybe thats just a personal thing though) so i would be glad to come on here and discuss coping strategies with likeminded others who suffer from this awful and very underrated disability.
    im in the process of being medically retured from work and beginning to claim benefits (what a minefield that it) and i am really struggling with the motivation to fill in these huge forms. (but thats a whole seperate thread on its own).
    anyways enough of my ramblings just wanted to introduce myself and say hi to everyone
    kindest regards to all
    tooties
    Originally posted by tooties
    I like this thread as I know where I am on it as it's not too big.
    I have been recently diagnosed with depression after 6 months of horrible thyroid problems.
    Had an operation to sort it but have terrible depression and SAD.
    I don't want to do anything and would stay in bed all day if it wasn't for the fact that my son calls in on his way home from work.
    Got all sorts of financial worries like alot of people anf living on Incapacity Benefit at the moment.
    I'm on anti depressants and sleeping tablets and very strong painkillers so a bit zonked out sometimes.
    The thought of finding a job fills me with fear.
    Hope you all have a peaceful and pain free day.
    • bushbaby1103
    • By bushbaby1103 17th Jan 09, 9:27 AM
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    Hi there Tooties

    Welcome, I'm fairly new to this thread too. I'm sorry to hear that you have so much on your plate. Everyone here is very friendly and helpful so I'm sure you'll get lots of support and feel that you can be yourself here. I hope today is a good one for you.

    As the others have suggested, perhaps you could you get some help with the benefit forms from your local CAB or advice centre? I had lots of help from them in the past. I know the motivation thing is a huge challenge but take one day at a time and try not to get angry with yourself. As you said depression is a disability, asking for help is a sign of inner strength, not a weakness. Think of how much those Benefits will make a big difference to your life.

    I'm sorry I can't be of more help, but I hope you have a good day, stick around here, there are some lovely people here :-)
    Yes, it's true hell IS other people
    And remember the problem is them, not you.
    Devilsand demons walk among us in human form.wake up people, it's a man.
    • black paw
    • By black paw 20th Jan 09, 11:43 PM
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    black paw
    black dog is up and wants to play
    damn dog wants to play and run about instead of night time basket ! getting so stressed as have IB medical on Thursday , will be half dead by the time i get there anyway , they can stretcher me in lol . very worried over this , had medical before ok but not this kind of one, don't know what to expect at all , which is the worrying thing. ahhhhhhh need group hug xxx
    the truth is out there ... on these pages !!
    Last night I lay in bed looking up at the stars in the sky and I thought to myself, where the heck is the ceiling.
    • TaBunny
    • By TaBunny 21st Jan 09, 1:23 PM
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    Hey Jamla, good luck with the medical, I'm sure it will be fine but I know how these things can just exaserbate how awful we feel.

    Hey Wolfie, I know exactly how you feel, the way you described needing help for practically everything but wishing and wanting to do it yourself is exactly how I am/feel.

    Don't know if anyone else has experienced this but I've also noticed that I get more and more moany with OH now I'm in more pain, it's like I just can't take the little annoyances about him that I once thought were endearing. Anyway maybe that's just me.

    Welcome Tooties and Bushbaby x
    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 21st Jan 09, 4:19 PM
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    Jamla very best of luck with your medical.

    TaBunny yes I can be very snappy with Mr LW when the pain is bad. If I recognise that I'm getting like this, I just tell him to ignore me and not to take it personally - I'm lucky, he's a lovely man, and never, ever gets ticked off with me.
    Last edited by LameWolf; 21-01-2009 at 4:21 PM.
    LameWolf
    If your dog thinks you're the best, don't seek a second opinion.
    • black paw
    • By black paw 21st Jan 09, 11:15 PM
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    Dear friends
    Thank you for your kind comments, well feeling a little better now , and found consultant orthopaedic surgeon's report which was done on the 8 th September 2008, it explains ,he say i remain considerably disabled , he can not see any thing improving at all ,and will persist indefinitely ! oh no . he explains that i get worn out , dizzy ,ect and movement in all directions is reduced and painful ......... have suffered tonight and done photo copy to take . they need just read it and it explains all in the life of me . happy bunny now..... hope they read it ...mmmmmmm o well i tried, fingers crossed
    the truth is out there ... on these pages !!
    Last night I lay in bed looking up at the stars in the sky and I thought to myself, where the heck is the ceiling.
    • black paw
    • By black paw 21st Jan 09, 11:23 PM
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    Tabunny and lame wolf , yes my boyfriend is the same , when in pain i snap , but he seems to be aware of it coming on , normally i ask for help doing some thing its days later , when he thinks im moody , its like , i do it now for you, i go why ? iv'e be killed by you . yes right . other times when i got real bad head , he get pills put me to bed ...there- there pat , and lets him self out . bless . if we go out it's don't to any today , so we can go out tomorrow , ah bless there little cotton socks , but some day's you really want to murder them , than it's see you tomorrow !!
    the truth is out there ... on these pages !!
    Last night I lay in bed looking up at the stars in the sky and I thought to myself, where the heck is the ceiling.
  • sharon59
    good luck for your medical tomorrow-hopefully they will see from seeing you and written evidence that you are having problems,sending big hug to you.
    My hubby ets it when lm down or in pain but is also a darling and just takes it and looks after me.Since yesterday have had major pain from prolapsed disc and slopping and aggrevating it and he has been wonderful.On monday we will have been married 29 happy years!
    thinking of you tomorrow sending love sharonx
    this money saving is such fun
    • black paw
    • By black paw 22nd Jan 09, 9:10 PM
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    black paw
    im home
    yes im home honey !! well lots to say , got losted trying to find the place, it was pouring with rain, up a biggish hill , down steps with no hand rail ,by the time i got there in the room and signed in , all they could see this dead limping, bad breathing ( asthma ) wet zombie with dead staight locked arms and neck ! well they wanted true life ! take your time to come to medical room ,10 mins later... it got worser ... i cound'nt hear him well , and he had accent , nearly had to write on paper . took me age's to answer any thing as i forgot nearly everthing brain was floating in fog I.E what illness have you ? doh ,he read bits from computer and i just said snap !! we got on well , i gave him the super dopper consultant surgeon report , he went to heaven ,said thats it over, bye. so not much to worry about because i forgot everything when i was there ...........xxx
    the truth is out there ... on these pages !!
    Last night I lay in bed looking up at the stars in the sky and I thought to myself, where the heck is the ceiling.
    • TaBunny
    • By TaBunny 23rd Jan 09, 2:10 PM
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    Hey Jamla glad it's over and done with. I've yet to go through one of these I was on IS for 4 years but they recently transferred me over to IB I've been on it 3 months and after reading all the stuff on here I'm waiting to get called in for something. Mind you at the begining when they wanted all the info on me I requested they came to my house because the local office is on the first floor with no lift. They came out made me feel like I was a complete liar (does anyone else feel like they've been told off by the head mistress after seeing these people) but they put my new claim through. They then went on to tell me how I could re train and I just raised my eyebrows, I am well trained already in what I used to do and if I was well enough I'd do that but it don't matter what they think they can train me to do I'm still going to be in bl**dy agony from dawn to dusk and even in the night it wakes me up with pain. So as yet not been called to any work focused interviews, sigh I live in hope they'll forget about me.

    Having a bad day today top end of my pain scale and for some reason the dam drugs seem to be doing nothing, oh well.
    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 23rd Jan 09, 2:22 PM
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    Jamla well, at least that medical is behind you now. They're not nice, but unfortunately a necessary evil.

    TaBunny ((((HUG)))) for you, sorry you're having a rotten day. I hope tomorrow is better.
    LameWolf
    If your dog thinks you're the best, don't seek a second opinion.
  • LittleTinker
    Hello Friends

    It's silly o'clock as I type this, but I've been lying in bed unable to sleep, and it occurs to me that there's not a Depression thread yet.

    I think those of us who suffer this can help each other. I'd like to think so, anyway; I do know that, as a MoneySaving forum, it is relevant for those of us who go a bit OTT with the spending when the Black Dog has us. I know I do - I spend far and away too much on alcohol.

    Depression is as much a disability as the physical stuff (of which I do have some also, I have lupus) but it is so sad that it is seen as something you can "pull yourself together" from. Etc, etc. If you've read this far, you know that it doesn't work that way.

    OK, to get to the point..... I have had severe depression from very early in life (diagnosed at the age of 12, I have been on various anti-d's for the last 37 years) and I'd like to offer a "paw" of friendship to others in the jaws of the Black Dog.

    I can't, obviously, wave a magic wand and solve all your problems, but I do think that we can perhaps share coping strategies, and maybe provide some mutual support.
    Originally posted by LameWolf
    I just thought I would let you know...there is a Depression Support Thread already over on another board.

    Think its the Family one.
  • Gemmzie
    My dog's gone wild today, wish I could put the damn thing down for good.
    No longer using this account for new posts from 2013
  • sharon59
    Hey Jamla glad it's over and done with. I've yet to go through one of these I was on IS for 4 years but they recently transferred me over to IB I've been on it 3 months and after reading all the stuff on here I'm waiting to get called in for something. Mind you at the begining when they wanted all the info on me I requested they came to my house because the local office is on the first floor with no lift. They came out made me feel like I was a complete liar (does anyone else feel like they've been told off by the head mistress after seeing these people) but they put my new claim through. They then went on to tell me how I could re train and I just raised my eyebrows, I am well trained already in what I used to do and if I was well enough I'd do that but it don't matter what they think they can train me to do I'm still going to be in bl**dy agony from dawn to dusk and even in the night it wakes me up with pain. So as yet not been called to any work focused interviews, sigh I live in hope they'll forget about me.

    Having a bad day today top end of my pain scale and for some reason the dam drugs seem to be doing nothing, oh well.
    Originally posted by TaBunny
    sending big hugs and hoping your feeling less pain now.
    sharonx
    this money saving is such fun
    • black paw
    • By black paw 23rd Jan 09, 11:58 PM
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    hi sharon59 and lamewolf thank you for your kind messages at a bad time . have just got up and been so worn out from the ordeal of yesterday . i have fibromalgia + other thing's as well . just about able to type this as shaky hands , will stay in all day tomorrow to build up energy to take my mum and brother out for late lunch on sunday .there know this means after 2 .dog is exhusted and in coma for a while
    Gemmzie sorry to hear your dog is up and pestering , and not wanting to stay in basket asleep. prehaps some calming music and chocolate bar or nice sweet's to eat will take your mind of him . and will go to basket . thinking of you all mega group hug xxx
    the truth is out there ... on these pages !!
    Last night I lay in bed looking up at the stars in the sky and I thought to myself, where the heck is the ceiling.
  • sharon59
    Like you Jamla l have fibro and depression and other things that go along side fibro and it really does become a daily battle.Any amount of positive thinking makes no difference!enjoying the group hug and think we should celebrate what we have managed to do and not feel disappointed in what we have failed to achieve.Am going to try this-well we can only try!!!
    hugs to us all
    xxxx
    this money saving is such fun
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