what are best man duties? wedding

traciemk · 2 April 2006 at 4:04PM

i would be very gratful if you can explain what are best man duties(wedding)/
been today with future hubby, my dad, my son, and his 2 best men (future hubby 2 brothers) to get measure up for there top hat and tails....

well i got on the subject of wedding(as you do) and i ask both best men how there speeches were getting on, they said they aint giving a speeches on the wedding day(well i was a bit shock) then i ask if they would help the groom on the day decerte the hall for evening party(ie balloons, banners, tables decs,) well they seem a bit put out on that as well....

so im now confuse what are best men duties before, during, and after wedding please

any advice would be gratful please
bride to be xxx

Broken_hearted · 2 April 2006 at 4:28PM

Traditionally the best man would liaise closely with the chief Bridesmaid to ensure that the wedding runs smoothly. Whilst the best man has no specific status in the arrangements for the engagement party, the stag night (traditionally the groom would organise this but it is becoming increasingly popular for the best man to take on this duty, so he can organise some surprises.!!!), the actual wedding day itself or the reception, he may be called upon to help with deliveries/pickups and other general organisation matters.

Probably the most worrying part of the day for the best man is the speeches, and its understandable, here you are on your best friends/brothers wedding day in front of a big crowd of people (most of whom you'll know), most likely with a video camera pointing at you and you want to impress them, as it is their big day. Phew, nervous yet.? Well don't be because the good thing about it all is that the audience will be rooting for you, they really want to laugh, and even if you don't think your material is that funny, you can be assured that they will still laugh at the weakest of jokes.

Broken_hearted · 2 April 2006 at 4:32PM

6 months ...
Discuss the wedding plans with the bride, groom and chief bridesmaid.
Help to choose the ushers and explain their duties to them.

4 months ...
Organise the stag party.
Prepare your speech for the reception.
Compile a list of close family members who should have special seating arrangements at the ceremony and pass to the ushers.
Visit the ceremony and the reception venues with the bride and groom to check on timings, parking arrangements etc.

1 week ...
Check the groom has all the necessary documents for the ceremony and the honeymoon. Double check his passports and visas.
Attend the wedding rehearsal.
Liaise with the ushers on the final arrangements.
Check for roadworks, diversions, carnivals etc taking place on the wedding day that may effect timings or the route.
Arrange transport for the groom and self to ceremony.
Arrange transport to and from the reception.
Arrange going away car for the bride and groom from the reception if required.
Make a note of details and availability of emergency taxi companies.
Finalise speech
Have your hair cut

the day before ...
Collect any hired clothing and accessories.
Wash car if driving to the ceremony.
Organise decorations for the going away car.

Broken_hearted · 2 April 2006 at 4:32PM

on the day ...
Check final arrangements for the ushers, buttonholes, order of service sheets and rings.
Collect and telemessages, cards and emails to be read at the reception.
Keep the rings safe until the required time in the service.
Help the groom get ready (so be ready before him)
Ensure the groom gets to the church on time, which we advise is at least 20 minutes before the ceremony is due to start.

Check on the ushers.
Sit in the right hand front pew with the groom.
Witness the signing of the register, if required.
Ensure all fees are paid to the church or registrar.
Escort the chief bridesmaid out of the church.
Assist the photographer in organising the guests for the photographs.
Ensure everyone has transportation to the reception venue.

Stand in the receiving line and greet the guests.
Announce the speeches and cake cutting, if there is no Master of Ceremonies or Toastmaster.
Read any cards, emails and telemessages.
Give the third and final speech and reply on behalf of the bridesmaids.
Dance with the chief bridesmaid once the bride and groom have completed their first dance.
Decorate the going away car.
Put any luggage required in the going away car.
Make sure the bride and groom go and change on time and announce to the guests that they are about to depart.
Take charge of the groom's wedding clothes, if required.

after the wedding ...
Ensure the wedding presents are safely stored.
Return any hired clothing and accessories.

Broken_hearted · 2 April 2006 at 4:33PM

Think that about covers it :rotfl:

ginger_nuts · 2 April 2006 at 4:54PM

its also the bestmans job to step in and replace the groom if the groom get cold feet:eek:
The same applies for the bridesmaid / bride .:rotfl:

Seriously if you are want the bestmen to do anything get the groom to ask them . I know its your wedding but they are his family and you dont want to cross the inlaws before they are your inlaws .:D You ask the bridesmaids to do whatever let the groom take care of the bestmen .:D

Of course the groom will do as you tell him ,so you get what you want in the end

Rachie_B · 2 April 2006 at 5:21PM

basically his job is to look after the groom oh his stag do ; )
and on the day
to dance with the bridesmaid
anything else asked of him by the happy couple :P

a lot of people dont like to make a speech though so wouldnt hold that against them,maybe they are worried about not being funny etc

as for helping to decorate ,IMO thats a womans job no offence lolbut men dont have a clue with that kinda thing do they lol

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