The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat!

NM Not the same but The Red House was where William Morris and friends hung out for some time . Think of it as a good sign .
Would you prefer painted brick or your current home ? Once you get a few flowery pots going you might at some point health and finances permitting be able to do some herb and salad pots maybe even tomatoes etc . I feel not pushing your affordability rent wise by choosing to view this house has to be better for your peace of mind .
polly x

Ivyleaf I wonder if you were living there went I went to see The Red House . It's over 20 years ago but we didn't need to ask a local the way . It is a very lovely arts and crafts house and you're fortunate to be so near .
NM If you get this house and have a plaque call it home . You aren't responsible for any the look of the exterior so not your circus not your monkey . You will make a home inside as that's what matters with space for your belongings and washing drying in the fresh air on dry days . Some landlords after a certain length of tenancy will allow some paving to be removed to provide garden borders if you wish . You wont have the bin problems you do at present and will hopefully be able to sit in the sun and warm your joints on nice days .
I would look at the pros and cons . You can't judge a book by it's cover . it seems to tick a number off boxes . Travel to work for your son , shops and bus services and somewhere to store the present bike and future motor bike plus room for an office that's a fair number of ticks .

Hester I feel so sad for your daughter . She's one of lifes grafters , fighting her mh issues and caring for her husband and children while working 3 jobs . As monna said you couldn't make these situations up when dealing with Gov departments . While so many could benefit from such a course your dd is too busy working and not needing to learn about seeking work as she's found it times 3.

A massive waste of money there while they pester her and someone else could use the support . Certainly if not already get advice from MIND along with Macmillan both are monnas quiet angels in real life . I never met any who were anything but kind , supportive and very knowledgable . I didn't mean Macmillan could help this situation but agreeing with previous posts about them .

polly x

Don't often post but always read. Really struggling today. DS2 is getting married later in the year. He and his partner both have DD's who will be bridesmaids. My problem is with his brothers wife, who for reasons I don't get, feels that her DD should also be a bridesmaid. My problems are, its none of her business, she hates my Ds2 and always has, she hardly knows the bride, and so on. I've already told her its down to the couple who they have and its no ones business but theirs. Which she didn't like.I'm sorry for my GD that she is in the middle of this when it should never have been an option unless she was asked. The other issue is that she has been telling anyone who will listen how hard done by her Dd is as she hasn't been asked to be BM. I'm so bloody cross with her and my DS for not nipping this in the bud. I don't want to fall out but feel she's crossed a line by taking it outside the family. What to do?

Granb, you're right. His brothers wife has no business for suggesting that and shame on her for dragging your DGD into it. I get really ticked off when, whether with a wedding or a funeral, far more people than those who actually should make the decisions feel the need to give their twopenneth. They should zip it and keep their noses out. Weddings are about the bride and groom, end of :mad:

There are a few things I feel strongly about