Bowel cancer, stoma, illestomy bags, my journey with my fathers illness

mum2one wrote: »

There's no easy way of saying this - had an emergency call back to the hospital yesterday, they had the results of his ct scan - the cancer which they found in his stomach when they did the last camera - had gone into overtime - it's caused a blockage - which we had guessed as he hadn't been able to eat without him being sick, they were hoping to operate to give palls give relief but that wasn't an option he's been given weeks... It's really knocked us all for 6 to say the least x

Oh Mum2One, so very sorry to hear your news. I do hope that the hospital can give your Dad some relief from the pain and sickness. I imagine it's going to be very difficult explaining to your Mum. Thinking of you and your family. Cyber hugs to you all from Liverpool.

mum2one wrote: »

It's hard in all ways as when he had the original cancer in Aug 2014 as it happened in Wales when we were on hol then I had to drive back and forth, the days we were t at hospital it was shopping and organising everything I couldn't really let my self get emotionally involved as I knew if I caved it everyone would be stuck, now my emotions are bubbling - felt a right pray earlier had chest pains - rang the gp th beanie come down - 3mins in car - it was a panic attack.... Did I feel an idiot....

Just trying to get the holidays cancelled - was taking Dd to Gambia at Easter then Cuba in May, (only deposit) just found out not covered under travel insurance ..... Lose over 2k - my mum saying we've got to go, but God 4bid if he was with us at Easter and passed away when we were away I couldn't cope. Got a break in July - were going to keep that on track at the mo x

It must have been really hard for you when your Dad first got ill - to have to be the person doing the day to day stuff on top of the worry. As to panic attack, don't worry about contacting your doctor - much better to be safe than sorry when it comes to chest pain!

Very sorry about your holidays and not being able to claim on travel insurance. That seems very wrong to me, but then we all know how insurance companies often try to not pay out.

mum2one wrote: »

We e had a good day 2day, had washing machine delievered - pd for instillation - but as the water had to be turned off they refused to fit it.... Even after saying mum and me are disabled - dads situ...

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Seen a couple more people when DD and I were out, so hard telling them, think slowly sinking in, only cried about 6 times today ... Xx

Sheesh how awful to refuse to install washing machine! 7.30 seems very early to turn up to do something like that. If you have the time and energy I'd complain to company involved, but in your situation it's hard to find that time and energy!

Natural to cry I think, and healthy too - not good to bottle stuff up. But sorry you are in the place you are in, and your sadness and worries. Just want to let you know that I am thinking of you and your family, and sending "the vibes" - I guess that means best wishes and strengthening thoughts. Cyber hugs from Liverpool.

Thinking of you