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    • sexymouse
    • By sexymouse 13th Apr 16, 11:29 AM
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    Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 13
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    • 13th Apr 16, 11:29 AM
    Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 13 13th Apr 16 at 11:29 AM
    This is the new thread for those trying for a baby.
    The previous one is here:
    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5143999

    Please be aware that this is a thread for those trying to conceive. If you wish to announce a pregnancy (or are only a couple of days from testing) and you have never used this thread before, please either wait until CD1 or use the less than 12 weeks pregnant thread. Hormones can run high on here (nature of the thread!) so please be sensitive. Many thanks!

    List of Users
    Alex_88 TTC #1 since 09/15
    angel11 (34) TTC #1 Since 08/15
    Apple1985 (30) TTC #1 Since 12/15
    big5
    (33) TTC #2 Since 2/16
    cats2012 (27) TTC #1 Since 05/15
    Clarabell1984 (31) TTC #1 Since 09/15
    easilydistracted (33) TTC#1 Since 01/16
    Keekee (38) TTC #1 Since 05/15
    MancMama4 (35) TTC #1 () Since 04/15
    Meepmeep (40) TTC #1 Since 01/16
    Midget1907 (29) TTC #1 Since 09/15
    Milliebob (27) TTC #2 Since 05/15
    newthrift (25) TTC #1 Since 11/15
    pinkpetal (36) TTC #1 Since 10/15
    sexymouse (32) TTC #3 (
    ) Since 02/16
    Tinks05 (27) TTC #1 Since 03/16
    VicVics (29) TTC #2 Since 04/16

    Those with * used Preseed/Conceive Plus

    Thread Graduates
    big5 BFP 15/6/16
    sexymouse BFP 4/6/16
    newthrift BFP 23/5/16
    VicVics BFP 16/5/16
    MancMama4 BFP 29/4/16
    pinkpetal BFP 24/4/16
    Apple1985 BFP 19/4/16
    Tinks05 BFP 18/4/16

    Link to abbreviations courtesy of MadMac from previous threads - http://www.tryingtoconceive.com/abbrevs.htm

    The most common ones are:

    AF - Aunt Flo (period)
    BFP - Big Fat Positive (+ on home pregnancy test)
    BD - Baby dance (making babies)
    CBFM - Clearblue fertility monitor
    CD - Cycle date (CD1 is the 1st day of period)
    DPO - Days past ovulation (if ovulation was on CD15, then that is 0DPO, CD16 is 1DPO)
    HPT - Home Pregnancy Test
    IC - Internet cheapie (IC OPKs, hpts)
    NTNP - Not trying not preventing (pregnancy)
    OV - ovulation
    OPK - ovulation predictor kits
    SBDTA - Sticky baby dust to all
    SS - symptom spotting
    Temp - temperature (BBT)
    TLP - Tiny little positive (faint positive on pregnancy test)

    Also, an useful website telling you when to test, when you are ovulating and how the egg is developing etc found by Smash7 is here: http://www.pregnology.com

    This website is also useful http://www.pregnancyloss.info/sperm_meets_egg_plan.htm
    It details the Sperm Meets Egg Plan (SMEP) which some have found helpful in conceiving.

    Some TMI cm pics here:
    http://www.fertilityuk.org/nfps401.html

    Drugs you can take when pregnant
    Some CBFM FAQs
    Vitamins and minerals that can aid conception and pregnancy

    Sensitivity of home pregnancy tests (lower = more sensitive, earlier results)
    Superdrug Own Brand (pink box - states can use 4 days before late AF on box) 10mIU
    First Vue dip tests (poundland) - 20mIU
    One step midstream (ALDI) - 25mIU
    Clearblue - 25mIU
    Clearblue Digital - 50mIU
    First response early response - 12.5mIU
    Boots own brand - 25mIU/50mIU
    Sainsburys own - 15mIU
    Tesco own - 25mIU
    ASDA own - 25mIU
    CBD with conception indicator - 25mIU

    There is no such thing as a silly question, so please ask anything you are curious about. Many of us have 'been there done that' and many of our graduates still read this thread and are happy to offer advice when it is needed and relevant.

    As with everything deemed medical, we cannot offer medical advice, so please visit or call your GP if you have any concerns or questions. Getting a preconception check up is recommended and allows your GP to know that you're trying for a baby as well as identifying and rectifying any issues or problems that may interfere with a pregnancy before you conceive.

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    • PrettyKittyKat
    • By PrettyKittyKat 17th Oct 18, 7:46 AM
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    PrettyKittyKat
    Lulu92, wow that is amazing! I have done SW before and really enjoyed it but my mindset just isn’t there for it at the moment. I have decided to give calorie counting on my fitness pal a go this week. First two days and I have stayed within my calories, so I am hoping I can keep it up! I need to loose around 2.5-3 stone.

    Skimper, ah that is frustrating! Could they be signs of ovulation?

    Aunty-Pickle, oh that’s a good idea! I am off work at the moment but once I am back I think having a routine again will help me. As far as I am aware I have two ovaries, although I’ve had no reason to check. How do you know you only have one?


    Day 2 of fertile week according to Ovia. We baby danced last night. However, OH is away Friday night and out Saturday night, with fertile week ending on Sunday so if my ovulation is around then we are going to struggle to have the swimmers in the right place at the right time! I might have to tell OH not to get too drunk on his night out Saturday haha
    • skimper
    • By skimper 17th Oct 18, 8:00 AM
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    skimper
    PKK - Yeah I think they are, I should be ovulating today. I didn't even know there were signs of ovulation like that until I had a google last night. We managed to BD last night & hopefully tonight & tomorrow, if I can get the OH on board haha. Then all days should be covered & in with a good chance this cycle.

    Lulu - That's a brilliant weight loss, i'm doing slimming world too, so far managed to lose a stone & then stalled. Weigh in tonight but I'm not feeling great about it from all the bloating!
    • WJN222
    • By WJN222 17th Oct 18, 8:59 AM
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    WJN222
    Thank you all for your comments - I knew you guys would understand.

    CD38 today, usually 28/29 cycles so I guess I will be heading out this evening to buy a test!
    I love the idea of a special take away - celebrate or comfort food ready either way!

    thanks all, it really is great to have somewhere to come and lay out your thoughts without being judged - just understod!
    walk 2018 miles in 2018 - 781 of 2018
    Save 5 for every PR: 10 of 35
    • CreditCardJunkie
    • By CreditCardJunkie 17th Oct 18, 8:29 PM
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    CreditCardJunkie
    Good luck wjn keep us updated!
    Ugh I've put on a stone since our wedding and it sounds terrible but I'm not focused on losing it because I feel like I'm going to get fat anyway.
    I'm the biggest I've ever been and the extra weight has pushed my BMI into the overweight category so I really should do something about it just lacking the motivation at the moment!
    Soo tired today and have a spot, I haven't been logging symptoms on my app but checked this cd last month and it was exactly the same. Pretty sure I'm not pregnant this month! Would be lovely to share the news at Christmas though!
    • PrettyKittyKat
    • By PrettyKittyKat 18th Oct 18, 7:36 AM
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    PrettyKittyKat
    2 Week Wait (BFP Hopefuls)
    CD39 WJN222

    "If in doubt - BD" Zone
    CD34 Missmoose
    CD26 Tryingin2018
    CD24 Creditcardjunkie
    CD23 Faith177
    CD20 Aunty-Pickle
    CD18 PrettyKittyKat
    CD18 Thrift260
    CD16 Skimper

    "Wine and Chocolate" zone
    CD12 Buttermint


    Those we haven't heard from in a while:
    Nanyco, CamelLady, athensgeorgia, SlothSocks, wifeforlife, LKRDN_Morgan, Zeni, KatieBee123, April87

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    Please let me know if anything needs editing (including the zone you are in) and I will try to keep up. If you would like adding to the lists just let me know what CD day you are (the first day of your period is CD1).

    2018 Thread Graduates:
    Afoolandhermoney 23/01/2018
    Selement 9/3/2018
    Toots14 13/3/2018
    T4Taylor 29/3/2018
    NelliePie 13/4/2018
    HappyLassie13 20/5/2018
    Rambosmum 24/5/2018
    Celepie 30/5/2018
    HopHop 28/5/2018
    Gemini90 31/5/2018
    Sakurah 22/6/2018
    BapBap 1/7/2018
    KatieBee123 5/7/2018
    Lola25 11/7/2018
    HappyLassie13 1/9/2018
    BusyBargainz 5/10/2018
    • PrettyKittyKat
    • By PrettyKittyKat 18th Oct 18, 7:44 AM
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    PrettyKittyKat
    WJN222 fingers crossed for you this morning, let us know how you get on.

    CCJ, alot of my weight has crept on after my wedding too! however I know that to sustain a healthy pregnancy and be eligible for fertility treatment (if we need it) then I need to have a healthy BMI. Currently my BMI is in the obese catergory (eek!) so first target is to loose 12lbs to get back into the 'overweight' category.
    • CreditCardJunkie
    • By CreditCardJunkie 18th Oct 18, 8:46 AM
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    It's so hard PKK lol...I had fruit for breakfast this morning...need to get my act together!
    • Aunty-Pickle
    • By Aunty-Pickle 19th Oct 18, 12:02 AM
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    Aunty-Pickle
    Pretty Kitty - basically while pregnant with J, at the dating scan, they discovered a large cyst. They were worried it was cancer - and it grew quite big so I had an operation to remove it when I was 16+6. It was majorly scary! They had to remove one of my ovaries because the cyst had grown up and round it.

    Special hugs WJN222 - however things turn out..
    Rock, Paper, Scissors, Lizard, Spock
    • PrettyKittyKat
    • By PrettyKittyKat 19th Oct 18, 7:58 AM
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    PrettyKittyKat
    2 Week Wait (BFP Hopefuls)
    CD40 WJN222

    "If in doubt - BD" Zone
    CD35 Missmoose
    CD27 Tryingin2018
    CD25 Creditcardjunkie
    CD24 Faith177
    CD21 Aunty-Pickle
    CD19 PrettyKittyKat
    CD19 Thrift260
    CD17 Skimper

    "Wine and Chocolate" zone
    CD13 Buttermint


    Those we haven't heard from in a while:
    Nanyco, CamelLady, athensgeorgia, SlothSocks, wifeforlife, LKRDN_Morgan, Zeni, KatieBee123, April87

    When posting updates, can you please do them in Magenta so it's easy to spot. This thread is all about support, so remember to click thanks on as many posts as you can! It makes us all feel loved.

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    Please let me know if anything needs editing (including the zone you are in) and I will try to keep up. If you would like adding to the lists just let me know what CD day you are (the first day of your period is CD1).

    2018 Thread Graduates:
    Afoolandhermoney 23/01/2018
    Selement 9/3/2018
    Toots14 13/3/2018
    T4Taylor 29/3/2018
    NelliePie 13/4/2018
    HappyLassie13 20/5/2018
    Rambosmum 24/5/2018
    Celepie 30/5/2018
    HopHop 28/5/2018
    Gemini90 31/5/2018
    Sakurah 22/6/2018
    BapBap 1/7/2018
    KatieBee123 5/7/2018
    Lola25 11/7/2018
    HappyLassie13 1/9/2018
    BusyBargainz 5/10/2018
    • PrettyKittyKat
    • By PrettyKittyKat 19th Oct 18, 8:04 AM
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    CCJ, I admire you having fruit for breakfast I can never do that! It never feels like enough! haha I have managed 4 days staying within my calories. I must admit I do feel like my cravings for food seem to be starting to subside. I am hoping this will 'retrain' my brain. The weekend is DEFINITELY going to be testing though, I'm not sure I will manage that within calories but I'll try my best!

    Aunty-Pickle oh gosh that sounds like an awful time! I am glad it was discovered and not more serious and J was all ok too! An old work colleague of mine had an ectopic pregnancy and has to have a tube and ovary removed. She was pregnant again 3 months later. Fingers crossed for you!

    Off to have my blood test today. Only CD19 so it is a little early but also going to have one on Monday so I will be able to see what my progesterone level is doing! We BD last night and hoping to get one more in before fertile window ends on Sunday.
    • skimper
    • By skimper 19th Oct 18, 8:56 AM
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    Fertile Week is over for me, so can I be moved in to the TWW please?

    We managed to BD 2 days before OV & the day of, I think! So fingers crossed.
    • PrettyKittyKat
    • By PrettyKittyKat 20th Oct 18, 8:31 AM
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    PrettyKittyKat
    2 Week Wait (BFP Hopefuls)
    CD41 WJN222
    CD36 Missmoose
    CD28 Tryingin2018
    CD26 Creditcardjunkie
    CD18 Skimper

    "If in doubt - BD" Zone
    CD25 Faith177
    CD22 Aunty-Pickle
    CD20 PrettyKittyKat
    CD20 Thrift260
    CD14 Buttermint

    "Wine and Chocolate" zone

    Those we haven't heard from in a while:
    Nanyco, CamelLady, athensgeorgia, SlothSocks, wifeforlife, LKRDN_Morgan, Zeni, KatieBee123, April87

    When posting updates, can you please do them in Magenta so it's easy to spot. This thread is all about support, so remember to click thanks on as many posts as you can! It makes us all feel loved.

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    Please let me know if anything needs editing (including the zone you are in) and I will try to keep up. If you would like adding to the lists just let me know what CD day you are (the first day of your period is CD1).

    2018 Thread Graduates:
    Afoolandhermoney 23/01/2018
    Selement 9/3/2018
    Toots14 13/3/2018
    T4Taylor 29/3/2018
    NelliePie 13/4/2018
    HappyLassie13 20/5/2018
    Rambosmum 24/5/2018
    Celepie 30/5/2018
    HopHop 28/5/2018
    Gemini90 31/5/2018
    Sakurah 22/6/2018
    BapBap 1/7/2018
    KatieBee123 5/7/2018
    Lola25 11/7/2018
    HappyLassie13 1/9/2018
    BusyBargainz 5/10/2018
    • PrettyKittyKat
    • By PrettyKittyKat 20th Oct 18, 8:33 AM
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    Out of curiosity how many times do you all BD in the fertile week (if you don't mind sharing).

    I went back and looked through each month and realised that we possibly haven't times things as well I thought we had! I know it only takes once to make a baby but obviously the more times the better chance you have of timing it right.
    • CreditCardJunkie
    • By CreditCardJunkie 20th Oct 18, 8:53 AM
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    That sounds terrifying auntie pickle.

    PKK someone told me it's better to do it every other day so that's what we've been doing during fertile week. I wonder if I ovulate later than what my app tells me tho!
    • skimper
    • By skimper 20th Oct 18, 11:25 AM
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    Most of the time we get 3 times, odd chance we've had 4. Is 3 times enough? If we do every other day?
    • HappyLassie13
    • By HappyLassie13 20th Oct 18, 1:59 PM
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    Just adding my 2 pence into the conversation, during fertile week we used to BD as often as we wanted, sometimes this could be 3 times a day.
    • Celepie
    • By Celepie 20th Oct 18, 2:12 PM
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    Every other day is fine, but if you aren't tracking ovulation through temping then make sure you carry on even after you think you've ovulated so you're not stopping too early. Also remember that you can ovulate the same day as a positive OPK, so don't just have zero sex up until you get a positive.
    • thrift360
    • By thrift360 20th Oct 18, 2:28 PM
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    Not feeling hopeful this month as according to Ovia I had exactly the same symptoms on this CD the last couple of months, even down to feeling like doing more cleaning, haha. I know some people don't get any symptoms until or even after their BFP, though, so I suppose there's still a chance.
    • PrettyKittyKat
    • By PrettyKittyKat 20th Oct 18, 5:19 PM
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    We have been trying the every other day approach too. I read statistically everyday gives you the best chance but the increase from every other day to every day was negligible and there was concerns that it becomes and chore and not enjoyable which means the end goal may become a struggle! I thought we had done really well on a few months where illness hadn't affected us but I think we often were just outside the designated days or plans meant we weren't able to DTD. I must admit I think my ovulation could have been earlier or later some months so this month I am going to make sure we keep going a few days after ovulation! (Thanks for the tip celepie!)

    We managed 3 last month and hopefully will manage 3 this month too if we DTD tomorrow.

    It is reassuring to know lots of you are also going with the same approach. HappyLassie I have no idea how you sometimes managed 3 in one day! hahaha We occasionally do twice if we have a lazy morning and an evening of no plans, but that is few and far between this days!

    I am feeling more positive. We had some good news as we sold our house yesterday which has improved our mood no end! And I am much more mobile on my leg now and I am going back to work next week. So hopefully the happier frame of mind will have a positive impact too
    • GingerSaurus
    • By GingerSaurus 20th Oct 18, 7:04 PM
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    We try for every other day as well, definitely couldn’t manage 3 times a day! We try and keep this up for a while afterwards as well just to be sure. OH works away a lot though so it’s not always possible.

    Ovia says fertile week is over but I’ve had no positive OPKs or any other signs of OV, I really hope this isn’t going to be another long cycle.
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