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    • Time to Change
    • By Time to Change 7th Aug 19, 10:21 AM
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    Time to Change
    What can my 12 yr old do
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    • 7th Aug 19, 10:21 AM
    What can my 12 yr old do 7th Aug 19 at 10:21 AM
    I have younger children and there are so many activities and holiday clubs for them but nothing for 12 yr olds.
    My eldest has no confidence and struggles with friends, so he is seeing lots of kids his age going out enjoying themselves just “hanging out” and he is stuck in his room.
    I’ve approach sports places/gyms but they’re all over 16 only.
    He is overweight so any suggestions that would help him lose weight would be great!!
    I’m doing as much as I can with him but with 2 younger ones he doesn’t want to do stuff with them understandably
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    • katie4
    • By katie4 7th Aug 19, 10:28 AM
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    Are there anu summer camps in your area? might be worth searching for them if there are
    download the app HOOP it shows you local activities etc in your area

    • Queenriderbrekke
    • By Queenriderbrekke 7th Aug 19, 11:34 AM
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    Any local running clubs he could join? If too expensive then search for your local Parkrun event, great fun for all the family and a community spirit
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    • By p00hsticks 7th Aug 19, 12:07 PM
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    Depends on where you live and if he has a smartphone with GPS , what about geocaching ?

    It'd get him out the house and walking, it's free and it's something he can do by himself or with the rest of the family but may then get to meet others who share a common interest
    • kazwookie
    • By kazwookie 7th Aug 19, 12:12 PM
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    Check your local council, around here they are doing free basketball lessons once a week.
    Check what the local libaray is offering or advertising for others
    Look on facebook local pages to you, or whats on type pages near you.

    Can you invite a couple of his school friends over to yours.
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    • By heartbreak_star 7th Aug 19, 1:31 PM
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    Pokemon Go/Wizards Unite?

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    • Lokolo
    • By Lokolo 7th Aug 19, 2:41 PM
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    - however most probably sold out
    - Football / Sports Camps, usually loads around
    • Fen1
    • By Fen1 7th Aug 19, 3:11 PM
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    Instead of focusing on his weight, find something he enjoys so he can build confidence. Gaining self-confidence will help his socialising, which will then help with his physicality.
    Does he play a musical instrument? Might he like amateur dramatics or singing? Does he have any engineering/technical/crafting interests?

    Could you both do some volunteering in the community? There are beach cleans, path cleans, community gardening etc.
    Contact you local library and CVS. CVS are a great source of knowledge.
    • Tallaght
    • By Tallaght 7th Aug 19, 4:23 PM
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    Have you tried enrolling him into a martial arts club ?
    • trailingspouse
    • By trailingspouse 7th Aug 19, 6:42 PM
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    Are there jobs around the house/garden he could do? Something a bit more grown up than his younger siblings are allowed to do? Maybe painting a wall (or his entire room??), cutting the grass, washing the car. Something that really needs to be done and that you would really appreciate him doing (I think when you're 12 you need things to be 'real').
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    • By CarolynRach 12th Aug 19, 11:28 AM
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    Is there nice cycling places nearby? Perhaps he could cycle to the park (while you walk/scoot). Then he's doing is own thing but you're still able to go out with your other children.
    • flybynight
    • By flybynight 12th Aug 19, 4:49 PM
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    contact your local rugby club
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    • By 43722 12th Aug 19, 6:46 PM
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    • gettingtheresometime
    • By gettingtheresometime 13th Aug 19, 9:19 PM
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    Really depends on whether they want to do something just for what's left of the school holiday or something that he can do longer term.

    If it's the later then what about sea cadets/air cadets/army cadets? You don't have to want a career in the military to join and they get a lot out of it both in terms of friendship & opportunities for personal development.
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    • Korkyb
    • By Korkyb 14th Aug 19, 1:40 AM
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    Another vote for Cadets.

    Builds confidence, friendships, responsibility. It is also educational and fun.
    • dan958
    • By dan958 14th Aug 19, 10:08 AM
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    When I was younger, my parents signed me up to a bunch of sports lessons activities (I think it was a local sports hall). They were not proper lessons, but it was like 6 weeks (I went every Saturday) of a bunch of kids learning how to play cricket, volley ball, then badminton etc

    Great way of getting the kids out of the house, interacting with lots of people their age, and trying different sports to find out one they like.
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