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    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 21st Apr 14, 12:12 AM
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    talk me down please
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    • 21st Apr 14, 12:12 AM
    talk me down please 21st Apr 14 at 12:12 AM
    Ok 10 years ago me and OH took MIL and Aunty away the plan was during this break we would invite em to the wedding.
    Before we could they stormed off and refused to answer any of my OHs calls.
    OH tried to get them to talk didn't happen and the wedding went ahead.
    Eventually OH and MIL are reconciled 2 years on another argument is provoked eventually reconciled then a big bust up about her not being at our wedding then reconciled rinse and repeat.
    MIL has been diagnosed with terminal cancer we have been ensuring she has company food etc (regular visits) I went to her appointment with her last Fri then last Sat OH goes around to see her and the wedding row was provoked again she went in for an op Mon telling OHs sister the auntie nephews etc to not tell my OH she was in or the ward or when the op was.
    OH is upset so I get the hospital info so at least we can find out how she is.
    We went to see her at the hospital on Fri aft and discovered shed been discharged in the morning.
    Still not called OH no contact nothing.
    I am livid my OH has been beside themselves and deeply upset (which is the intention) she can't even allow people to say she is ok.
    So how do I keep my OH on a nice even keel and stop myself from telling her off?
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    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 15th Oct 19, 4:42 PM
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    No still in the same area.
    I'm going into see them tomorrow
    I think it's missed appointments
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 15th Oct 19, 6:40 PM
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    No still in the same area.
    I'm going into see them tomorrow
    I think it's missed appointments
    Originally posted by mellymoo74
    NHS seems to be really big on the cost of missed appointments.
    Have you always rung and cancelled any appointments you've been unable to make?
    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 15th Oct 19, 10:19 PM
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    NHS seems to be really big on the cost of missed appointments.
    Have you always rung and cancelled any appointments you've been unable to make?
    Originally posted by Pollycat

    Gp practices , hospitals and clinics etc in this area have new signage up re missed appointments. The pressure is heavy on all service due to staff shortages and other reasons.


    All say phone to rearrange if you are unable to make the appointment. I've rung a number of times when dd has been too ill to attend. Usually it's a day or two before but a couple of times early on the appt day.and they arrange another date.


    It used to be two missed appts without contact meant your case was cancelled. Many are now one fail to attend.


    Hope you're getting somewhere with the DWP. I know you're talking about getting another job but you mentioned a colonoscopy so at least find out out what the problem is and the treatment.


    If you go back to work you'll just end up going round in circles. You'll find yourself not being able to turn up some days and you'll be back to square one again.
    pollyx
    No need to hurry.No need to sparkle.No need to be anybody but oneself.


    Virginia Woolf.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 16th Oct 19, 12:47 AM
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    I was passed out so no
    I usually do call I have also been with them for 14 years almost and they know that what I went in for was extreme fatigue, digestive issues and no TOM
    They also know they will still be dealing with me for OH.

    Gonna go in later today
    • elsien
    • By elsien 16th Oct 19, 9:13 AM
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    Ask to talk to the practice manager if you can melly.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 16th Oct 19, 9:55 PM
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    Hope you managed to sort things at the surgery. As elsian said it's more productive to speak to the pracice manager. I was doing that yesreday as there was an important med missing from the bag I picked up from the pharmacy in town. Luckily she printed all Fridays prescriptions to take to the pharmacy.


    It's difficult when you're too ill to rearrange an appt. That's my role as dds medical appointee. In circumstances where you've crashed out it's probably best to phone as soon as you can and explain.


    I noticed dear Gitdog has been back at the vets elsian. Hoping he's ok and back home. It seems your pocket will take longer to recover though.
    pollyx
    No need to hurry.No need to sparkle.No need to be anybody but oneself.


    Virginia Woolf.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 17th Oct 19, 10:53 AM
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    https://www.instagram.com/p/B3twgvoh43c/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet

    What happened with Gitdog Elsien? I am being very self centred and didn't see anything
    • elsien
    • By elsien 17th Oct 19, 2:27 PM
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    Poisoned himself eating lord knows what. Emergency admission to an eye wateringly expensive out of hours vet hospital.
    Home and eating but is still traumatised by it all so he's lost his wag.
    He'll be ok, just needs time before he's back to being an arsehole again.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 17th Oct 19, 3:08 PM
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    Poisoned himself eating lord knows what. Emergency admission to an eye wateringly expensive out of hours vet hospital.
    Home and eating but is still traumatised by it all so he's lost his wag.
    He'll be ok, just needs time before he's back to being an arsehole again.
    Originally posted by elsien
    Aw no.
    Sending hugs & kisses to Gitdog.

    If it's going to happen, it will happen to Gitdog..
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 17th Oct 19, 6:51 PM
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    Poor gitdog

    Oh my little princess, who ran away from other cats, well now she wanders around like she owns the place starting rows
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 19th Oct 19, 2:26 PM
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    Update

    Got nowhere with the docs
    Apparently still employed which is why no DWP help.
    Am definitely getting some SSP on 31st so that's something.
    Sold my laptop to pay the additional money to HA so that's staved off eviction.
    Put in for housing benefit again so that should help clear some of the arrears.

    Now need to do sums and figure out what too do
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 19th Oct 19, 3:29 PM
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    Right
    I don't want to return to former employer
    Think the hours are part of what broke me.

    I am waiting to hear back from a couple of other jobs, should hear this week.
    Currently money is dire lol.
    Cat food will be gone later
    No milk
    No sugar
    No fries

    Have got pasties and stuff thank god for large Iceland order.
    Be ok
    • minimad1970
    • By minimad1970 19th Oct 19, 5:38 PM
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    I'm sorry that you're having such a tough time at the moment. If your happy to accept I would willingly order some cat food to be delivered to you. Let me know x
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 20th Oct 19, 5:51 PM
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    So Boo is getting old and his ba k legs are starting to cease
    Guess who massaged his legs all night?
    • elsien
    • By elsien 20th Oct 19, 6:37 PM
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    Have you tried a hot water bottle - that used to unfreeze mutt, that and a bit of aspirin (if there's no other contraindications, obviously.

    My back seized up in the garden earlier so I couldn't walk. Managed to crawl to the phone for an SOS call, but had to leave Gitdog on his own outside for 3/4 of an hour which he's petrified of. He was superglued to my legs when he finally got back in, poor little soul is such a wuss.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 20th Oct 19, 7:00 PM
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    https://www.instagram.com/p/B32WlynBxiQ/?utm_source=ig_web_options_share_sheet

    Elsien this is him after several hours massage.
    I love all of my animals even Kevin who has been unfaithful (smells of perfume)
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 20th Oct 19, 9:10 PM
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    Cooking chicken thighs for cats lol
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 20th Oct 19, 9:57 PM
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    Up by old place has started to be used for cat dumping ground.

    I saw my old man mate in the week and he's taken one in.
    • elsien
    • By elsien 20th Oct 19, 10:22 PM
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    Good thing you moved then melly, or you'd be the mad cat woman by now.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
    • mellymoo74
    • By mellymoo74 21st Oct 19, 9:46 AM
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    Good thing you moved then melly, or you'd be the mad cat woman by now.
    Originally posted by elsien
    That ship has sailed 🤣
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