Money Moral Dilemma: Best man seems to be overcharging for the stag do - should we pay up?
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A good friend is getting married, and the best man - someone we don't know well - has asked for £200 each. We're convinced the accommodation costs much less than his rough breakdown says. Should we risk spoiling the weekend by challenging this, or just pay up?
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Why not ask for a bit more detail?
Say something like "Can you calrify what the £200 includes? i thought we were looking at x hotel whoch would be about £xx each - am I missing something?"
It may be that he is inlcuding estimates for meals or drinks or entertainment that he hasn't explicitly mentioned.
it's also possible that the costs are higher than you think - for instnace if the dates you looked at are different to the ones he looked at, or if a venue adds a surchage for single-sex parties because they know stag and hen dos can be destructive, or any one of a number of other genuine reasons.
Maybe he is just bad at maths, or feels that it is better to over estimate and give some back than to underestimate and have to ask for extra.All posts are my personal opinion, not formal advice Always get proper, professional advice (particularly about anything legal!)0 -
As above....... ask.
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nope, pay up.
Lots of times the best man has to shell out for things that everyone (rightly) should be contributing toward.
Dress up outfit for stag and guests, inflatable sheep, transfers etc...
if you ask my opinion, it woudl be covering all other expenses, and, if he is honest, it will materialise on the first night into a whip...0 -
Agree you need to ask what the £200 covers.0
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Why not ask for a bit more detail?
Say something like "Can you calrify what the £200 includes? i thought we were looking at x hotel whoch would be about £xx each - am I missing something?"
It may be that he is inlcuding estimates for meals or drinks or entertainment that he hasn't explicitly mentioned.
it's also possible that the costs are higher than you think - for instnace if the dates you looked at are different to the ones he looked at, or if a venue adds a surchage for single-sex parties because they know stag and hen dos can be destructive, or any one of a number of other genuine reasons.
Maybe he is just bad at maths, or feels that it is better to over estimate and give some back than to underestimate and have to ask for extra.
Or it's been decided that the groom will have a freebie do.......0 -
It's good to talk.
As opposed to asking random strangers on t'interweb. :cool:0 -
I have never been to any wedding where I have had to pay!
I would definitely want to know what the £200 was for!(AKA HRH_MUngo)
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Stag party, not wedding...0
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The question is how many stag dos have you been invited to?seven-day-weekend wrote: »I have never been to any wedding where I have had to pay!
I would definitely want to know what the £200 was for!
Only one I've been to in the last 20 years was my brother's, and that cost lots. It did involve four days in France though.Proud member of the wokerati, though I don't eat tofu.Home is where my books are.Solar PV 5.2kWp system, SE facing, >1% shading, installed March 2019.Mortgage free July 20230 -
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