Does my ex need to know where I live when I have my daughter?

edmond wrote: »

Thank you for your response.

Can I please start off by saying I have a young baby girl (a child) not a baby goat.

Right from the start I stated this was my perspective and I did not want to use her mental health issues as a reason for her behaviour.

As stated above my ex is a contract lawyer and very intelligent. When she was much younger she was Mensa tested and deemed to have a high IQ. I can only assume my daughter has inherited this intelligent from her mother.

My daughter was 2 1/2 when she first told me about my ex’s new partner. I think most 2 1/2 year olds would in some way be able to verbalise that a new man was in their life, a man who had moved into her house, gone on holidays. I think we can both agree that wouldn’t be to much of a stretch.

I have three children and I don’t not as you so eloquently put it ‘grill’ any of them. I have a very open relationship with all three and believe communication from both sides is key.

Legally as far as I know the mother or father has no right to know where the other live or what they do. I refer you to the judgment of the case of D. v D. (Shared Residence Order) [2001] 1 F.L.R 495, Lord Justice Hale said that where a child is being looked after by one parent, that parent must be allowed to take the decisions relating to the child. While this parent has care of the child, the other parent should not try to interfere with matters relating to this time during which they don’t have care of the child. This does not, of course, extend to taking decisions that contravene a court order. However, where possible, flexible and practical arrangements should be made.
This had not been an issue for the last 8 months BTW.

My daughter did not go back to my ex’s with a bloody nose, the accident happened on a Saturday I dropped back on the Sunday.
I did mention above I should have mentioned it when I dropped off. But as it had been dealt with I didn’t think it was an issue. This BTW was raised by my three year old to her mother. Maybe she was being grilled by her mum? Or maybe I have an intelligent daughter who is able to verbally communicate at a high level.
When the accident happened my daughter was not with strangers, she was with me, my partner and my two older children. All of whom have been a part of my daughters life and all have met my ex partner.

You quite clearly know nothing about bipolar disorder. Let me elaborate.
Bipolar disorder, previously known as manic depression, is a mental disorder that causes periods of depression and periods of abnormally elevated mood.The elevated mood is significant and is known as mania or hypomania, depending on its severity, or whether symptoms of psychosis are present.During mania, an individual behaves or feels abnormally energetic, happy, or irritable.Individuals often make poorly thought out decisions with little regard to the consequences.

I have to put faith in my ex as in the UK the law system often favours the mother meaning good men good fathers are left battling to see children who are being used as a pawn in a controlling one up mans ship game.

edmond wrote: »

How many realationships where children are involved end where trust is lost or betrayed. Although you no longer have any trust in that person you hope they can be trusted with the welfare of a child.

On a romantic level or personal level , trust lost on many occasions when folk break up. But the opportunity to put the child first, where a child exists, is prevalent. It is no longer about you, your ex, or your feelings, it is about the child.

In my case my ex has very erratic behaviour towards me, it’s all fine for a few months then there is a trigger and for a few weeks / months she will not allow me to see my daughter. This is the 3rd time this has happened in 18 months. Well we only know bout the latest issue and I can honestly understand her pov due to the accident with the ball - which she wasn't told about.

You have lost HER trust as a parent, not as a romantic partner...they are just my thoughts and I realise you say you should have told her about the ball incident, however you didn't..but knowing that your daughter is likely to tell her, left yourself in a bad position there. You can't take that back.

Not only to bring up Bipolar again, but if your EX suffers with anxiety on top this could be a massive trigger for her, as in not knowing where her child is etc

For her it’s all about control.
It’s a form or mental bullying / control and sooner or later it has to stop.Mental bullying wanting to know where their child is staying?? Have a word with yourself.. The way you have dressed this up I was expecting you to explain some violent past or hysterical window smashing. I still do not see a real reason or understand what you are scared of..

For me it’s to protect my current situation. And my two eldest children who do not need to be exposed to such a person.Protection from what? A person who worries about your/her kid getting hurt ?

This has all deviated from the original question of legally having to inform my ex of my address not personal opinions.


And going back to your original question - I think you must already know the answer yourself, as you seemed quite the legal expert, a few posts ago - when you were cutting and pasting...

edmond wrote: »

See latter part of above post.