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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 3rd May 18, 8:50 AM
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    Crazy Cat Lady Chapter 3 - A New Beginning
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    • 3rd May 18, 8:50 AM
    Crazy Cat Lady Chapter 3 - A New Beginning 3rd May 18 at 8:50 AM
    Good morning everyone,

    I've had a bit of a break from the forums over the past couple of months, but today seems like a good time to come back on here and to start a new diary. An awful lot has changed in my life over the past couple of weeks and it's going to take some time and effort to adjust, and more than ever I need the support and accountability of being on here to keep me on the straight and narrow as far as my finances are concerned.
    I hope that some of my usual bunch have followed me to this diary, and welcome to anyone new that might be reading. I need all of the help and support that I can get...
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    • liselle
    • By liselle 21st Oct 18, 5:15 PM
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    White Goods Insurance
    So sorry to hear about your freezer breaking down.Such a pain.
    But, for the future,have you considered insuring your white goods? The cost is somewhere in the region of £4.00 per item per month.
    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 22nd Oct 18, 7:59 AM
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    Morning all
    Well - I've made it to half term but have woken up with a stinking head again this morning. It's either stress, withdrawl from the drugs I've been living on or hormonal (and I strongly suspect it's hormonal). However, I have a cup of tea in front of me and I'm going to try and wait before I give in to paracetamol.
    I have a partly busy day today - even though I am on half term I'm working for the exam board today. I have a meeting with them, which is all done online so hopefully it will all work and I don't even have to get dressed or brush my hair if I don't want to. It's scheduled for half nine until half three but if it's anything like the last one I went to I might be done by 2pm. If so I'm going to try and see my mam later. It's just been nice to see a bit more of her, and my anxiety is so bad at the moment that I'm keen to be around people that I know and trust for a lot of the time.
    I still can't believe how much our lives continue to mirror each others EE. I can't imagine how bad that smell must have been. I'm grateful that I have another freezer I can use in the short term but there has been a lot of food waste unfortunately. I never take out any separate insurance on goods in the house liselle - I know my freezer contents are covered with the home insurance. There just needs to be a balance of how much it will cost me versus how much it will cost me to claim on the insurance once the excess etc is dealt with. I decided the same with the bathroom floor - plus the freezer itself was pretty busted and rusting so probably just needed replacing (although I know it's only about 8 years old). I've chosen a slightly more expensive, branded freezer in the hope that it will be better quality.
    As for ex - I haven't heard anything back from him as yet but that's not a surprise - I hadn't wanted to have to contact him in the first place, but I am definitely putting my foot down about him coming to the house. I don't know what is going through his mind, but it's not predictable, which just sets me on edge a bit.
    Right, my meeting starts in half an hour and I want to get some breakfast before that. So, I'll be back on later. Have a good day everyone.
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 22nd Oct 18, 3:48 PM
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    Hope your meeting goes well
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
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    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 22nd Oct 18, 7:53 PM
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    It did thanks Beanie - was all done and dusted by half past one. And it's good to know I'll get a little bit of cash for the Christmas pot as well.
    Wish the headache would do one though - I think it may be stress related after all because it has been hanging on for days, and I feel like I may be quite tense around my neck and shoulders. Not that I have the foggiest idea what to do about it though. It's all very well people telling me to calm down and stop worrying about everything, but it's not like I'm doing it deliberately. I know that my fears and worries are mostly irrational, and that stress isn't good for me - but my circumstances are such at the moment that I can't do anything about it - no matter how much meditating, mindfulness, soaking in the bath etc I do.
    I did get to see my mam - she took me out to see A Star Is Born at the cinema. I cried my eyes out. Not that me or ex are international megastars but the story behind it was a little bit close for comfort at the moment. It was brilliant though - and I love Gaga even more than I did before (and I loved her before). I was incredibly anxious the whole time though about leaving the kids alone in the house - and I've done it before. Wonder if I should get myself back to the doctors? It may be time... if I can ever get an appointment.
    Just getting ready for another early night. I need to be available from 7am tomorrow for the new fridge. I hope it comes sooner rather than later - but I have already arranged to see bestie as well just in case I'm stuck indoors all day.
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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 22nd Oct 18, 8:16 PM
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    I have taken this as a sign... looked on my doctor's website to see if there were any appointments. There usually aren't, but there was one available and it's for tomorrow. So I've taken it. It's with a locum but better than anything I've gotten any time in the past year or so... I will just explain that my anxiety is becoming unmanageable again. Hopefully I will sound reasonably of sound mind.
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 22nd Oct 18, 8:24 PM
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    Glad that you have a GP appointment.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
    • Buffythedebtslayer
    • By Buffythedebtslayer 22nd Oct 18, 8:51 PM
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    You aren't an international megastar?

    Pants.

    I hope it goes well at the doctors. Very impressed you made the appointment. Good stuff XXX
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    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 23rd Oct 18, 5:48 AM
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    Good luck with the doc today.
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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 23rd Oct 18, 6:46 AM
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    Morning all
    Have been awake since 5am, worrying about the delivery of the fridge. This is completely ridiculous Got out of bed at half past six and went in the shower. Came downstairs and started worrying about the state of the house (the kitchen is a mess where I've moved stuff in preparation), worrying about the amount of rubbish and whether or not the council will take it all on bin day next week. Ugh! So I fed the cats, changed their trays and started attempting to declutter a bit in the kitchen - being a bit ruthless.
    Text about the fridge arrived at 7am. It's coming between 2pm and 6pm today. So I could have gone back to bed. But guess what... my doctor's appointment falls beautifully in that window - so now I'm fretting that I may not be here when the fridge arrives. But that's not a big deal either because bestie is coming over to wait with me so I can ask her to wait in for the half hour or so I'll be out. Now worrying about how filthy the floor will be underneath the fridge. I'm so angry with myself for not being able to switch this off - my rational voice is there but the hysterical voice just won't shut up. I'll be better once I have another grown up to speak to.
    I might try and have a nap actually. It's still not 8am and there's nothing spoiling...
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    • SpekySquarehead
    • By SpekySquarehead 23rd Oct 18, 7:53 AM
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    Oh dear your mind is in overdrive. In your opinion, is that a trait which you've always had, or is it something which has only come in the last few months/years?

    Hope the doc's goes well and the fridge arrives with no stress. Take a breather and enjoy some time with your pal for a bit too.
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    • apple muncher
    • By apple muncher 23rd Oct 18, 8:10 AM
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    Hope the locum's a good'un.
    NST June ninja #1; NSD 14/16; Ex 15/30; craft (19); remove 3 bagfuls (28)

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    • 1LuckyLady
    • By 1LuckyLady 23rd Oct 18, 2:16 PM
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    Hope the appointment goes ok CCL, and the delivery. With the headache maybe upping your hydration would help?
    Sticking with the "Small things" thread to keep up us on the straight and narrow.
    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 23rd Oct 18, 3:47 PM
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    Definitely a trait Iíve had my whole life Speky, although I was only officially diagnosed with Generalised Anxiety Disorder about 4 or 5 years ago. I had some serious, heavy duty CBT at the time and was loads better. But the recent flare up in my personal life has sent my worries spiralling. Doctor has put me back into the medication I used to take. Itís low dose and usually just helps get the worry to a manageable level - but takes a while to start working.
    New fridge has arrived - the floor was a state underneath the old one but I cleaned it before they came. Bestie has been here all day keeping me company, which was just what I needed today.
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    • Chrystal
    • By Chrystal 23rd Oct 18, 5:12 PM
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    So glad you've seen the doctor and he's prescribed something that will help. ((hugs))

    Don't know if you've ever tried Lavender Essential Oil? Rub some on your temples when you go to bed.. it's a relaxant and helps you sleep better. Worth a try if you wake up feeling a bit more human because you've had a better sleep. XX
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 23rd Oct 18, 7:06 PM
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    Glad that Dr went ok & you have a happy new fridge.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 24th Oct 18, 5:53 AM
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    Ooohh, gap in the market!

    Happy New Fridge cards

    Hope you start to feel better soon.

    x
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    • SpekySquarehead
    • By SpekySquarehead 24th Oct 18, 8:01 AM
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    Glad you've been given something which your familiar with and you know works. It's now about trying to take some time to yourself and the kids till it takes hold.
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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 24th Oct 18, 2:51 PM
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    Hey!
    I'm a little bit worse for wear today. Went out with a couple of work friends last night, and although I only had 4 drinks I am suffering a bit now. I never sleep well when I've been drinking, and don't feel rested at all. Still, it was a nice night and a good catch up.
    Took the kids out shopping for a couple of hours at dd's request. I was starting to fret that she hadn't left the house for a couple of days so I gave her the choice. I should have known she would choose trailing around some massive shopping centre. But it was nice to get out with the kids, even if I am almost dead on my feet now. Also got some ideas for Christmas presents etc so it was a useful trip.
    Today's worry is that the littlest cat hasn't been home at all. She's a hungry thing so is always about and always looking for food. It's very strange for her not to be here. DD seems to think I'm worrying about nothing though - but I keep going out and shouting for her. Hope she comes home soon
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 24th Oct 18, 5:32 PM
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    Hope the wee cat is back really soon.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
    • Sallyforth
    • By Sallyforth 25th Oct 18, 7:08 AM
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    Fingers and paws crossed here for the safe return of little cat.
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