Christmas present conundrum!

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  • *Louise*
    *Louise* Posts: 9,197 Forumite
    Mojisola wrote: »

    Perhaps he could accept sending their children £10 this year - making one change would make it easier to make another reduction next year.



    This would be my first step too. No one can complain about that.
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  • ska_lover
    ska_lover Posts: 3,773 Forumite
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    Cor with ten kids, it is surprising the family can afford presents for their own kids, never mind other peoples

    If the only reason you to stop is because you feel unfairly done by, then that is just giving to receive. Christmas is about Kids and that would be punishing them, because their parents cannot afford to do the same as you OP

    Id stop the financial transaction feeling, and buy them all gifts and toys - but you are completely free to chose to spend less, £10 per child can get some nice toys
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  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Posts: 0 Newbie
    I'm wondering if these 10 kids don't get much at all and your husband knows this which is why he wants to continue. Having said that I wouldn't keep doing it especially as its not appreciated enough for a thankyou card . I also wouldn't be bothered about upsetting the applecart for people I never / rarely saw tbh.


    There is too much inequality there, £200 v £20.


    Just let them know early next year that you wont be doing this next year and if you don't want to say it outright make up an excuse eg that times are harder / lost job/ need new car etc etc


    A family gift is the way to go IMO.


    Look at it this way if these 10 kids are under 10 and you do this until adulthood that is thousands of pounds .
  • kittennose
    kittennose Posts: 142 Forumite
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    10 kids?

    I'd buy them a pack of condoms....

    In all seriousness, a family game and maybe a bottle of wine for the grown-ups is probably a better solution.
  • dingdongsaving
    dingdongsaving Posts: 596 Forumite
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    I hope you found something that suits everyone. :)
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