How long before you move in together

He moved in with me about 4 weeks after we got together, we got married a year later and were together over 24 years.

I definitely think it's different if you already have children and/or have already been married/in a longterm cohabitation. It'd be natural to be more cautious because you have so much more to lose if it doesn't work out.

I met my now husband in the October and moved in together in the January. I think its more tricky if you have kids. I knew if it didn't work I could just move back to my parents but as an adult with kids etc I think I'd want to be pretty certain. Have you discussed finances / how to deal with each others kids etc?
I think a trial might be sensible. Give it a go for a month then decide? Tell the kids you / your partner are having work done on the house or something so they are not upset or shocked if it doesn't work.
I'd say wait till the honeymoon period has passed, however long that is for you. When you stop trying to impress and just get on with daily life that's when people start to find the other irritating!

I didn't move in with my husband until we'd been together almost 2 years. I think the fact we only saw each other at weekends and even then they were sometimes cut short as I was studying a professional qualification outside of work.

I personally don't think a year is long, especially when you had serious relationship fail before and have children to consider. Also not everyone pregresses at tge same speed. Explain how you want to wait longer, build a better foundation, get to know more if the things that could be bigger issues when living together first (attitude to money, how to split costs, how you parent and how you would parent each other's children, etc).

As long as living together is still on the cards for you at some point, you are just not ready yet, then it will hopefully be fine.

I moved in after 6 months I was only 16/17 lol. I was head over heels ! 14 years later 4 kids and too many house moves we are still here.

However your situation is totally different ! There is kids involved and the children have already suffered their family break down. I don't see the urgency, you've only been together 11 months and don't live together and your bickering ! Just think that may escalate if you live together.

For the sake of her child I think she should be a lot more cautious ! And to honest you have answerd your own question you don't want to. So until you do it would silly to do it while feeling like that as it will fail. It's suppose to be exciting !

And if it fails the kids need to witness another relationship breakdown ! Just be honest with her always best way.

We are into our 6th year and no plans to move in yet. Will wait for children to leave education and into work. Another 8-10 years i think