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  • I had a maths teacher who threw board rubbers, the wooden ones, she had a good aim too.
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  • MMF007
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    edited 22 December 2017 at 9:11PM
    Good to 'see' you Burtha. Please don't cancel Christmas! Just make it really special for those of you at home, in a relaxed way (ie, no need to go overvoard). . Don't let 3mw take that from you and the kids.

    Dad has enjoyed having his visitors today. His GP called in and took him a card, mum and I visited late morning and again mid-afternoon, the guy who drives the patient transport ambulance (dad has fairly regular consults at distant hosp), also called in to see him for 5 minutes. Dad was so pleased.

    I visited again at 7pm, because dad asked if we would be back later. He said he was pleased to see me and he knew mum was shattered although he was sorry she couldn't be there too. He looked very tired and after 15 minutes he told me i should really go, thanks. I made sure he was comfy, sorted out the lighting to his liking and drove the 20 miles back home!
    BTW, it was 13°C at 8pm here.

    Those with good memories (Polly!) may recall that I had a commission to make 5 hampers for a friend to give on xmas day. Well I had no time to finish them so I rang DH yester and gave detailed instructions.
    I am pleased to say that on top of the things I had made and put in the hampers, shortbread and leibkuchen are now in pretty cellobags, ribbons have been applied, as have mini baubles and cello wrap.
    I rang my friend to assure her the hampers would be delivered to her tomorrow.
    She asked how I could possibly have completed them, given that I am still in Scotland and she is 460 miles away.
    My reply? 'I did them by remore control' :rotfl:
    I have changed my work-life balance to a life-work balance. :grin:
  • karcher
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    MMF007 wrote: »
    Good to 'see' you Burtha. Please don't cancel Christmas! Just make it really special for those of you at home, in a relaxed way (ie, no need to go overvoard). . Don't let 3mw take that from you and the kids.

    Dad has enjoyed having his visitors today. His GP called in and took him a card, mum and I visited late morning and again mid-afternoon, the guy who drives the patient transport ambulance (dad has fairly regular consults at distant hosp), also called in to see him for 5 minutes. Dad was so pleased.

    I visited again at 7pm, because dad asked if we would be back later. He said he was pleased to see me and he knew mum was shattered although he was sorry she couldn't be there too. He looked very tired and after 15 minutes he told me i should really go, thanks. I made sure he was comfy, sorted out the lighting to his liking and drove the 20 miles back home!
    BTW, it was 13°C at 8pm here.

    Those with good memories (Polly!) may recall that I had a commission to make 5 hampers for a friend to give on xmas day. Well I had no time to finish them so I rang DH yester and gave detailed instructions.
    I am pleased to say that on top of the things I had made and put in the hampers, shortbread and leibkuchen are now in pretty cellobags, ribbons have been applied, as have mini baubles and cello wrap.
    I rang my friend to assure her the hampers would be delivered to her tomorrow.
    She asked how I could possibly have completed them, given that I am still in Scotland and she is 460 miles away.
    My reply? 'I did them by remore control' :rotfl:

    MMF :) xx
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  • silver-oldie
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    edited 22 December 2017 at 10:29PM
    Can I please ask you lovely folks for help?

    I have just seen my Dil has written

    'I’ve got the p*xy in laws coming Sunday'.

    I feel so hurt and upset. Not sure what to do.

    Do I confront her or try and pretend I haven't seen what she has said?
    I really don't want to go now.
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  • MMF007
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    How very childish of your DiL ! How old is she???
    I'd turn up as planned, tell her you hope you are not the poxy in-law she mentioned and let her squirm. Otherwise you will be the one squirming, for a long time. As you can't forget what she wrote ,you may as well put the ball in her court.
    I guess you [STRIKE]will be[/STRIKE] were taking presents and maybe other contributions to the festivities? Consider taking a pared-down number of items!

    Some people are just horrid but they are only horrid to people they think won't bite back. You are obviously a lovely person she thinks she can stomp on.

    Just be careful about your son. DiL is likely to try and get him into the middle of the mess, to invoke a sort of emotional blackmail on you. Just make your point and leave it at that. She will be mortified, righlty so!
    I have changed my work-life balance to a life-work balance. :grin:
  • A teacher at my OH school used to take his glass eye out and leave it on the top of the inkwell when he had to leave the room. Apparently all the children were as good as gold as they though he could still see them.

    Silver Oldie my first reaction would be to write underneath “not now you haven’t”.
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  • Floss
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    MMF think your DH has a future role as gifting production specialist! Bet your dad was pleased as punch with his non-family visitors, and how lovely of them to think of him xx
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  • karcher
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    Can I please ask you lovely folks for help?

    I have just seen my Dil has written

    'I’ve got the poxy in laws coming Sunday'.

    I feel so hurt and upset. Not sure what to do.

    Do I confront her or try and pretend I haven't seen what she has said?
    I really don't want to go now.

    Oh no, how hurtful. I'm so sorry silver-oldie x

    In your shoes I wouldn't want to go either and being me, I probably wouldn't.

    Given time I would mull it over and then, yes, I would explain exactly what I'd seen and how it made me feel.

    But that is me..I have to say how I feel. We are all different but personally I would voice my hurt..if I didn't it would eat away at me.

    I'm probably not being much help so sorry:o.. and I am so sorry your dil is being so cruel.

    xx
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    And I ain't got the power anymore'
  • Nargleblast
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    Well that’s charming! Where did she write this? On a social networking site? If so, more fool her for writing something that potentially lots of people will read, including you! Difficult one, this. You are understandably miffed but won’t want to upset your son at this time. Your choice is a) go as planned and be all sweetness and light as if nothing has happened, b) refuse to go or c) go, but have it out with her at some point. My warped sense of humour would have you go wearing matching tee shirts with Poxy In Law on the front. Has your son seen what she has written about his parents?
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  • Floss
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    Silver Oldie, I think I would post something like "oh, I thought we were coming on Sunday, have you got the dates mixed up?" I take it she doesn't realise that you will see that (or maybe she does & is hoping you will take umbrance) - is she genuinely being stupid or just rude?
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